by Gladys Diaz
All intimacy is rare — that’s what makes it precious. And it involves the revelation of one’s self and the loving gaze upon another’s true self (no makeup, no fancy car, no defensive charm, no seduction) — that’s what makes it so damn hard. Intimacy requires honesty and kindness in almost equal measure (a little more kindness, I think), trust and trustworthiness, forgiveness and the capacity to be forgiven . . . It’s more than worth.
~ Amy Bloom
One of the reasons intimacy in a relationship is so precious is because it involves pure and unadulterated vulnerability to create it. Intimacy is more than just the physical, sexual part of a relationship. It’s that moment of connection – where you allow someone to see straight through to the core of who you are. It takes courage to be that transparent, that open to someone else. But, then again, love requires being willing to take an emotional risk. And the payoff – the connection, the feeling of “oneness” that is created in those moments where you know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that the other person sees the very essence of you and accepts, cherishes, and honors it… it’s makes every bit of the risk worthwhile!
When are the moments where you feel most intimately connected?
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I think true intimacy is hard to come by. I think that we put up so many unconscious barriers that we think we are being transparent, but only little, tiny pieces of us really come through.
You’re right. It is “hard to come by,” because it’s actually not something that “just happens.” Instead it is created by the two people by moving aside those barriers and allowing more than just a little bit to come through. 🙂
I think true intimacy is hard to come by. I think that we put up so many unconscious barriers that we think we are being transparent, but only little, tiny pieces of us really come through.
It is hard to come by because it is scary to let someone get that close. However, there is nothing like it .
Very true! The benefits certainly outweigh the risks! 🙂
It is hard to come by because it is scary to let someone get that close. However, there is nothing like it .
Very true! The benefits certainly outweigh the risks! 🙂
The more we become intimate with one another and I don’t mean that in a sexual sense but in a true oneness respect, the more we will be consciously aware of our own truth. Great post!
That’s so beautiful, Diane! I may need to quote you via FB and Twitter! 🙂
I would be honored! 🙂
The more we become intimate with one another and I don’t mean that in a sexual sense but in a true oneness respect, the more we will be consciously aware of our own truth. Great post!
That’s so beautiful, Diane! I may need to quote you via FB and Twitter! 🙂
I would be honored! 🙂
Great post. I agree intimacy is created.
Great post. I agree intimacy is created.
I like this topic. Sometimes we get so comfortable in our relationships that we forget to do the little things that create the intimacy we all seek so much.:)
So true, Charmaine. It’s easy to feel comfortable, because we feel so “at home” with the other person. Keeping the romance alive and creating moments of intimacy are the keys to a lifetime of those moments of connection!
I like this topic. Sometimes we get so comfortable in our relationships that we forget to do the little things that create the intimacy we all seek so much.:)
So true, Charmaine. It’s easy to feel comfortable, because we feel so “at home” with the other person. Keeping the romance alive and creating moments of intimacy are the keys to a lifetime of those moments of connection!
Being intimate with someone is sharing of yourself. It’s a gift. I think the fear is about the possibility of that ‘gift’ not being accepted. But in my experience, when we open up, others usually appreciate your trust in them and feel safe to open up too.
I think I have another Tweetable quote here! You are so right, Louise! Our willingness to be vulnerable and open up creates a “safe space” where others are free to share themselves, too. 🙂
Being intimate with someone is sharing of yourself. It’s a gift. I think the fear is about the possibility of that ‘gift’ not being accepted. But in my experience, when we open up, others usually appreciate your trust in them and feel safe to open up too.
Beautiful post Gladys, I agree intimacy is rare and precious, and when it happens it can take your breath away. I like the definition in to me see… no wonder it can feel scary but how wonderful when we have it with someone
It is breath-taking and fulfilling and scary, all at the same time! And soooo worth it! 🙂
Beautiful post Gladys, I agree intimacy is rare and precious, and when it happens it can take your breath away. I like the definition in to me see… no wonder it can feel scary but how wonderful when we have it with someone
It is breath-taking and fulfilling and scary, all at the same time! And soooo worth it! 🙂