by heartsdesireintl | May 23, 2013 | breakups, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
“I am a little pencil in the hand of a writing God who is sending a love letter to the world.”
~ Mother Teresa of Calcutta
Every once in a while, you create something that not only inspires you, but you hope will inspire others. When I was invited to write an Inspiration for the Inspire Me Today website, I was asked to think about what I would say if I had to leave a message to the world in 500 words or less! I thought to myself, “I can do this! I have so much to share!” Well, I must have written at least 5 different drafts and several revisions of each one! Okay… Maybe this wasn’t as easy a writing task as I’d thought.
After all, this was going to go down in history (or at least in an online archive, somewhere) as my message to the world.
Just how was I supposed to select one message that captured my biggest lesson, my deepest beliefs, and the difference I want to make for people in 500 words or less? What could I say?
Well, after writing and revising several drafts, I finally hit “Submit” and sent in my Inspiration. The article was accepted and published on May 2nd, and I received wonderful feedback about it. Then, yesterday, I received a wonderful surprise! They liked my article so much, they chose to share it on the Care2.com, which has over 22,000,000 subscribers! Over 22,000,000 lives may be touched my message!
Are there other messages I’d like to leave behind – about the power of love, the freedom of forgiveness, the transformational practice of gratitude, the gift of hope, the joy that it is to live a life where we have the power to create our own miracles, and so many more messages I have bubbling inside of me just waiting to be shared with the world? Absolutely!
But, for now, this is my message – my Inspiration – and I share it with all of my love, from my heart to yours.
Click here to read “Are You Choosing Fear Over Love?”
I’d really like to express my heartfelt thanks to Gail Lynne Goodwin and her team – especially Kristan Sartor – for, not only allowing me to share my Inspiration with the world, but for also helping me to promote the From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires telesummit so that more people can join the thousands already participating and allowing the messages of love, healing, forgiveness, hope, and transformation to help them go from heartache to experiencing the life and loved their hearts desire!
If you’d like to experience the messages of 27 of the leading experts in dating, relationships, healing, and transformation, you can sign up here.
Questions? Comments? Let us know! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | May 10, 2013 | breakups, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, HDI Blog, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
This was Week 1 of the From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires Telesummit. It has been a week filled with details: emails, interviews, technology issues. And it has been a week filled with miracles, too! Being able to connect with people all over the world (over 1500, so far) and share a message of love, healing, hope, and the promise of new beginnings has been – while at times overwhelming – a beautiful journey!
Heartache is not the most “fun” topic to discuss. When a relationship ends, due to a breakup, divorce, or death, or when it begins to unravel, the pain is real. As the experts who have been sharing on the telesummit have said, there are real physical effects to the heart, nervous system, and other parts of our bodies; there are emotional effects in the form of anger, sadness, confusion, and disappointment; as well as the grieving of the hopes and dreams we had envisions for ourselves. There’s no doubt about it: The pain of heartache is real.
What’s optional, however, is suffering.
It would be strange and unnatural to invest your time, attention, and love and then not feel anything when it’s over. But suffering is a choice. You can either choose to stay in the grief, the anger, the resentment, or you can choose to acknowledge it, allow yourself to feel it, and then let it go. You can choose to close off your heart – shutting out any possibility of giving and receiving love – or you can choose to step beyond what feels safe and allow love to flow to and through you.
But how do you begin to let go of the suffering so that you can begin to live and love again?
Well, if you’ve been participating in the telesummit, you’ve heard different experts share a variety of ways to begin moving beyond the fear and pain and moving toward a new future filled with the possibility of love!
- Julie-Anne Shapiro shared how to bring love and forgiveness to your inner child and about making a Soul Commitment to having the love your heart desires.
- Julie Ferman spoke of being present and approaching dating and love as a journey.
- Stephan Gonnick walked us through exercises to move through the three universal blocks that keep us from experiencing love.
- Marni Battista explained how we can avoid the #1 relationship killer: the need to be right.
- Jennifer Grace shared some daily practices that will help us begin to heal and discover the love that’s already inside of us.
- Laura Doyle talked about how to avoid the four major mistakes women make when it comes to creating a loving relationship.
- Marcy Neumann shared how it’s in letting go that we can let love in.
- Charles J. Orlando explained how we can kill the endless cycle of unfulfilling relationships.
- And, today, Jennifer Hadley shares how we can “unbreak” our hearts; and
- Debi Berndt and Dr. Roberto Maldonado share how to create “conscious chemistry,” rather than falling into the trap of unconscious “default” relationship patterns.
And this is just in the first 5 days of the telesummit! We still have another 8 days to go!
Here’s what some participants are saying:
What an incredible interview with Julie-Anne Shapiro! I loved the part where she encouraged us to visualize our inner child and “provide her with what her heart desires”! That was a huge AHA for me! I was actually able to see the inner child in me…now I think I have an idea of what she desires. 🙂 Thank you again you Gladys Diaz for the incredible messages during the telesummit! I am so excited!!! ~ D
Thank you so much for putting this program together. It’s been wonderful so far. I am sure the rest will be fabulous, too.
Thanks to all of your guests and especially to Laura Doyle for her great generosity in giving this huge gift to this sweet community. ~ M
Thanks so much for putting all of these tele-interviews together, keep up the good work.
I just felt I wanted to let you know that I really enjoyed the talk with Marcy Neumann – wow! Everything she said just echoed so deeply within me, it all made so much sense, I kept taking notes and re-listening to some of the parts. She has so much wisdom to share.
Thank you again.
It was lovely today, and it will help me to take one step at a time to figure out where my GPS is going to lead me, but I must identify that myself too. ~ L in Austria
I am trying to get the whole world to join in. It’s amazing! ~ Y
If you missed part of Week 1, there is no need to worry! There will be a “Replay Day” on Sunday, May 13th where you’ll be able to listen to all of the available interviews – even the ones that have expired! If you’d really prefer to not have to wait to listen to recordings until they air, or having to listen to them within 72 hours, after signing up you can upgrade your subscription to VIP Membership, where you’ll receive MP3 recordings of all of the interviews and links to all of the free gifts! But you need to register, so go to: http://www.heartachetoheartsdesires.com NOW!
Comments? Questions? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | May 3, 2013 | Gratitude, heartache, Love, Relationship Advice
Life is a Matter of Choice
by Gladys Diaz
I’m so excited to share some
great news with you!!! Today, May 3rd, 2013, I am the featured Inspirational Luminary on
InspireMeToday.com, sharing my message with the world! This FREE website is one to bookmark!
Here’s a little excerpt of the Inspiration I shared… A message from my heart to yours:
If I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…
Life is a matter of choice. Every single moment we live presents us with an opportunity to choose.
For a large part of my life, I didn’t see life as a choice. Instead, I saw life as something that was happening to me. I felt like a victim, and I had evidence to support it! My father died when I was three. My mother left me and my sisters when I was fifteen. My first husband died in my arms when I was twenty-seven. To me, it seemed that everyone I loved left me – either by death or by choice.
One day, someone asked me what my biggest fear was, and I responded that what most terrified me was the thought of losing either my kids or my husband because I could not imagine having to experience that type of pain again. Her response?
“You’ll survive it. How do I know? Because you already have. Now, you can either choose to live your life fearing that the people you love are going to die, or you can live your life loving them.”
In that moment, I saw myself as stronger than I’d known myself to be. I had survived my greatest fear, experienced the greatest loss and pain of my life and it didn’t kill me. It didn’t stop me from falling in love again! I really got the power of choice and began choosing to live my life in love![…]
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Please
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From the folks at Inspire Me Today and from me, thank you in advance for your kind support. I know you’re going to love
InspireMeToday.com! Together we really can inspire the world.
Be inspired,
P.S. I’m on a mission to end heartache and to let women know that they can have the love they deserve and that their hearts desire. I’d love for you to join me in this mission. Together we can change the world one woman, one heart at a time!
Click
here to learn more and sign up to participate in the “From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires” Telesummit, and to
share it with the women in your life!
Did I mention we’re on a mission?
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
by heartsdesireintl | Apr 27, 2013 | Dating, Gratitude, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
My first husband was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 25. When he was 28, the cancer came back after being in remission, and it was spreading fast. One day I walked into the hospital room and saw the look on everyone’s faces. I could tell it wasn’t good news. The doctors said there was nothing else they could do for him and recommended we put him in hospice.
I was angry, terrified, and my heart was broken! Why was this happening? We were so happy and so young! This was unfair!
After everyone left, we barely spoke. The sadness hung in the room and we just lay next to each other in his hospital bed. The next day, we had a conversation that I will never forget for as long as I live. During our talk, we thanked each other for every good thing we had brought into one another’s lives. We asked for forgiveness and forgave. We talked about how upset and sad we were and he asked me to forgive him for not being able to fight the cancer. He’d done his best. Then he spoke words that, for me, will always signify the epitome of unconditional love.
He told me he wanted me to be happy. He wanted me to live, and laugh and love again. He said he knew there was someone out there for me, and he wanted me to make that man as happy as I’d made him. He told me I deserved to be loved and that I’d find him sooner than I thought. Then he said, “When you meet him, you’ll just know that he’s the one I’m telling you about. You’ll know I helped him find you.”
I didn’t want to hear those words. I wanted to hear how our prayers were going to be answered, how we were going to beat the odds and fight this monster together. I didn’t want to find or love anyone else! I wanted us to have the life we’d planned and dreamed of together!
I didn’t say any of this. Instead, when he asked me if I would promise him that I would do everything I could to be happy again, l went against everything my heart and mind were telling me, and I said, “I promise.”
He died in my arms 2 days later, and I felt as if every one of my hopes, dreams and plans for the future died with him. As I grieved the loss of my love and the life I’d hoped to live, I’d often think about what he told me and the promise I made, but part of me just couldn’t believe that I would ever find love– not that kind of love – again.
About ten months later, I got the courage to accept a date from a guy who stood me up! My friend and I went out dancing so that I wouldn’t stay home and gather more evidence that I’d end up alone. And that’s the night life gave me one of its unexpected surprises – the good kind – this time!
Ric and I have been together for almost 14 years, and we have what I like to refer to as “an extraordinary love.” We have created a beautiful family with two little boys who have taught me to never underestimate the human heart’s capacity to love!
Every day, I fulfill the promise I made to my first husband. I live, I laugh, and I love. I honor his memory and what we shared by living this promise. And I’m beyond grateful that I have been blessed enough to experience true love twice in a lifetime!
What about you? Are you afraid that you won’t find true love again? Are you afraid that you let “The One” get away? Are you grieving the loss of your love, hopes, and dreams – either from a breakup, divorce, or loss of a partner or spouse? I’m here to tell you that we live in a world that is abundantly full of love and possibilities, and, you, too can experience love again! Join me and 20 amazing experts – Heart Messengers – for the “From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires” telesumummit as we discuss how to move beyond the pain and fear of heartache and toward a new life that is filled with the hope and the very real possibility of loving and being loved again! Click here to join now!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | Apr 12, 2013 | Dating, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
Yesterday I received this beautiful quote about marriage in my inbox and just had to create a picture quote for it! It really captures the essence of a marriage and what it takes to make it work!
Too many times, I work with women who, when I ask them what they would like to see happen in their relationships or marriages, will respond with everything their boyfriend or husband is not doing, or not doing well enough.
For example, the other day I was speaking with a woman who was fed up with her husband. She felt that he wasn’t playing his part in the marriage– he wasn’t helping to take care of the home or children, he wasn’t managing the finances, he wasn’t making any of the important (and not-so-important) decisions, and he wasn’t doing anything to try to help save their marriage. This left her feeling angry, disappointed, and frustrated. It also led her to nag, complain, and tell her husband repeatedly what he should be doing differently, only to have him withdraw even further.
Is this resonating with anyone out there?
I could hear her frustration and sadness, and I also heard how the entire conversation was focused on what she felt he should be doing. Those unmet expectations were causing her to feel the anger and resentment that were spilling over into every conversation and contact she and her husband had.
See, as long as we are focused on what the other person in the relationship is or isn’t doing, we are not looking at the role we’re playing in creating the dynamic we have. As long as I’m focused on what my husband is doing, what he’s not doing, or what he’s not doing well enough, I don’t have to look over here – at me – which is thing I can really control.
So, what can we do to ensure that we are giving our own 100% in the relationship?
1. Focus on yourself. Trying to change someone who doesn’t want to be changed can be like trying to tell the wind to stop blowing. No matter how much you try, beg, or plead, it’s not going to happen! Rather than focusing all of your time, energy, and attention on trying to make him better, look to see where you might better place your focus. Perhaps you can choose to focus more on gratitude than complaining? Perhaps it’s not what you’re saying to him but the way you’re saying it that is causing the opposite of what you want to show up. Perhaps it’s simply choosing to let go of trying to make him want do something, and just say that you need help and allow him to respond. By focusing on your own actions, reactions, and words, you are more likely to shift the dynamic in the relationship.
2. Change your perspective. One of my favorite sayings is “Energy flows where attention goes.” What we choose to focus on becomes stronger and what we resist persists. So, rather than focusing on everything he’s not doing or not doing well enough, focus on the things he is doing, and express gratitude. Even if all you do is acknowledge the effort the energy you are sending is now a positive one of gratitude, rather than the negative one of complaining. Chances are that he’ll notice the appreciation and that will motivate him to want to continue doing things that make you smile, rather than scowl. So change your perspective and look for those behaviors and actions you’d like to see more of!
3. Be open to different possibilities. Chances are that you and guy are not always going to see eye-to-eye. A relationship is made up of two individuals, each with his/her own ideas, preferences, and ways of doing things. Many times, having rigid expectations and only allowing for the possibility of things turning out my way and not allowing for there to be other possible ways can cause frustration, as well. Creating a partnership is about allowing for each individual to contribute of him-/herself. So, check to see if you’ve been having a “my-way-or-the-highway” attitude, and begin to open up to the possibility that there are other routes to your desired destination. You may find yourself being pleasantly surprised!
As the quote above says, when we focus on giving our own 100% to the relationship, then we won’t spend time looking to see what the other person is or is not doing in the relationship. We’ll have our attention focused on the side of the relationship we can control: ourselves. And, in doing that, not only do we allow our partner to do the same, but we can rest assured knowing that we’re doing everything in our power to make our relationship complete.
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | Feb 18, 2013 | Gratitude, HDI Blog, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
Are you ready to have an affair with the man you love? Then watch this video of the interview that Luly B. of LulyB.com and New Era Moms and I did last week! We talked about practical things you can do every day to help make your relationship a passionate, intimate union that lasts for a lifetime!
Just click on the image below to see the interview!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HiaCVGngAOY
Helpful links related to video:
LulyB.com
New Era Moms
Book: 30 Days & 30 Ways to Fall in Love with You
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