by heartsdesireintl | Oct 9, 2014 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Self-Love
by Gladys Diaz
I wrote this message from a plane, on my way to California, to speak to a wonderful group of single moms, followed by two amazing days of dreaming, planning, and taking inspired actions with my business mastermind group!
One of my favorite things to do on a plane is read a great book. While I try to make reading a daily practice, I don’t always have the luxury of several uninterrupted hours to just sit and lose myself in a great book.
For this trip, I decided to bring along my signed copy of Sharon Lechter’s book Think and Grow Rich for Women. Based on the principles of Napoleon Hill’s timeless guide to attaining wealth through the power of your thoughts and inspired action, Lechter’s book is written by a woman, inspired by the stories of successful women, and intended for women. (My kind of book!)
As I read the chapters on having a Burning Desire and faith, I smiled as I recognized how so many of the ideas shared for creating material wealth are similar to the coaching we provide our clients when it comes to creating the relationship your heart desires! I was especially moved by the chapter on faith.
Faith is more than something that only exists inside of religion. While it’s a spiritual practice, for sure, it is also a driving force in helping you to achieve what your heart’s desires. Until you begin to believe – truly believe – that you are worthy of the love, peace, passion, intimacy, and fulfillment you would like to experience in a relationship, it will be impossible to experience it. Why?
Because, until you believe that you are deserving of it, you won’t believe it’s possible for you. And, if you don’t believe it’s possible for you to experience it, it will be impossible for you to Be the love you want to see and attract that love into your life.
So, I want you to ask yourself:
Do I truly believe myself to be worthy of the love my heart desires?
Is there absolutely, positively not a shadow of a doubt for you that you can and will attract and create (or reignite, if your relationship has lost some of its spark) that type of extraordinary love?
If your answer is “Yes,” then ask yourself:
What actions am I taking daily that are aligned and consistent with me attracting and experiencing that type of love?
A dream without inspired action is simply a wish. No matter how much you believe something could happen, unless you are taking actions that are consistent with what it is you want- both physical actions and in the way you choose to Be – you will simply be wishing for that type of love. Now, there’s nothing wrong with wishing. It just isn’t as powerful a method for manifesting your dreams as Being and taking inspired actions that lead you in the direction of your dreams.
If your answer to the question above is “No,” and you don’t truly believe yourself worthy and capable of experiencing the love your heart desires, then there’s additional work to do to uncover what the hidden barriers – the thoughts, doubts, and limiting beliefs – are that are standing in the way of you seeing this as something that is completely possible for you. Without distinguishing the hidden barriers and doing the work to dismantle them, you are robbing yourself of the opportunity to experience the love you say you want.
Inaction and indecision are actions and decisions in and of themselves. Choosing to do nothing to change your circumstances is an action, and one that is giving you the experience you are currently having in love – whether it’s not having fun or success in dating, or having your relationship or marriage slowly (or quickly) deteriorate before your eyes.
You have absolutely no control over what anyone else – a guy, your boyfriend, or your husband – does or doesn’t do to make your dream come true. But you have 100% power over what you choose to do to create and transform your experience of love.
So, I have a few last questions for you to ask yourself:
What am I committed to doing to create the experience I want to have in life and love?
What is stopping me or standing in my way of doing that?
What specific steps will I take to transform the experience I am currently having?
How will I demonstrate my faith in my ability to experience the love I want?
These are powerful questions, and I encourage you to not allow “I don’t know” to be an answer for any of them. Be real with yourself and begin to transform your relationship with yourself, how you see yourself, and what you believe is possible for you.
I’d love to hear your responses to these questions! Please leave a comment below and let us know what’s opened up for you inside of answering the questions for yourself. And, remember, if you need someone to help and walk you through this, we’re only a click away!
by heartsdesireintl | Oct 3, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
“How do I find my soulmate?
“How do I know if he’s my soulmate?”
Those are probably two of the most-frequently asked questions I hear from women! And who can blame them? Everyone wants to know that the next person they date or the man who they are with is, in fact, “The One,” their soulmate.
When my first husband, Andy, passed away, I swore that that was it for me. I was so upset and saddened at the thought that my once-in-a lifetime love – my soulmate – had come and gone and I’d no longer have the experience of sharing my life and soul with someone who truly and unconditionally loved me as much as I loved him.
Thankfully, I was wrong!
When I met and began falling in love with Ric, I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was the one I’d be spending the rest of my life with. I was ecstatic that I had been wrong about there only being one person in all the world who would I would love and who would love me in such a powerful, passionate, incredible way!
While the idea of having one soulmate that has been predestined to share his life with you can seem very romantic, that belief is fed by a fear of scarcity, which is what has so many women – perhaps even you – think that you have to find that one, “perfect” guy, or your doomed to experience a lifetime of loneliness.
That is scary. And depressing.
The truth is that there is an abundance of wonderful, loving, men who are also seeking out someone with whom they would like to spend their lives. In fact, they are out there, looking for you! And the great news is that, as you meet and get to know them, then you get to choose which ones you’d like to get to know better, and, eventually, which one you’d like to spend the rest of your life with.
So, the question remains: How do you find your soulmate?
Well, it begins with YOU.
Whether you are single and looking to attract your soulmate or you’re in a relationship with someone that doesn’t feel like everything you thought it would be, loving and being loved by your soulmate begins with being crystal-clear about what it is that you want to experience in a relationship.
If you want to experience love, passion, and fun in your relationship, then be loving, passionate, and fun NOW.
If you want to experience trust, compassion, and forgiveness in your relationship, be trusting and trustworthy, compassionate, and forgiving NOW.
If you want to experience a drama-free, peaceful, and easy-flowing relationship, then stop creating and inviting drama into your life, seek to be peaceful with others, and be open to not having to control and manage everything and everyone in your life.
How you attract your soulmate is that you are BEing everything you want to experience in your relationship in your life right now!
And in BEing everything your heart desires, you are living from your soul!
The love that you want, dream of, and long for isn’t something that is or that you will find anywhere outside of you. Like attracts like. So, if you want to attract someone who is going to give you the experience you would like to have in love for the rest of your life, you need to start being that in your life NOW.
That is how he will recognize you! And that is how he will be drawn to you!
This may sound “woo-woo” to you. You can choose to believe it or not. But if you haven’t found your soulmate yet, or if you thought the man you are with was your soulmate and you’re beginning to doubt it, consider that being with your soulmate is not about fate, or chance, or luck. It’s about you BEing that amazing, irresistibly alluring love magnet that he simply can’t resist falling in love with!
If you’d like to hear more about how to BE the love you want to see and experience with a soulmate, I invite you to check out the interview that airs today on the Global Latino Summit! One of my very good friends and internationally renowned author and speaker, Deborah Deras, interviewed me on “How to Go From Heartbreak to Finding Your Soulmate.”
This was one of the most fun and heart-warming interviews I’ve done to date, and I know you’ll really enjoy it! Just click here to register for the Global Latino Summit, and you’ll receive instant access to the interview, as well as the other amazing interviews she is making available. But hurry! This interview is only available for 24 hours, so you’ll want to head on over the GLS site now!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
P.S. Ready to attract your soulmate or transform your relationship in 2015? I’m opening enrollment for my VIP Private Coaching Program now! Click here to set up a time to talk and see if this program is right for you! Let’s make 2015 the year your dreams come true!
by heartsdesireintl | Sep 26, 2014 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
I’m writing to this post right after going for a run… A real run!
What I mean is that, lately, I’ve been sort-of-kind-of-running, which means I’ve been walking a lot more than running during my 5K runs (and that’s on the days that I actually get out there). This past Monday, however, I finally got real with myself about how I’ve been playing with regard to my fitness and health, and I made a commitment to myself that I was going to have the best run I’ve ever had!
I started out strong and felt really good when I saw that I was going at a faster pace than I had ever run! Half-way through the run, however, I began feeling a really bad pain in my knee. I slowed down a bit, but kept running. Toward the end of my run, the pain was pretty intense, so I chose to start walking a little earlier than I normally would to cool down, just so that I could make it home.
I realize some might say that I should have “listened to my body” a little earlier. I did. I heard my body loud and clear, and it was saying: This is why you need to be consistent!
See, when I first started running, I dealt with knee pain almost every time I ran. After a few months of consistent training, however, I was running pain-free! My body had adjusted to the movements I was having it make, and I was able to run longer and faster without having to ice my knees after each run.
If I had continued training the way I was a few months ago, running several times a week and working out in between runs, it’s highly unlikely that I would have been in the pain I found myself in on Monday.
So… What does any of this have to do with you and your love life? A lot!
See, the same thing holds true when it comes to practicing new relationship skills.
When you first begin practicing a new way of communicating with and reacting and responding to the man you are dating or in a relationship, things feel a little (or more than a little) uncomfortable.
It takes some mental effort to remember not to snap back, criticize him or complain, rather than simply say how you are feeling and what you would like.
It doesn’t feel natural to be vulnerable, rather than “on guard,” protecting yourself against “the enemy.”
It feels a little painful to realize that many of the things you’d been saying and doing before you chose to change were actually hurting the intimacy in your relationship, rather than making it stronger.
That’s why there are 3 things you can to do ensure that the new skills and practices stick and become natural for you:
- Get Real with YOURSELF about Yourself. The first step in making any type of real change is to get real with yourself about what’s not working. And, while it’s always easier to look at what someone else (meaning him) could or should be doing differently, the truth is that you (1) you can’t control anyone other than yourself, and (2) by looking outside of yourself, you’re actually saying that someone or something other than you has the power to create your happiness. In order for a change to become permanent, you need to want to make it yourself and for yourself. Yes, the positive changes you make will impact and benefit your man, too, but commit to making these changes for yourself – because you want to be able to experience happiness, love, and peace and you know the power to create this lies in your hands.
- Practice the Skills Consistently and Over Time. The more consistently you practice new relationship skills, the more likely they are to become habits, and the faster those habits will become new ways of being in your life and relationship. When practiced over an extended period of time, you “train your brain” to begin listening, thinking, and responding in these new ways. This allows your ability to communicate effectively and create and experience what you want in a relationship will flow naturally, with grace and ease!
- Work with Someone Who Will Hold You Accountable. Trying to make changes on your own, without support or accountability, is pretty much setting yourself up to either fail or have the changes take a lot longer than they need to. That need to do things on your own, to not allow someone to stand and be there for you is all part of your need to be in control, and comes from a fear of intimacy. The truth is that while you are capable of making changes on your own, resisting help or encouragement from someone else may be one of the reasons you are struggling to create intimacy in your relationships. Having someone who believes in and wants you to succeed hold you accountable is not a sign of weakness or that you aren’t capable of doing it on your own. Instead, it’s a sign of strength and the commitment you are making to yourself.
In my business, I have a coach and a group of colleagues who are my accountability partners. We only listen for one another’s greatness and don’t allow each other to sell out on ourselves and the goals we’ve set. In my fitness, I’ve asked my husband to be my accountability partner. He has completely transformed his lifestyle and has an unwavering commitment to working out and training over the past several years, so I want to make sure that I have someone like that on my side – someone who already has already achieved the results I want to achieve and who can help support and guide me on my way (plus, he won’t let me off the hook at all!).
If you’re ready to begin working with someone to help you reach your relationship goals, then I encourage you to set up a time to speak with me. The women who are my clients will tell you that I don’t let them sell out on themselves, that I sometimes stand for and believe in them more strongly than they do for themselves, and that I encourage them to move past the excuses, “reasons,” and barriers that are standing in the way of them achieving and experiencing the love they want to have in their lives.
That’s my commitment to you.
Now it’s up to you to commit making the changes you want to make.
The hard facts are that there are only 3 months left to make this year really count and I only have one spot opening up in my private coaching practice next month. So, stop putting it off, making excuses as to why you “can’t change” or why your situation is different, and just click here to let me know you want to talk. I’ve blocked off 3 slots in my calendar this week so that I can make sure that no one takes them unless it’s someone who is ready to get started NOW.
So, if you’re ready to get real with yourself and get consistent, I’m happy to talk about working with and holding you accountable and looking to see if the coaching program is a good fit for you!
I believe in you and I know that the love and happiness you dream of are possible for you! Let’s get started, get consistent, and make dreams happen!
By the way, that run I was telling you about? I did run my best time yet (shaved off 10 minutes!), even with having to walk at the end, and I’ve been consistent all week long! There is something to be said about making a commitment and honoring it!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
by heartsdesireintl | Sep 19, 2014 | Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Success
by Gladys Diaz
This month I have had the privilege of attending two informative and inspiring business conferences especially for women. Usually, at these events, the majority of the speakers are women who have reached high levels of success, so I was pleasantly surprised and excited to hear from five multimillionaire men who were sharing their secrets to success with us
But it’s what they shared that really caught me by surprise!
See, I was thinking they were going to tell us all about the steps they took to start a business, market themselves, and catapult their businesses into the millions. Instead, every single one of them told us the story of how difficult it was for them at the beginning, how they failed over and over again, and how one thing kept them going and believing in themselves through the darkest times: The support and trust of the women they loved!
Without fail, each of the men shared how, right when he was about to give up on himself and his dreams, his wife said the one thing that made the difference and had him make the decision to do whatever it took to succeed:
“I trust and believe in you.”
Now, granted, saying those words is a lot easier when the man you love is doing well, achieving success, and getting results.
But how do you find the strength and courage to authentically say that, even when all signs are pointing to failed attempts, one disappointment after another, and a lack of results?
- You remember why you fell in love with him in the first place. It can be easy to forget just how much you admired him and the greatness you saw in him when you first fell in love. It’s easier to allow your fears, doubts and disappointments to cloud the vision of who the man you love really is. However, if you can bring yourself back to remember what it was that had you decide that this man is the man who, at one time in your life, you were 100% certain you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, it makes it a whole lot easier to believe in him, because his courage, determination, and whatever other characteristics that drew you to him are still there! You just have to look more closely to see them.
- You stand next to him with unwavering trust. Our fears are sneaky things. They will convince us beyond a shadow of a doubt that things can’t change, that the worst-case scenario is inevitable and that we must protect ourselves and survive danger at all costs. Whether the fear you are experiencing during the difficult times is based in a fear of scarcity (not having your needs met), fear of abandonment, or a fear of being taken advantage of (especially if you’re having to work a little harder during those difficult times), feeling afraid and uncertain about the future can trigger that “fight-or-flight” response that can have you either complaining, criticizing, or chipping away at your man’s spirit, or wanting to run away and leave everything (including him) behind. It takes courage to trust him. It takes courage to trust that things will get better. And, most of all, it takes courage to trust in yourself and know that you made the right choice when you chose to love him!
- You speak words that lift him up, rather than tear him down. There may be times when your fear, sadness, and disappointment feel like they are getting the best of you. You may think that telling him and reminding him about what he needs to do will get him to do it. You may think that criticizing, questioning, or correcting his decisions will make him want to change. You may think that pointing out everything you feel he is doing wrong or should be doing differently will lead to different results. The truth, however, is that, if you want him to rise above the circumstances, you need to raise him up with your words.
True, your man is completely responsible for his own happiness and for the choices he makes. However, never underestimate the influence you have on him and how he comes to see and know himself. He sees himself and what he’s capable of through your eyes, and way you see him can either tear him down or lift him up. It can either discourage and deter or encourage and inspire him to new heights!
So, what does your man see when he looks into your eyes?
Does he see cynicism, doubt, and shame, or does he see trust, faith, and love?
If you have been tearing your man down out of your own fears and frustrations, the good news is that every moment gives us an opportunity to choose differently.
So, what will you choose to do and say today to help inspire your man to greatness?
Because, when it’s all said and done and he’s finally made it to the top, guess who he’s going to make sure is up there with him?
Let us know what you’re going to do today to inspire your man to greatness in the comments below! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | Sep 15, 2014 | breakups, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Success
by Gladys Diaz
This weekend I attended a very powerful UN-Conference hosted by the Women’s Prosperity Network and there was a question that kept being asked all weekend long:
What does “success” mean to YOU?
When most people think about success, they think about the goals they have achieved, how much money they are making, and what position or title they hold in their career.
Certainly, those things make up a part of success, but there are so many other aspects to our lives: family, health, spirituality, and, of course, our love lives.
Do you include those things in your definition of success?
I do. Michelle does. And I hope you do, too!
See, when you experience success in some parts of our lives, it’s not surprising that, no matter how many achievements, accolades, and awards we receive, there is still a part of you that feels unfulfilled – empty, even, as if there is an insatiable hole that just can’t seem to be filled, no matter how good things appear to be going.
This is because success – true success – consists of feeling happy, secure, and fulfilled in all of the areas of our lives. So, when we don’t feel that – and, even worse, when we deny that we want to feel successful in all of the areas of our lives (especially our romantic lives!) – there is a direct impact on our sense of aliveness, fulfillment, peace, and joy.
So, now I’ll ask you a different question:
Do you want to experience success in every area of your life?
If so, you just made my day, because I have several events I will be inviting you to attend this month that are going to not just going to tell you why it’s important to experience success in every area of your life, but they will show you how to do it!
The first two events take place this week, so I wanted to make sure I sent you that information first, and I’ll let you know about the others in a separate email!
The first event begins today.
It’s the Global Latino Summit, where 27 passionate, inspiring, and successful thought leaders (including yours truly) will be sharing our secrets to success in the personal, professional, and romantic areas of your life! My interview will air in a few days and is titled: “How to Go from Heartbreak to Finding Your Soulmate.” (You are going to LOVE it!)
The great part about this event is that it’s global, so you can participate from any part of the world; everyone can attend, and it’s absolutely FREE!
Click here to register now!
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he second event is for those of you living in South Florida!
Come join me tomorrow, Tuesday, September 16th, where I will be speaking at the Coral Gables Chamber of Commerce Women’s Business Network Luncheon about “You CAN Have it All: How to Go from Invincible in the Workplace to Irresistible in Your Love Life!”
Not only will this event give you an opportunity to meet and network with some pretty amazing women, but you’ll get a delicious lunch, and I’ll get a chance to meet you in person, which I would love!!! All of the information regarding this event is included in the image:
If you will be attending either or both of these events, please let me know by commenting below, so that I can welcome you personally!
Success is about experiencing joy, peace, and fulfillment in every area of our lives. Join me in participating in these two fantastic events so that together we can continue expanding our ability to learn, grow, and love!
P.S. Remember to reply and let me know if you’ll be coming to either or both events! Knowing you’ll be there makes such a difference for me! 🙂
by heartsdesireintl | Sep 9, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance, Success
by Gladys Diaz
Have you ever felt like something is just too hard and it’s time to give up – even when it’s something you really want or believe in, like a dream or a goal you’ve been working on for some time?
Many times, when I’m on my runs, I tell myself I’m not going to stop until I reach a certain distance. There are times when my legs are aching, sweat is dripping into my eyes, and I feel like my chest will explode, and I just want to stop. And, sometimes, I do. But the moment I do, I check the app I use while running, and if I haven’t reached that preset distance, I will literally say to myself aloud, “Don’t you dare stop now!”
Pretty tough, right?
Well, I’ve found that sometimes I need to get real with myself, or else I’ll quit before it’s time to stop. If I don’t remind myself of what my goals are, the milestone I set, and why I’m doing something, left to my own devices, I’ll quit when things get a little too uncomfortable for me – whether it’s in running, a goal I’ve set for myself in business, my well-being, and, yes, my relationship.
What about you? Are you getting ready to give up on something?
I speak to a lot of women – women of all ages, cultures, and relationship statuses – and there’s common question that comes up:
“Do you think there’s hope for me?”
Maybe you’re a single woman who’s become frustrated with dating unavailable men or men you’re not really attracted to, or the fact you haven’t gone on a date for months (or years) and you’re wondering whether you’re just meant to be alone.
Maybe you’ve been in an on-again-off-again relationship for several years, or one in which you’ve been waiting for him to commit or proposed to you, or things just seem to be unraveling at the seams, and you wonder whether it’s time to call it quits.
Maybe you’re in a marriage where things have been on a downward spiral for a while, or you feel like you’re just housemates or co-parents, and you wonder whether it’s even worth possible to bring the love and romance you once shared together.
And maybe you’re like many of my clients and you’ve taken several courses, read many books, and done a ton of spiritual and inner work and you’re asking yourself why these thing seem to lead everyone else in the directions of their dreams, but not yours, and you’re wondering whether there’s simply something “broken” inside of you.
I don’t know where you are, but I do know this:
The only surefire way to not reach your goals and for your dreams not to come true is for you to decide to give up!
That’s the only thing that will guarantee that you won’t get what your heart desires.
So, I’m going to say this with all of my love:
Don’t you dare stop now!
What if there’s something you didn’t know you could do to turn your love life around?
What if there’s just a little more work to do to finally get the things that have been blocking love from coming to you out of your way?
What if the next guy you meet in person or online is the one who’s been looking for you all along?
What if the man you love is just waiting for a sign that you’re not ready to give up on your relationship?
What if there is still hope?
Are you seriously willing to give up without doing everything you can to make your dreams come true?
If you’re not ready to give up yet, then take out a piece of paper and answer these questions:
- What is it that my heart truly desires?
- What is making me want to stop and is in the way of me having this be realized in my life?
- Is there someone who or something that can help me discover how to get past this?
- Am I courageous enough to reach out for help and do what it takes and not give up?
- What’s the next action step I will take, rather than stop and give up?
I know you’re tired. I know you’re afraid. But I also know that you can be courageous and unstoppable. I know you can take that next action step. And I know that you don’t have to do it alone!
If you’d like support (and a nice, hard push) in taking that next step, then you can always reach out to me and step up a time to talk!
I’m not giving up on you, so don’t you dare give up on you, either!
