by Gladys Diaz
We have a little secret for you…. ready?!
Dating does not have to be a heavy, horrible or disappointing experience.
Dating can (and should be) enjoyable, exciting and fun!
The best part of the secret is that it’s up to you!
Now hear this, if you’re feeling disappointed with dating, you’re not alone which is why we’re sharing some tips on how you can create the experience you want to be having in dating.
First of all, if you’re feeling like dating isn’t being what you wish it would be, take a look at your mindset.
- Are you afraid you won’t be attracted to anyone you meet?
- Are men not responding the way you wish they would on the apps?
- Do you feel like it’s an endless texting game and you never get asked on an actual date?
- Do you worry that you won’t say the right thing?
- Are you afraid a man won’t be attracted to you?
What are your thoughts about dating?
This is so important because if you’re having these types of thoughts and fears, and you’re unaware of them, most likely they are running the show and showing up in your experience.
Once you’re aware of them, you can do the Heart Work to turn them from beliefs into fleeting thoughts so that you’re not setting yourself up for disappointment but rather delight!
The second secret in loving dating is to let go of expectations.
Whether you’re disappointed about where you are in life right now versus where you thought you’d be or if your experience with a man isn’t adding up to what you hoped… those disappointments are coming from unmet expectations.
So, get honest with yourself and then stop making it mean anything.
You are where you are and what’s happening is what’s happening. You can either be someone who lets life dictate who they’re going to be OR you can be the kind of woman who decides how you’re going to show up no matter what.
When you let go of expectations and see dating (and life) as an adventure it becomes exciting and fun no matter what happens!
The third secret if you want dating to be fun, is to be prepared.
In order to be interested and interesting, show up knowing the answers to these questions:
- What do I want him to know about me?
- What do I want to know about him?
Being prepared allows you to let go of your worries and anxieties and make sure that the intention of the date (to get to know each other) is met!
And remember: this is not about being strategic, this is about being authentic.
Which leads us to the final secret…..
Being yourself allows your fun side to come out which is what makes you attractive.
Being yourself allows you to be vulnerable which is what creates a connection.
Being yourself makes it possible for the man to get to know you.
Being yourself allows your irresistible essence to come out!
The real secret to having fun and experiencing joy in dating is to be the love you want to see!
By being honest about your fears and worries, letting go of expectations, showing up prepared and being yourself, you can (and will) experience all of the fun, joy and excitement dating has to offer.
It really is up to you!
Want some support in making this your reality?
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