It’s hard to believe that we’re already in February. If you’re like me, January went by in a blur. As I was meditating yesterday, I took a look at the goals and intentions I set for this year to hold myself accountable.
There are some goals I am right on-point with. I’ve stuck to my action plan and I feel very proud of myself for moving beyond my comfort zone and sticking to the promises I’ve made to myself.
There are a few, however, where I had to be real with myself.
How intentional have I been about taking an action step every day in the direction of meeting this goal?
Where did I allow my fears and doubts to get in the way?
Am I going to quit or recommit?
That last question is the most powerful one.
Why?
Because too often, the reason people do not hit their goals is because they quit – sometimes just centimeters from the finish line they can’t see because their fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs are so much bigger than the faith they have in themselves to actually have what they say they want.
Chances are that if you didn’t bother to set any goals or intentions for 2016, it’s because you have doubt.
You either doubt that you can have what you want, or you doubt that you can do what it takes to achieve it. More than likely, it’s a combination of both.
Self-doubt is what has you not put your heart out there.
You doubt your ability to be able to attract the kind of man you want.
You doubt that you can actually have the kind of relationship you want.
And, if you’re 100% honest with yourself, you doubt this because you either think that what you want is “unrealistic” or “too good to be true.”
That’s just another way of hiding the fact that you doubt that you’re worth having that kind of love.
If you’re in a relationship, you pretend that everything is okay, even though your heart is breaking and things haven’t been remotely close to okay in a long time.
You keep holding onto a broken relationship, not doing anything to change it or yourself for fear that any changes you try to make won’t work.
It’s easier to ignore what’s not working, to keep wishing things (especially him) will change on their own.
Again, this goes back to doubting your ability to have the kind of relationship your heart truly desires.
Staying stuck in the same rut is only going to give you the same results.
Things only change when you make a change.
That’s it. There’s no magic bullet, no secret formula.
If you want to have a different experience and different results in your love life, you need to trust that there IS a way for you to have the love and happiness you want.
Now, I get that you may not know how to do that.
If you did, chances are you probably would have made the changes already, right?
Well, that’s when you need to choose: Do I quit or recommit?
If you’re ready to recommit to yourself and your desire to have a happy, loving, intimate relationship where you get to feel loved and cherished, accepted and adored for the amazing woman you are, then it’s time to recommit to YOU!
And if you’re unsure of how to do that, which steps to take first, and you’d like some support, click the link below to schedule time to talk.
Doing nothing is going to give you the same results you have right now.
Choosing to recommit to yourself, your relationship goals and the love your heart desires is how you can make sure that 2016 is the year of making your relationship dreams come true!
By the way… If the little voice of doubt in your head is saying things like, “Why bother?” or “What’s the point?” I want to challenge you to move beyond the safety of listening to that voice — the one that’s kept you stuck right where you are — and click the link below! This is the first step in your love breakthrough!
I’ve been fighting off a bad cold this week, but I wanted to shoot a follow-up video to the one I sent you last week, because we got such great responses from it!
This week, we’re taking a look at how the thoughts that are stopping you from creating the amazing loving relationships you want are the same thoughts that are stopping you from moving forward in the other areas of your life, particularly your career!
Why is that? Watch the video and see!
The truth is that you have an amazing ability to create what it is you want in your life and, once you get to the work of transforming the doubts and limiting beliefs standing in your way, you CAN experience all of the love, happiness, and success your heart desires!
Watch the video and let me know what opens up for you!
When Jeanie first came to work with us, she was an incredibly successful woman in a high-powered, high-paying job that allowed her to live a life of luxury – traveling and vacationing wherever she wanted, dining in fine restaurants, living in her dream apartment.
She was “living the dream.”
Except for one thing. She didn’t have someone to share this wonderful amazing life with, and she wanted that, too!
Jeanie took the steps to figure out what was standing in the way of her attracting and experiencing the love her heart desired! She worked with us in our programs, received and applied the coaching, and believed that it could and would happen for her!
Fast forward to last month…
We received the great news that she was getting married to an amazing, wonderful man who, in her own words, makes her feel loved and adored in ways she’s never known before!
Then, a few weeks ago, we received a beautiful invitation to their engagement party, and just yesterday we learned that she and her fiancé are having a baby boy!
Talk about a year of dreams coming true!
When she spoke on our Success Panel last month, at The Irresistible Woman Seminar, Jeanie shared how it was the coaching that she received through working with us that had her attract such an amazing man into her life. She learned the keys to loving and honoring herself so that she could attract a man who lives for doing the same for her!
We know that this love and happiness is possible for you, too! That’s why we are excited to be able to connect with and answer your questions tomorrow night on our “Love Breakthrough” Live Q&A Call! On this call we’ll be sharing with you the same coaching we’ve given to women like Jeanie and the hundreds of other women around the world who are making their relationship dreams come true!
You don’t have that special someone with whom to share it.
As successful as you feel in other areas of your life, you just can’t seem to figure out why you can’t attract the right man into your life. Maybe you have no problem getting dates, but they just don’t end up going past the first or second date.
Maybe it’s been months or years since your last long-term relationship and you just haven’t found someone you really feel connected to.
Perhaps it’s just beginning to feel like this “relationship thing” just isn’t for you.
If you find yourself relating to any of these situations, we’ve got some great news for you.
First of all, there’s nothing broken or wrong with you, so you can stop trying to fix yourself!
The reason you’re not having the success you want in love is that there are barriers blocking you from attracting the right man.
And, because many of these barriers are “invisible” to you, it looks like online dating not working, guys not wanting to commit, and you being “cursed” with attracting emotionally unavailable guys!
Just like you’re unable to avoid a car that’s in your blind spot, it’s impossible for you to break through a love barrier you can’t see.
If you’re ready to stop suffering and start loving, join Michelle and me for a new teleclass we’ve created especially for you called, “Breaking Through Your Love Barriers to Attract the Love You Want!”
In this teleclass you will learn:
How to uncover your Love Barriers – those “invisible” emotional and behavioral patterns that are blocking you from attracting the right man into your life and experiencing the kind of love you really want
The practical steps you can take to break through these barriers, feel more confident in dating, trust your intuition to guide you to choose the man who will love and treat you the way you desire and deserve
The keys to attracting the right kind of man so that you can have more fun in dating and experience happiness and LOVE in your relationship
Seeing what’s in your blind spot can help you avoid a car accident.
Getting clear on what your love barriers are can help you avoid heartache so that you can start having more fun while dating, begin attracting men you are attracted to, and be in the kind of relationship your heart desires!
Join us for this FREE teleclass on Tuesday, June 9th and get ready for a love breakthrough!
It’s time to break through your barriers and experience the love you want!
Your happiness is your responsibility. If you’ve been feeling disappointed and frustrated with your experience of dating and relationships, it’s time to make a change! Join us and take the first step toward attracting the love you’ve been longing for! << Click here now>>
I’ve been preparing and practicing my presentations for The Irresistible Woman Seminar today and I’ve been thinking of you non-stop! So I decided to cut a quick video for you and then right back to my work!
I can’t help that you keep coming to mind! Every time that I read a really powerful point or one of the heart-shifting exercises we are going to be doing this weekend, it makes me sad to think that may not be there!
I don’t know what has had you not sign up until now, but I do know one thing about you. The fact that you took the time to open the email and even read this far means that you know how committed Michelle and I are to providing you with the information that we know is going to make a difference in your love life and relationships!
How do I know that? Because you wouldn’t be a part of this community if you weren’t!
So, whatever has been stopping you from attending, I just want you to ask yourself if it really is something insurmountable, “unfixable,” or life-threatening.
If it’s not, then I’m going to ask you to do something I consistently invite my clients to do.
I invite you to be UN-reasonable!
That means I’m inviting you to stop letting your “reasons” stand in the way of having what you want!
Here’s the thing, when you really want something – a nice car or outfit, a vacation, or to reach a goal, you figure out a way to make it happen.
Family members might tell you not to do it.
Your friends may tell you you’re crazy to do it.
You may even question your own sanity.
But you do it. Because it matters to you.
If your love life matters to you, if you truly want to be in a relationship where you feel adored, and you know that you know that you are love, then I’m inviting you to put those reasons that are stopping you aside and join us for The Irresistible Woman Seminar.
It’s going to be at least a year until we have this event again.
Do you really want to keep putting your happiness, your dreams, and the love that you want on hold?
I hope not!
So, push past your excuses, be UN-reasonable and join us for a weekend that is going to have you put an end to the loneliness, frustration, and “suffering” you’ve been experiencing in love and relationships.
Time to bust another myth about why successful women can’t succeed in love!
If you read the previous blog post, you know that I touched upon another very common myth about how, in order to have a relationship, a successful woman will have to settle.
There is a pervasive belief that a successful woman will either have to settle for someone who is not as successful, someone she’s not that crazy about, or someone who’s not intimidated by her success.
All of these beliefs come from the fear of not being able to have it all – everything your heart desires. If you believe that what you want is “too much,” “too good to be true,” or “unrealistic,” then you’ll do one of two things: You’ll either try to minimize your desires, or you’ll make your expectations so insurmountable that there’s little chance of sharing your life with someone who is able to meet all of them.
Let me address minimizing your desires first.
One desire that successful women often deny is the desire to be in a loving relationship. They will say that they are perfectly happy alone – that they don’t need a man in their lives.
If they are single, they will put dating at the bottom of their very busy to-do list.
If they are in relationships, they begin to think that it’s better to move on alone than to try to make the relationship work.
First, it is important that you are happy with yourself and your life, whether or not you have a man to share it with. You’re 100% responsible for your own happiness, and a woman who is content with her life is confident and attractive.
However, if you do want to share your life with someone and you’re saying that you don’t because you’re afraid that you won’t find the right guy, it feels safer for you to be alone than to risk opening your heart to someone or to put effort into making the relationship work, then you’re not being real with yourself and that has a profound impact on how you experience life and love.
See, anytime you deny one of your heart’s desires, you are selling out on yourself – you’re denying what’s true for you.
When you do that, even if you have tons of success in other areas of your life, you will feel unfulfilled, because you won’t have what you really want. You are, in essence, being inauthentic with yourself. And, if you’re not being real with yourself, you won’t be able to be real with someone else and you will likely attract to yourself someone who is not authentic with you, either. (Prepare yourself for heartache.)
The second way you could sabotage your love life is by setting unrealistic expectations.
These expectations will either be about what the “perfect man” has to be like, do, or have, or what the “perfect relationship” must be like.
I often say, “Perfectionism is poison.” Expecting a person, situation or relationship to be perfect is setting yourself up to be disappointed.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you settle for just anyone. That would be another way of selling out on yourself and your desires. What it means is that you open yourself up to the possibility that you can have a happy, loving relationship with a man who doesn’t meet every point on your “Quality Assurance List” — a perfectly imperfect man.
Rather than focusing on all of the external characteristics a man must meet – height, weight, salary, car, home, etc. – focus on what you want to experience in the relationship, instead. Put your thoughts and intentions into how you want to feel in the relationship. This way, when you are out with a man, you are focused on you, instead of him. This also allows you to be open to meeting and getting to know more men, so that you increase your chances of meeting the right one.
If you are in a relationship, you can begin to let go of all of the expectations that are having you complain about, criticize, and trying to change your man. Instead, you can shift your focus from feeling disappointed to getting present to and appreciating the man he is and the qualities about him that had you fall in love with him in the first place! It also means learning the feminine skill of saying what would make you happy, rather than pointing out all of the things that don’t!
Many of these skills and practices don’t come easily to an independent woman, because it requires letting go of being in complete control and managing everything on your own. It means being okay with uncertainty and imperfection. It means acknowledging just how much you really do want to share your life with a man who will love and adore you, celebrate and share your success.
But these skills are necessary if you want to create a loving, intimate, passionate relationship where you get to be authentic with yourself and experience the love you truly want!
That’s why Michelle and I created The Irresistible Woman LIVE Event. We are committed to equipping successful women with the skills that will empower you to have the loving relationship you want.
You don’t have to settle for less than you truly want and deserve. You really CAN have it ALL! And we want to show you how!
During this 3-day immersive-learning event, you will discover:
The behaviors and skills that help propel you at work but repel love, connection, and partnership in a relationship
The steps you can take to create shift in yourself so that you can experience success in love
The keys to having the type of relationship you want and deserve
And so much more!
This is our way of saying thank you and honoring you for the commitment you are making to yourself and your love life!
Nothing would make us happier than to see you experiencing the success in love we KNOW you can have, so that we can celebrate it with you!
Join us and let’s start celebrating your success in love!
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yesterday we learned that she and her fiancé are having a baby boy!
