by Gladys Diaz
Do you have a relationship from the past that you haven’t fully let go of?
Is there someone that is still holding a piece of your heart?
Maybe it wasn’t even a recent break-up, maybe it’s been two years, three years or even ten years ago, and it’s still blocking you from moving forward in love.
If this is you, we hear you! It can be so frustrating when you want to run freely forward without anything from the past holding you back, but just seem to be stuck.
If this is you, we know that you want to get unstuck (otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this right now), but you just don’t know how.
The first step in letting someone from the past go is understanding how holding onto that person and relationship is impacting you now, in the present. Whenever there’s something from the past that’s still in your space, it won’t allow you to move forward.
And how else is it impacting you?
To uncover the impact the past is still having on you, first look at your results.
What are you currently experiencing?
Are you going on dates or are you holding back?
If you are going on dates, are you enjoying the process?
Look at your last couple of dates. Are there patterns that are presenting themselves?
Is there something wrong with every single person you go out with?
Are you not attracted to anyone?
Do you feel disconnected, and, immediately during or after every date,feel like he’s definitely not the one?
No, you’re not going to be attracted to or want to date every single person you meet. It’s natural to not be interested in every single man you go on a date with. But, if it seems you aren’t feeling it for anyone then you may be holding onto someone from the past.
Recently a client expressed frustration with this very thing. She said that while she’s dating, she finds herself comparing every single guy to her ex. She said he was the best boyfriend and that it was the best relationship she’d ever had. I lovingly pointed out to her that it couldn’t have been “the best,” because they’re not together anymore, and that there was a reason for that. There’s a reason that it didn’t work out, and as long as she keeps romanticizing this past relationship and putting that man on a pedestal, she will never have space for the right man — the one who really will be the best!
If you find yourself having this experience, it’s time to get curious.
What’s really going on here?
Why am I not feeling connection?
Why am I never attracted to anyone?
What’s really holding me back?
You will start to discover your blind spots by saying, “I wonder…”
“I wonder if I’m still holding onto the past?”
“I wonder why I can’t let go?”
“I wonder what that person represents for me?”
“I wonder if I’m afraid to move on?”
When it comes to breakups, it would be weird if you didn’t miss someone that you once spent time with, and it’s normal to take time to grieve. However, sometimes we think that the longer we grieve or the more time we stay stuck, the more validation we give to the relationship. But, how much more time do you want to waste staying safe and alone?
It’s okay to love someone and let them go.
Letting someone go does not invalidate the love you shared with him, the memories you created together, who he is as a person, or the lessons the relationship taught you.
And, just because you shared an incredible love once, doesn’t mean you can never find it (or something even MORE incredible) again.
When I lost my first husband and then found Ric, I realized that there’s more than just one “The One.” There are multiple people on this planet that can make you happy and love you forever!
But only if you are open to it.
Only if you are willing to do the HeartWork to bring the past to a close, release it from your mind AND your heart, and open the door to welcome the new love that’s already waiting for you.
I promise you, there’s a love out there that’s even bigger and better than that person from the past. Someone even bigger and better than you can even imagine. And someone who wants to spend his life with you!
Because of this, Michelle and I would love for you to join us for our 2020 Love Vision Event, happening in just a few weeks!
At this event, we’ll be helping you to complete 2019 and step powerfully into 2020 with a crystal-clear vision for love that your heart deeply desires.
We’ll show you the exact steps and tools you’ll need to create and experience that love right now!
The process we’ll be taking you through is hands-on, experiential, and transformative.
We’re going to help you create your Love Vision, teach you HOW to actually live into it so you can create it in real life in 2020!
The absolute truth is that in order to open up to a new chapter, you have to complete the past. You take what worked and what didn’t work about that past relationship, release your attachment to the person, take whatever serves you into the future, and let go of everything else.
It’s time for you to let go of the past and open up to the love that is already waiting for you.