by Gladys Diaz
14 years ago, I got stood up. Why would I want to remember that event of my life? Because it was also the day my life changed forever! And there was no way I could have ever imagined or predicted the turn my life was about to take. And it probably wouldn’t have, had I chosen to stay stuck in the pain and sadness of having a guy I really liked stand me up.
I had been talking to a guy on the phone for a short time, and we’d gone out on one date. Back then, I used to think that going on a date meant you were in a relationship, so I began calling him every day – multiple times a day, leaving him voice messages, and basically asking him out on other dates. I think back now, and I’m a little embarrassed about just how much I was chasing him and trying to get him to like me. I also see now where he was sending me really clear messages that he wasn’t interested in being in a relationship. But, you know what they say about hindsight being 20/20!
He wasn’t a bad guy. He was actually very nice. And while some women would say he wasn’t man enough or courageous enough to tell me that he didn’t want to go out with me, I think he was too nice to want to hurt my feelings, and, since I hadn’t paid attention to the thousands of hints he’d been giving me, he gave me one I couldn’t ignore.
I was heartbroken. I felt so vulnerable. This was the first guy I had dated since I’d lost my first husband, and I felt so hurt and afraid that I’d just end up being alone for the rest of my life. Perhaps that was a bit dramatic, but it’s how I felt.
Thankfully, my best friend loved me too much to see me moping around, and she said we were going dancing that night. Now, I was 28 and had never been to a club, and I was not about to go to a bar to meet men! But I love dancing (and she knew that), so we made plans to go out that night.
We got lost on the way there, and I kept thinking, “Maybe this is a sign… We should just go home.” I was so afraid to be this far out of my comfort zone! But, eventually we did find the place. As soon as I walked in and sat at the bar, I noticed a really cute guy standing by the DJ booth. He was moving his head to the music and looked so relaxed. I remember thinking, “I hope he asks me to dance.”
Well, he didn’t. But a bunch of other guys did, so I had a great time, dancing, smiling, flirting, and just being me! I wasn’t trying to meet anyone. I really didn’t want to meet anyone. I just wanted to have fun… And I wanted that cute guy to ask me to dance. But he didn’t!
When we were about to leave, I saw him standing diagonally across the dance floor from me. I told my friend, “I wish that guy had asked me to dance!”
Just then, he looked right at me. I didn’t know what else to do, so I smiled. He smiled back and gestured with his head that I should come on over to him.
What???
I gestured with my head that he should come on over to me. Then I turned around. It was 2:00 a.m., my feet hurt, and I was not in the mood to play games!
As we got ready to go, my friend’s eyes started getting really big.
“Oh, my goodness! Is he standing behind me?”
She nodded yes.
I turned around and smiled, and he introduced himself to me. We talked for a bit, and, when he told me he was only 24, I walked over to my friend and said, “Forget it. He’s a kid.”
Again, my beautiful friend saved me from myself when she said, “Get back over there right now. I haven’t seen you smiling and laughing like that in at least a year!”
So, I walked back over to him and we talked and danced for another 2 hours before my friend said we needed to go. I gave him my number and fell asleep with a smile on my face, thinking about how much I hoped he’d really call.
He did!
We spoke for 7 hours on the phone the next night. Went on our first date the following night, and saw each other almost every day after that. Six months later he asked me to marry him. Almost a year to the day we met, we joined our lives forever. And it’s been the most wonderful 14 years of my life!
So, what lessons did I learn that night?
- Many times, something that seems painful and undesirable can be a wonderfully sweet blessing in disguise.
- Surround yourself with friends who love and want you to be happy and who will stand for you when you don’t feel strong enough to stand for yourself.
- Just because you haven’t met him yet, doesn’t mean you won’t. And you may meet him when and where you least expect it!
- Believe that true love is possible and that it is possible for YOU!
If you want to hear more of the lessons I’ve learned about how to create the relationship of your dreams, then you’ll want to join me on Wednesday, July 17th, for a free 90-minute “Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams” Training Call where I’ll share how you can begin creating the relationship you’ve always dreamed of! Just send me an email (gladys@heartsdesireintl.com) and I’ll send you the information regarding how you can join the call!
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