by heartsdesireintl | Nov 1, 2013 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Yesterday was Halloween, which is probably one of the more fun holidays, because, for one day, you actually have permission to pretend to be someone other than who you really are!
While dressing up and pretending to be someone you’re not can make Halloween fun, it’s not such a great thing when it comes to dating and relationships. In fact, pretending can be exhausting, and it doesn’t give you or the other person the opportunity to discover whether he’d choose to be with you if you were actually being yourself.
If you want him to fall in love with you, be authentic.
If your online profile or the way you portray yourself to others – especially men – is not an authentic reflection of who you really are, it’s very unlikely that you’re going to attract the type of person who is going to want to create the type of relationship you really desire.
If, while on a date, you’re focusing on what you should say or do to “get him” to like you, instead of listening, responding, and letting him get to know a little bit about the real you, then it’s possible that he may get the feeling that you are holding back or that you don’t want to be there with him.
And, if you’re not being authentic about wanting to be in a committed relationship that leads to marriage; or you’re pretending to be okay with sleeping with him before there’s a real commitment or with living together before you’re engaged or married – or you are in any way, shape or form being untrue to yourself out of the fear that he won’t want to be with you if you share how you really feel, then on how solid a foundation are you building your relationship? And…
For how much longer are you willing to pretend to be someone you’re not?
Not only is pretending inauthentic and exhausting, but it’s likely that you’ll eventually begin to feel resentment. And that resentment will probably be displaced, where you’ll begin to feel resentment toward him for not accepting you the way you are, while what’s really happening is that you’re upset with yourself for not being confident enough to trust that the man who you’re choosing to be with will choose to want to be with and love you just the way you are.
The truth is that he can’t fall in love with you if you are not there.
So, rather than pretending to be someone you’re not or hiding how you feel and what is true for you, trust in the beauty of who you really are and know that Mr. Right-for-You is going to find you –with all the good, the bad, and the not-so-perfect parts– to be simply irresistible!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | Oct 30, 2013 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Courage is like love; it must have hope for nourishment.
~ Napoleon Bonaparte
This past weekend, Michelle and I spoke at the 28th Singles’ Expo in Boca Raton, FL. We had a great time meeting some wonderful single women and seeing some of our clients at the event! We closed out the Seminars portion of the event with one of our favorite talks: “Dating FUN-damentals,” where we give both men and women tips for how to make dating exciting, fulfilling, and FUN!
At some point during tour talk, there was a magical moment where the connection between us and the men and women in the room was palpable. It’s one of those moments Michelle and I will never forget!
As we were driving back home, Michelle said to me, “Something magical happened in that room. I don’t know what it was or when it happened, but I felt it!”
I agreed with her, and we began trying to pinpoint when it was that the energy of the room shifted.
All of a sudden, I remembered!
“It was the moment when you acknowledged their courage!”
“Yes! That’s it!”
One of the things we like to do when we speak, is to invite members of the audience to ask questions. It gives us an opportunity to really connect with the people in the room, provide some coaching, and to answer some of their burning questions. During the Q&A session, one of the women who had not dated for a several years began to talk about how she felt she was ready to begin dating again. She shared some of her fears with us, and gave us the gift of being able to contribute to and make a difference for her and the other people in the room.
Before we moved on to the next question, Michelle did something beautiful. She began acknowledging, not just this woman, but every person in the room for their courage.
The courage to attend and event in the hopes of learning more about dating and relationships.
The courage to participate in the speed dating sessions and in the dance that would complete the night.
The courage to honor their desire to share their lives with someone else.
It was at that moment that the room was filled with so much love that I could actually feel it.
I noticed people looking at each other and smiling at one another in admiration. And Michelle and I both struggled to hold back our tears. It was one of those moments that you can’t plan for, you can’t “fake. It was one of those moments that “just happen.”
A moment of connection. A moment of shared intimacy.
And it’s those moments that make us so grateful for the privilege of doing what we do!
So, today, we honor you for your courage! For having the courage to hope and believe, and for the courage to take the steps and make the changes that will allow love to enter your life and heart!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
by heartsdesireintl | Oct 25, 2013 | breakups, Communication, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Success
by Gladys Diaz
Yesterday was a real exercise for me in being willing to step outside of my comfort zone.
On Wednesday night, I worked into the wee hours of the morning on a big project, and quite frankly did not feel very perky or pretty on Thursday! I was tired and knew I had a long day ahead of me of phone calls, research, and a webinar I was presenting that night.
At about 3:30 in the afternoon I received a call from someone who works at a local TV station saying he needed to speak with me ASAP. I called him back and he wanted to know if I could come to the studio for a segment they were doing about the benefits of online dating. Immediately I said, “Yes, of course.” That’s when he told me I needed to be there in four hours! I thought it was an upcoming interview… Not one happening that night!
I tried to get out of it. I told him I was tired and that I could pack clothes in the bags under my eyes. I also told him I had to lead a webinar at 9:00 and the segment was not airing until 8:30, and that I was sorry, but I couldn’t see how it was going to work.
That’s when he said he’d send a car to pick me up and drop me off so that I would not have drive, that he’d have a makeup artist ready to greet me when I got there, and that he’d arrange for me to have a private conference room with Internet connection so that I could go upstairs after the interview and conduct my webinar.
I thought about cancelling my webinar, but I didn’t want to do that. If this was going to work for me, I needed to be able to have it all!
At that moment, I chose to do what wasn’t comfortable.
I hurried up and finished my work; got ready, dressed and out the door, and let the ladies who’d be attending the webinar know that we might start a few minutes late.
After the webinar, I rushed upstairs, sat in an office that wasn’t my comfy home office, battled with technology to get connected to the Internet, and started the webinar 20 minutes late. Not what I like or what I’m used to.
The webinar, however, went great. The ladies waited patiently for me to get set up and were so understanding about all of the glitches that took place. Everyone participated actively, and the insights they shared at the end of the night reminded me that everything I’d done that day was worth it!
When I got up to put my things away, I looked up and saw the frame that you see as the image on this page. It read:
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
~ Neal Diamond Walsh
So, what about you? Have you been willing to step out of your comfort zone?
Have you set up that online dating profile you’ve been putting off because you feel that online dating is “unnatural” or not your cup of tea, even though it might actually be fun and you might end up meeting the man of your dreams?
Have you started smiling and flirting whenever you’re out, even though it feels “weird” or you’re afraid of being rejected?
Have you chosen to forgive your husband or boyfriend? To let go of any resentments or judgments regarding what he “should” do to make things right between you?
Have you been willing to be open, vulnerable, and allow love to flow in, to, and through you?
If you have, great! I’m excited for you and would love to hear about how you’ve been able to break out of your comfort zone and create some amazing results!
If you haven’t, would you consider stepping out in faith?
Life happens right outside of our comfort zone, and there are miracles just waiting to be manifested and experienced by you!
So, go ahead! I dare you to be happy!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
by heartsdesireintl | Oct 23, 2013 | Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
“Why does dating have to be so hard?”
“Keeping a relationship happy is hard work.”
These are comments I hear almost every day from single women and those who are in relationships, alike. What happens when we consider something to be hard, difficult, or burdensome?
We resist it!
Dating successfully and having a happy, loving relationship that lasts for a lifetime does take some work. However, it doesn’t have to be “hard work,” and knowing the skills and habits that help make it easy certainly makes the work a lot more fun!
If you don’t see dating as something that is exciting and fun, it’s probably safe to assume that you’re doing whatever you can to avoid it. Perhaps you’re choosing to sit on your couch in PJs night after night, instead of going out with your friends, dating online, or attending a party or social event. You may be avoiding eye contact with or smiling at men so that you don’t even have to deal with having an actual conversation. Or maybe you’ve taken to finding everything that is wrong with any potential suitor so you don’t have to risk the dates turning into a committed relationship.
If you don’t see relationships as fun, then it’s possible that you’re avoiding being in one at all costs. Perhaps you’re finding yourself continuously attracting men who are unavailable. Maybe you’re choosing to stay in a long-term relationship that’s not filled with romance and fun, because you really don’t see that as being possible for you. It’s also possible that you’re choosing to stay in the relationship to avoid dating (see above!).
Whatever choices you’ve been making, if you don’t see dating and relationships as fun, chances are very high that you’re avoiding them, downplaying how much you really want to be in a great relationship, and cheating yourself out of some of the most wonderful experiences of your life!
Fun relationships begin with fun dates and keeping the fun alive is one of the things that helps make love last!
So, how exactly can you ensure that you’ll have more fun on your dates and continue to have fun with the guy you choose to be the one you’ll spend the rest of your life with?
Join Michelle and me for two fun-filled events this week that are sure to change your perspective on dating and relationships and turn that smirk into a full-fledged smile!
This Wednesday, at 8:00pm, tune into Own Your Power Radio Network and join Michelle’s husband, Arnie, and me, along with show hosts, Simone Kelly and German Dubois, for a FUN and informative interview on “How to Have Him Fall in Love and Stay in Love!”
If you’re single, you’ll:
- learn how and where to meet more quality men
- discover how make dating fun
- remove the fears and excuses that stop you from meeting the man who is absolutely perfect for you
If you’re in an exclusive or committed relationship, you’ll:
- receive guidance regarding your next move
- determine whether your settling
- discover what you can do improve it
The best part is that, if you have access to the Internet, you can listen from anywhere in the world!
Tune in on Wednesday, October 23rd, from 8:00-9:30pm ET
HIT RADIO Player: www.ownyourpowerlifestyle.com
On your phone or tablet: www.live365.com/ownyourpower
The 28th
SINGLES’ LIFESTYLE EXPO
Sunday, October 27 beginning at 3:00 pm
at the Pavilion Grille, 301 Yamato Rd. Boca Raton, FL
For those of you who live in South Florida, join Michelle and me at the 28th Singles’ Lifestyle Expo this Sunday, October 27th, from 3-7pm!
We’ll be leading an interactive session where we’ll provide coaching, answer your questions, and give you practical tips for making your dating experience fulfilling and FUN!
GREAT NEWS!
You can attend this fantastic all-afternoon-and-evening session for only $5.00!
Simply text the word SINGLES and send it to 63975
Show the text you receive in response to the Registration personnel at the Expo and you’ll only pay $5.00 for the all-inclusive Expo admission!*
Spread the L-O-V-E by sharing this code with your friends!
SEE: Over 80 Exhibitors displaying products and services
specifically designed to enhance Single Living.
(3:00-6:00pm at the Trade Show)
ENJOY: Speed Dating – your chance to meet lots of new
singles while experiencing this growing and fun
phenomenon! (5:00-7:00pm)
ATTEND: Interesting, informative and entertaining seminars
about dating and relationships, including The Love
Twins, Gladys Diaz & Michelle Roza of Heart’s Desire
International:”Dating and Relationship
FUNdamentals!”
EXPERIENCE: One of South Florida’s biggest and best Singles’
Dance Parties where you’ll have the chance to meet
and mingle with hundreds of interesting,
contemporary singles. Exciting Music with live DJ
and your favorite music. (7:15-11:00pm)
PICK UP: Your free copy of the Show Directory that will feature
ads from singles’ groups and organizations, as well as
listings for all of the exhibiting companies.
For Exhibitor or Attendee Information: Contact Al Barry, Show Manager
albarry@bellsouth.net / (305) 448-7976
*Note: This offer does not supersede other advance sales already transacted – and expires Saturday 10/26/13 at 11:59 pm.
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by heartsdesireintl | Oct 13, 2013 | breakups, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Today is our birthday!!!
And because we’re so grateful for the gift of another year of life, Michelle and I are feeling really generous and want to give you a gift!
So, in honor of Birthday Week, we are slashing the price of the “From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires” Telesummit Interview Series Library by 20%! This means that you can get mp3 recordings of all 27 of the interviews with some of the leading experts in dating, relationships, healing, and transformation for the telesummit price of $77!
If you’ve experienced a heartache of any kind — a breakup, divorce, loss of a loved one, having fallen in love with who just wasn’t right for you, or you’re wondering how to heal a present relationship — these interviews will help you break through the the pain and fear of moving forward and begin to experience the life and the love your heart truly desires!
Here is what some of the women who have listened to the interview series are saying:
What an incredible interview with Julie-Anne Shapiro! I loved the part where she encouraged us to visualize our inner child and “provide her with what her heart desires”! That was a huge AHA for me! I was actually able to see the inner child in me…now I think I have an idea of what she desires Thank you again you Gladys Diaz for the incredible messages during the telesummit!!! I am so excited!!! ~ D
Hi Gladys, I just want to thank you for the love, support and wealth of inner personal growth and healing you’ve provided with those priceless presentations on your telesummit. Phenomenal is all I can say. Thank you. ~ G
Gladys, this telesummit has been informative, inspiring and very eye and heart-opening! Thank you for putting it together!!! One of my “ah-ha moments” was learning about how our negative relationship patterns get created during Stefan Gonick’s interview! ~ M
So far, these are all great! You’ve created something really wonderful :)…Thank you! ~ E
Thanks so much for putting all of these tele-interviews together, keep up the good work.
I just felt I wanted to let you know that I really enjoyed the talk with Marcy Neumann – wow! Everything she said just echoed so deeply within me, it all made so much sense, I kept taking notes and re-listening to some of the parts. She has so much wisdom to share.
Thank you again.~ L
Click here to purchase the “From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires” Telesummit Library, for 20% off the regular price now!
Lots of Love,
Michelle & Gladys
“The Twin Love Coaches”
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by heartsdesireintl | Oct 11, 2013 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
As I mentioned in my previous post, this past week I attended a Mastermind meeting that was led by my business coach with over 80 other entrepreneurs. One of the assignments we were given prior to the meeting was to be ready to present a 2-minute talk on stage. To say that I was terrified is quite the understatement!
As soon as I read those instructions – and the sentence stating that we couldn’t ask any questions regarding the assignment – I went into full-out panic mode. In an instant, all of my fears, doubts and insecurities came bubbling up to the surface. I was even angry that we were not only being told what we needed to do, but that we weren’t being given any directions except to “breathe” and do our best!
I put off working on my talk all week long. I got really “busy” doing a bunch of other stuff. It wasn’t until I landed in California and someone mentioned the assignment that I decided it would probably be a good idea to at least write something down. But nothing came. I couldn’t think of anything to write, or say on stage. And I was certain that my coach was going to call me on stage, I was going to bomb big time, and she was going to tear me apart in front of everyone!
My plan: To avoid eye contact with her and refuse to go up if she called on me!
Pretty wimpy, huh? Especially for someone who talks to women about facing and overcoming their fears!
So, as usually happens during moments like this in my life, I thought of you.
I thought about what I would ask you to help you to see what it was you are really afraid of.
Are you afraid of not ever having what you really want?
Or are you afraid that you might actually get what you really want? (Sometimes, this can be just as scary as the fear of not getting what we want!)
I realized that I was afraid of “looking bad” and that, if I didn’t do it perfectly, it meant that I wouldn’t be able to succeed – ever. I was terrified that I’d been wasting my time and that my dreams were never really going to come true.
And then, for a split second, I thought about how scary it would be if having what I want was really possible! That would mean that having the life and business that I want is completely up to me! That I would have to be responsible and be willing to do the work that it takes to make those dreams come true.
That’s what I was really afraid of!
I thought about how I’d encourage you to face your fear and do it anyway.
I thought about how I’d say to you:
That fear? It’s just a thought. It’s not even “the truth”!
It’s just a reminder of something that happened in the past – something that is not happening now. It’s not real.
I thought about how many times I’ve allowed my fears to stop me. How the fear of repeating a mistake from the past has kept me from stepping out into a new future. And how, I’ve always ended up regretting not having stepped up.
It was then that I began to sense something stirring inside of me. What was it?
Was it the determination not to have that happen again? Was it the unwillingness to remain stagnant? Was that courage bubbling up inside of me?
I thought about how courageous you are when you are willing to take a risk and be vulnerable.
I thought about how you inspire me when are courageous enough to step outside of your comfort zone and have a breakthrough that completely transforms your life.
I thought about the joy that I feel when you tell me how amazing you feel now that you have everything you’ve dreamed of and how you really didn’t believe it could happen sometimes, but you trusted me and yourself, and you did it anyway!
I thought about you…
And then, instead of waiting to be called on…
I raised my hand!
And I kept raising it… until my coach pointed at me… and I made my way to the stage!
I’d love to say that I wasn’t nervous. That when I stepped on the stage I felt confident and everything came out exactly the way that I’d planned.
The truth is that I was shaking so hard I thought the people in the front row could see it! I was so nervous that I felt as if I couldn’t take a complete breath. But the longer I stood on the stage, the stronger I felt and the words began to flow! And the feedback I was terrified of getting from my coach? It was constructive – meant to build me up, not tear me down – and I used it, right then and there, on the stage! It was amazing! I felt so empowered!
So, thank you!
Thank you for the difference you allow me to make in your life and for the incredible difference you make in mine. I’m so grateful our paths have crossed and that we’re part of one another’s journey.
And the next time you’re afraid – of admitting that you want to be in a loving, intimate relationship; of going out on a date with someone new; of apologizing to your boyfriend or husband for having said or done something you wish you hadn’t; of allowing yourself to love and be loved – I hope you’ll think of me and that you’ll be inspired to move past your fear so that you can experience the life and love your heart desires!
Question? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
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