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Trust Yourself to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 6, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you trust yourself?

Do you feel like you’re someone you can count on?

Do you feel confident in your ability to make the right choices?

Do you believe that you’ll be able to make the big life-changing decisions that will be best for you?

If you don’t trust yourself, you’ll find yourself struggling to make choices (especially big ones!) and then doubting the decision once you do.

This is a stressful way to live!

It also doesn’t lead to being able to create the relationship (and life) of your dreams.

If you answered yes to any of those questions above, what made you stop trusting yourself?

Maybe it was a decision you made that didn’t work out?

Or possibly you realized that you’d made a choice that you’d known wasn’t good for you and it turned out badly?

Or it could be that you simply don’t follow through with the things you say you will do (like waking up at a certain time, exercising daily, etc.) which eventually leads to you feeling like you can’t count on yourself.

When these things go unhealed, the trust in yourself fades and you begin to doubt even the most basic of decisions.

Sound familiar?

So, how do you rebuild that trust so you can feel confident in your ability to be the leader of your life?

Recognize what you’re still holding onto that’s causing you to doubt yourself.

The first thing you need to do in the process of rebuilding trust with yourself is to recognize what it was that began the erosion of trust in the first place.

For example, one of our clients had married a man who she’d known was not good for her. Before they got married, her intuition had tried to warn her he had character flaws she shouldn’t overlook but she chose to marry him anyways.

After years of dishonesty and affairs, and a few children later, she finally removed herself from the situation but she continued to carry that around with her.

She thought that if she continued to hold that decision from years ago against herself that it would help her to not make the same mistake again.

But that’s not how it works.

When you continue to hold something against yourself that you did in the past all you’re actually doing is perpetuating the experience of doubting yourself which will only lead to the same experiences you’ve created in the past.

So what do you do?

Accept the impact that the decision had on your life and forgive yourself.

You must accept the things in your life that the decision created for you and then stop holding onto the past.

Have it be okay that the woman that made the decision you made, was doing the best she could do at the time! It’s easy to look back and wish we’d chosen differently with what we know now, but unfortunately that’s not how it works. We learn from our mistakes and seeing them as opportunities for growth helps you to forgive yourself.

When you forgive yourself and let go of the past, you open up the opportunity for new experiences to come in. The energy that you were using to continually beat yourself up, you can now take and use to create something extraordinary.

Identify the values you have for yourself and consistently move forward with them.

Once you’ve let go of the past, forgiven yourself and committed to moving forward then you must do so with integrity and consistency to rebuild that broken trust!

Identify what you value, what matters to you most, and do those things consistently.

If you say you’ll wake up at 6am every morning, do it! If you say you’ll exercise 3 times this week, make sure it happens!

Become the kind of person you can count on because if you end up snoozing the alarm and not getting out of bed until 7 or if you only exercise 1 or 2 times when you said 3… it will continue to be hard to trust yourself.

The more you’re able to count on yourself, the more you’ll believe in your ability to create the relationship of your dreams!

You may need some support with any of these steps and if you do, that’s where we come in! A lifetime of doubting yourself makes it difficult to believe you can create the things that you want.

If you’d like support identifying what it is that has you doubting yourself, figuring out how to forgive yourself and let it go, or create some accountability in consistently moving forward with your goals and rebuilding that trust with yourself, book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

Remember, you are not your decisions or your mistakes.

Open yourself up and free your heart, mind and soul so that you irresistible essence can shine through!

How to Get Unstuck and Experience Love Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 12, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Are you having a hard time getting over a past relationship?

Have you done everything you know to do, and you still find yourself longing for someone that’s long gone?

When thinking about that past relationship, do you find yourself thinking…

…“But I still love him.”

…“I really thought he was the one.”

…“How will I know I’m choosing the right man next time, when I was wrong this time?”

We hear these things from women all the time, and if you’re in this position right now, we’re here to call you forward and say: It’s time to let it go!

If you’re still energetically connected to someone, whether you say you are or not, then it’s really difficult (if not impossible!) for someone new to come into your life.

And, even if you do meet someone who you’re compatible with, the chemistry’s there, and you have a great time with him, it will still feel like something is off.

It’s simply not possible to create something new and lasting if there is something in the space that you haven’t let go of.

If you’ve been “getting over someone” for 9 months, 2 years, 12 years, 40 years, it’s time to get curious about why feel as if you’re not able to move on.

What’s really keeping you stuck?

Sometimes it’s the person and the past relationship you feel you can’t let go of.

Sometimes it’s the idea of the past relationship that you’ve glorified in your mind that’s keeping you stuck.

But, more often than not, it’s the fear that you won’t be able to feel the same way you felt about that someone again, and you’re afraid to let go and even try.

Here’s the thing…

Think about when you were a little girl at recess, swinging on the monkey bars.
You couldn’t just hang on to one bar forever, right?
At some point, you had to have the courage to let go of one hand so that you could move forward.
And then you had to do the same thing with the other hand: Let go… and move forward.

It’s the same thing when it comes to moving forward from a past relationship.

You have to find the courage to let go of the past in order to move forward and create something new.

The work there is to do is to accept what actually happened in the past relationship and complete it so that you can be present in current experiences, move forward and be happy NOW!

You don’t have to let go of the love you had/have for that person. You can choose to love him forever, if you want to.

What you do need to let go of is the attachment to being with him and having him be a part of your life… even if that part is only in your head.

We believe there are people that come into our lives to teach us things or give us experiences that we need to have.

When you can accept that a past relationship was simply that, and you are able to release it and move forward, that’s when magic starts to occur.

Letting go and moving on from someone doesn’t have to take a year OR years!

When you make yourself the victim of someone else’s choices, it robs you of your power and you sacrifice:

Having happiness now
Experiencing the relationship of your dreams now
Attracting the man that will love you fully and completely for the rest of your life
And everything else your heart desires

When you stop allowing someone else to determine whether or not you get to have the relationship of your dreams, you take back your power and you begin to attract men who are right for you now.

If you’re ready to let go of your past and move forward into the love you dream about then let go of one hand and join us this weekend for the Extraordinary Love Intensive! This 3-day event starts TODAY at 12:00pm ET, and it’s exactly what you need to get unstuck right now.

At the event we’re going to take you through a specific exercise that will have you recognize what it is that you need to let go of and give you the exact steps that you’ve felt incapable of taking before.

Join us at the Extraordinary Love Intensive

We know you aren’t staying stuck on purpose, but without knowing these steps, you are playing trial and error with your heart, causing yourself unnecessary heartache, and we want you to get unstuck now!

You will leave the event with crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do so that you can start moving forward on the monkey bars of your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams!!!

I’m ready right now!

Confidence is the KEY to Attracting the Right Man

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 5, 2021 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

What comes to mind when you hear the word confidence?

More specifically, what do you think of when you hear the term “confident woman”?

Confidence looks like:

Self-assurance
Unwavering
Having morals and boundaries
Trusting yourself
Powerful
At ease, even if you’re nervous
And more!

Confidence is what has people — including the right man — notice you. That energy is what attracts men to you and has them want to get to know you.

On the other hand, “fake confidence,” you know that “fake-it-til-you-make-it” or “I’ve-got-it-all-together” attitude, are what repel a man.

That fake confidence feels like a struggle, because all of your energy is going into keeping up the facade.

And, even if you can keep up the facade (though it’s not fun for you!), it simply won’t work. A man wants to feel like the person he’s sitting across from is the person she says she is – and there are few things that will make a man run faster than catching onto that that isn’t the case.

So how do you develop this type of confidence? The confidence that will not only attract the right men to you, but have them stay?

💜 You heal yourself and break free from the love barriers that are holding you down.

💜 You break free from your limiting beliefs that tell you something is wrong with you or that you’re “broken”

💜 You do the HeartWork and create new experiences and thought patterns

💜 You learn to believe that real confidence looks like knowing you’re going to make mistakes and that you’re not always going to have it all together, and that’s okay

💜 You get clear on what you want and who you are so that you can be crystal-clear about the kind of woman you are and the kind of love you want to experience

The absolute truth is this… There’s nothing wrong with you. You aren’t broken. You have everything you need to create the relationship of your dreams.

And that relationship begins with you.

When you truly heal and break free from the doubts holding you back, then you get to love freely and feel assured in your choices.

When I discovered the things that I was covering up and had the courage to work through them, it took a very short amount of time before the type of men I started attracting started to shift.

When I finally understood that it didn’t have to be hard for me, that I was LUCKY to be me, and that any man that gets to be with me is lucky, too – everything changed.

That’s the kind of shift that will have you attracting the RIGHT man and manifesting the life and love your heart desires!

It’s also the kind of shift that will have you trust yourself to make the right choices!

If that’s the kind of confidence you want, then make sure you join us tomorrow for the Attract the RIGHT Man Webinar!

This 3-hour exclusive training is going to support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you are creating the relationship of your dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

You’ll start to understand the things you can do to easily exude confidence in every area of your life.

AND we’ll be giving you the 3 KEY pieces you need to start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams!

I’m ready to attract the man of my dreams!

Clarity and certainty lead to confidence. Join us tomorrow so you can begin to feel safe, confident, and secure within yourself and create the life and love you want and deserve NOW!

The BEST Way to Easily Attract the Love You Want

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 5, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever find yourself lying in bed at night thinking these types of thoughts?

“Why didn’t I say the thing that I wanted to say on the date tonight?”

“I wonder if he hasn’t called because I told him I wanted to wait to have sex. Will anyone ever want to wait for me?”

“Am I going to lose myself again if I get into another relationship?”

“Do I need to compromise my values so that I can find a man?”

“Should I just settle for the guy who comes close to what I’m looking for?

Because of the years of work we’ve done with the thousands of women we’ve supported over the years, we know that these thoughts come up often when dating (and even when you’re in a relationship or when you’re married!).

If you’ve spent years learning how to “strategically” date, trying a bunch of different tactics to see if they , turning yourself into who you think you need to be in order for a man to be the right match, and not honoring your values or boundaries – after a while, you end up wondering who this version of you is and where the real you went.

That’s what makes dating and relationships so scary – not trusting that you won’t lose yourself in a relationship.

You worry about this because…

you’ve done it before.
you’ve convinced yourself that you have to be a certain way in order for a man to like you.
you’ve tried being yourself, and you feel like it doesn’t work.

What if you didn’t have to worry about this anymore?

What if you knew, not only exactly who you are, but what you desire so that you could start being 100% true to yourself in your relationships.

What if you were transforming and becoming the most authentic version of yourself, and that the men you associated with could see and be attracted to that?

Well, guess what? It can be true for you.

One of our clients recently said, “Now that I’ve been coaching with these amazing women, I’m finally getting that the work I get to do is about me and I’m falling in love with all the parts of myself.”

And that is having her attract a completely different type of man!

That’s what’s so powerful about the work we do with women.

When you can be true to yourself yourself and show up as 100% authentically, beautifully YOU, then you will attract the man that you want.

When you do the Heartwork, you get that you don’t need to focus on the man — not the man you’re attracting or the one you’re with.

You get that the one and only thing in this life that you have 100% control over is you, and you get that when you focus on you, the man you want will show up.

That’s why we’re hosting something incredible next week and we hope you’ll join us!

Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully You Challenge which starts on Monday, February 8th!

The BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge is for you if you’re ready to:

💜 Remove the mask you hide behind that’s blocking you from the love you want

💜 Find your voice and say what you want and feel without being afraid

💜 Stop pretending and not honoring your boundaries

💜 Stop settling for less than you want and deserve in relationships

💜 Stop doubting your ability to attract the man and relationship of your dreams

💜 Let go of the anxiety you feel around dating and relationships and have fun BEing YOU!

💜 And more!

It’s FREE to join and it’s going to be a gamechanger for you and your love life!

It’s time for you to know that you CAN be authentically YOU and attract a man who will love & cherish you for being the Irresistible Woman you are!.

Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU challenge!

What if on Valentine’s Day this year, instead of feeling sad that you don’t have your husband or partner, and wondering if that will ever change, KNEW that you are on your way to changing that and having the Extraordinary Love you want?

What if you broke through the thing that’s been holding you back from having that?

What if your doubts were gone and you see yourself showing up as the Irresistible YOU?

You have no idea what can happen between now and Valentine’s Day if you’ll join us for the challenge. It’s going to support you in taking yourself and your love life to a whole new level!

The thing is –

When you don’t trust yourself, you can’t trust others.

When you don’t love yourself, you can’t love someone else or openly receive someone else’s love.

And when you’re not connected to who you are and what you desire, you can’t create a genuine connection with a man that leads to lasting love.

Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOUchallenge so you can start showing up as 100% you.

And KNOW that when you’re BEing that – then you know that when the right man finds you and is 100% attracted to the real YOU, will fall and stay in love with the real you!

Join the Challenge Now!

How to Make Your Love Life a Priority

by heartsdesireintl | Jan 15, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Are you making your love life a priority?

Here we are at the beginning of a new year and, we’re willing to bet that you’ve listed your love life as one of your top priorities for 2021.

That’s great!

Now, what are you actually doing about it?

What actions are you taking to make sure that you start creating the love you want now?

The truth is that if you aren’t seeing the results you want to see in your love life, then your commitment is actually somewhere else.

Even if you’ve got a vision board created, you’ve set some goals, and your vision statement is written out; if you’re not taking committed action on this goal, it’s not going to happen.

And we get it. When you’re a highly driven woman, you have goals and you’re used to hitting them, it can be frustrating and tiring when you’re not seeing success in your love life.

So what do you usually do?

You focus on something else. Something you think you have more control over and feel more confident in.

Or you pretend that you don’t want to be in a relationship, that it’s not important to you, or that you’re 100% okay being single.

But here’s the thing…

There’s never going to be a better time to get committed to your love life.

If you’re waiting until that big project is complete, until you finish school, until your kids grow up, until you lose the weight,until you’re 100% healthy and have everything figured out…

it’s never going to happen.

One of the saddest things for us to hear from women who say they’ve been waiting 15, 20, 48 years to create the love they want. They never thought they’d be waiting that long, and can’t believe how much time has passed.

We want you to have the relationship of your dreams NOW!

We know that creating an extraordinary love and life requires making it a priority!

So how do you do that?

How do you make creating the love you want a priority in your already full, busy, and beautiful life?

Distinguish what’s most important to you.

What are the top five priorities in your life? Community? Friends? Family? Work? Home? Yoga? Health? Is your love life one of those top 5?

Ask yourself why those things matter to you.

Getting clear on why something is important to you, helps motivate you to put the time and energy into creating what you want to see.

Ask yourself why creating an incredible relationship is important to – and why is that important to you – and why is that important?
Keep going deep with yourself and getting to the heart of what you really want and why you really want it is critical to making sure you realize your goals!

Decide what actions you will commit to taking to move the needle forward.

What actions will you take daily, weekly and monthly to create progress in your love life? Aligning your actions with your priorities is the key to creating what you desire.

Once you have these things laid out – you should start feeling more aligned with yourself and your goals. You’ll start to see shifts in what you’re creating and what you’re attracting into your life.

If you’re still having a hard time – get curious about what’s getting in the way?
What’s in the gap between being clear with yourself about what you want?

If you’d like support with getting clear on what you really want, what’s stopping you from having that, and you want guidance in determining the actions that will help you most in creating the relationship of your dreams, then we want to talk to you!

Book a Love Breakthrough session with one of our coaches. They can’t wait to talk to you and help you start to put your priorities in order and begin creating the life and love your heart desires!.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

Top Three “Red Flags” to Watch For

by heartsdesireintl | Nov 17, 2020 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

If you’re dating, you’ve probably heard the term “red flag.” But do you know what a real “red flag” is?

Do you know what you should be watching out for while dating?

Do you know what things make a man “undateable”?

You may be surprised to hear that there aren’t really that many “red flags.” There are some things that you want to be paying attention to, and that’s what we want to focus on today.

While dating, you want to have an open mind and an open heart while still noticing whether or not a man is “datable.” You want to allow yourself to fall in love with someone while not allowing the chemistry or the attraction to be the driving factor.

So, what are some real “red flags” you want to watch out for?

A man is in another relationship. Whether he’s in the process of breaking up, still married, separated, in the legal process of divorce, they’re working out custody issues, still living together but not in love, or any other reason that keeps them connected to another person, a man who is in any way, shape, or form still involved with someone else is a bright red flag!.

Why is this important to pay attention to?

If someone is willing to date you while they are still in a relationship with someone else, he’s already telling you something about his character.

We have worked with women who were dating someone who was “leaving” their partner, and then 2 years, 4 years, even 7 years down the road , they are still with that other person. Waiting for him to choose them!

You don’t want to set yourself up to lose in dating.

When you hear that someone is in a relationship with someone else and you don’t see that as a red flag, it has to do with your worthiness.

You deserve someone who can and is willing to fully commit to you, And, if you catch yourself pushing that thought to the side, making excuses for him, or justifying his situation to yourself and others, then you get to ask what’s going on for you and why you’re not seeing that you deserve more.

The thought that would come up for me when I was allowing myself to ignore this read flag was “If they have that many options and they want to be with me, then there must be something really special about me.”

Can you hear the unworthiness in that question?

The thing is that this person couldn’t commit himself fully to you even if he wanted to because he’s still committed to someone else.

If he’s willing to be with you while still being with someone else, why would he stay committed to you down the road?

If you’re involved with a man who’s involved with someone else, it’s time to reach out for support so that you can make a choice the empowers you and is aligned with your dream of a happy, loving relationship.

2. A man that has an active addiction. Regardless of what the addiction is, whether it’s alcohol, drugs, pornography, food, gambling, etc, this is a red flag.

Why is this important to look out for?

When someone has an active addiction to something, that thing will always be the priority in his life. That means that you will not be the priority in his life. It’s not that he’s a “bad person,” it’s that he has a problem that takes over his reasoning.

You want to make sure that you’re aware and awake and that you’re not blinded by infatuation, desperation, chemistry, or attraction when choosing who to date and fall in love with.

Too many women mistakenly believe that if they love the man enough, wait long enough, or help him enough, he will choose them over his addiction. It’s a really painful game to play, and one where the woman usually does not win.

Notice your thoughts.Are you pushing something away?
Are you making excuses or justifications about his behavior?
Are you choosing to not notice something that you should be paying attention to?

Ignoring a problem is never the same thing as resolving it. If you’re pushing these thoughts away, it’s time to reach out for support.

3. A man that is physically or emotionally abusive. Is the man you’re with constantly criticizing you, cutting you down or making you the brunt of his jokes? Does he refuse to take responsibility for things and turn everything back around on you?

Does he push, grab, or hit you? Even if he apologizes, cries about it, or promises never to do it again afterwards?

Why is knowing the answers to these questions important?

If you start to feel less than or criticized, especially in the early stages of a relationship, this person is simply not right for you.

Someone who has good intentions is not going to put you down or make you the brunt of his jokes.

If you’ve mentioned that this is hurtful, and he’s sensed that he can get away with this with you, and he continues to treat you this way, he’s not trying to actually win your heart.

Pay attention!

If you don’t feel better about yourself when or after you’re with someone, then you shouldn’t be dating him.

When dating or in a relationship with someone, make sure that chemistry doesn’t overpower your integrity.

If you see that you are afraid, denying your values, making excuses, hiding things from your family and friends, and ignoring some really clear warning signs, it is time to get support NOW!

This is where the HeartWork comes into play as a way of raising your own level of self-worth.

When you have high levels of self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth, you know that you deserve better and you don’t settle for anything less.

You notice these red flags and you choose to walk away, knowing that you will attract someone who loves, cherishes, honors, and chooses YOU, and that you can have the loving, peaceful, intimate relationship of your dreams with.

Breaking through the Love Barriers stopping you from having the kind of love you want is one of the most important journeys of your life, and if you’d like support so that you have the tools to overcome self-doubt, not settle for anything less than the extraordinary love you desire and deserve, we’d love to talk to you.

We want you to know not just how to attract a man but how to attract the RIGHT man – someone who will be everything you want and deserve and more!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

Let us support you in recognizing what’s missing in your dating and relationship experiences so that you can create the relationship of your dreams now!

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