by Gladys Diaz

I remember when I used to play on the monkey bars as a little girl.  I’m afraid of heights, and the idea of hanging way up high terrified me, but not as much as knowing that, in order to move to the next bar, I had to completely open up one hand, let go of the bar, and move it to the next bar!  But I knew that if I didn’t, let go, I’d either be stuck in the same place, or my arms would eventually get too tired, and I’d end up falling off!

The same is true when it comes to relationships.  In order to move toward the type of life and love you want to experience, you may need to let go of all of the things that aren’t working until you get to the other side!

“Moving on” from a past relationship or from something that is not working in your life can be much easier said than done.  When you love a person and have opened your heart to him, the thought of letting go moving on can be so scary it’s paralyzing!  When you’ve been hurt in the past, it can be difficult to open your heart and let love back in, or to do what it takes to turn a relationship into the kind of loving union you dream of.  This is what has many women holding on to a man, relationship, or limiting beliefs and behaviors that are clearly not giving them the experience they want for much longer than they need to.  It’s also what keeps them stuck, alone, and lonely.

Having the type of love you want – the kind where you know that you know that he loves you, where it feels safe and secure, and where you get to experience love, peace, and joy – the kind of relationship that works means you need to be willing to let go of what doesn’t!

So, what are some of the things you may need to let go of in order to get to the other side — the side where all of your dreams about what life and love can be are waiting for you?

• Pain and resentment from the past: Holding on will keep you angry, bitter, upset, and either alone or lonely inside of a relationship.  When you bring forgiveness to yourself and others, you create a space for something new to show up in your life!

• Your checklist of criteria or expectations: Consider that if you’re experiencing that one guy after another (or the man who you’re with) just isn’t “enough,” you may be holding on to a list of insurmountable criteria and expectations that are set up to help protect and keep you from being vulnerable, which is also keeping you from connecting and experiencing intimacy.

•  The need to be right: Insisting on your way being the right way; being unwilling to accept, respect, or understand another’s ideas or point of view will keep you stuck in your own righteousness and does not allow for the possibility of intimacy.

•  A dead-end relationship: If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, just waiting (and waiting, and waiting) for him to commit or propose to you, you may want to consider that either you’re not clear about what you really want, or you’re holding him responsible for you having what it is you want for your life.  It may be time to let go of that relationship and make room for the man who is ready to share and spend his life with you.

If you’re feeling frustrated with the way things are showing up in your love life, perhaps it’s time to take inventory of your life and your relationships and be really honest with yourself. 

Is there something that clearly is not working for you that you’re holding on to? Are you ready to finally let go and reach forward—toward the life and love you desire and deserve?

If so…

Take a deep breath and know that you are strong enough, you are worthy enough, and you will survive this.  More than anything, know that the life and love your heart desires are already waiting for you!

And if you need support with letting go, know that we are only an email away!  We’ll be right there beside you, cheering, encouraging, and holding you up until you get to the other side: The relationship you’ve always dreamed of!

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