by Gladys Diaz

Last week, I had the privilege of attending the seventh Women’s Success Summit in Miami, FL.  Heart’s Desire has been a Partner since the first Summit for several reasons.  One is because its founder, Michelle Villalobos, is not only a trusted mentor and friend, but she’s one of our happiest clients, having met her wonderful boyfriend after attending our workshops!  Aside from our love and admiration of Michelle, the networking opportunities, connections we’ve made (both personally and professionally), and the incredible content we’ve received over the years has helped us to grow our business both locally and abroad.

I’m a people person, so the opportunity to see and spend time with my friends, colleagues, and some of my clients is something I always look forward to.  I have to say, however, that there’s something special about being introduced to someone by having the person say something like,“This is my dating coaching. She’s the one who’s teaching me how to love dating again,” or “This is Gladys, the one who helped me attract my amazing boyfriend into my life.”  Perhaps my favorite moment was when a woman came up to me and said, “You probably don’t remember me, but I took your workshop last year, and I just wanted to thank you, because, thanks to giving up the checklist, I met a wonderful man and we’re getting married!” The next day, I had the pleasure of meeting her fiancé who is moving across the country to marry and spend his life with her!  How does it get any better than that?

I had a great conversation with group of ladies about how something magical happens when women come together for a common purpose. Everyone who attends the Women’s Success Summit is there for a different reason, but we do all share something in common: We have a dream and that dream includes having a great business or career where we can do what we love and make a real difference in the world at the same time!  And that’s why we choose to attend an event where we know we’re going to be inspired, informed, and connected with other women who are on a similar path.  During the event, and as we create new business opportunities and refer one another to potential partners and clients, we also support, encourage, and celebrate one another’s successes!

So, what does all of this have to do with you, your dating life and romantic relationships? 

It all goes back to a saying I used to hear a lot when growing up:

“Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are.”

The people with whom you associate, to whom you listen, and who you emulate have a direct impact on you and the results you create in your relationships.  Surrounding yourself with other women who are as committed as you are to creating loving and fulfilling relationships is crucial to helping you create new beliefs and habits that will lead to you having the type of relationship you want to experience.

When I began practicing the principles I now teach, I would meet with a small group of women who were all practicing the same principles in their lives and relationships. We’d meet in person and on the phone and listen to one another vent, remind each other what it was we were committed to creating and having  in our lives, and celebrate our victories and breakthroughs.  Now, years later, we are still there for one another, sharing in our lives and encouraging each other to have the loving, passionate relationships we have always dreamed of.

Think about the women with whom you are surrounding yourself. Are they committed to creating healthy, loving, lasting relationships or are do you all participate in male-bashing and discussing how there aren’t any good men out there?  Do they encourage you to step beyond your comfort zone and practice new habits in order to experience new results, or do they criticize your attempts to have a new experience in dating and in your relationships?  Do you feel uplifted and inspired after speaking with them, or do you feel like you’ve just spent time with an energy and hope vampire?  Is there a woman in your life who is happily married to whom you can turn for advice and encouragement?  And are you working with a coach or mentor who is not only giving you “good advice,” but whose life and relationship reflects the results of the practices he or she is teaching?

If it’s true that you are a reflection of the five people with whom you spend the most time, can you say that you are surrounding yourself with people who are up to creating and living in the types of relationships that you admire and wish to have.  If not, it’s okay.  You don’t have to get rid of all of your friends, but think about bringing some new people into your life who will set you on the path of actually experiencing the life and love your heart desires!

And, of course, it goes without saying, you can always reach out to me!

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