by Gladys Diaz
We’ve all been there.
After working on ourselves, trying hard to make changes, and not seeing the results we thought we’d have, we begin to wondering whether we should just stop trying so hard, throw in the towel, and give up on our dreams.
I’ve been there myself, and I know how painful and disillusioning it can be to think that what my heart desires just “wasn’t meant to be.”
When you have a big dream – the type of dream that moves and inspires you, that fills you up with joy at the very thought of it, and that you know in your heart it’s what you want more than anything else in the world – and it doesn’t seem to be happening, it can be heartbreaking.
In those heart-wrenching times, it’s easy to let your fears and doubts get in the way of your vision. It can feel like it’s easier to just let your dream go and walk away from it, rather than continue taking the steps that will lead you in the direction of making those dreams come true.
Maybe your dream is that you’ll meet the man who’s perfect for you, but you’re tired of dating men who aren’t interested in being in a relationship or with whom you just don’t feel a real connection. This scares you, and the little voice in your head keeps telling you that maybe you’re just not meant to be in a relationship.
Maybe your dream is about reigniting the love and passion you and your man once shared. But it’s been such a long time since you’ve felt that closeness, and you wonder whether the relationship was ever meant to be and if it’s even worth saving.
Maybe your dream is to go back to school, start a new career, or launch that business you’ve always wanted to have, but you’ve been too afraid to step away from what you’re already doing and from the salary you’re already making to branch off into something new. So you try to convince yourself that maybe you’re already doing what you were meant to do, even though in your heart of hearts, you know that simply isn’t true.
No matter what your dream is, if you’re thinking about giving it up, I’m here to tell you: DON’T!
There is a reason that dream was placed in your heart in the first place, and you owe it to yourself to do everything you can to make it come true!
There were times in the beginning of my marriage where I wondered whether I’d made a mistake and married the wrong man. I’d tell myself it would be easier to just be single again so that I could find someone else that I could make things work with. The truth is I was terrified to make the changes I knew could help our relationship because I was afraid he wouldn’t want to make it work, and then I’d feel rejected.
There have been times in my business where I’ve wondered if maybe it would just be easier to go get a job or do something else. While I knew in my heart that relationship coaching is what I was born to do, I was afraid to do the work it would take to reach out to new clients, that I’d something in a blog post or email that would upset someone, and that I might not be able to actually make a living doing what I love.
As scared as I was in both of these situations, the one thing I refused to do was give up. Why?
Because my faith in my dream was bigger than any fear that might show it’s ugly face!
A huge part of loving yourself is being true to yourself and honoring your heart’s desires. When you sell out on yourself and your dreams, you’ll never really experience the fulfillment you long for!
So, how do you push past the fear and keep believing in your dreams, even when things are not flowing, you’re not getting the results you want, or you have other people telling that maybe you should just give up?
You recommit.
You recommit to yourself and your dream.
You remind yourself that this is your dream, this is your life, and that it’s up to you to make that dream come true!
You find people in your life who believe in you and your dream and are willing to help you make it come true!
You remember that the dream in your heart was placed there by something greater than you and that this means that there IS a way to make it happen!
So, right now, take a moment and think about your dream.
Have you been taking the steps to push past your fear and make it happen?
Have you reached out to people who believe in you and who can help you in making that dream come true?
Have you made your faith in yourself and your dream bigger than your fears?
If you answered “No” to any of the above questions, I have another question for you:
Are you ready to recommit to your dream?
If you are, I first want to congratulation you and let you know that I’d love to be one of those people who will stand for and encourage you in helping it come true!
I also want to invite you to post it in the comments section of the blog and declare your re-commitment to your dream and one step you are going to take within the next 7 days to make it come true!
Something powerful happens when you are courageous enough to declare your dream publicly. It invites others to stand with and for you in helping them become a reality!
And, as always, I want to encourage you to let us know if there is any way we can help support you in taking the steps that lead you in the direction of your dreams!
Here’s to living a life of dreams come true!
Remember to post below your re-commitment and one step you’re going to take in the direction of your dreams!
How does one recommit to their dream if they’ve already re-done their online dating profile, updated their photos? One has to sit there and wait for the inbox to have a message. They’ve told their friends that they’re looking for someone, but none of her friends have someone they can pair her up with. She goes out to events within the community, dressed classy, and doesn’t seem to flock men her way. How does someone “recommit” when all the odds appear against you?
Hi, Kristin. Thanks for asking a great question! 🙂
I can hear that you’ve done some things, which is great. What I would recommend is looking to see if there is anything you haven’t done or have been unwilling to do. A lot of times, this stuff is in our “blind spot,” so we can’t always see or recognize it, and it helps to talk with someone who might be able to speak with someone who can help you discover what that is. It also takes being consistent in doing “the right things” and patient — with yourself and others. Recommit to yourself and your dream and know that each time you take a positive step, you are one step closer to seeing it come true!
Gladys, like always your posts are beautiful and uplifting! My dream and life passion has always been to teach women to find and pursue their own personal balance in body, mind, and spirit by eating right, by a healthy mindset, and an authentic Faith walk with their Creator; I am transitioning from a teaching career to talking the steps to follow that dream. And you and Michelle have given me back my dream of romantic love in my life. Thank you!! Love you guys, Giselle
Thank you so much for the kind words, Giselle! I love that you are focusing on following your dream! Can you let us know one step you will do in the next week or so that will take you in the direction of your dreams so that we can encourage and stand with you in having it fulfilled? 🙂
“Because my faith in my dream was bigger than any fear that might show it’s ugly face”
This is HUGE! I love and believe in this saying.
It is huge, and I know you believe it, Patricia, because you are living your dream! Congratulations!!!
Gladys
I was on the verge of giving up..especially after so many years of looking forward to marriage..then finally get married to have it end so quickly..not even 2years later…..—–thank you Gladys for re-igniting my hope and faith that I am truly deserving of a wonderful, loving marriage.
You absolutely are deserving of the happy, loving marriage your heart desires, Millie! I am excited for you as you begin this new journey and discovering the love that is already waiting for you!