by Gladys Diaz

Are You Willing to Risk it All to Have it ALL?

I had the most amazing breakthrough on the way to the Women’s Success Summit on Tuesday morning.  I was rehearsing in my head what I was going to say to the ladies who attended the Mini-Mastermind I was conducting that is based on our upcoming Webinar Seminar for professional women and entrepreneurs:  Having it ALL: Being “The Invincible Woman at Work and “The Irresistible Woman in Your Love Life!

I was thinking about some of the reasons why many beautiful, successful, passionate women either do not enjoy dating, have not attracted the man with whom they want to share their lives, or, if they are in relationships, feel like there is something “missing.”

Why is it that these amazing women feel more fulfilled in their careers than they do in their romantic relationships? 

We go over a lot of reasons for this in the seminar, but one of the main reasons is the need to take a risk.  Yes, we take risks in business: We risk our time and money.  But the risk is different when it comes to relationships.  In love, we have to be willing to take emotional risks. And, for some of us, risking a broken heart is scarier than making an investment of thousands of dollars in our businesses!  It’s why many of us throw ourselves into our careers, say we don’t have time to date or be in a relationship, and feel that men are “intimidated” by our success.

This fear of taking an emotional risk is really about the fear of being vulnerable.  And it’s why we spend a lot of time in the seminar focusing on distinguishing the fears and doubts that are stopping us from attracting the man who’s right for us and on identifying the skills that serve us really well in business, but can kill the intimacy in our relationships!

As I was thinking of the risks I’ve taken in my life, to give as examples, for some reason, getting laid off from my job last year popped into my head.  I was confused!  For over a year, I’ve been working on getting “complete” with having lost my job.  I forgave, got to a place of gratitude, and am so happy to be doing what I feel I was born to do –empowering women to have the relationships of their dreams – full-time, instead of “on-the-side,” like I used to!  And yet… there were still times when I’d feel sad or upset about it. So I kept asking myself: What did getting laid off (something I didn’t want) have anything to do with taking a risk? 

And that’s when I felt like my world shifted and I saw what I hadn’t been able to see before!

What I finally saw was that, when HR called to let me know they were eliminating my position, they didn’t call to let me go!  They actually offered me another position so that I would stay… making the same incredible salary… and they offered it to me three times over the course of a month!

And each time, I said, “No!”  

Why?  Because the position  would require 80% travel… 80% of the time away from my husband and family… 80% of the time away from working with women, writing, speaking, and doing the things that I am passionate and excited about doing. 80% of the time hating what I was doing because I did not want to travel and be away from the people and the things that I love!

I said, “No!”  

I took a HUGE risk! I risked a very comfortable salary and lifestyle because something was more important to me: My marriage, my family, and my freedom.  I chose to risk the comfort of a job and the sense of security for the uncertainty of owning my own business.  And, emotionally, I took a huge risk when I chose to trust that my husband was capable enough to handle stepping into the role of primary bread-winner, and  to allow myself to be taken care of – something I’d been doing for myself since I was 17!

I chose to risk it all so that I could have it ALL!

When I got that – When I got that I chose to say “No!” – All of the discomfort, upset, and “victimization” I’d been carrying around over having been “let go” completely disappeared! I started laughing and crying at the same time (not the safest thing to do while driving, but I was overcome with joy!) In fact, I was so moved, I had to call my mentor, Luly B. (who empowers mom entrepreneurs to get over our guilt and our fears and step into our lives) and tell her that I finally got that I had taken a risk and chosen ME so that I could have it all in life, family and business!

The same is true when it comes to relationships.  When we are willing to step outside of our comfort zones… When we put aside our limiting beliefs about ourselves, men, and relationships… And when we feel the fear and uncertainty of taking an emotional risk, and we do it anyway…  We get to choose our lives and what our hearts truly desire!  We get to experience the love, peace, joy, and wonder of loving and knowing that we are loved every day for the rest of our lives!

And that, ladies, is worth all the risk!

So my question is… Are you ready to take a risk in order to have it ALL in life and love?  Leave your comments and questions below!  We love hearing from you!

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