by Gladys Diaz
Do you feel like your intuition is broken?
Do you feel like you don’t know what’s best, or how to make the right decisions?
Do you feel like you can’t trust men? Your friends? Yourself?
That last one’s important, because… if you can’t trust yourself, how are you ever going to be able to trust anyone else?
The other day I was talking to a woman, and, as we were talking, the issue of trust just kept coming up. Finally, I asked, “How many times have you experienced someone cheating on you?” Her answer shocked me for someone for her age. It was over 5 times! As we continued talking, we discovered that the issue of infidelity was something that had been in her family for years. – Of course she has a hard time trusting men!
As women, our biggest need is to feel safe. How can we feel safe with others when we feel we can’t trust the person we’re with?
I was there, too. Because of the alcohol abuse, abandonment, and pretending that I engaged in during in my childhood to hide what was going on in our home from everyone around me, I had trouble trusting people. My thought was, “If I can’t trust my own mother, how am I ever going to trust anyone else, or even myself.
Because of that limiting belief, I wasn’t making the best decisions about who I was allowing into my life, and I kept attracting the wrong guys. I was dating terrible men – mean men who didn’t love, honor, or respect me.
When I started to do my HeartWork, I forgave my mom, my ex-boyfriends, and myself for the choices we had all made. Not long after that, I met Ric. He was so authentic! His honesty was something I found super-attractive. I took my time getting to know him, saw that I could trust myself to choose a good man, and the rest is history! How grateful I am that I learned how to trust??? Very!
Here’s the thing… if you’re feeling like you don’t trust others – especially men – then y consider that you don’t trust yourself.
So…How do you shift that?
Here’s the formula that Michelle and I use with our clients to help them know whether it’s their intuition that’s guiding them or if it’s their fears, limiting beliefs, and superstitions doing the talking.
If it’s your intuition, then there is evidence of it around you.
If it’s your fears, limiting beliefs, and superstitions then you’re making up the evidence.
What if you can’t tell the difference?
Give yourself some space. Detach from the situation a little bit so that you can see what’s actually happening and what’s not happening.
Take a look and see if maybe you’re making something up that’s not actually happening in reality?
Is a memory being triggered?
Are you choosing to ignore something that is happening?
Are you crossing and not honoring your own boundaries for someone else?
When you take a step back and look at it with new eyes, I promise you you’ll be able to hear what your intuition is telling you!
And then you get to trust it and yourself to make the choice that’s right for you!
If you’re having a lot of trouble trusting others and don’t know where to start, start by forgiving yourself for the choices you’ve made in the past and give yourself permission to move on! Because the time is now.
There are 88 days left in 2019.
Are you living the Love Resolution you made at the beginning of the year?
Are you where you want to be on December 31st, or is there a gap?
If you’re not there yet, the good news is that THERE ARE STILL 88 days to create a real shift!
We have a client who just got a promise ring from her man, and another that is getting married next week! There is still time for YOU to create the love of your dreams in 2019.
If you’re not sure where to start, click here to schedule a complimentary call with us about The Ready to Love Again Program, a 12-month coaching program for single women who want to attract the right man and create the relationship of their dreams (enrollment closes October 8th, so don’t wait!):
Just a quick note: the only way to reserve a spot in the program is to chat with us, so that together, we can determine whether it’s a good fit for you, right now.
You get to create that love for yourself and what better time than right now?