by heartsdesireintl | May 16, 2013 | breakups, Dating, Forgiveness, HDI Blog, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Week 2 of the From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desire Telesummit has been no less amazing than the first week of empowering and transformational interviews! From the powerful messages, to the incredibly generous free gifts offered by the experts, to the amazing testimonials that fill my Inbox and our Facebook fan page every day, I can’t begin to express what a fascinating journey this has been.
My biggest take-away so far from this telesummit is the incredible privilege it is to be able to (1) live my purpose and bring this message of hope, healing, and transformation to the world, and (2) how much love there is in this amazing, beautiful world. The experts on this telesummit did not get paid, nor did they sell programs. They simply gave generously of their time and themselves, and, in doing so, we came together and created something absolutely beautiful and powerful that is changing hearts and lives all over the world.
One of the testimonials that most moved me was from a woman who is homeless and living out of her car with her dog. She lost her young only son a few years ago, found out her husband had been unfaithful throughout most of their son’s life, lost her job and, consequently, her home. She uses the Internet in public libraries, free Internet cafes, and other places that provide free Wi-Fi, and came across the telesummit. She signed up and was listening to the interviews while applying for jobs. And, despite everything she is facing – all of the heartache that she has experienced and is still going through – all she could do was thank me for the interviews and the messages she was hearing and receiving.
As I posted on Facebook the day after I received her email: If you think for one minute that when you are living your purpose it doesn’t make a difference for others… Think again!
And there’s a reason this woman was expressing thanks for the interviews. This isn’t “just another love summit.” The messages in this telesummit are power-full and provide real, concrete information about inner healing, hope, living fearlessly, and attracting love into our lives!
- On Monday,l Dr. Margaret Paul talked about “The Profound Secret to Healing Heartache.” She walked us through a healing exercise that I did as she was explaining it, and experienced a wonderful sense of healing and peace – so much so that I was moved to tears during our interview!
- Laurel House came in with guns blaring and talked about “Screwing the (Dating) Rules: The No-Games Guide to Finding True Love.” She talked about the importance of identifying your core values and one of my favorite topics: getting rid of the checklist. You know “the checklist” – that insurmountable list of criteria that only a perfectly programmed robot could meet? Yeah, that one!
- On Tuesday, Rhonda Britten started the day off with her powerful message of “Fearless Living.” She brought a whole new perspective to the way we approach fear. Rather than fear being something we feel badly for experiencing, we can now have a more compassionate view of fear and the role it plays in protecting us. And once you see fear for what it is, you can work with it!
- Dr. Dar shared how “You Absolutely Can Find and Create a Happy Relationship!” She walked us through what we can do when we feel “triggered,” and how we can choose how we respond to that feeling. She also shared about how we get to choose between “heart” and “ache”! It was brilliant!
- On Wednesday, Allana Pratt started off by talking about “Trusting Your Vulnerability.” In our conversation, she shared how having the courage to look at the choices we’ve made and with love and compassion brings forth unconditional love and allowance, which makes us magnetic to those we are loving and allowing to love us.
- Ellen Smoak shared “The Secrets to Beating a Broken Heart BEFORE it Beats You!” One of my favorite parts of the interview was when she talked about not trying to “fall out of love,” but “repurposing” that love onto yourself!
- On Thursday, Susan Lazar Hart shared how to “Reclaim Your Life, Reclaim Your Self” and talked to us about the power of “Living in the question.” She gave us a list of questions to ask ourselves so that we can move past the blocks stopping us from allowing love into our lives.
- Kara Oh shared about “The Healing Power of Self-Love.” She talked about how going through a heartache and not learning the lessons is a waste. She also talked about how, in order to change our behaviors, we can’t simply toss them out. Instead we need to replace them with new ones. She also gave us a great exercise we can use to move past pain and see the blessings in the heartache.
- On Friday, Hemal Radia talked about “Manifesting a New Relationship After Heartache.” He also talked about how to maintain and renew love in an existing relationship. One of my favorite quotes was when he said that whatever you are feeling does not have to do with the other person. It has to do with the feelings you have about yourself. Powerful!
- And Rachel DeAlto talked to us about how to “Get Your Flirt On: How to Meet Him and Keep Him,” giving us the 5 Steps to Flirting. And I love that we talked about how continuing to flirt, even once you’re married, sends the message that “Even if we weren’t in a committed relationship, I’d still date you!” How awesome is that?
And we have even more incredible interviews coming up next week, when we’ll have Dr. Ray Doktor, James Allen Hanrahan, Innessa Freylekhman, and It’s All About Women’s “Queen Esther” Brandon sharing more information on how to break through the fears, pain and emotional and physical “clutter” that are stopping you from experiencing the life and love your heart desires and that you deserve!
If you missed the interviews featured during Weeks 1 or 2, there is no need to worry! There will be a “Replay Day” on Sunday, May 19th where you’ll have an all-access pass to all previously-aired interviews! If you’d really prefer to not have to wait to listen to recordings until they air, or having to listen to them within 72 hours, after signing up you can upgrade your subscription to VIP Membership, where you’ll receive MP3 recordings of all of the interviews and links to all of the free gifts! But, first, you need to register, so go to: http://www.heartachetoheartsdesires.com NOW!
To read what people are saying about the From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires Telesummit, see the testimonials below!
What an incredible interview with Julie-Anne Shapiro! I loved the part where she encouraged us to visualize our inner child and “provide her with what her heart desires”! That was a huge AHA for me! I was actually able to see the inner child in me…now I think I have an idea of what she desires 🙂 Thank you again you Gladys Diaz for the incredible messages during the telesummit!!! I am so excited!!! ~ D
I am trying to get the whole world to join in. It’s amazing! ~ Y
I am so grateful for this telesummit! I SO NEED it! Thank-you for putting it together. And for making the replays 72 hours instead of the usual 48 hours we see out there. You are FANTASTIC! ~ L
Hi Gladys, I just want to thank you for the love, support and wealth of inner personal growth and healing you’ve provided with those priceless presentations on your telesummit. Phenomenal is all I can say. Thank you. ~ G
Gladys, this telesummit has been informative, inspiring and very eye and heart-opening! Thank you for putting it together!!! One of my “ah-hah moments” was learning about how our negative relationship patterns get created during Stefan Gonick’s interview! ~ M
Questions? Comments? Let us know! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | May 10, 2013 | breakups, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, HDI Blog, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
This was Week 1 of the From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires Telesummit. It has been a week filled with details: emails, interviews, technology issues. And it has been a week filled with miracles, too! Being able to connect with people all over the world (over 1500, so far) and share a message of love, healing, hope, and the promise of new beginnings has been – while at times overwhelming – a beautiful journey!
Heartache is not the most “fun” topic to discuss. When a relationship ends, due to a breakup, divorce, or death, or when it begins to unravel, the pain is real. As the experts who have been sharing on the telesummit have said, there are real physical effects to the heart, nervous system, and other parts of our bodies; there are emotional effects in the form of anger, sadness, confusion, and disappointment; as well as the grieving of the hopes and dreams we had envisions for ourselves. There’s no doubt about it: The pain of heartache is real.
What’s optional, however, is suffering.
It would be strange and unnatural to invest your time, attention, and love and then not feel anything when it’s over. But suffering is a choice. You can either choose to stay in the grief, the anger, the resentment, or you can choose to acknowledge it, allow yourself to feel it, and then let it go. You can choose to close off your heart – shutting out any possibility of giving and receiving love – or you can choose to step beyond what feels safe and allow love to flow to and through you.
But how do you begin to let go of the suffering so that you can begin to live and love again?
Well, if you’ve been participating in the telesummit, you’ve heard different experts share a variety of ways to begin moving beyond the fear and pain and moving toward a new future filled with the possibility of love!
- Julie-Anne Shapiro shared how to bring love and forgiveness to your inner child and about making a Soul Commitment to having the love your heart desires.
- Julie Ferman spoke of being present and approaching dating and love as a journey.
- Stephan Gonnick walked us through exercises to move through the three universal blocks that keep us from experiencing love.
- Marni Battista explained how we can avoid the #1 relationship killer: the need to be right.
- Jennifer Grace shared some daily practices that will help us begin to heal and discover the love that’s already inside of us.
- Laura Doyle talked about how to avoid the four major mistakes women make when it comes to creating a loving relationship.
- Marcy Neumann shared how it’s in letting go that we can let love in.
- Charles J. Orlando explained how we can kill the endless cycle of unfulfilling relationships.
- And, today, Jennifer Hadley shares how we can “unbreak” our hearts; and
- Debi Berndt and Dr. Roberto Maldonado share how to create “conscious chemistry,” rather than falling into the trap of unconscious “default” relationship patterns.
And this is just in the first 5 days of the telesummit! We still have another 8 days to go!
Here’s what some participants are saying:
What an incredible interview with Julie-Anne Shapiro! I loved the part where she encouraged us to visualize our inner child and “provide her with what her heart desires”! That was a huge AHA for me! I was actually able to see the inner child in me…now I think I have an idea of what she desires. 🙂 Thank you again you Gladys Diaz for the incredible messages during the telesummit! I am so excited!!! ~ D
Thank you so much for putting this program together. It’s been wonderful so far. I am sure the rest will be fabulous, too.
Thanks to all of your guests and especially to Laura Doyle for her great generosity in giving this huge gift to this sweet community. ~ M
Thanks so much for putting all of these tele-interviews together, keep up the good work.
I just felt I wanted to let you know that I really enjoyed the talk with Marcy Neumann – wow! Everything she said just echoed so deeply within me, it all made so much sense, I kept taking notes and re-listening to some of the parts. She has so much wisdom to share.
Thank you again.
It was lovely today, and it will help me to take one step at a time to figure out where my GPS is going to lead me, but I must identify that myself too. ~ L in Austria
I am trying to get the whole world to join in. It’s amazing! ~ Y
If you missed part of Week 1, there is no need to worry! There will be a “Replay Day” on Sunday, May 13th where you’ll be able to listen to all of the available interviews – even the ones that have expired! If you’d really prefer to not have to wait to listen to recordings until they air, or having to listen to them within 72 hours, after signing up you can upgrade your subscription to VIP Membership, where you’ll receive MP3 recordings of all of the interviews and links to all of the free gifts! But you need to register, so go to: http://www.heartachetoheartsdesires.com NOW!
Comments? Questions? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | May 1, 2013 | breakups, Dating, HDI Blog, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
As I continue to interview experts for the “From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires” Telesummit, my heart smiles each time one of them says something that reaffirms the message Michelle and I are committed to sharing with the world: The relationship of your dreams is something you create!
I’ve gathered over 20 of the leading experts in dating, relationships, healing and transformation to share with women – whether they are single or in relationships – how they can move past the pain and fear of heartache and move toward creating and experiencing the life and love their hearts desires. These experts are from all over the world. And, while some of them know or have heard of one another, I have to believe that it’s more than a “coincidence” that a recurring theme in many of the interviews is this:
Love is something you create, and it begins with your thoughts and words!
The power of our thoughts and the words we think and speak about dating, love, and relationships create our experience of what dating and being in a relationship is like for us. If you think and talk about how dating is a waste of time, that it’s “hard,” and that there are no good men out there, then you can expect to either not be approached for dates or go out on date after date that leads nowhere. If you spend time thinking and talking about how relationships are hard, how marriages don’t last, and how love eventually fades away, then you can expect to struggle in your relationships, consider and threaten divorce when things get tough, and to have very little romance in your relationship or marriage. And what we tell ourselves about how worthy we are of giving and receiving love has a huge impact on how “love-able” (able to love and be loved) we allow ourselves to be.
While it can seem like we have very little control over who we fall in love with, how the relationship turns out, and what our experience of being in the relationship is or will be, the truth is that everything that is happening (or not happening) in our lives and in our relationships is being influenced by our own thoughts and words.
That’s why creating this telesummit has become more than just a “great idea” or a nice project. It’s become a mission. A mission to end the trap of heartache – where remaining in the pain and sadness seems “safer” than moving forward, doing the work to heal and empower ourselves, and creating the love we say we desire! With each interview you will hear about how to identify and remove the fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs that are keeping you from experiencing the love that is already waiting for you!
Whether you are single and looking to attract the love your heart desires, you are in a relationship where your heartache stems from wondering what happened and whether you can turn things around and experience the romance and intimacy you once shared, or you want to take your love to a new level, I invite you to sign up for the telesummit, and to share it with the women in your life. There are people in our lives whose hearts are breaking, and we can bring a message of hope, healing, and new beginnings into their lives.
So, will you do it? Will you join us on this beautiful journey within? Will you share it with your friends who may be waiting to hear the message that is going to change their lives and help them open their hearts up to love?
I’m on a mission to end heartache and to let women know that they can have the love they deserve and that their hearts desire. I’d love for you to join me in this mission. Together we can change the world one woman, one heart at a time!
Click here to learn more and sign up to participate in the “From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires” Telesummit and to share it with the women in your life!
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by heartsdesireintl | Sep 28, 2012 | Dating, HDI Blog, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance
One of the best parts of working with women as a relationship coach is being able to celebrate with them when they experience a breakthrough. By definition, a breakthrough is when you move beyond where you usually stop yourself – because of your reasons, excuses, doubts or fears – and take an action that is a victory over the past.
While a lot of the women who work with Heart’s Desire are looking to learn the skills and habits that will help them take their lives and relationships to the next level, many of them come to us in moments of “crisis.” This usually means that they have just suffered a breakup, separation, or divorce and are looking for support in getting through it, or they are on the brink of a divorce and are looking for that “last thing” they can do to help turn their relationship around.
Are you one of those women? Are you tired of the tears, the frustration, and the loneliness? Are you willing to be courageous and take a journey within? Do you know someone who could use support? If so, read on and share this message with them!
It’s not “easy” reaching out for help, especially when it comes to relationships. It takes something to be willing to turn the mirror around, look at it and ask yourself, “What else can I do – even if he says he is not willing to try anymore ?” No, this is far from being easy. And, yet, the women we work with – these courageous, powerful, strong women – are willing to be vulnerable; to accept where they’ve been responsible in having the relationship get to the point where it is; and to take new, bold, and courageous actions that lead to incredible breakthroughs! It’s inspiring, and I never take for granted the trust that my clients put in me when they open up their hearts to the possibility of transforming themselves and their relationships.
So, what can you do if you are experiencing trouble in your relationship?
1. Stop wishing and hoping for change. I can’t tell you how many times I receive calls and emails from women who share with me that they have been experiencing problems in their marriage for years – some of them since before they got married. Research shows that most people wait six years before they seek out help for their relationship, even when all the signs have been pointing to the fact that there is “trouble.” There is this popular misconception that problems in relationships are “just a phase” and that “this, too, shall pass.” While I agree that everything – even problems – is temporary, just sitting around, hoping and waiting that something will “magically” change, without putting in some intentional work is not only unrealistic, but it’s instrumental in the gradual decay of an intimate relationship. Acknowledge that where your relationship is is not where you want it to be. It’s okay. Things can and will get better once you begin to work on it!
2. Take a Look in the Mirror. Yes, it’s true that “It takes two to tango” and that a relationship is made up of twopeople. It’s also true that you can’t control what he says, does, or believes, and that trying to do that will only lead to more distance, resentment, and friction in the relationship. The only thing in this entire world that you can control 100% is YOU – your thoughts, words, actions, and reactions. So, rather than looking for all of the things that he could be doing differently or that he has done in the past to get the relationship to where it is now, be willing to look within to see where you can own the part that you’ve played and where you are willing to make changes.
3. Reach out for support. As I mentioned, before, it can be scary to admit that things are not well in the relationship and to be vulnerable enough to share that with someone. Now, you want to be really selective of who you tell. The last thing you need is for people who do not believe in or who are not standing for the restoration of your relationship to be giving you “advice.” Many times, people, although well-intentioned, will give you advice based on their own experiences and fears, rather than on proven-to-work skills and habits that lead to healing and transformation. Seek out happily married women whose relationships you admire and ask them for support as you begin the journey to restoring your marriage or relationship. Seek out a relationship coach who, rather than giving you “therapy” or “counseling,” will equip you with practical skills you can begin implementing right away so that you can begin to experience immediate results.
4. Be willing to breakthrough! Many times, the coaching and advice you receive is going to sound “foreign” or “unnatural.” Why? Because it will take you to the brink of your comfort zone and require you to consider things you haven’t considered, take actions you haven’t taken, and adopt new thoughts and beliefs. Your natural “survival instinct” will most likely kick in, telling you you’re being “too vulnerable,” taking too much of a risk, and that “it’s not working.” It didn’t take a day to get to where your relationship is now, so it will likely take longer than a day to turn things around. And, if you want to experience different results, you’re going to need to take different actions, right? So, be willing to feel afraid, uncertain, and vulnerable. And do it anyway. That’s what your coach is there for: to encourage, support and help you through those times of uncertainty. Remember, it’s in that space right beyond our comfort zone that miracles happen! So, go ahead! Create and step into your own miracle!
Being willing to take on the transformation of your relationship can seem daunting, and it may seem like too much work and too much risk without an iron-clad guarantee that you’ll see results. However, I can guarantee one thing for sure: If you are willing and courageous enough to take the journey within, to focus on transforming your own behaviors and attitudes, and to do the work, you will also reap the rewards: The confidence that comes with knowing that you are becoming the BEST version of yourself; the peace that comes with knowing that you are only trying to control that which is within your power; and the joy of seeing your relationship transform before your very eyes! And, that, my friends, is worth doing whatever it takes!
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Week 2 of the From Heartache to Your Heart’s Desire Telesummit has been no less amazing than the first week of empowering and transformational interviews! From the powerful messages, to the incredibly generous free gifts offered by the experts, to the amazing testimonials that fill my Inbox and our Facebook fan page every day, I can’t begin to express what a fascinating journey this has been.
