by Gladys Diaz

This week, my husband and I created a really intimate moment, and I just wanted to share it with all of you.

I have been wanting to make an investment in growing my business to a whole new level for over a year.  There is a particular coach who, from the first free video I saw of her, reached me in a way others have not.  I’ve followed her, read every blog post she posts, watched her videos and live stream events, and have even won a couple of free consultations with her.  Earlier this year, I joined her Inner Circle Coaching group, and, aside from learning so much about what I can do to grow my business, I’ve made some pretty amazing new friends who inspire and encourage me.  And, in spite of all of this, I was afraid to make the investment in my business, because it felt like “too much.”

I finally made the choice to hire her as my coach, with her unshakable encouragement and stand for me.  And I had no idea how I was going to manage the payments.  But I wanted to do what I tell my clients to do: Recognize your fear as a fear, and step outside of it, because that’s where miracles happen!

When my husband walked into my office I shared with him what I wanted to do and how I wanted to work with this coach.  I shared my vision of how I want to empower women around the world to have a loving, peaceful, passionate lifelong marriage, because that’s what they deserve!  I shared with him how afraid I was, and how tired I am of choosing to be “stuck.” And I shared with him how afraid I felt and how my commitment to the women I work with is bigger than my fear.

I wish I could tell you that I was “strong” and “business-like” during this conversation.  I wasn’t.  I was vulnerable.  As much as I love my husband, it still felt a little scary to be that open, that “raw” with him about just how much I want to make a difference in the world.  I just kept moving past my fear, telling myself “You don’t have to be afraid.  You’re safe with him.  He ‘gets’ you.  He loves and believes in you.” So I poured out my heart to the man who holds it in his hands, anyway, and just let all of my tears, fears, passions, and dreams flow freely.

I didn’t share this with him to get a response.  I just wanted to share my heart with him.  What I got in return was so much more than I could have anticipated!

Him: Are you really, 100% committed to doing this?

Me: Yes.                                                                                                                  

Him: Are you willing to do whatever it takes?  No matter how hard, how much time it takes, or whether you “feel like it” or not?

Me: Yes.

Him: I get your commitment, and since you say that you are 100% committed to doing this, I will give you the first month’s payment as your Christmas present.  That’s how much I believe in you!

… Wow! I really got how much he believes in me and what I do.  How much he wants to help me help women have the relationships they deserve and desire!

And, this wasn’t even “the best part,” because what happened next is the part that really filled me with so much love and admiration for this man who I am blessed enough to be loved by!

All of a sudden, my husband just started sharing with me about his commitments.  See, my husband is really committed to his health and well-being.  He arranges his life, his food choices, and his schedule around working out, eating right, and cutting out the things that aren’t good for him (sugar, alcohol, caffeine).  Three years ago, you wouldn’t have been able to get him off the couch!  And now he makes sure he’s working out 60- 90 minutes a day – even when he doesn’t “feel like it.”  Even when he’s tired.  Even if it means changing his schedule around.  (It’s amazing what happens when you stop nagging your husband, accept him as he is, and just let him be who he is!)  So, when he was asking me those questions about my commitment, I didn’t get “triggered” or upset, thinking that he was “questioning” my commitment.  He leads by example.  It’s why I admire and respect him – Well, it’s one of the reasons I admire and respect him!

As my husband shared why working out and eating right are so important to him, I made it a point to really listen.  I looked in his eyes and beyond his eyes, into his heart.  I heard the conviction in his voice, and was surprised by how passionately he feels about this.  See, I knew it was important to him, but now I got to hear why… I just sat there, and, as he spoke, I really heard and saw him – this incredibly amazing man – and I fell in-love with him all over again!

In that conversation around our goals and dreams, we created a beautiful, intimate moment I’ll never forget.  Not “intimate” in the sense that most people think, where you’re physically intimate (we have that, too, just not during this conversation!).  it was intimate in the sense that I allowed him to look into my heart and soul, see how scared I am, how much I want this, and how I’m taking a huge leap of faith in making this investment. And allowing myself to be vulnerable in this way created a space where he was able to share something that is important to him and why it matters to him.  And, because of this, we can now continue to encourage, support, and lift one another up in achieving one another’s goals and dreams!

That’s what intimacy is all about – a deep emotional and spiritual connection that the two of you create together.  A tender conversation.  A moment that is all yours.  A memory that will get you through the tough times.  A moment in time that reminds you that, in this big and sometimes scary world, you’re not alone anymore!

And that’s what I want for you, too!

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