by heartsdesireintl | Oct 5, 2012 | Dating, HDI Blog, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
Tuesday’s post on getting rid of the checklist sparked a lot of discussion on different social media platforms, especially among singles. I even received some requests for a similar post directed toward men. Maybe… One day… However, I believe that we women have the power to set the tone in a relationship, and that it’s up to us to create the type of relationship we want to experience – no one can do that for us. So, for now, let’s talk about what to do once you choose to get rid of the checklist.
First, let me warn you. From time to time, you’ll be tempted to tape together the pieces of the checklist and see which ones “aren’t that bad” in order to justify keeping them. You know, you’ll get approached by a guy who looks different than the “type” of guy you usually date, and your automatic pilot will kick in with a “No way!” unless you can catch yourself first. Or maybe your friend wants to introduce you to a guy she knows, but he’s a divorced father of two and you have sworn to yourself that you will not date anyone who had any type of past that might affect you in any way, shape, or form. Or you bump into a guy at the grocery store and he smiles at you, but his teeth are crooked and that’s been a “deal-breaker” for you in the past.
The point is that, from time to time, you may find yourself grasping for the “safety” of the checklist. At those times, it’s going to take some intentional brain work on your part to remind yourself that his height, the color of his hair, who he may have loved in the past, and his teeth have nothing to do with the kind of romance that the two of you could possibly create together. And, until that happens, you can also remind yourself that it’s “just a conversation,” or “just coffee,” or “just a smile.”
So what’s a girl to do once she’s gotten rid of the checklist? Well, let’s start with what it is that you want!
Many women say they want to be in a loving, committed relationship, but, when you ask them to describe the kind of romance they want, they will either begin to describe a type of guy or stumble to put what they want into words. Perhaps it’s that the focus has been more on the guy they would like to meet than the relationship they’d like to create and live in. Maybe they’ve been basing the idea of a “real relationship” on what they’ve seen on TV or in the movies, or what they’ve read about in books. But when it comes to seriously thinking about, envisioning, and verbalizing what it is they really want, they just aren’t sure.
This is why one of the first exercises we do in our workshops or coaching sessions for single ladies is to have the women write down and declare what they want in a relationship.
How do you want to feel when you’re together?
What is the experience of being together like?
Why is this so important? Because until you are clear about what you want, you will settle for what you think you can get. It’s why one of the main reasons women tell us they are afraid of being in a committed relationship is that they will either “lose themselves” or end up “settling for” someone and then getting bored or falling out of love with them.
The truth is, no one gets “stuck” in a relationship. You either choose to be in it or you don’t. But, if you’re not sure about what kind of experience you want to have in a relationship, chances are that you will be “blurry” and unclear, and spend a lot of time attracting what you don’t want into your life. So, clarity is key!
For example, if you know that you want “good communication” in your relationship, that doesn’t really translate into an experience. So, maybe you would describe it as: We are able to share our ideas, thoughts, and dreams freely and openly.
If honesty and loyalty are important, you could say: We honor and respect one another and choose to love one another exclusively.
If being able to travel and do fun and exciting things is part of the experience you want to create with the man who is right for you, then you might say: We live in abundance and discover new and exciting adventures.
And if what you want is to be loved, cherished, and adored, then you could include something like: We love each other, make one another feel special, and let each other know how blessed we feel to be loved by the other.
…Or something like that…
Basically, what you are doing is determining what is important to you, what your heart truly desires, and describing it for yourself. No one ever has to read or hear this – not even him! This is your creation. Your declaration. And you get to start living it NOW, even before you meet him!
What do I mean? Well, if you the experience of your relationship includes having open and free communication, then begin expressing your thoughts freely and allowing others to do the same. If you want to experience honesty and loyalty, then be honest and loyal at all times. Honor your promises and commitments. If you want to live in abundance and have exciting adventures, don’t wait to meet someone in order to go for that promotion, start your own business, take that trip you’ve always wanted to take, or enroll in that class you’ve been putting off for “someday.” Do it now! And if you want to experience being loved, cherished, and adored, then be loving, kind, and compassionate with others, and receive the time, attention, gifts, and compliments of others – especially men – graciously… Even when they are not quite your “type,” because (good news) you no longer have a “type,” since you got rid of the checklist!
Basically, you want to start BEing the type of person who will attract the things and experiences you want to have. You want to BE the woman that a man who is willing and ready to create that type of relationship with you will be able to recognize from a mile away.
In essence, you want to BE everything you hope to see in your future relationship!
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by heartsdesireintl | Oct 2, 2012 | Dating, HDI Blog, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance
Over the past few weeks, I’ve received several requests to write a blog post specifically for single ladies who are still looking to attract the man who is right for them. The request usually comes in the form of a complaint stating that there “are no good guys out there,” or that they are all “either married, gay, or way too young.” On a planet with over 6 billion people, about half of which are male, and then about another half of those being unmarried and heterosexual, that leaves roughly about 1.5 billion guys out there who are available. Let’s say that only half of those are “good guys.” That still leaves 75 million good and available men. And you only need 1, right? Chances are he’s out there!
When I work with a single woman, one of the first questions I ask her is what she wants in a relationship. Ninety-nine percent of the time, she will immediately begin describing the man with whom she would like to be in a relationship. Usually, I’ll hear a “checklist” of qualities (criteria) that the man must meet – like his height, age, body type, education, salary, and type of job (including how much time he must have available to spend with her). I have to interrupt her at some point and clarify that she’s not answering the question I originally asked her. Our conversation goes a little like this:
Her: What do you mean? I thought you asked me what I want in a relationship.
Me: Right, I asked you to tell me what it is that you want in a relationship. In other words, what do you want to experience in a relationship?
Her: Oh! Sorry. What I want to experience is a relationship with a guy who is…”
Again, I have to stop her. That wasn’t the question.
At this point, she is usually a little confused (and irritated), and I’ll explain that what I’m asking her to do is describe what she wants to experience in the relationship.
What do you want to feel in that relationship? What are the words that would describe that experience? Is it peace, partnership, transparency, romance, passion? What do you want the relationship – not the man – to be like?
Why is it that we want to take the focus off of “the guy,” if the whole purpose of the coaching session or workshop is to attract and marry the man who is right for you? Well, because, until you are clear about what you want to experience in a relationship, you probably won’t recognize that you’re in it!
Too many times, women focus on a man’s physical characteristics, finances, education or work experience when they are thinking about being in a relationship. If you ask them, they’ve dated guys who are their “type” before. So, why didn’t it work out? Well, because “the checklist” – that insurmountable list of criteria that completely obliterates any chance a very large portion of the “good” available men has of even approaching you – has very little to do with the type of romance a you want to experience.
Think about it. If your checklist includes that he needs to be at least 6 feet tall, with brown hair, and light brown eyes, what in the world does that have to do with how honest he will be with you?
How will the amount of education or the number of degrees he has impact his ability to hold you during your darkest times?
How does the amount of money he has in the bank affect his ability to make you laugh until you’re both crying?
What does the type of car he drives have to do with the way he looks at you and how he can make you feel like you are the only two people in a crowded room?
Short answer: None of these things have anything to do with the type of relationship your heart desires!
The checklist, while on the surface may seem is just a list of desired characteristics, is actually more like a suit of armor that women use to protect ourselves.
Protect ourselves? From what? Men?
No. We use the checklist to protect ourselves from our own fears. What we are afraid will happen or won’t happen. What we are afraid we deserve or are unworthy of. What we are afraid is not good or lovable enough about ourselves. The checklist actually has nothing to do with him and everything to do with us, how we see ourselves, and what we feel we can have in a relationship!
So, what are some of those fears for which the checklist provides protection?
Well, if I’m afraid of having to struggle financially or having to financially support a man who is not capable of taking care of me, then I’ll make sure he makes a lot of money – or at least more than I do.
If I’m afraid that I’ll end up married to someone who isn’t capable of making good choices, then I’ll make sure I marry someone who at least got his Bachelor’s degree, because then I’ll know he’s “smart.”
If I’m afraid that there’s something about me that’s not good enough or lovable enough, then I’ll make sure he’s at least close to being “Greek God” material, because, if a guy that good looking is even interested in me, then I must be lovable, right?
If I’m afraid that we won’t have anything to talk about, then I’ll make sure that we have the same political, religious, and moral views, because then at least we’ll agree on most things.
Now, I’m not saying to drop your standards, deny your values, or to go date someone who reminds you of Quasimodo. So, if that’s what you’re hearing, you can relax (smile)! All I’m saying is to consider that, perhaps, those “qualities,” “characteristics,” or “standards” may be covers for something else: A way of keeping you “safe.” Safe from heartbreak, disappointment, boredom, or anything else you are afraid may happen if a guy doesn’t meet a specific criteria or item on your checklist.
So, if you throw away the checklist, then how will you know you’re with the man who’s right for you? I’ll address that in my next post. For now, however, I invite you to do an exercise. Look down your list (my experience tells me it’s probably written somewhere and may even be posted somewhere online) and next to each item, see if you can identify what the fear behind that item is.
Expect some resistance. Expect the little voice in your head to go nuts justifying and rationalizing why that’s an important thing to keep on the list. Expect that little voice to call me a few names, too. It’s okay. That little voice is just afraid. She doesn’t like being vulnerable. Just quiet her down long enough to at least consider that there may be something to what I’m saying. I’m here for you if you need some help quieting her down. (smile)
Feel free to post your questions, comments, or ideas for future posts below. We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | Sep 28, 2012 | Dating, HDI Blog, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance
One of the best parts of working with women as a relationship coach is being able to celebrate with them when they experience a breakthrough. By definition, a breakthrough is when you move beyond where you usually stop yourself – because of your reasons, excuses, doubts or fears – and take an action that is a victory over the past.
While a lot of the women who work with Heart’s Desire are looking to learn the skills and habits that will help them take their lives and relationships to the next level, many of them come to us in moments of “crisis.” This usually means that they have just suffered a breakup, separation, or divorce and are looking for support in getting through it, or they are on the brink of a divorce and are looking for that “last thing” they can do to help turn their relationship around.
Are you one of those women? Are you tired of the tears, the frustration, and the loneliness? Are you willing to be courageous and take a journey within? Do you know someone who could use support? If so, read on and share this message with them!
It’s not “easy” reaching out for help, especially when it comes to relationships. It takes something to be willing to turn the mirror around, look at it and ask yourself, “What else can I do – even if he says he is not willing to try anymore ?” No, this is far from being easy. And, yet, the women we work with – these courageous, powerful, strong women – are willing to be vulnerable; to accept where they’ve been responsible in having the relationship get to the point where it is; and to take new, bold, and courageous actions that lead to incredible breakthroughs! It’s inspiring, and I never take for granted the trust that my clients put in me when they open up their hearts to the possibility of transforming themselves and their relationships.
So, what can you do if you are experiencing trouble in your relationship?
1. Stop wishing and hoping for change. I can’t tell you how many times I receive calls and emails from women who share with me that they have been experiencing problems in their marriage for years – some of them since before they got married. Research shows that most people wait six years before they seek out help for their relationship, even when all the signs have been pointing to the fact that there is “trouble.” There is this popular misconception that problems in relationships are “just a phase” and that “this, too, shall pass.” While I agree that everything – even problems – is temporary, just sitting around, hoping and waiting that something will “magically” change, without putting in some intentional work is not only unrealistic, but it’s instrumental in the gradual decay of an intimate relationship. Acknowledge that where your relationship is is not where you want it to be. It’s okay. Things can and will get better once you begin to work on it!
2. Take a Look in the Mirror. Yes, it’s true that “It takes two to tango” and that a relationship is made up of twopeople. It’s also true that you can’t control what he says, does, or believes, and that trying to do that will only lead to more distance, resentment, and friction in the relationship. The only thing in this entire world that you can control 100% is YOU – your thoughts, words, actions, and reactions. So, rather than looking for all of the things that he could be doing differently or that he has done in the past to get the relationship to where it is now, be willing to look within to see where you can own the part that you’ve played and where you are willing to make changes.
3. Reach out for support. As I mentioned, before, it can be scary to admit that things are not well in the relationship and to be vulnerable enough to share that with someone. Now, you want to be really selective of who you tell. The last thing you need is for people who do not believe in or who are not standing for the restoration of your relationship to be giving you “advice.” Many times, people, although well-intentioned, will give you advice based on their own experiences and fears, rather than on proven-to-work skills and habits that lead to healing and transformation. Seek out happily married women whose relationships you admire and ask them for support as you begin the journey to restoring your marriage or relationship. Seek out a relationship coach who, rather than giving you “therapy” or “counseling,” will equip you with practical skills you can begin implementing right away so that you can begin to experience immediate results.
4. Be willing to breakthrough! Many times, the coaching and advice you receive is going to sound “foreign” or “unnatural.” Why? Because it will take you to the brink of your comfort zone and require you to consider things you haven’t considered, take actions you haven’t taken, and adopt new thoughts and beliefs. Your natural “survival instinct” will most likely kick in, telling you you’re being “too vulnerable,” taking too much of a risk, and that “it’s not working.” It didn’t take a day to get to where your relationship is now, so it will likely take longer than a day to turn things around. And, if you want to experience different results, you’re going to need to take different actions, right? So, be willing to feel afraid, uncertain, and vulnerable. And do it anyway. That’s what your coach is there for: to encourage, support and help you through those times of uncertainty. Remember, it’s in that space right beyond our comfort zone that miracles happen! So, go ahead! Create and step into your own miracle!
Being willing to take on the transformation of your relationship can seem daunting, and it may seem like too much work and too much risk without an iron-clad guarantee that you’ll see results. However, I can guarantee one thing for sure: If you are willing and courageous enough to take the journey within, to focus on transforming your own behaviors and attitudes, and to do the work, you will also reap the rewards: The confidence that comes with knowing that you are becoming the BEST version of yourself; the peace that comes with knowing that you are only trying to control that which is within your power; and the joy of seeing your relationship transform before your very eyes! And, that, my friends, is worth doing whatever it takes!
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by heartsdesireintl | Sep 25, 2012 | Dating, HDI Blog, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance
This past weekend I had the opportunity to attend the Hispana Leadership Summit in Miami, FL. I was invited to attend by one of my client-friends, and, after overcoming several hurdles regarding childcare, transportation home from school for my children, and hunting for a white outfit after Labor Day, I was finally able to send in my RSVP that I would attend!
I left on Friday morning with the intention of learning how to hone my leadership skills, gathering information useful to growing my business, and having the opportunity to network with other successful and professional Latina women. And, while I was able to do all of that, I was also pleasantly surprised by the unexpected benefits of having attended the summit and how they relate to having a loving, intimate relationship!
I have to admit, I love attending events and meetings that are focused on empowering women. I’ve found, however, that many of the meetings and conferences aimed at women professionals are solely focused on the sales/marketing, how-to-get-ahead aspects of running your own business or growing in your career. Now, of course, there’s nothing wrong with that. We all want to excel in our careers, and we all want to make a good living that allows us to have the lifestyle we desire and deserve. But, often, the information shared in these types of meetings tend to address our more “masculine” side, and does not always allow for recognizing or celebrating the aspects about us women that make us different from our male counterparts: namely, our feminine nature.
Having the opportunity to learn leadership skills and practices that will help me grow my business was the reason I attended. And the content presented by outstanding speakers and panelists was top-notch! However, I was pleasantly surprised by the fact that almost every single one of the women who was on stage at some point mentioned her husband or boyfriend, her children and family, and the importance of the roles that we women play in those areas of our lives. Women shared how the support of the men in their lives served to encourage and empower them to take the steps they needed to move ahead. One woman shared how she had to “fire” her husband from her organization, because she didn’t want him to be her “employee.” What she wanted more than anything was to have him be her husband, and to be able to come home and just be herself with him. Another woman shared how her husband’s leadership skills were completely opposite, and, yet, complimentary to hers, making them the perfect team! Several women shared the delicate balance many of us have to find in order to be there for our children and not feel guilty when it comes to doing what we love in our careers. And, more than anything, these women – powerhouses in their own right – were vulnerable and “real,” sharing their journeys – the ups and downs, the choices and mistakes, and the unexpected rewards and heartaches.
One of my favorite parts of the summit was the party on Friday night. Picture this: About a hundred successful women, beautifully made up, all dressed in white, dancing to salsa, merengue, bachata, and pop music. We made conga lines, did soul trains, and made circles so that we could each strut our stuff on the dance floor. We laughed, celebrated, and danced the night away. There was a feeling of sisterhood, connection, and love in the room, and, to me, that was probably the most surprising part of it all: That feeling of connectedness and affinity for women – some who I had met previously, and others who were complete strangers. I can attribute it to nothing more than the feminine power that was present throughout the weekend.
So, what does this have to do with having a healthy, happy, loving relationship?
For one thing, it’s important that we recognize, honor, and celebrate our feminine nature – those aspects of ourselves that are unique to being a woman: the vulnerability, strength, and ability to connect heart-to-heart with another woman, simply because it is the nature of who we are! Another important factor is the feeling of sisterhood that comes when we surround ourselves with other women who encourage, support, and help us strive to become the best version of ourselves. Being around other women helps strengthen our feminine nature. This is why maintaining strong friendships with other women – particularly those who are pulling for you to have a happy, loving relationship – is so vital! And, of course, we can not underestimate the importance of practicing self-care, having fun and doing things that are pleasurable and help us feel happy, peaceful and free to be who we are! Participating in activities that bring us pleasure raises levels of oxytocin and endorphins in our bodies, elevating feelings of peace, joy, and connection – all essential elements for creating a great relationship!
Several times during the weekend, and, especially, during the testimonials shared at the end of the conference, there were moments where tears were shed as people shared themselves openly and authentically. And, you know what? No one thought there was anything “wrong” or strange about it, because, being vulnerable is okay when you’re around other women. They said at the end of the conference that word describing this conference was “reassured,” meaning that all of us left feeling reassured that we were on “the right path.” I left reassured of something else, as well. Not only did I leave feeling inspired and invigorated, ready to make a difference, and proud to be a woman and a Latina, but I left reassured in knowing that we women really CAN have it ALL! We don’t have to sacrifice our careers to experience true love. Nor do we have to sacrifice love in order to achieve our dreams, do what we feel we are called to do, and make the difference we were created to make!
I am grateful to my friend for inviting me to attend the conference, to all of the women with whom I had the opportunity to speak, laugh, and share, and to everyone who made it possible for me to attend – a fellow school mom who drove my kids home, my mother who stayed over two nights so that I could leave early and come back late, and my amazing and supportive husband, who, after I went on and on for about an hour about everything that I experienced and learned at the conference, smiled, hugged me, and said, “I’m so glad you were able to go, Babe! You’re baaaack!” And, I do feel like myself again – my amazing, successful, loving, feminine Self!
Do you have comments or questions regarding this topic? Please feel free to share with us! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | Sep 21, 2012 | Dating, HDI Blog, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance
I find that, many times, a common theme emerges among the women I coach. They are in different parts of the world, in different stages of relationship – from being single, to dating, to being a newlywed, to having been married for decades – and, yet, it often happens that wherever they are, they are experiencing similar situations. One of this week’s common themes has been that of dealing with disappointment.
We’ve all experienced, it (or some version of it), right?
He said he’d call, and he didn’t.
He said he was going to do something, and he didn’t.
You told him you’d love to go dancing, and you find yourself sitting in front of the TV… again.
He forgot your birthday or anniversary.
It happens. No matter how wonderful or how perfect for a person is for you, he is bound to do something that will leave you feeling disappointed. Why? Because, like you, he’s not perfect, and it’s likely that, every once in a while (at least), he’ll do something that you wish he hadn’t.
So, how can we deal with these disappointments in a way that doesn’t negatively impact the intimacy in the relationship and leaves us feeling empowered?
- Avoid making what he did mean something about the way he feels about you. If he’s a good guy and he usually demonstrates that love and makes you feel cherished, don’t make the fact that he didn’t call or text you during the day mean that “the passion is gone,” he doesn’t love you anymore, or he’s just being a jerk. Maybe he did forget or he felt he was too busy to call. The fact is that, if every other piece of evidence in your relationship points to the fact that he loves you, you might just want to choose to let it go (and, yes, it is a choice!).
- Avoid “reprimanding” him or telling him what he “should” do. Here’s a fact: Men do not want to marry or make love to their mothers. Whenever we take a condescending stance and try to “teach” or tell our husbands and boyfriends what to do, we become “motherly,” and, to a man, that simply isn’t attractive. Rather than scolding or telling him what to do, focus on sharing how you feel. The way to do this is to just focus on how you are feeling, not on what he did.
For example, instead of saying, “Next time, maybe you should call me before you decide to go to happy hour with your friends,” you would say something like, “I was worried because it was getting late,” or “I was really looking forward to seeing you.”
Instead of saying, “I was upset because you didn’t call me,” you would say, “I was sad that I didn’t get to hear your voice.” In each of the second statements, you’re focused on what you are feeling, not on what he did or didn’t do.
- Remember that you get to choose how to respond. I’m the first to admit that I’m not always at my most gracious when I’m disappointed about something. I’m human and my first instinct is usually to “personalize” what happened and make it all about me. However, I also have learned that I’m not a victim of my circumstances or of my husband’s choices or behaviors. I no longer (it wasn’t always this way) excuse my outbursts or fits of anger on the “severity” of the transgression. I really do try to think about how it is that I’m going to respond. Am I going to “punish” him by being bitter and cold and shutting down, or am I going to be gracious and forgiving? Am I going to “righteous” and point out how “wrong” he was, or am I going to be compassionate and remember that I make mistakes all the time, too? I get to choose. And that is so much more empowering than being at the effect of everything that happens in my relationship.
The bottom line is that, if we’re going to date or be in a relationship or marriage with someone, the majority of us want that to be a peaceful, blissful experience. And, even when we attract into our lives the man who is perfect for us, he’ll come with some imperfections – we all do. So, if he forgets something, says something we wish he hadn’t, or does something that we think is “wrong,” we can make a big deal about it, have that mean he doesn’t really love us (in spite of all of the insurmountable evidence that he does), and chastise and belittle him, all the while justifying our behavior and calling it “expressing my feelings”… OR we can choose to be gracious, allow him the space to be human, and respond in a way that leaves us feeling empowered and with our dignity intact!
As I said earlier… Intimacy, happiness, and peace are always a choice! And you get to choose!
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by heartsdesireintl | Sep 18, 2012 | Dating, HDI Blog, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
This past Saturday marked the fourteenth anniversary of my late husband’s passing. It’s always a bitter-sweet day for me. I am saddened that he’s no longer here, that he went through a lot of pain and suffering toward the end of his life, and that our life together ended so soon after it began. I’m also grateful for the time we shared together, for everything I learned about love and life, and for having been blessed to have been loved by him.
I remember when he first passed away how lost I felt. I wondered if I would even be able to breathe without him in this world. How would I go on? With literally one single breath, all of my hopes, dreams, and plans for the future were gone. I wondered if I would ever smile or laugh again. And I was sure I would never love or be loved that way again. After all, he was my “The One.” And a love like that comes only once in a lifetime… Right?
Thankfully, I was wrong!
There are many people who believe that there is only One person in the world that is “right” for each other person in the world. We read about it in fairy tales and even books written by relationship experts. We see it on TV and in the movies. We are told that there is only one “The One.”
So, what happens when that person dies? Or what if the timing was wrong? Or what happens if you didn’t recognize him when he was in your life? Are you doomed to a life of loneliness or “settling” for something less than what could have been?
Thankfully, NO!
The truth is that we live in a world of abundance – and that applies to love, too! Yes, it’s true that once you find the person who is right for you, he will be your “One.” You will know without a shadow of a doubt that he is the person with whom you wish to share your life. But, want know a secret? It’s not because he was “chosen” for you. It’s not even because it was “meant to be.” When you attract that person who is absolutely right for you, you will get to choose to love him. Why? Because being in-love is a choice. It’s a day-to-day, moment-by-moment choice to give and receive love.
As I said earlier, there was a time in my life when I honestly believed I would never love again. And I can’t tell you how incredibly grateful I am that I was wrong! How absolutely thrilled I am that my current husband and I met. It was one of the loveliest, sweetest, and most unexpected surprises of my life! I have been able to experience the capacity to love and be loved beyond my wildest dreams! I know that finding love again IS possible. And it’s possible for you, too!
So, if you’re holding on to the thought of “the one who got away,” or, if, like me, you’ve lost someone you truly and deeply loved, whether by death or other circumstances, don’t sentence yourself to a lifetime of loneliness or anything other than the extraordinary, amazing, take-your-breath-away love you deserve and your heart desires! Embrace the great memories, let go of the sad ones, and open your heart to love once again! Believe and allow your next true love – your next “The One” – to find, love, and be loved by you!
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