by Gladys Diaz
“I’m having a hard time sleeping at night.”
“Focusing during the day feels nearly impossible.”
“I feel unsettled.”
“I feel helpless and powerless.”
These are some of the things we’ve been hearing from women this week.
Have you been feeling at all similar?
With what feels like our whole world turned upside down over the last couple of weeks, we want you to know that we are right there with you. We’re living in the same world as you, experiencing the same situations and circumstances that the rest of the world and country are dealing with at this time.
You truly are not alone.
And, although we may not have much control over our situation or circumstance right now, the thing we do have control over is how we choose to deal with it.
There is no better time than right now to master your mindset!
What does that look like?
- Feel what you need to feel. Mastering your mindset doesn’t look like brushing things under the rug or pretending you don’t feel the way you feel. Acknowledge where you’re at and allow yourself to be there for a minute… Just don’t stay there.
- Shift. Ask yourself “What I do so that I can deal with this in an empowered way?”
For example, maybe you’re feeling like dating is out the window right now. Maybe you’re using COVID-19 as a distraction to stop you from moving forward. Or maybe you’re feeling depressed that you’re finally ready to date, and now you can’t leave your house.
Did you know that, while 25% of Americans are staying inside their homes right now, Bumble has seen a 23% increase in Seattle and New York (two of the cities that have been hit the hardest and that are being ordered to stay inside). And those numbers aren’t just reflecting swiping. These are people engaged in conversations.
Men are saying that they have had such a hard time making the shift to online dating, because they were so afraid of not getting a response, and now it’s all there is, so they are being bolder! We are hearing the most fun stories from our clients who are getting creative with dating — having Facetime dates, grocery store dates, and picnics where they are keeping the 6-foot recommended distance — and moving forward with it anyways.
Life is still happening.
Even though we may be stuck inside and getting used to our new normal, life is still happening around us and we can choose to create the things we’ve always wanted now.
The world is coming together right now. This is the most worldwide impactful event since WWII.
Yes, there is uncertainty, and, where there is uncertainty, fear will be triggered.
The thing is…. Humans are resilient.
There’s a reason why we’re still on this earth and dinosaurs aren’t!
The human spirit has a natural instinct to adapt and keep moving forward, even under the hardest of circumstances. We feel a pull to keep growing and moving forward, no matter what.
So, what are some things you can do to shift?
For example, earlier this week, I was having a hard time focusing, so I went outside with my beach chair, a small table, my laptop, my Bible, and my books, and felt an immediate shift.
I’ve been taking daily walks that I time precisely so that I can see the sunset. It’s amazing how such simple things can make such a difference!
And, I’m immersing myself in books, videos, and audios that are focused on empowerment, prosperity, and faith!
Here are some ideas we’ve gotten from women we’ve been speaking with:
- Go for a walk and pick some wildflowers from your neighborhood.
- Take extra time to practice self-care – do your own nails, give yourself a facial, light some candles and relax.
- Read all the books you never made time to read before!
- Pray and meditate.
- Listen to positive podcasts.
- Cook your favorite foods.
- Purge clothes and organize your house.
- Dance to your favorite music.
- Create a cozy space in your home you can escape to when you need some space.
Many things may be cancelled, but life is not!
Another thing that’s not cancelled is having meaningful conversations and connecting with others in creative ways.
Neither are your dreams. You still get to have the life and love you’ve always wanted. Don’t let fear or social distancing try to cheat you out of believing that!
If you’d like to talk about how this time can be an opportunity for you, instead of a block, let’s hop on a call and have a conversation about what you can do for yourself and for your dreams right now, regardless of what’s going on around you!
Our prayers for peace are with you.
Lots of love,
Gladys & Michelle
The Love Twins