by Gladys Diaz
One of the things we hear most from women is that they’re struggling to let go of a relationship – either a toxic relationship from the past or a “situationship” they’re currently in that’s not going anywhere.
They want to be able to break ties with their ex so they can be truly ready to attract the man who will be by their side forever.
They want to let go of the fear of rejection and allow themselves to really be seen, heard and loved!
They share that they have thoughts like this:
“Why can’t I let this go?”
“Why am I still stuck on this one person?”
“How will I ever move on from this toxic experience so I can have real love?”
“When am I going to stop settling for crumbs so that I can love and be loved the way I really want?”
Is this something you’ve dealt with (or are currently trying to break free from) too?
If being able to let go of past heartbreaks so you can manifest the committed relationship of your dreams is what you want, then this is for you.
Letting go can be challenging, but it’s essential for your growth and for opening up space in your heart to welcome true love. It involves recognizing what you’re holding onto, defining what it is that you really want and choosing to be in the relationship that is aligned.
So what does a toxic relationship look like?
- Emotional/physical abuse
- Verbal disrespect
- Hurting each other on purpose
- Brings out the worst in you or the other person
- Manipulation
- With someone who’s unavailable (married, separated, “getting divorced”)
- Thinking you can “change” the person
- Trying to “convince” them to want to commit to you or that they eventually will if you stay there long enough.
Basically any relationship where you have more unhappy moments than happy moments is toxic.
And yes, this includes situationships.
A “situationship” is where you’re spending time with someone and acting like you’re his girlfriend, when you’re not.
Even if you’re sleeping together, until he tells you straight that he wants to be committed to you, that he doesn’t want to see any other women and that he wants you to be committed to him – then it’s not a relationship.
If you say, “Well, it’s complicated.”
It’s not a relationship.
If you say, “We have an understanding and we’re both okay with it.”
It’s not a relationship.
If you have to ask him, “Where is this going?” then you already have your answer.
It’s not a relationship.
It’s either a relationship or it’s not and if it’s not and you’re acting like it is then you’re becoming emotionally attached and he’s not.
You may ask, “What’s so wrong with that?”
Here’s the problem with emotionally investing in a relationship that’s not reciprocated…
The heartache of breaking a situationship is just as bad and hurts just as much as breaking a real relationship (sometimes even more so).
Why?
Because you’ve invested so much emotion, time, attention and hope into something that wasn’t real anyway.
When you do that, you’re not only lying to yourself but over time you’ll feel resentment, regret, anger and like he used you (even though you were a willing participate).
These emotions – resentment, blame, anger, guilt, shame and regret – are toxic emotions that can be hard to move on from. You feel these emotions towards yourself and then project them onto the other person because you didn’t honor your boundaries, your dream, your vision.
Why would you do that to yourself?
We know that being alone can feel hard and painful sometimes, but here’s the truth:
Being in a relationship that’s anything less than what you really want is just as painful.
Even if it’s fun and passionate and exciting for a few weeks, it always ends in these toxic emotions and experiences that are hard to let go of and move on from.
We’ve coached women who have waited 2 years, 5 years, 12 years, 17 years for someone they thought they were in a relationship with to choose them!
If commitment and marriage is something you want, and for most of the women in our community that is what they want – then this is heartbreaking!
Most don’t want a long-term relationship. They don’t want something where they constantly have to wonder if he’s seeing other women, sleeping with someone else or if it’s ever going to go anywhere.
They want love, companionship and commitment.
So why do women stay in relationships or “situationships” that aren’t everything they want?
- Fear that they’re never going to find what they want.
- Feeling like something is better than nothing.
- A belief that they type of man and relationship isn’t out there.
- Not being clear on what they really want and then settling for whatever comes.
If you’re tired of not being in the relationship you want or settling for anything less…
Join us next Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass!
In the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass, you’ll discover exactly what to stop doing and what to start doing, instead, so that you can easily let go of past toxic experiences and attract the perfect match for you.
You’ll learn how to easily and effortlessly attract the right man without wasting time, struggling, or settling.
These are the same steps we’ve taught and helped hundreds of women around the world meet the man they end up marrying in 30-90 days!
Why would you sentence yourself to “less than”?
Register for the free masterclass by clicking the link above and we’ll see you next Saturday!
