by Gladys Diaz
Are you a driven, ambitious, successful woman?
Do you spend your daytime hours of your career in your masculine (“doing”) energy?
Do you find it difficult to relax into your feminine energy before a date, or when you’re with your partner?
If you answered yes, it’s perfectly natural. Being in our masculine/doing energy is called for when we’re at work and getting things done.
That said, when the work day is over, you get to take a moment and shift into your feminine energy.
If you’re getting feedback that…
- You seem like you don’t need anyone else
- You act like you don’t want a man in your life or that you’re fine alone
- You’re intimidating
- Nothing is ever good enough for you
- You’re aggressive of “too direct”
…then it’s time to look at how you can shift and relax into your feminine energy!
Now, to be clear, as we said above, masculine energy isn’t “bad.”
The energy of doing, driving, managing, advising, etc. is what’s made you successful in your career and in other areas of your life!
The problem is that it simply doesn’t work when it comes to dating and romantic relationships.
Feminine Energy is NOT about being weak, not having a voice, acting like a doormat, or not having an opinion.
Being in your innate, feminine and Irresistible Essence is powerful! It’s what has you show up as vulnerable, authentic, light and joyful.
It IS the energy of BEing receptive.
It’s allowing your partner to be there with you and do things for you.
It’s allowing others to see you and deeply connect with you.
So what are the ways of BEing you can cultivate inside yourself so that your true feminine self shines through?
These ways of BEing are what we call your Irresistible Essences — your innate power of femininity that creates the magical spark that naturally draws masculine men to you.
We use the word MAGICAL to help you remember what they are:
M – Mesmerizing
A – Authentic
G – Gracious
I – Inspiring
C – Confident
A – Alluring
L – Love-able
Let’s dive in a bit deeper, shall we?
BEing Mesmerizing looks like captivating a man’s attention and drawing him into you through your Way of BEing. It’s like casting a spell that has men notice and be drawn to you.
BEing Authentic means being YOURSELF. It’s knowing that you’re more than enough and showing up that way. Remember: He can’t fall (or stay) in love with you if YOU are not even there!
BEing Gracious is allowing yourself to receive and giving him the gift of being able to give to you. Some women really struggle with this one, because they’re so used to doing for themselves. It’s important to point out that receiving is NOT about being entitled or not being able to take care of yourself.
For example, on a date, allowing the man to pay is not about “expecting” him to do something or feeling like you’re entitled to the dinner. It’s about graciously accepting that he’s invited you out and receiving that with grace and gratitude.
So, allow him to pay. Accept his compliments. And offer gratitude in return. Let him know how much you appreciated the dinner, his company, and the date. It’s highly attractive, and knowing he was able to make you smile will inspire him to want to do even more!
BEing Inspiring means being a breath of happiness, love and fun. No one wants to swim in a pool of upset. So instead of making him feel obligated to be with you or required to do anything, inspire him to show up for you by the way you are when you’re around him.
BEing Confident looks like doing your own thing and creating your own happiness. It’s knowing that you’re enough without feeling as if you have to “prove” it. Remember this: Confidence is the #1 most attractive thing to a man.
BEing Alluring is also a Way of BEing. It means being radiant, authentic, drawing people to you simply by being the amazing woman you are.
BEing Love-Able means knowing deep down, for real, that you are both able to love and be loved by another. It looks like knowing you don’t have to withhold love or be afraid to receive it.
So there you have it!
These 7 ways of BEing, the Irresistible Essences, are what will support you in relaxing into your feminine energy and attracting a man that wants to get to know you, and wants to stay with you!
If you’d like support with showing up more fully as your true, authentic, feminine self, book a call with our coaches now.
If it’s become second nature to be in your masculine energy, it’s okay! You can learn how to easily shift and feel more fully connected to you. We can show you how!