How to Have It All… (Success in Life AND Love)

How to Have It All… (Success in Life AND Love)

by | Sep 23, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship Advice, Romance, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

There are so many women who believe they have to choose between having a successful business or a great relationship.  They truly don’t believe it’s possible to have both.  

Here’s the deal: If you believe you can’t have both, you’re living in a scarcity conversation, and you’re actually blocking the success you could be experiencing in BOTH!

So many of our clients are rocking it in their business as well as their love lives. 

And we are too!

That’s why, we know that not only is it possible for you to have both – it actually makes all of it even better!

High-quality men want to support, be in contribution to, and pour into a high-quality woman. 

Men want to support us.

I’ll never forget, years back, when I was crying, sitting in a restaurant with tears flowing down my face because I’d just been on the phone with my business coach.

I was feeling so defeated that I didn’t know what all of the tech terms meant or what all of this software I needed was, and didn’t know how I was ever going to be successful in my business when I felt so clueless about this aspect of running a business.

Ric saw the opportunity, and he literally learned how to create funnels, build websites and do all-things-tech related to our business, simply as a result of wanting to support me and my dream.

It’s okay if you don’t have a clue what any of those things mean either, what matters is that all these years later and I can’t even imagine where I, or Hearts Desire for that matter, would be without him.

The other reason why men love being with high-quality, successful, driven women is because it inspires them to be more.

I’ll also never forget the day when I heard Ric, my soft-spoken husband, stand on one of our stages at an event and say, “Seeing how committed Gladys is to her own transformation inspires me to become a better man.”

Definitely another tearful moment for me!

Until then I knew he admired the things I did, my career, and professional accomplishments.  

But that day, he was talking about what he admired about ME and the woman I AM!  

No award, degree, or certificate I’ve earned can hold a candle to that!

The most beautiful thing about creating a partnership with someone who loves and admires you AND your determination and commitment in the world is what you can create together.

It gives you the opportunity to lean on one another and lift each other up when you have days where you’re having a hard time seeing it in yourself.

Supportive partners see you, experience you and hear you in a way that you sometimes fail to see, and they share your life, your success, and all of the ordinary-extraordinary moments with you as you continue to strive for success in all areas of your life.

When you know that you’re a love-able woman, then you can attract someone who believes that, too.

When you’re honest and authentic about who you are, that’s when you’ll find the man who will love you completely.

When you trust yourself, love yourself, and know that you’re capable of creating an amazing relationship in your life, you WILL!

This is what I know was true for me and, it’s  true for you too.

Got a Question About Online Dating? Here’s the Answer!

Got a Question About Online Dating? Here’s the Answer!

by | Sep 9, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Success

by Gladys Diaz

What is the number one question you have when it comes to online dating?

These are the questions we get asked the most…. 

❓ Why do I keep attracting the wrong kind of men? 

❓ Why are none of the men I’m matching with reaching out? 

❓ What should I include in my profile? 

❓ What shouldn’t I include?

❓ What sites are the best to get on? 

❓ What type of photos should I use? 

We’re going to be answering ALL of these questions, plus more on Saturday at the Ultimate Attraction Workshop, but we wanted to give you just a few tips today. 

When it comes to online dating, your profile is the most important part! 

Why? 

Because you have 3-6 seconds to capture a man’s attention which means your photos and the first sentence of your profile must be captivating! 

Here’s what NOT to do: 

DON’T start with a list of adjectives

DON’T include a list of things you like to do

DON’T put a timeline of your life

DON’T list all of your educational or professional credentials

DON’T put pictures of you with alcohol or showing too much skin

DON’T use sarcasm or put yourself down

You want your profile to showcase who you really are! 

You want it to be refreshing, different and full of depth. The more natural it sounds, the more receptive men will be to it so make sure it shows your authentic you!

So what should you do?

If you want to find out and are ready to start attracting the right kind of men, join us from 12-3pm EST on Saturday for the Ultimate Attraction Workshop! 

We’re going to be teaching you exactly what you need to know to have clarity around what to do before, during and after you create your online dating profile so that you attract high-quality, commitment-minded, ready-for-love men who will be ready to partner with you in creating the relationship of your dreams!

We’ll be answering your questions, giving you coaching and having hands-on activities so that you walk away with a profile that starts giving you the results you’ve been waiting for.

Have Online Dating Work for you Now!

Stop wasting your time attracting the wrong men online and learn how to create a profile that attracts the high quality, commitment-minded man you want to meet, get to know and marry! 

 

Break Your TRIGGERS To Be the Irresistible YOU!

Break Your TRIGGERS To Be the Irresistible YOU!

by | Aug 29, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Parenting, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Imagine you were in a conversation with someone where you felt upset, pressured, threatened or angry.

How would you normally respond?

There was a time when I would get into arguments with people, over things that didn’t even matter the next day.

I would be so sure that I was right…

…there’d be a big blow-up, and then…

…I’d just move on like they never existed.

That worked for me – until it didn’t.

When I started to recognize how distant all of my relationships were and how impossible I was making it to get close enough to anyone to create an intimate, loving, supportive partnership – I knew something needed to change!

Can you relate?

When our fear response is set off, our “reptilian brain” kicks in and our human, automatic response is triggered. Hormones are released, the subconscious is activated and an emotional response ensues.

And whatever you do when that situation arises is what you do – without even thinking about it.

You either: 

  1. FIGHT – You lash out with criticism, bitterness, yelling and insults in an attempt to deal with the fear and hurt you’re feeling. You have an “adult temper tantrum” and everyone has to know you’re upset. 
  2. FREEZE – You hold in your feelings and internalize your anger, eventually creating sickness in your body.
  3. FLEE – You withdraw, avoid and numb out your emotions. 

What’s your pattern when your triggers are set off?

When this automatic pattern is triggered, you’re not even aware of what’s happening.

You’re not conscious that you could be doing things another way. You feel great in the moment, but then, when the adrenaline wears off – you have the emotional hangover that you don’t know what to do with.

The thing is, there’s something bigger underneath it all.

The pattern is simply the coping mechanism you developed as a child to deal with the pain, hurt and heartbreak and when those fears that are still present for you are triggered – your pattern goes off.

The thing about love and intimate relationships is that these patterns simply don’t work. There’s nothing men despise more than drama.

What men want more than anything else is a woman who’s emotionally mature – even more than they want someone they’re physically attracted to!

They want a woman who knows herself, knows her triggers and has learned how to handle her emotions with grace.

The good news is there’s a way you can break these patterns.

It’s possible to feel your feelings, communicate your needs AND show up the way you want to! 


It’s not about perfection, it’s about being able to get upset and handle it with grace.

If you don’t want to continue the patterns of your past, you get to create not just new ways – but effective ways to do things differently.

If you want to attract a man who’s a match for you, then you get to BE the woman that’s going to attract that.

This is why we’re so passionate about you joining us at Irresistible Woman LIVE!

Over the course of 3 days we’ll be doing the HeartWork necessary to release the pain of the past and give you the tools to be able to communicate and relate to yourself and others effectively!

You’ll come out of the three-day weekend event KNOWING not only that you ARE an Irresistible Woman but also be able to show up as her in every area of your life!

What’s possible when you show up that way is literally incredible.

And that’s what we want for you!

There’s only one more day – TODAY – to grab your ticket to Irresistible Woman LIVE PLUS all of the bonuses we’re currently offering for $97.

Tonight at midnight Eastern time the price is going up and the bonuses are going away, so if you’ve been on the fence – the time to act is now.

Grab the Ultimate Love Bundle!

If you have toxic patterns, you’ll attract toxic men and create toxic relationships.

It’s just that simple. 

When you learn how to rewrite those patterns and show up as the graceful, beautiful, Irresistible Woman that you are – that’s when the magic happens!

When you’re able to have circumstances show up and you’re unchanged – that’s real power!

Join us at The Irresistible Woman LIVE and step into your power now!

What Your Negative Thoughts Really Mean (And How To Shift Them)

What Your Negative Thoughts Really Mean (And How To Shift Them)

by | Aug 13, 2022 | Uncategorized

by Gladys Diaz

Does it seem like you always attract men who are less than what you want in a partner?

Do you attract men who you feel are “out of your league” and then feel insecure and awkward when you’re around them?

Are you creating the experiences that you feel you deserve?

Do you know that you are worthy of the love you want? 

Here’s the thing – Everyone is worthy of love and prosperity. You are simply because you are. There’s nothing you have to do to earn it and there’s nothing you could do to “mess it up.”

The question is then – do you believe it?

If you’re not creating exactly what you want to experience in partners and relationships – consider that there’s a limiting belief that’s operating in the background.

There’s a fear that’s based on something you’ve done, been through or survived that had you begin to doubt your worth and create a belief that you aren’t good enough or that you don’t deserve the love that you want.

The kicker is that these fears usually don’t present themselves as “I’m not worthy” or “I don’t deserve what I want.”

We talk to strong, determined, successful women all the time who are certain they don’t have a worthiness conversation going on because they can’t see it.

But as they work with us they see that it’s there and it’s sneaky.

It doesn’t sound like “I’m not worthy of being loved.”

What it does sound like is:

    • “I’m not pretty enough.” 
    • “I’m not skinny enough.”
    • A man will never choose me.” 
    • “No wonder he’s with her, she’s more outgoing and fun than me.”
    • “What’s my problem? How come I can’t find the love that I want?”
    • “That’s it! I’m going to take a break from dating.”
    • “Here we go again – this is why I’ll always be single.”
    • What does it sound like for you? 

These thoughts are an indication that there’s a limiting belief in your blindspot that you don’t believe you deserve what you want in life and love.

They’re like the “check engine light” for your soul asking that you look a little deeper.

The energetic truth is that you’ll attract that which is a match for what you feel and believe you deserve.

So how do you shift into the courage to believe? 

You must stop being afraid to be afraid.

What do we mean by that?

Get curious!

Choose to look at the thoughts and behaviors that are standing in the way between you and the extraordinary love that you want.

Pay attention to the thoughts and feelings that you have.

If you feel angry – what are you mad at? 

If you feel fear – what are you afraid of?

If you feel sad – what hurt you?

Then ask yourself if it reminds you of something that happened in the past. 

What happened right before you had that thought? 

This is what we’ll be doing next week in the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

The game we’ll be playing is being brave enough to look at what’s in the way and doing the work to break through it!

We’ll be looking at the negative thoughts that have been haunting you for 5, 10, 20, 50 years of your life….

And breaking through them in 5 DAYS so you can begin to attract what is aligned with who you are and what you want so you can create the relationship of your dreams!

Join us for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

Worthiness is a decision you make. Deservingness is knowing that you can have it. 

Decide right now that you deserve everything that you want and then register for the challenge by clicking below.

>>>>>>> https://reallovebreakthrough.com/

Next week is going to be incredible! We can’t wait to see you there.

How To Take Control of the Negative Thoughts In Your Head!

How To Take Control of the Negative Thoughts In Your Head!

by | Aug 8, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

How can you decipher the “truth” of what goes on inside your head?

How do you know if the negative thoughts you have (that we all have by the way) are what’s “real” or if they’re simply something you’re imagining, a limiting belief you have from the past or a “trigger”.

Here’s a secret for you…

90% of the thoughts you have are negative. Can you believe that?!

Those thoughts are not always, “the world is coming to an end” type of thoughts, but they are some form of fear, worry or anxiety.

This is true for us, for you and for every other person on the planet.

Why?

Because we’re human.

We’re designed to survive. It’s built into us to look for outside circumstances that may cause us harm.

Here’s the thing though…

Most of us no longer live in a world where we need to be on the constant look-out for danger.

Unfortunately our brains don’t know that and continue to throw worrying thoughts at you all day long!

When it comes to dating and relationships these negative thoughts might look like…

…”Why is my boyfriend going on a 3-day work trip with that female colleague of his? They usually only go for 2 days.”

… “Why hasn’t that guy called me yet? He said he would – he must be a flake!”

… “This guy is amazing! I can’t believe how much fun we’re having together. When am I going to find out the truth about him?”

… “Why is my husband always looking at his phone? Am I not interesting enough to want to talk to?”

You get the idea.

What are some of the negative thoughts that are currently impacting your love life?

The kicker is that all negative thoughts (left unchecked) lead to negative actions. These negative actions usually lead to some sort of emotional spin or fall-out.

Which is super unfortunate – especially if the negative thought is something that’s not even real right?!

So – what can you do to interrupt those negative thoughts so you don’t become the crazy lady that’s stalking your husband’s phone, doing late night drive-bys of your boyfriend’s house or constantly finding reasons to text the guy you just met.

(We’ve been there and chances are you have to.)

1) When a negative or fearful thought enters your mind – count to 3, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What am I making this mean?”

By doing this you’re interrupting the pattern. We aren’t always in control of the thoughts that come into our mind, but we are in control of what we do with them.

When you take a moment to pause – you’re taking control and beginning to have a conscious conversation with yourself rather than reacting to whatever’s happening inside or outside.

2) Do the HeartWork to uncover what’s underneath these thoughts. Get to the root of what has you feeling insecure, jealous, worried or afraid.

This is so important because if you don’t heal the root wound – nothing will ever change. You’ll constantly find reasons to continue to believe that you aren’t good enough, that men aren’t reliable or good or that you’ll never have the love you dream of.

Until you heal the thing that’s causing the negative belief in the first place, you’ll continue to experience the same worries, fear and insecurities.

Are you ready for something more?

Are you ready to take control of your thoughts and become the confident woman that KNOWS she is SAFE and LOVEABLE?

If you answered yes, then join us next week for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

This challenge is 5 days of high energy, high fun, and high power transformation that will have you breakthrough what’s standing between you and the real love, happiness, connection and intimacy that you want.

Join us for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge here!

At the end of next week you’ll know exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship that you dream about and you will have broken through the thing that is continuing to stop you from creating it.

Your time is now!

Don’t waste another day swimming through the negative thoughts in your head.

Take control and begin creating the life and love you want now!

 

Join us here. We can’t wait to see you there.