by Gladys Diaz
Are you tired of wasting time on relationships that go nowhere?
Do you find yourself constantly questioning if the man you’re with truly aligns with your vision and values?
If you’re nodding your head right now, you’re not alone. Many women find themselves stuck in the cycle of uncertainty, wasting precious time and emotional energy on men who don’t meet their standards.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Dating becomes FUN and EASY when you can confidently and quickly determine if a man is a match for your Love Vision and values.
Sounds too good to be true? It’s not. And we’re going to show you how.
The Importance of Self-Awareness
First things first, you need to know yourself. Everything starts within, and even though it might sound cliché, the foundation of any successful relationship is a deep understanding of your own love vision and values.
We define Love Vision as what you want to experience in the Relationship of Your Dreams.
How do you want to feel when you’re with your partner?
Do you want the relationship to feel connected, fun, and light? Are openness, passion, and intimacy things you want to experience?
What types of activities will you do together?
Do you want to travel together? Do you want to read books and have intellectual discussions? Do you want to enjoy hiking in nature? Do you want to spend Friday nights cooking an incredible dinner together?
What values do you want to share?
What’s most important to YOU? Do you want to be with someone who values health and adventure? Are you wanting someone who wants to create a family?
This becomes the guidebook for what you want to experience in a relationship. The more clear you are, the quicker you’ll draw it to you. The fuzzier you are, the more confusing your experience in dating will be.
Self-awareness is your compass. It guides you in the right direction and helps you recognize when something (or someone) is off course. Take some time to reflect on your past relationships. What worked? What didn’t? What values did you compromise on, and how did that make you feel? Write these down. This exercise isn’t just about identifying deal-breakers; it’s about understanding what makes you thrive in a relationship.
Communication and Consistency
Now that you’ve got a clear understanding of your own vision and values, it’s time to communicate them and watch to see if someone is aligned. This isn’t about presenting a checklist on the first date – that’s a surefire way to scare anyone off!
Instead, it’s about weaving your values into conversations naturally and giving yourself the opportunity to observe his behavior – which will inform you of his values.
Talk about what’s important to you. Share your goals, dreams, and what you’re passionate about. This not only gives you a chance to express your values, but it also provides an opportunity to gauge his reactions and responses.
Is he supportive? Does he share similar goals? Or is he dismissive and uninterested?
Actions Speak Louder Than Words. Words are cheap. Anyone can say they value honesty, loyalty, and respect, but do their actions align with their words? This is where you need to be vigilant. Pay close attention to his behavior.
Does he follow through on his promises? How does he treat people around him – waitstaff, friends, family? Is he consistent in his actions, or does he say one thing and do another? These observations are crucial because they reveal his true character and values.
Consistency is Crucial. One-time grand gestures are impressive, but they don’t define a person’s character. And at the same time, anyone can be nervous on a first date and not show you who they really are.
Consistency over time is what you should be looking for. Give yourself time to see if someone is aligned.
And values aren’t about “right” or “wrong”. They’re simply about what matters to YOU and what YOU want. Everything he does (or doesn’t do) is good information to have as you move toward knowing who’s the perfect match for you.
Alignment and BE-ing Your Love Vision and Values.
This is where you get to BE what you want to experience.
If you say health is a top value of yours, what do you do to show it?
If you want to experience openness, fun and laughter in the Relationship of Your Dreams, who are you BE-ing to bring those feelings into your dating experiences and relationships?
Before each and every encounter you have with men, anchor yourself in your Love Vision.
Read your Love Vision every time before going on the dating app.
Get yourself into the energy of your Love Vision before you go on a date.
Envision in your mind what your Love Vision looks like before you come home to your husband.
The more aligned you are going into each experience with men, the more you’ll be able to assess compatibility and create what you want to experience!
Final Thoughts
Finding a man who matches your love vision and values isn’t about luck – it’s about clarity, communication, and keen observation. By understanding your own values, clearly communicating them, observing his actions and consistency, and BEing what you want to experience in the relationship – you can confidently determine if someone is the right match for you.
Where can you see your vision and values creating your Yes’s and No’s in dating?
How can you lean more into your Love Vision to know your metric for what you want to experience?
By following these steps, you’ll empower yourself to make informed decisions about your love life, ensuring you spend your time and energy on a relationship that’s truly worth it!
This is just the beginning! We’ll be going even deeper into this topic during the Manifest Your Love Vision NOW Challenge!
You’ll walk away from the Challenge with crystal-clear clarity on what you want to experience inside the Relationship of Your Dreams and next-steps on how to manifest it NOW!
Click HERE to register for the FREE Challenge.
We’ll let you know the dates for the Challenge ASAP – we can’t wait to be with you!
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