by Gladys Diaz
Do you over-give in relationships?
Do you have a pattern of cooking dinner for men, offering to pay for things, giving gifts, or constantly planning dates?
If you answered yes, do your thoughts sound like these?
“If I do enough, I’ll be good enough”
“If I give enough, he’ll want me.”
“If I prove how good I am, someone will see that and stay.”
Overgiving is a pattern that doesn’t work in dating. It doesn’t work because masculine men need to provide and give in order to feel on purpose in the relationship.
It also doesn’t work because it will always lead you to feeling resentful and dissatisfied.
I used to do this in dating relationships.
I would give and give – and give some more – and then all the sudden I’d start feeling resentful. I’d think, “He’s just using me!” — even though he’d never asked me to do any of it!
I had all of the thoughts listed above, I was doing all of the things above and, you guessed it, it wasn’t working.
You see, underneath a pattern of over-giving is a self-worth conversation.
You’re either trying to hide what you’re afraid they’ll see in you – or – You’re trying to overcome something you believe already exists in you.
Either way, none of it is true!
The thing is – it’s not enough simply to know it’s not true.
It’s about what you’re going to do to breakthrough it!
Why do you feel you need to prove your value?
What’s driving the pattern of behavior?
What need is being fulfilled?
Is it a need to be liked and accepted? Is it a need to feel needed or valuable to someone?
The first step in breaking through a pattern of overgiving is to get connected to what belief is driving the behavior.
Once you’ve gotten clear on that – you get to start questioning it. You get to go to the very center of why that belief exists and do the Heartwork to create something entirely different inside you.
You get to transform the belief so that the behavior disappears.
And once you do that, you get to a point where those beliefs don’t even phase you anymore. When the thought pops up, you can immediately shift and move on!
How amazing would that be?!
Through doing this Heartwork you will replace these patterns and be out there in the dating world in your Irresistible Essence, authentic self and attracting the man that will love and appreciate you for all of it!
Are you ready to shift these patterns? Are you ready to transform them once and for all?
If you answered yes, the Extraordinary Love Intensive, is what you need and it’s just around the corner! It’s happening next weekend and you don’t want to miss it!
This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the patterns that are causing you to repel men and relationships (and overgiving is a big one!) and have you transform so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams.
After the event there will be no more trying to prove your value or doing too much in a relationship.
After the event you will not only know how to step back and be in your feminine receiving energy, but you’ll feel comfortable and naturally do so!
Remember, there’s a hurt or pain that hasn’t been healed when you’re compensating with overgiving behavior. It’s time to heal so you can experience happiness, joy, abundance, love, partnership support and so much more inside an extraordinary relationship!