25 Years of Unstoppable Love: Our Blueprint for Your Forever.

25 Years of Unstoppable Love: Our Blueprint for Your Forever.

by | Jul 18, 2025 | Dating, Coaching, Communication, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, landing page, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

You’re a powerhouse. You navigate complex deals, lead teams, and build empires.

You’re accustomed to clarity and results.

But when it comes to love, does a quiet part of you wonder if that kind of enduring, deeply connected partnership is truly possible?

I understand that whisper.

I’m sitting here with a huge smile on my face, and I can’t keep it to myself any longer…

This year, Ric and I are celebrating 25 years of marriage, 26 years together!

It feels surreal, especially when I once thought I’d never love again after losing my first husband to cancer at just 27 years old.

My dreams felt shattered, replaced by overwhelming fear and limiting beliefs that convinced me I’d be sad forever, and love was simply not in my cards.

But then… something extraordinary happened.

On a day that started with disappointment (getting stood up by another guy) I met the man who would become my husband!

That moment, 25 years ago, transformed my lonely summer into a miraculous path to the Relationship of My Dreams.

What fills my heart with joy is that we’re more in love than ever! ❤️

And here’s what I know…

Reaching 25 years of marriage and still being happy, best friends, with profound love, deep connection, unwavering intimacy, and thrilling adventure in our relationship isn’t something that “just happens,” no matter how “perfect” a match seems.

It’s a choice.
It’s an intention.
It’s a blueprint.

Beyond the Spark: The Intentionality of Lasting Love

You’re a woman who understands that true success isn’t left to chance.

The same applies to love.

We often chase initial chemistry, hoping it will magically sustain a lifetime. But enduring love is intentionally cultivated.

This is why being intentional to stay connected in a relationship is paramount. It’s not about grand gestures every day, but consistent, conscious choices.

Ric and I have a simple, yet profoundly powerful practice that anchors our connection.

Ric has a sign on his mirror, “How do I show Gladys I love her today” and I have a sign on my mirror, “How do I show Ric I love him today.”

This daily intention ensures we are always actively nurturing our bond, creating a continuous flow of love and appreciation. It’s a game-changer for keeping the spark alive and the connection deepening, year after year.

Authenticity, Not Acquisition: Attracting Love for Who You ARE

As a high-achieving woman, you’ve built incredible wealth and success. 

But sometimes, this very success can create an unconscious fear: Am I loved for who I am, or for what I have?

Let me be crystal clear: No guy wants to be with a woman who’s in it for the money.

A high-quality, masculine man is attracted to your essence, your spirit, your heart, and your unique brilliance. He wants a partner, an equal, not a financial transaction.

This means showing up authentically and radiating your inherent worthiness, knowing that your value extends far beyond your balance sheet.

When you embody that truth, you attract a man who cherishes you, not your achievements.

Breaking Free: Your Path to a Love That Lasts

Do you want to know how to break through the patterns that are holding you back in love?

How to move past the fears that are keeping you from the relationship you truly desire?

Are you willing to step outside of your comfort zone so you can create the type of relationship where you have 24, 64, 78 years together?

This isn’t just our story…

It’s a living testament to the power of transformation. It’s a blueprint for turning heartbreak into happiness, loneliness into lasting love, and doubt into an unshakeable certainty that your dream relationship is not only possible, but inevitable.

Your Next Step: Unleash Your Inner Radiance!

You’ve seen what’s possible when you commit to your love story.

So if you’re ready to cultivate that deep inner magnetism and radiate the confidence that attracts extraordinary love, then your next powerful step is to join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge!

This Challenge is specifically designed to help you:

  • Unleash your authentic self-love and inner radiance.
  • Dismantle old beliefs that dim your light.
  • Embody the magnetic energy that effortlessly draws in your ideal partner.

It’s your turn to meet the love of your life and start celebrating year after year of “Meet-a-Versaries,” “Kiss-a-Versaries,” and Wedding Anniversaries!

25 years from now you could be looking back at this moment, remembering the transformation you experienced that led to you creating your great love story.

Ready to ignite your inner glow and attract the love you deserve? Claim your spot in the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge now!

 

Elevate Your Love Life: Dating with Unwavering Confidence & Discernment

Elevate Your Love Life: Dating with Unwavering Confidence & Discernment

by | Jul 11, 2025 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

You’re a force. You command respect in your career, you make strategic decisions, and you’re accustomed to navigating complex situations with confidence.

But when it comes to the exhilarating, yet sometimes unsettling, experience that is modern dating, does a little fear or doubt ever creep in?

I hear you. Michelle and I have coached countless brilliant, high-achieving women like you who, despite their confidence and intelligence, find themselves grappling with moments that make them question their safety, their instincts, or even their desire to stay open to love.

Does this sound familiar?

You put yourself out there, ready for a great connection, but then a question feels a little too intrusive, a comment feels a little off, and suddenly, that inner alarm bell rings.

How would you feel if a man you’d just met for dinner said to you, “Oh, it didn’t take you that long to get to the restaurant since you texted me you just left your house—how far do you live from here? Don’t worry, I’m not a stalker.” 

Would every fiber of your being scream danger?

You don’t want to appear “rude” or “paranoid” – but you’re not sure what to do.

That conflict between your gut instinct and social politeness? That ends now.

This isn’t about fear; it’s about power.

It’s about empowering you to date from a place of unshakeable intuition and deep self-worth, so you can confidently attract the love you deserve without compromising your peace or your safety.

The Inner Compass: Trusting Yourself Before You Trust Anyone Else

Here’s a truth many women overlook: the self-doubt and lack of trust was there before the date.

We carry old narratives, past hurts, or societal conditioning that can make us question our own perceptions.

Did you know that 80-95% of the thoughts in your head are negative? If those negative thoughts are constantly whispering doubts about your safety or worth, it can cloud your judgment when it matters most.

This is critical because you will attract your fears if you don’t work through them first. If there’s an underlying fear of betrayal, disrespect, or abandonment, your subconscious will inadvertently draw experiences that confirm those fears.

But hear this. It’s not about blame; it’s about awareness and transformation.

The first step in having good experiences in dating is clearing those subconscious fears so you can date from a place of power and attract that same energy to you. 

Beyond the Profile: Doing Your Due Diligence with Online Dating 

In today’s world, meeting online is still the #1 way men and women meet in the US.

And are there scammers online? Absolutely.

However – many of our clients have never met a scammer online and many more have met their incredibly wonderful husbands there as well.

That being said, it is smart to use your discernment. You’re a woman who does her due diligence in business so apply the same to your love life.

What does that mean? 

If you want to do a background check, do it. A quick search on social media, LinkedIn, or even a simple reverse photo search on Google can provide valuable insights.

When you’re looking at his profile and in the early communication stages of getting to know him, look for consistency. Are his stories adding up? Does his online presence align with what he’s telling you?

This isn’t being paranoid; it’s being smart.

And be keenly aware of AI. Deepfakes and AI-generated profiles are becoming more sophisticated. If something feels too good to be true, or a profile seems oddly generic, trust that gut feeling.

And a non-negotiable we teach our clients is to have a video call before an in-person meeting to verify identity and gauge genuine connection. This is to protect your safety and your valuable time! 

The Pace of True Connection: Why “Taking Your Time” is Power

You’re a woman who moves fast, who makes things happen. But love, real love, thrives on a different rhythm.

Take your time. This isn’t about playing games or being aloof; it’s about allowing genuine connection to unfold organically.

Rushing into intimacy—physical, emotional, or logistical—can bypass critical discernment. It can blur lines and make it harder to spot red flags.

When you allow space and time, you allow true character to emerge.
You observe consistency (or inconsistency).
You feel out the energetic alignment.

This allows you to build inner trust, which in turn builds the ability to see if someone is worthy of your attention.

Decoding the Signals: Chemistry vs. Intuition

Now we’ve all been there. The undeniable spark and chemistry you may feel toward someone you just met.

Here’s a crucial distinction: Chemistry does not equal intuition/instinct.

Chemistry is often about familiarity, about a primal pull. Those fears we spoke about at the beginning – that can be what pulls you towards someone vs another.
Intuition, however, is your deepest inner wisdom, your gut feeling, your energetic alarm system.

And this is why it’s so important that you take your time. 

So that you give your brain (and heart) the time to see everything that’s there and make wise decisions to preserve the safety of your heart and mind.

Here’s your dating practice non-negotiables: 

  • Get to know him through the app. 
  • Have a video call before an-in person date.
  • Go on many dates in public spaces before you ever meet alone. 
  • Take your time getting to know him. 
  • Save physical intimacy for committed and exclusive relationships. 

Unmistakable Red Flags: Your Signal to Exit

Now, there are certain behaviors that are not just “red flags”, they are unmistakable signals to exit.

If a man makes you wrong, feel stupid, or insults you in any way, that’s an immediate, non-negotiable boundary violation. 

Your worth is not up for debate. Your intelligence is not a target. A high-quality man will elevate you, celebrate you, and respect you. 

Any deviation from this is a clear sign that he’s not the partner for you.

As a high-value woman yourself, if you experience this in any capacity, your intuition will scream at you. Make sure you listen to it.

Your Power, Your Peace, Your Extraordinary Love

You’re a woman who‘s used to achieving extraordinary results.

It’s time to apply that same level of intentionality and power to your love life.

This is your guide to navigating the dating world with unshakeable confidence and crystal-clear discernment and if you’re ready to transform these insights into your real-life love story, I invite you to book a complimentary Love Breakthrough Call with one of our expert coaches.

This is your opportunity to gain absolute clarity on your unique situation, identify any lingering blocks, and map out your accelerated path to consistent, reliable, and extraordinary love. Click right here to claim your breakthrough call now and step into your full power.

By understanding and transforming these hidden patterns, by trusting your intuition, and by setting non-negotiable standards, you’ll stop attracting men who don’t make you feel safe and instead, powerfully magnetize the RIGHT man who’ll stay, cherish you, and build the extraordinary love story you truly deserve.

Your safety, your peace, and your joy are paramount. Embrace your intuition as your greatest ally in love.

Beyond Ghosting: Unmask Your Hidden Patterns to Attract a Man Who Stays

Beyond Ghosting: Unmask Your Hidden Patterns to Attract a Man Who Stays

by | Jun 30, 2025 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

You’re accustomed to clarity and results, right? 

So when a promising connection abruptly vanishes – leaving you “ghosted” or with a man who suddenly goes cold – it’s not just frustrating; it’s baffling. 

It can trigger the questions: 

What the heck?
Who does he think he is?!
Was I off in how I was interpreting our connection?
What did I do wrong?

I hear you. 

I’ve coached countless brilliant, high-achieving women, like you, who find themselves in this exact scenario. 

You’re amazing on paper, you’re vibrant, you’re ready for love, yet you keep encountering men who disappear, become unavailable, or simply don’t commit. 

You’re tired of being the one left wondering, always feeling like you’re pushing the relationship forward, only to hit an invisible wall.

This isn’t about blaming you. It’s about uncovering a deeper truth…

The patterns that play out in your love life are often a reflection of unhealed wounds, subconscious beliefs, and energetic signals you might not even realize you’re sending.

The Unseen Hand: How Your Past Dictates Your Present Love Story

Let’s get real. 

If you have a deep-seated fear of being abandoned, that very fear, unconsciously, can create a reaction in your relationships. 

It’s a cruel irony of the Universe: what you fear most, you often inadvertently draw to you. This isn’t about fault; it’s about energetic attraction.

Think about it: have you ever felt an inexplicable pull towards someone who, on a logical level, you knew wasn’t quite right? 

There’s a reason for that. 

As I often say, “We are drawn to those who activate our unhealed wounds.” 

Our subconscious, in its misguided attempt to “solve” old pain, will often seek out situations that feel familiar, even if they’re ultimately detrimental. It’s like your brain is trying to re-run an old program, hoping for a different outcome this time.

This leads to the second powerful pattern: The energy that creates self-sabotaging incidents and attracts this person to you, will also cause you to energetically repel the person. 

You might find yourself unconsciously testing a man, pushing him away, or creating scenarios that reaffirm your deepest fears. It’s not intentional, but the energetic signal is clear.

And here’s the kicker: You’re going to have a SUBCONSCIOUS attraction to someone who is unreliable so your brain can reaffirm it was right about the pattern. 

Your brain, in its efficiency, loves to prove itself right. 

If it’s been programmed to expect abandonment or unreliability, it will subconsciously seek out partners who validate that belief, even if your conscious mind is screaming for something different.

So what do you do? How do you shift so you can stop having this experience!

The Power Shift: You Can’t Fix Him, But You Can Transform YOU

This is a tough pill for high-achievers to swallow, because you’re used to fixing problems, optimizing processes, and making things happen. 

But in love, you can not create a shift in another person. 

You cannot force commitment, emotional availability, or presence from someone who isn’t ready or willing. Trying to do so is a massive drain on your precious energy and self-worth.

The true power lies in shifting your internal beliefs and patterns.

When you begin to build inner trust—trust in your intuition, trust in your worth, trust in your ability to discern—you start to build the ability to see if someone is worthy of your attention. 

You stop chasing, you stop over-functioning, and you start to observe with clarity. 

This is where your discernment becomes your superpower! 

You’re no longer desperate for any connection; you’re powerfully CHOOSING the right connection for you.

You’re taking out what doesn’t work, and replacing the pattern with something that DOES work. 

It’s not about more effort. It’s about a re-alignment.

It’s about identifying the subtle ways you might be contributing to these patterns and replacing them with magnetic, empowering behaviors.

Ghosting: Not Personal, But the Breakthrough Is

Let’s be clear about ghosting itself: Ghosting is not personal. 

It is a reflection of the other person’s inability to communicate, their immaturity, or their own unhealed patterns. It rarely has anything to do with your inherent worth or desirability.

However, the work to breakthrough why you’re attracting that type of person is personal. 

It’s the courageous, internal work of:

  • Healing those old wounds of abandonment.
  • Rewiring your subconscious attraction patterns.
  • Cultivating an unshakeable inner security that radiates confidence and draws in consistent, reliable partners.
  • Learning to trust your gut and walk away from what doesn’t serve you, without fear of being “rude” or “missing out.”

Ready to finally break free from the ghosting cycle and attract a man who stays? 

This blog post is just the beginning! 

If you’re ready to transform these hidden patterns with personalized, expert guidance, I invite you to book a complimentary Love Breakthrough Call with one of our expert coaches! 

This is your opportunity to get radical clarity on your unique situation and map out your accelerated path to consistent, reliable, and extraordinary love. 

Click right here to claim your breakthrough call and step into your power now. 

You’re a woman accustomed to achieving extraordinary results. 

It’s time to apply that same level of intentionality and power to your love life!

By understanding and transforming these hidden patterns, you’ll stop attracting men who disappear and powerfully magnetize the RIGHT man who’ll stay, cherish you, and build the extraordinary love story you truly deserve.

Beyond a Resume: How to Attract Real Love with Online Dating

Beyond a Resume: How to Attract Real Love with Online Dating

by | Jun 5, 2025 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

You’re amazing. You’re a woman who has special things going on in your life.

So why, when it comes to online dating, does it feel like an exhausting, time-wasting chore that rarely delivers the high-quality, commitment-ready man you actually desire?

I hear you. If you feel like online dating is broken, you’re not crazy! 

The frustration is real.

You swipe, you connect, you invest your precious time, only to be met with emotionally unavailable men, endless texting, or outright ghosting. It leaves you wondering: “Is this ever going to work for me? Is there something wrong with my profile?”

The truth is, online dating is no longer just a way to meet; recent groundbreaking research from Stanford University confirms it’s now the #1 way couples meet in the United States! 

Since 2017, meeting online has surpassed every other method, accounting for nearly 40% of new heterosexual relationships. 

It can and should work for you. 

The missing link? It’s not about doing more of what’s frustrating you. It’s about a different kind of approach.

You see, the relentless “doing” energy that makes you a powerhouse in your career can inadvertently create walls in your love life. It’s why many brilliant women find themselves constantly initiating, over-giving, or simply not attracting the masculine men who desire to cherish and lead.

To truly win at online dating, you need more than just a polished photo and clever bio. To be successful in online dating you need a method that will amplify your essence.

Your Profile: A Mirror of Your Heart, Not a Resume

Think about your LinkedIn profile. It’s a resume of your achievements, right? 

You don’t want your dating profile to be LinkedIn with selfies.

What men are truly looking for in love is deeper than your impressive credentials. They’re looking for connection, warmth, and the real you.

That’s why your profile should be a mirror of your life, not a resume.

Your profile isn’t about listing your accomplishments; it’s about showcasing the vibrant, multifaceted woman you are outside of work. 

It’s about creating a compelling glimpse into your joy, your passions, your everyday life, and the kind of authentic connection you truly desire.

And let’s talk about pictures. Your pictures get to tell a story.

Tips:

  • Don’t have pictures with you in groups. While you love your friends, your dating profile needs to highlight you. 
  • Don’t have glamour shots. Have them show your personality and the things you like to do. 
  • Let your genuine radiance shine through – that’s what truly magnetizes.

The Power of Energetic Alignment (Before You Even Type)

Here’s where most women miss the mark. They dive into creating a profile when they’re exhausted, frustrated, or just trying to “get it done.” 

But your energy is picked up before a single word is read.

It’s essential to be in the right vibration when you’re creating your profile.

When you’re creating your profile from a place of excitement, openness, and certainty about the love you deserve, that energy subtly shows up in every word and image. 

It’s an energetic signal that calls in men who are in alignment with that same vibration.

And once those messages start rolling in, it’s about discerning with intention. Use intentional energy to get a sense whether the men reaching out to you are appropriate. 

Don’t just respond out of politeness or boredom. Tap into your intuition. Does his message feel aligned? Does his energy resonate? Trust that inner knowing.

Breaking Down Walls (The Subtle Self-Protection)

Many high-achieving women, often unknowingly, build walls to protect their hearts. After all, you’ve learned to be self-sufficient and strong. But in dating, being too protective can backfire. 

If you’re too protective, you build walls and you’ll attract men who are attracted to unavailable women.

It’s a paradox: your self-protection can create the very unavailability you dread. This work isn’t about being naive; it’s about learning to open your heart from a place of deep inner security. It’s about knowing your worth so profoundly that you don’t need to protect, you simply attract aligned partners.

Communicate with Magnetic Intent

Beyond your profile, your messaging matters. You’re done with endless pen pals and superficial chats. 

Communicate in a way that filters out the fluff. 

Be direct, engaging, and convey your personality. Ask questions that invite real connection, not just small talk. Your communication is a powerful tool to quickly discern compatibility and build genuine chemistry.

This isn’t about playing games or trying to be someone you’re not. It’s about expressing your authentic self in a way that calls in your ideal partner.

Embodiment, Not More Effort

You’ve built your success through hard work and effort. 

But in love, the rules shift. What makes all this work is not more work, it’s more embodiment. It’s about becoming the woman who already has the love she desires, acting from that place of certainty and magnetic energy.

This is the essence of feminine energy in action. It’s not passive, it’s deeply powerful. Feminine energy is not passive, it’s intentional and magnetic. 

It’s about aligning your inner world with your outer actions, becoming an irresistible magnet for the love you truly desire.

You’re a brilliant, high-value woman. It’s time your online dating experience reflected that. By mastering these principles, you’ll transform frustration into effortless attraction, drawing in the man who is ready to meet you fully, cherish your essence, and is excited to build an extraordinary life by your side.

Level-Up Your Love Life: Keys to Attracting a Partner Who Truly Matches Your Worth

Level-Up Your Love Life: Keys to Attracting a Partner Who Truly Matches Your Worth

by | Apr 4, 2025 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

Let’s have a real conversation here, just you and me. 

You’re an incredible woman, and it’s time we got serious about your love life. 

I’ve seen so many amazing women like you, and sometimes, I see you settling, dimming your light, and honestly, putting up with less than you deserve. This isn’t about being demanding; it’s about recognizing your inherent value and creating a love life that reflects it.

Think about a woman I spoke with recently, let’s call her Maya. She was incredibly successful in her career but kept finding herself in relationships where she felt undervalued. 

She would bend over backwards to please her partners, often neglecting her own needs and desires. One time, she was dating a man who consistently showed up late for their dates, offering flimsy excuses. Instead of addressing it directly or recognizing it as a lack of respect for her time, she would brush it off, not wanting to seem “difficult.” 

It wasn’t until Maya truly embraced her worth and defined punctuality as a non-negotiable that things shifted. 

The next time a man showed a pattern of disrespecting her time, she didn’t make excuses for him; she recognized it as a clear sign that he didn’t align with her standards. 

It felt uncomfortable at first, but ultimately, it freed her up to meet someone who valued her time and showed her the respect she deserved.

Maya’s story isn’t unique. Many powerful women find themselves accepting less than they deserve in love. 

But it’s time for that to change. It’s time to unlock the keys to elevating your love standards and attracting the partner who truly matches your worth.

Key 1: Unlock Unshakeable Self-Worth – The Foundation of Attraction

Before you can attract the right partner, you need an unshakeable understanding of your own worth. This isn’t about ego or arrogance; it’s about recognizing the incredible qualities you possess, the value you bring to any relationship, and the kind of love you truly deserve.

As I shared in this week’s Love Chat With The Love Twins:

“A man who is truly ready for commitment craves a woman who knows her worth and honors her boundaries, her values, and standards.“ 

This isn’t just a nice sentiment; it’s a fundamental truth. 

A quality man isn’t looking for someone he needs to “complete” or someone he can mold. He’s looking for a confident, self-aware woman who knows her value – that’s you.

How to Unlock Your Self-Worth:

  • Reflect on Your Power: Take time to acknowledge everything you’ve achieved, both personally and professionally. Remind yourself of your strengths and the challenges you’ve overcome.
  • Identify Your Guiding Values: What principles are non-negotiable for you? Honesty, respect, kindness, ambition? Knowing your values will help you identify partners who align with your fundamental beliefs.
  • Embrace Your Brilliance: What are you good at? What do people admire about you? Embrace your unique qualities and recognize the value they bring to a relationship.
  • Practice Radical Self-Kindness: Be gentle and forgiving with yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Your worth isn’t diminished by imperfections; it’s enhanced by your resilience.

Key 2: Define Your Non-Negotiable Standards – Your Relationship Blueprint

Once you have a strong sense of your worth, it’s time to define your non-negotiable standards in a relationship. These are the fundamental requirements you will not compromise on.

“You are not asking too much and if he says you are, he’s not the right one for you.” 

Let this be your guiding principle. Your standards are not demands; they’re reflections of your self-respect and your vision for a healthy, fulfilling partnership.

How to Define Your Non-Negotiables:

  • Analyze Your Relationship History: What worked and what didn’t? What made you feel valued and what left you feeling drained? Use these insights to clarify your needs.
  • Establish Your Boundaries: What behaviors are absolutely unacceptable to you? Disrespect, dishonesty, lack of effort? Clearly define your boundaries and commit to upholding them.
  • Align with Your Values: Ensure your non-negotiables are a direct reflection of your core values. If integrity is paramount, then unwavering honesty becomes a non-negotiable.

Key 3: Ignite Your Dating Confidence – You Are the Desired

Now that you’ve recognized and defined your worth and standards, it’s time to step into the dating world with confidence. 

“When you learn to date confidently, you will have so many options to choose from.” 

Confidence isn’t about arrogance; it’s about owning your value and approaching dating from a place of strength and self-assurance.

How to Ignite Your Dating Confidence:

  • Enter with Self-Assuredness: Walk into every dating interaction knowing you have something significant to offer. You’re not trying to win someone over; you are discerning if they are worthy of your time and energy.
  • Embrace Your Authenticity: Don’t try to mold yourself into someone you think they want. Let your true personality shine. The right person will be drawn to the real, incredible you.
  • Communicate with Clarity and Strength: Don’t shy away from expressing your needs and boundaries respectfully. This isn’t about making demands; it’s about being transparent about what you seek.

Key 4: Discern Reality from Fantasy – The Lens of True Connection

While it’s vital to have high standards, it’s equally important to be grounded in reality. 

“You need to know when you are living in a fantasy with unreal expectations as that blocks intimacy.”

How to Maintain a Realistic Perspective:

  • Prioritize Core Alignment, Not Flawlessness: Focus on a deep connection based on shared values and mutual respect, rather than expecting someone to be a flawless ideal.
  • Embrace Human Imperfection: Everyone has quirks and imperfections. Be open to accepting a partner with their authentic self, just as you would want them to accept yours.
  • Resist Idealization: Avoid creating an unrealistic image of someone early on. Allow them to reveal their true selves and assess compatibility based on reality.

Key 5: Break the Chains of People-Pleasing – Reclaim Your Power

For many incredible women, like you, there can be a tendency to prioritize others’ needs over your own, especially when navigating the dating landscape. Remember: 

“What most people who people please don’t get is it’s a form of control run by fear.”

How to Break Free from People-Pleasing in Dating:

  • Know Your Needs Matter Most: Be unequivocally clear about your own desires and requirements in a relationship, and refuse to compromise on your core needs to gain someone’s approval.
  • Master the Art of “No”: It’s perfectly acceptable to decline dates or activities that don’t resonate with you or feel right. Saying “no” is a powerful act of self-respect.
  • Speak Your Truth Fearlessly: Don’t hesitate to express your thoughts and feelings honestly, even if they differ from your date’s perspective. Authentic connection thrives on open communication.

Key 6: Embrace the Filtering Process, It’s not Personal

As you elevate your standards and date with confidence, you’ll naturally begin to filter out individuals who aren’t aligned with your vision for love. 

“When I consistently honor my standards, it filters out the men who are wrong for me. It’s not rejection, it’s protection.” 

How to Embrace the Filtering Process:

  • Don’t Take It Personally: If someone doesn’t meet your standards or isn’t interested, it’s not a reflection of your worthiness. It simply signifies a lack of compatibility. 

And vice-versa, know that when you let a man know he’s not a match for you, you’re simply letting him move forward toward his match. 

  • Trust the Journey: Every dating experience, even the ones that don’t lead to a long-term connection, offers valuable insights about yourself and what you truly seek.
  • Celebrate Your Discernment: Every time you uphold your standards, you are actively guiding yourself toward the love you truly deserve.

When you unlock your inherent worth, define your path, ignite your confidence, see clearly, reclaim your power, and trust the journey you’ll be well on your way to attracting the RIGHT man for you! 

By consciously elevating your love standards, you’re not just seeking a partner; you are creating the space for a love that truly honors and celebrates the incredible woman you are. 

✨ Take the Love Barrier Quiz now to uncover which of the 5 Love Keys is your area for growth—and how to break through what’s been holding you back in love.

Click here to take the quiz and unlock your next step to real, lasting love!

Because once you know what your love barrier is, you can finally do something about it.

It’s time to unlock the love you deserve!

 

 

Situationships Unmasked: Why It’s Time to Stop Settling for Almost-Love

Situationships Unmasked: Why It’s Time to Stop Settling for Almost-Love

by | Mar 21, 2025 | breakups, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship, Self-Love, Success

by Michelle Roza

For the Woman Who’s Ready to Stop Guessing and Start Creating Extraordinary Love—Now

You’ve got the degrees, the title, the bank account, and the life that others admire…

So why are you still left questioning where you stand with him?

Let’s get real.

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering,

 “Are we together… or not?”

“Why does he act like a boyfriend but disappear when it matters?”

…then you may be stuck in a situationship—that murky middle space between casual and committed, where nothing is clearly defined, and yet somehow all of your energy is being poured in.

This is for you—the strong, high-achieving, heart-centered woman who knows she’s made for more than breadcrumbs and uncertainty.

Because the truth is, “almost love” isn’t love. 

And you? You weren’t made for maybe.

So, What Is a Situationship, Really?

A situationship is a “relationship” that lacks clear boundaries, intentionality, and direction. 

It feels like something, but it’s never defined. You’re left with mixed signals, unmet expectations, and the overwhelming sense that you’re investing more than you’re receiving.

You’re almost a couple.
You kind of talk about the future.
You sometimes get your emotional needs met… until he pulls away again.

And here’s the kicker: these connections can feel intoxicating in the short term.

The chemistry is strong. The unpredictability creates a rush. And the lack of clarity feeds your “fix-it” instinct.

But what’s really happening?

You’re settling.
You’re shrinking.
You’re wasting your precious time on a relationship that’s not even real.

Why Smart, Successful Women Fall Into Situationships

This isn’t about being naïve.

In fact, the more successful and self-reliant you are, the more likely you’ve been conditioned to “figure it out,” “be understanding,” or “see the potential” in someone.

And let’s not ignore the societal messaging that says strong women should be flexible, low-maintenance, and “go with the flow” in dating.

The result? You end up:

✔️ Rationalizing red flags
✔️ Silencing your intuition
✔️ Making excuses for inconsistency
✔️ Holding space for a man who won’t hold space for you

One of our clients—let’s call her Jessica—is a powerhouse executive who came to us emotionally exhausted. She’d been seeing a man for nearly a year and he’d text her daily, plan spontaneous dates, and talk about “someday.”

But he never introduced her to his friends or made a clear commitment.

Every time she asked where things were going, he’d say, “Why ruin a good thing? Let’s just enjoy what we have.”

Sound familiar?

After just one coaching session, Jessica had a breakthrough.

She realized that what she had wasn’t love—it was anxiety, dressed up as connection.

And within weeks of doing the deeper HeartWork™, she released that relationship, aligned with her Love Vision, and within three months, began dating a man who was intentional, emotionally available, and ready.

The Emotional Cost of “Almost-Love”

A situationship doesn’t just waste your time—it costs you clarity, confidence, and self-trust.

💔 It robs you of your voice as you tiptoe around your truth.
💔 It dims your light while you wait for crumbs of affection.
💔 It depletes your energy, leaving you too drained to open your heart to someone who’s actually aligned.

According to a 2022 study by Psychology Today, nearly 62% of single women reported experiencing “relational ambiguity” as their biggest source of dating stress.

That ambiguity is not an accident. It’s a strategy some men use to keep you close enough to benefit from your energy—but far enough to avoid real commitment.

And sis, your heart, your time, and your future are too valuable for that game.

Why You Need a Love Vision (Now More Than Ever)

When you don’t have a clear Love Vision, it’s easy to fall for potential. You end up reacting to what’s being offered instead of intentionally creating what you desire.

But when you’re crystal clear on what kind of relationship you’re creating, settling becomes impossible.

Because the woman with a Love Vision doesn’t:

❌ Chase clarity—she creates it.
❌ Entertain confusion—she requires communication.
❌ Dim her light—she shines unapologetically.

The moment you align with your Love Vision is the moment you stop entertaining anyone who doesn’t.

It’s Time to Choose YOU

If you’re reading this, it’s because your intuition already knows…

  • You’re not here to play games.
  • You’re not meant to be in limbo.
  • You’re ready for the real thing.

Let this be your wake-up call: Stop settling for almost-love. Love doesn’t leave you questioning.

It shows up. It aligns. It moves forward.

You’re not “too much.” You’re just finally refusing to be less than loved.

Ready to Break Free from Situationships and Step Into the Relationship You Deserve?

It starts with clarity.
It starts with courage.
It starts with you.

Book a complimentary Love Breakthrough Session with one of our expert coaches and get your personal plan to shift from confusion to commitment—fast.

👉 Schedule Your Call Now

Because real love doesn’t leave you wondering. It meets you where you are—and rises to meet your worth.