See YOUR Patterns and Create Your Love Vision NOW!

See YOUR Patterns and Create Your Love Vision NOW!

by | Jan 23, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel like you keep repeating the same thing over and over again when it comes to dating and relationships?

Does it seem like you keep meeting the same man in a different body – and no matter how good it might seem in the beginning, it always ends the same way?

Do you have the same argument week in and week out with your boyfriend or husband? 

If you feel like you keep getting the same results – and you can’t figure out why – it’s likely there’s a dysfunctional pattern that’s running you! 

 The incredible thing about seeing and understanding your dysfunctional patterns is that once you do – you access the power to break through them! 

 And once you do that – you’re free to choose.

Below are the top 3 dysfunctional patterns that come up for women in love and relationships. While these may not be yours, keep reading because you may have a version of one of these! 

  1. The MOST common dysfunctional pattern in relationships – and what most other dysfunctional patterns come back to- is not trusting yourself. 

Do you overthink things, ruminate,  question your decisions or put them off?

If so, you have a dysfunctional pattern of not trusting yourself.

This pattern is developed at a young age when you do something that you thought was right and then get reprimanded for it. The little girl inside of you is still living in the decision of “When I think something’s right – it’s wrong” and you stop trusting yourself. 

Analysis paralysis is exhausting! Plus, every time you doubt yourself, you chip away a little bit more of your confidence.

2. The 2nd most common dysfunctional pattern is attracting the wrong men.

If you’re attracting the wrong men, there’s something energetically part of your belief system about what you think you deserve.

You might think that “someone” is better than “no one” or “better than the last guy” and it has you stay in something that’s not what you really want.

3. The 3rd most common dysfunctional pattern is that you have a hard time being vulnerable in relationships.

You hide and don’t dare show people who you really are.

You try to appear confident and end up coming off arrogant, entitled, or guarded. 

 So how do you overcome these dysfunctional patterns and unleash the confident, assured version of yourself?

How do you begin to trust yourself so you can attract the type of man you deserve and create the relationship with him that you dream of?

You have to break through your fears!

Underneath every dysfunctional pattern is a fear created from an experience from your past and a moment where you decided you couldn’t have what you really want. 

Here’s the thing.

We’re 23 days into the New Year and if those 23 days haven’t felt different for you – then you need to join us for the Love Vision Intensive happening next weekend, February 3rd-5th, 2023!

At this 3-day deep-dive event, you will uncover YOUR specific dysfunctional patterns, where they came from and break through them once and for all so you can begin to create the love that’s meant for you NOW! 

Click HERE to grab your ticket to the Love Vision Intensive NOW!

You’ll walk away from this event saying, “ I know I can have the relationship I want in 2023!”

We know how powerful it is to overcome the fears and patterns that are holding you back in love and begin to experience more than you ever thought possible. 

The #1 Mistake Women Make When Communicating With Men and What To Do Instead!

The #1 Mistake Women Make When Communicating With Men and What To Do Instead!

by | Oct 21, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Do you understand men?

Or do you find yourself asking:

What the @*!# was he thinking?

Did he really just say that?

Why doesn’t he listen to me?

If you don’t feel seen, heard and understood when you’re communicating with your partner, and you’re wondering why you feel so disconnected, there’s a reason AND a solution!

AND this is not just for romantic relationships – this is important to remember in all of your relationships with men – fathers, brothers, and male colleagues at work.

First… It’s not personal. It’s biological!

Men aren’t just hairier, more muscular versions of women. (Surprise!)

There’s a reason why women can multi-task and men need to focus on one thing at a time.

There’s a reason why men jump in, interrupt and try to solve your problem before you’ve even shared what you wanted to say.

And there’s a reason why you get home from a date where you experienced so much fun and connection and then feel confused when he doesn’t ask you out again. 

It’s not a matter of intelligence or not caring.

Men are actually wired differently.

And the differences in how they think, speak, and act can create major conflict and frustration in you and your relationship, as you feel like you can’t talk, communicate, or connect with each other.

The good news is that, even with all of these differences, it IS possible to feel completely seen, heard, understood and loved by your man (and for him to feel the same way).

This is why we created the Decoding Your Man Masterclass – which is happening Saturday, October 22nd at 12pm EST

If you haven’t registered yet, REGISTER HERE!

Our goal is for you to understand how the differences in our biology impact every level of our relationships, and how you can still feel empowered to have better communication, deeper connection, and real, lasting intimacy with the man you love.

It’s absolutely possible to share what you feel, think, and need in a way that leaves you BOTH feeling seen, heard, understood, and loved!

In this powerful masterclass, you’ll learn the Decoding Your Man Method and:

  • The #1 mistake women make when communicating with men, and what to do instead!
     
  • Discover the differences between the way men’s and women’s brains are wired and how that impacts communication and romance with the opposite sex
     
  • Learn the keys to avoiding arguments and misunderstandings so that you can create love and partnership in your relationship vs. working against each other
     
  • Unlock and master the secrets to knowing exactly what to say and do get the love and support you want from your partner
     
  • How to create a happy, loving, passionate relationship that lasts for a lifetime!
     
  • And so much more!

The reason why he says “I’m busy” when you try to ask him a question while he’s working is because men are wired to focus on one thing at a time.z

The reason why he jumps in and interrupts you when you’re simply wanting to be listened to is because he hears you’re in pain and wants to be your hero and solve your problem.

And the reason why you have an incredible date but then don’t see him again is because while you were thinking about and assessing the entire date in the moment (and don’t tell us you don’t do that, hehe) – he was 100% focused on making sure the date was fun and enjoyable for you and then thought out those things after.

Is your mind blown?

We’ll be explaining so many more questions like these on Saturday and you’ll smile each time you hear yourself saying, “Aha! That explains it!”

It’s not just about knowing the facts and understanding why men do what they do.

It’s also about knowing how to dance with them by having the skills and knowing how to communicate in a way that sets you both up to win.

If you want to learn how to communicate in a way so that you can be received and responded to in a healthy, supportive, loving and caring way, make sure to join us for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass by registering for FREE at the link below.

Register for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass!

How to Have It All… (Success in Life AND Love)

How to Have It All… (Success in Life AND Love)

by | Sep 23, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship Advice, Romance, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

There are so many women who believe they have to choose between having a successful business or a great relationship.  They truly don’t believe it’s possible to have both.  

Here’s the deal: If you believe you can’t have both, you’re living in a scarcity conversation, and you’re actually blocking the success you could be experiencing in BOTH!

So many of our clients are rocking it in their business as well as their love lives. 

And we are too!

That’s why, we know that not only is it possible for you to have both – it actually makes all of it even better!

High-quality men want to support, be in contribution to, and pour into a high-quality woman. 

Men want to support us.

I’ll never forget, years back, when I was crying, sitting in a restaurant with tears flowing down my face because I’d just been on the phone with my business coach.

I was feeling so defeated that I didn’t know what all of the tech terms meant or what all of this software I needed was, and didn’t know how I was ever going to be successful in my business when I felt so clueless about this aspect of running a business.

Ric saw the opportunity, and he literally learned how to create funnels, build websites and do all-things-tech related to our business, simply as a result of wanting to support me and my dream.

It’s okay if you don’t have a clue what any of those things mean either, what matters is that all these years later and I can’t even imagine where I, or Hearts Desire for that matter, would be without him.

The other reason why men love being with high-quality, successful, driven women is because it inspires them to be more.

I’ll also never forget the day when I heard Ric, my soft-spoken husband, stand on one of our stages at an event and say, “Seeing how committed Gladys is to her own transformation inspires me to become a better man.”

Definitely another tearful moment for me!

Until then I knew he admired the things I did, my career, and professional accomplishments.  

But that day, he was talking about what he admired about ME and the woman I AM!  

No award, degree, or certificate I’ve earned can hold a candle to that!

The most beautiful thing about creating a partnership with someone who loves and admires you AND your determination and commitment in the world is what you can create together.

It gives you the opportunity to lean on one another and lift each other up when you have days where you’re having a hard time seeing it in yourself.

Supportive partners see you, experience you and hear you in a way that you sometimes fail to see, and they share your life, your success, and all of the ordinary-extraordinary moments with you as you continue to strive for success in all areas of your life.

When you know that you’re a love-able woman, then you can attract someone who believes that, too.

When you’re honest and authentic about who you are, that’s when you’ll find the man who will love you completely.

When you trust yourself, love yourself, and know that you’re capable of creating an amazing relationship in your life, you WILL!

This is what I know was true for me and, it’s  true for you too.

Got a Question About Online Dating? Here’s the Answer!

Got a Question About Online Dating? Here’s the Answer!

by | Sep 9, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Success

by Gladys Diaz

What is the number one question you have when it comes to online dating?

These are the questions we get asked the most…. 

❓ Why do I keep attracting the wrong kind of men? 

❓ Why are none of the men I’m matching with reaching out? 

❓ What should I include in my profile? 

❓ What shouldn’t I include?

❓ What sites are the best to get on? 

❓ What type of photos should I use? 

We’re going to be answering ALL of these questions, plus more on Saturday at the Ultimate Attraction Workshop, but we wanted to give you just a few tips today. 

When it comes to online dating, your profile is the most important part! 

Why? 

Because you have 3-6 seconds to capture a man’s attention which means your photos and the first sentence of your profile must be captivating! 

Here’s what NOT to do: 

DON’T start with a list of adjectives

DON’T include a list of things you like to do

DON’T put a timeline of your life

DON’T list all of your educational or professional credentials

DON’T put pictures of you with alcohol or showing too much skin

DON’T use sarcasm or put yourself down

You want your profile to showcase who you really are! 

You want it to be refreshing, different and full of depth. The more natural it sounds, the more receptive men will be to it so make sure it shows your authentic you!

So what should you do?

If you want to find out and are ready to start attracting the right kind of men, join us from 12-3pm EST on Saturday for the Ultimate Attraction Workshop! 

We’re going to be teaching you exactly what you need to know to have clarity around what to do before, during and after you create your online dating profile so that you attract high-quality, commitment-minded, ready-for-love men who will be ready to partner with you in creating the relationship of your dreams!

We’ll be answering your questions, giving you coaching and having hands-on activities so that you walk away with a profile that starts giving you the results you’ve been waiting for.

Have Online Dating Work for you Now!

Stop wasting your time attracting the wrong men online and learn how to create a profile that attracts the high quality, commitment-minded man you want to meet, get to know and marry! 

 

Break Your TRIGGERS To Be the Irresistible YOU!

Break Your TRIGGERS To Be the Irresistible YOU!

by | Aug 29, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Parenting, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Imagine you were in a conversation with someone where you felt upset, pressured, threatened or angry.

How would you normally respond?

There was a time when I would get into arguments with people, over things that didn’t even matter the next day.

I would be so sure that I was right…

…there’d be a big blow-up, and then…

…I’d just move on like they never existed.

That worked for me – until it didn’t.

When I started to recognize how distant all of my relationships were and how impossible I was making it to get close enough to anyone to create an intimate, loving, supportive partnership – I knew something needed to change!

Can you relate?

When our fear response is set off, our “reptilian brain” kicks in and our human, automatic response is triggered. Hormones are released, the subconscious is activated and an emotional response ensues.

And whatever you do when that situation arises is what you do – without even thinking about it.

You either: 

  1. FIGHT – You lash out with criticism, bitterness, yelling and insults in an attempt to deal with the fear and hurt you’re feeling. You have an “adult temper tantrum” and everyone has to know you’re upset. 
  2. FREEZE – You hold in your feelings and internalize your anger, eventually creating sickness in your body.
  3. FLEE – You withdraw, avoid and numb out your emotions. 

What’s your pattern when your triggers are set off?

When this automatic pattern is triggered, you’re not even aware of what’s happening.

You’re not conscious that you could be doing things another way. You feel great in the moment, but then, when the adrenaline wears off – you have the emotional hangover that you don’t know what to do with.

The thing is, there’s something bigger underneath it all.

The pattern is simply the coping mechanism you developed as a child to deal with the pain, hurt and heartbreak and when those fears that are still present for you are triggered – your pattern goes off.

The thing about love and intimate relationships is that these patterns simply don’t work. There’s nothing men despise more than drama.

What men want more than anything else is a woman who’s emotionally mature – even more than they want someone they’re physically attracted to!

They want a woman who knows herself, knows her triggers and has learned how to handle her emotions with grace.

The good news is there’s a way you can break these patterns.

It’s possible to feel your feelings, communicate your needs AND show up the way you want to! 


It’s not about perfection, it’s about being able to get upset and handle it with grace.

If you don’t want to continue the patterns of your past, you get to create not just new ways – but effective ways to do things differently.

If you want to attract a man who’s a match for you, then you get to BE the woman that’s going to attract that.

This is why we’re so passionate about you joining us at Irresistible Woman LIVE!

Over the course of 3 days we’ll be doing the HeartWork necessary to release the pain of the past and give you the tools to be able to communicate and relate to yourself and others effectively!

You’ll come out of the three-day weekend event KNOWING not only that you ARE an Irresistible Woman but also be able to show up as her in every area of your life!

What’s possible when you show up that way is literally incredible.

And that’s what we want for you!

There’s only one more day – TODAY – to grab your ticket to Irresistible Woman LIVE PLUS all of the bonuses we’re currently offering for $97.

Tonight at midnight Eastern time the price is going up and the bonuses are going away, so if you’ve been on the fence – the time to act is now.

Grab the Ultimate Love Bundle!

If you have toxic patterns, you’ll attract toxic men and create toxic relationships.

It’s just that simple. 

When you learn how to rewrite those patterns and show up as the graceful, beautiful, Irresistible Woman that you are – that’s when the magic happens!

When you’re able to have circumstances show up and you’re unchanged – that’s real power!

Join us at The Irresistible Woman LIVE and step into your power now!

How To Take Control of the Negative Thoughts In Your Head!

How To Take Control of the Negative Thoughts In Your Head!

by | Aug 8, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

How can you decipher the “truth” of what goes on inside your head?

How do you know if the negative thoughts you have (that we all have by the way) are what’s “real” or if they’re simply something you’re imagining, a limiting belief you have from the past or a “trigger”.

Here’s a secret for you…

90% of the thoughts you have are negative. Can you believe that?!

Those thoughts are not always, “the world is coming to an end” type of thoughts, but they are some form of fear, worry or anxiety.

This is true for us, for you and for every other person on the planet.

Why?

Because we’re human.

We’re designed to survive. It’s built into us to look for outside circumstances that may cause us harm.

Here’s the thing though…

Most of us no longer live in a world where we need to be on the constant look-out for danger.

Unfortunately our brains don’t know that and continue to throw worrying thoughts at you all day long!

When it comes to dating and relationships these negative thoughts might look like…

…”Why is my boyfriend going on a 3-day work trip with that female colleague of his? They usually only go for 2 days.”

… “Why hasn’t that guy called me yet? He said he would – he must be a flake!”

… “This guy is amazing! I can’t believe how much fun we’re having together. When am I going to find out the truth about him?”

… “Why is my husband always looking at his phone? Am I not interesting enough to want to talk to?”

You get the idea.

What are some of the negative thoughts that are currently impacting your love life?

The kicker is that all negative thoughts (left unchecked) lead to negative actions. These negative actions usually lead to some sort of emotional spin or fall-out.

Which is super unfortunate – especially if the negative thought is something that’s not even real right?!

So – what can you do to interrupt those negative thoughts so you don’t become the crazy lady that’s stalking your husband’s phone, doing late night drive-bys of your boyfriend’s house or constantly finding reasons to text the guy you just met.

(We’ve been there and chances are you have to.)

1) When a negative or fearful thought enters your mind – count to 3, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What am I making this mean?”

By doing this you’re interrupting the pattern. We aren’t always in control of the thoughts that come into our mind, but we are in control of what we do with them.

When you take a moment to pause – you’re taking control and beginning to have a conscious conversation with yourself rather than reacting to whatever’s happening inside or outside.

2) Do the HeartWork to uncover what’s underneath these thoughts. Get to the root of what has you feeling insecure, jealous, worried or afraid.

This is so important because if you don’t heal the root wound – nothing will ever change. You’ll constantly find reasons to continue to believe that you aren’t good enough, that men aren’t reliable or good or that you’ll never have the love you dream of.

Until you heal the thing that’s causing the negative belief in the first place, you’ll continue to experience the same worries, fear and insecurities.

Are you ready for something more?

Are you ready to take control of your thoughts and become the confident woman that KNOWS she is SAFE and LOVEABLE?

If you answered yes, then join us next week for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

This challenge is 5 days of high energy, high fun, and high power transformation that will have you breakthrough what’s standing between you and the real love, happiness, connection and intimacy that you want.

Join us for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge here!

At the end of next week you’ll know exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship that you dream about and you will have broken through the thing that is continuing to stop you from creating it.

Your time is now!

Don’t waste another day swimming through the negative thoughts in your head.

Take control and begin creating the life and love you want now!

 

Join us here. We can’t wait to see you there.