Are You Cheating Yourself Out of Feeling Loved?
by Gladys Diaz
I recently got back from a week-long vacation with my family, and I learned a lot of interesting things about myself while on this trip.
During the trip, I made a commitment to let go of control. I’ve been working pretty hard since last November, and I just wanted to relax. I didn’t want to have to be the one making decisions, doing some of the driving, or having to handle much of anything. My primary focus was to have as much fun as possible with my family!
In giving up control, one of the things I got to do a lot of was receiving.
Now, I teach women how one of the most powerful ways to embrace our femininity is to receive.
Knowing that two of a man’s primary needs are to know that he can provide for and please the woman he loves, in receiving a man’s gifts, time, help, and affection, I am clear that I give my husband the gift of fulfilling on his purpose and myself the gift of feeling cherished and taken care of! It truly is a win-win situation!
So, receiving in and of itself is not difficult for me…
…Until it comes to really expensive or extravagant gifts.
Then I seem to get a bit uncomfortable.
While on the trip, my husband and I were presented with an opportunity to make one of my dreams come true. It’s a big dream, so, consequently, it comes with a big price tag. Nevertheless, I have had this dream for a long time and I am the kind of person who, when I want something, I find a way to make it happen!
This time, however, my husband was the one making it happen for me!
I noticed how I got a little nervous and uncomfortable at the thought of this.
As happy as I was that my dream was coming true, I also felt a little guilty. I had all types of thoughts running through my head.
This is too much…
He’s only doing this for me.
Maybe we should wait a while.
When it came time to make the final decision, my husband asked me, “So, what do you think?”
I could have honored and shared with him all of the feelings, fears and concerns running through my head.
I could have given him some ideas about what to do or how to handle the negotiations.
I could have told him that it was okay. Knowing that he wanted to make this happen for me was enough. I could wait.
In other words, I could have stepped in, taken over, taken charge, and not gotten what I really wanted.
But I didn’t want to. I just wanted to bask in the warmth of seeing how excited he was to be figuring out a way to make this dream happen for me!
So, instead of stepping in and giving into my limiting thoughts and beliefs, I chose to step back and trust. I chose to receive.
I simply said, “I’m so excited! I’ve wanted this for a long time. I don’t know if we ‘should’ do it, but I want this, and I know you. You always make the best decisions for us. And if you’re thinking of doing this, then I know you’ve thought it through, and I trust you. Thank you!”
I wish I’d had my phone ready to take a picture of my husband’s face. (smile)
He looked so happy and confident.
In that moment, I realized just how much making me happy means to him. I mean, I knew it before, but I got really present and I could see it in that moment!
And it was awesome!
Was I still a little scared? Yes.
Was I going to cheat him out of the pleasure of knowing he is making one of my dreams come true? Heck, no!
One of the blessings of being in a relationship with a man who truly loves you is being able to openly receive his love – even when it makes you a little uncomfortable.
Receiving is a gift you give yourself and the person who is giving to you.
In allowing my husband to provide me with something he knew I wanted, I gave him the gift of seeing my happiness and gratitude.
In allowing myself to receive the gift, I was able to experience seeing the joy that he experiences when he’s able to make me happy.
It’s not the type or size of the gift that makes the difference, either.
Yes, this happened to be something big, but I also have the pleasure of receiving compliments; “I love you’s”; “for-no-reason-roses” (those roses he shows up with for absolutely no reason!); as well as offers to help me do the dishes, make dinner, and watch the boys so I can go get my hair done. All of these things make me feel happy and loved
So, what about you? How open are you to receiving?
- Are you dismissing or joking away compliments?
- Are you refusing to allow people – especially men – to open doors, carry objects, or help you with a task that needs to get done?
- Are you refusing gifts – both big and small – such as offers to pay for your coffee or meal, tickets to an event, or something you’ve been wanting for a long time?
Given that men thrive on feeling like they can provide for and please the woman they care about, when you receive, you are stepping into one of the highest states of your Feminine Essence! It creates a win-win experience for both of you, as he gets to feel great about making you happy and you get to experience feeling cherished!
If you aren’t having that kind of experience in your relationship – either because you are single or because the romance, tenderness, and intimacy in your relationship have been slowly (or quickly) deteriorating, know that you CAN have it!
This isn’t something special reserved for a few “lucky” women, and you aren’t the one woman in the world destined to not have this experience.
If you want to know what it’s like to love and be loved, to be cared for and taken care of (even though you are capable of taking care of yourself), and to have the feeling that your partner’s top priority is making you happy, then let’s set up time to talk.
During a Love Breakthrough Session you will see what has been standing in the way of you having the kind of love and relationship you dream of. Then we give you a plan for removing that love barrier and making a way for love to flow freely into your life.
You can either keep feeling sorry for yourself, blaming the man you are with for not having this kind of experience, or you can learn the steps you can take to turn your love life and your situation around.
It’s up to you!
There is nothing like the feeling that comes with knowing that the man you are with wants nothing more than to know that he had something to do with the smile on your face! It’s time to make that smile permanent!
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