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The #1 Mistake Women Make When Communicating With Men and What To Do Instead!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 21, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Do you understand men?

Or do you find yourself asking:

What the @*!# was he thinking?

Did he really just say that?

Why doesn’t he listen to me?

If you don’t feel seen, heard and understood when you’re communicating with your partner, and you’re wondering why you feel so disconnected, there’s a reason AND a solution!

AND this is not just for romantic relationships – this is important to remember in all of your relationships with men – fathers, brothers, and male colleagues at work.

First… It’s not personal. It’s biological!

Men aren’t just hairier, more muscular versions of women. (Surprise!)

There’s a reason why women can multi-task and men need to focus on one thing at a time.

There’s a reason why men jump in, interrupt and try to solve your problem before you’ve even shared what you wanted to say.

And there’s a reason why you get home from a date where you experienced so much fun and connection and then feel confused when he doesn’t ask you out again.

It’s not a matter of intelligence or not caring.

Men are actually wired differently.

And the differences in how they think, speak, and act can create major conflict and frustration in you and your relationship, as you feel like you can’t talk, communicate, or connect with each other.

The good news is that, even with all of these differences, it IS possible to feel completely seen, heard, understood and loved by your man (and for him to feel the same way).

This is why we created the Decoding Your Man Masterclass – which is happening Saturday, October 22nd at 12pm EST

If you haven’t registered yet, REGISTER HERE!

Our goal is for you to understand how the differences in our biology impact every level of our relationships, and how you can still feel empowered to have better communication, deeper connection, and real, lasting intimacy with the man you love.

It’s absolutely possible to share what you feel, think, and need in a way that leaves you BOTH feeling seen, heard, understood, and loved!

In this powerful masterclass, you’ll learn the Decoding Your Man Method and:

The #1 mistake women make when communicating with men, and what to do instead!
Discover the differences between the way men’s and women’s brains are wired and how that impacts communication and romance with the opposite sex
Learn the keys to avoiding arguments and misunderstandings so that you can create love and partnership in your relationship vs. working against each other
Unlock and master the secrets to knowing exactly what to say and do get the love and support you want from your partner
How to create a happy, loving, passionate relationship that lasts for a lifetime!
And so much more!

The reason why he says “I’m busy” when you try to ask him a question while he’s working is because men are wired to focus on one thing at a time.z

The reason why he jumps in and interrupts you when you’re simply wanting to be listened to is because he hears you’re in pain and wants to be your hero and solve your problem.

And the reason why you have an incredible date but then don’t see him again is because while you were thinking about and assessing the entire date in the moment (and don’t tell us you don’t do that, hehe) – he was 100% focused on making sure the date was fun and enjoyable for you and then thought out those things after.

Is your mind blown?

We’ll be explaining so many more questions like these on Saturday and you’ll smile each time you hear yourself saying, “Aha! That explains it!”

It’s not just about knowing the facts and understanding why men do what they do.

It’s also about knowing how to dance with them by having the skills and knowing how to communicate in a way that sets you both up to win.

If you want to learn how to communicate in a way so that you can be received and responded to in a healthy, supportive, loving and caring way, make sure to join us for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass by registering for FREE at the link below.

Register for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass!

Get Over Your Fears and Attract the RIGHT Man Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 1, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Do you have any of these thoughts (or do you maybe even say these things out loud to your girlfriends or family)?

“Dating is the worst!”

“I’m better off alone with my dog.”

“I’m tired of wasting my time!”

“Meeting lots of men just doesn’t fulfill me.”

“I’m over it.”

Do you want to understand why you keep having the same experience over and over with dating, when you want so deeply to find the relationship of your dreams?

Dating doesn’t have to be hard or complicated.

If there’s a gap between the type of men you’d like to be attracting and the men you actually are attracting – there’s something in the way.

If there are fears in the background (or maybe not so much in the background) swirling around like a hurricane in your head – it’s impossible to attract a man that’s right for you.

You either attract what you want or you attract what you fear.

When those fears are swirling around in your mind, you will attract what you fear. Each time you do, you gather more and more evidence that what you fear is your truth – and nothing changes.

If you’re attracting what you don’t want – it’s not your fault! It’s not because something’s wrong with you – so if that’s what you’re hearing… stop and listen.

It’s okay.

Let us support you in finding out what fears and limiting beliefs are in your space. Let’s get to the bottom of what you see (or what you don’t see) that’s having you have that looping experience.

When you clear up those fears and get clear on what you really want – you WILL attract the man that is absolutely, 100% right for YOU.

We want to support you in clearing up those fears so you can attract the relationship of your dreams!!

Truly, when you do – everything changes.

One of the #1 Fears in Dating Is…

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 4, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Infidelity, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

One of the #1 fears women have is: “I’m afraid I will lose myself in a relationship.”

Can you relate?

The thing is, in dating and relationships, you don’t really lose yourself.

What happens is that you give away your power by straying away from your values.
You give in a little here and a little there, move a boundary further and further past the point that is true for you… and eventually… you simply disappear.

If you’ve ever felt this way in a relationship, the question to ask yourself is: “Which of my values is not being honored?”

Discovering the answer to that question is the easy way to get back in alignment with yourself and what’s true for you.

Knowing what your values are, and making sure that you’re living your life according to them, is the simplest way to date — and to live!

In dating, you’re not going to agree on everything. The problem comes in when differences create a conflict within yourself.

Whether the misalignment is about religion, whether or not you want to wait to be intimate, family relationships, medical conditions, or something else; those things can be worked out – (1) If they are aligned with your values, and (2) if they also align with what your partner wants and values.

But you have to be clear about what your values are.

When these things come up you can handle them as a strong, mature woman instead of as a woman who’s afraid of losing something.

When you show up as someone who knows who she is, what she wants, where she’s at, and what she’s looking for, then you’ll attract someone who is aligned with and and wants that kind of woman as a partner.

Having values you live by is not about having an insurmountable list of “standards” that a man must meet. That way of dating keeps you feeling “safe,” but it also keeps you alone.

Living a life and making choices that are aligned with what you truly value is about raising your standards for yourself. That’s what creates irresistibility.

You must get crystal-clear on what you want and what your values and standards are in order to create a relationship and partnership that honors them.

When you’re not clear, your brain makes stuff up to make people, things, and situations “fit,” and that’s when things get “complicated.”

When you’re crystal-clear, there’s no sorta/maybe when it comes to making choices for yourself, your life, and what you want in a relationship.Everything is either aligned with your values, or it’s not.

It’s that simple.

If you meet a man that’s not aligned with your values or you’re not aligned with his, trust that he’s not the right one. Honor yourself, admire him for being true to himself, and let it go.

The more you practice being true to yourself, the easier it gets.

The more confident you are about your own values, the easier it gets to live in it and create a life and love that reflects and embodies what your heart truly desires.

When you date this way, you can create an amazing and incredible relationship with someone who is absolutely in love with you– The Real You.

Sometimes, you may not even realize you’re not clear about what your values are or how to honor them, so, if you’d like support with discovering what your values are and how you can live more authentically into them, book a call and speak with one of our coaches now.

It’s time for you to find true love!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

How to Overcome the Fear of Getting Hurt

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 29, 2020 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, Infidelity, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Do you have a fear that you will be hurt or rejected?

If you don’t, you must be superhuman, because as human beings, we all deal with this!

The real question is: Is that fear running the show?
Is that fear causing you to hold back in relationships or keeping you from creating one altogether?

It doesn’t matter if you’re single or in a relationship, this message is for you!

It’s a common misconception that, once you get into a relationship, that fear of rejection or of getting hurt goes away, but that’s just not true. The fear of hurt or rejection can be holding you back from creating deep, intimate connection, either way.

Here’s how it works.

You have fears that something will or won’t happen in the future because of something that did or didn’t happen in the past.

Fear is running the show if it causes you to react in a certain way that is a coping mechanism for not getting hurt.

This may look like withdrawing from your partner or pulling back.

It may look like being paralyzed and feeling like you can’t do or say anything because of your fear that it will go badly.

It may look like pretending, acting as if everything is fine, when, actually, you’re feeling scared inside.

Here’s how it looks for me.

My previous marriage was not a happy marriage. The relationship brought out the worst in me and I was often critical, loud, snappy and impatient.

I remember how I would feel every time I’d come home and put the key up to the door to open it. Each time, I would stop and feel my chest tighten as I wondered what I was about to encounter on the other side of the door. I’d just hope that today might be a good day.

My fear of being alone caused me to stay in that unhappy relationship. I would stay quiet and pretend that everything was fine, and then I couldn’t really understand what was real and what I really wanted.

Fast forward to now.

I’m in an extremely happy and fulfilling relationship, but I’m still human. So during times when I may be sleep deprived or extra busy, those qualities of being critical, snappy or impatient can come out and my fear rears its ugly head.

My fear is that if I allow those qualities that I don’t like in myself to come out – and sometimes they do – then I won’t be loved or I’ll begin to recreate the relationship I had with my ex.

Your fear may be feeling like your feelings won’t be validated, fearing you’ll be used or get hurt.

When fear is running the show you feel powerless, and that’s not the way we want you to feel!!

So how do you overcome these fears?

First, you need to recognize it and acknowledge it.

What is it that you’re afraid of that’s stopping you from having the relationship you want to have?

Your fear is impacting you whether you acknowledge it or not, so you might as well bring it to light.

Then ask yourself:- If I was standing outside this fear and standing in my power, who would I be that would allow me to make a different choice?

When I recognize myself in the space where those undesirable qualities come out and I feel the fear coming to the surface, I ask myself that question.

I acknowledge the fear and step forward to own it. I take responsibility for anything I may have said to Arnie that I didn’t really mean, and I apologize so that I don’t go back to allowing that old fear running the show and hurt my relationship.

I know that I’m a powerful woman, and that I get to choose how I feel and behave. When I apologize, I open up the space in our relationship for intimacy and love to be present again.

The truth is: You can either be run by your fears or run by your ability to choose a different experience. You get to choose.

It can take a little bit of effort to get to the bottom of these fears, which is why we’re so excited to invite you to the Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want to overcome their fears in love once and for all is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

We’ve changed the dates to October 23rd-25th, and this year, it’s going to be better than ever!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

Once you transform something, you don’t go back to it. Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the fears that are holding you back in love and relationships!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

Are You Being Used?

by heartsdesireintl | Jan 11, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, heartache, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Are you afraid of being taken advantage of by men?

Do you seem to consistently attract men that “need” something”?

Do you feel like men only want sex from you and that once they have gotten it, they disappear?

Is your experience that men always need your “fixing”?

If this seems to be your experience in dating and relationships, know that you are not alone. In our work with thousands of women, this is the #1 limiting belief that women have about men and relationships.

And the thing is, for those with this fear, it is 100% real to them.

That’s why we wanted to share this message first thing in this new year!

If this is what you are experiencing or feel like you are experiencing — basically if this is your paradigm for relationships — it’s because you’ve had an experience in the past that created this belief.

Warning signs that you have this belief are that:

you have the experience of over-giving and not receiving back a relationship
you feel as if you’re being used for sex
you’re helping a man “gets back on his feet,” or being used financially
you feel like you must be “needed” in order for someone to love you, and that if they don’t “need” you, then they will leave you

Think about your last 3-4 relationships? Was this showing up?

If these signs have shown up in three or more of your past relationships, then there’s a pattern that needs shifting!

This pattern comes from a belief that you created because of a past experience.

And that belief was most likely created years before your first date.

One example of something you may have experienced as a child is having something happen that led you to believe you had to DO something EXTRA in order to be loved.

When you have this belief, you will attract men who need you, need help, need support, and you feel like you are always the one doing the helping or “fixing.”

So ask yourself –

Are you noticing these patterns in your relationships?

Are you having painful experiences in dating?

OR are you holding yourself back and not having experiences with men because of this fear?

The first step to shifting fears is to recognize that they are present, so be honest with yourself here.

If this sounds like you, then start to pay attention to these things when you are dating…

Are you over-giving? Are you giving to another person to the point that you are not honoring yourself?
Are you taking time to really get to know someone? Are you holding back in a healthy way so you don’t give too much too soon? Are you giving yourself the opportunity of time to get to know someone so you know that can trust the other person and his intentions?
Are you looking for consistency in words and actions in the men you are dating?
Are you feeling safe to be generous and give love freely because you are receiving in return?

Sometimes you need help recognizing these patterns in your life. We want you to know that so much of the pain you experience in love, dating, and relationships is unnecessary and avoidable!

If you feel like this is a belief you have, and you’re having a hard time recognizing or shifting the pattern, let us help you do the HeartWork to break past it.

You get to be loved freely, and to be loved freely in return.

And you don’t have to do it alone.

Schedule a Love Breakthrough and set yourself free!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

How to Work Through “Deep-Tissue Issues” in Your Love Life

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 23, 2016 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Infidelity, Intimacy, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Marriage, Money Issues, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Yesterday was the first day of school for my kids, and I took the opportunity to pamper myself and get a deep-tissue Swedish massage, courtesy of my wonderful hubby!

As I was lying on the table, enjoying the soft meditation music, the candles, and looking forward to a nice, relaxing massage, all of a sudden, all I could feel was PAIN! And lots of it!

I actually found myself holding my breath a few times because of the pain I could feel under the masseuse’s expert hands!

At one point, I thought I would tell her to stop, and then I noticed something…

I began to notice how my muscles were responding to her touch.

I became aware of how, while I wasn’t stressed out or feeling pain when I first laid down on the table, there were parts of my body that were obviously story pain and stress, based on the “knots” she was finding and deeply massaging.

And, I noticed how she would dig really deep into a muscle, work there for a while, go somewhere else, and then come back to it and work on it some more.

That’s when I thought of you! (Yes, even while getting a massage, you are on my mind! Can’t help it!)

Here’s why:

I started thinking about how, sometimes, we have some “deep-tissue” pain stored in our memories, our hearts, and our bodies that are related to the past.

Maybe it has to do with a relationship that ended painfully.

Maybe you’re in a relationship right now, where you’re feeling some pain.

Or perhaps you’re feeling stuck in your life and you keep wondering, “I’ve prayed, meditated, read all these books, watched videos, attended courses, and worked with different coaches! When am I finally going to break through this?”

I get it! I’ve been there myself! And, here’s the deal:

Sometimes, you just need to go back and dig a little deeper to truly release the pain so that you can move forward with joy, peace, and the love you desire and deserve!

It’s during those times of release that you are able to put the past back in the past where it belongs so that you can move toward the present and future that are waiting for you!

Well, I was so inspired by all of the thoughts and insights I had during that massage, that, when I finished, I went to Facebook and shot a live video (Well, two, actually, because I lost connection during the first one, but I just had to share this with you!)

I know it can be tempting to feel like the “deep-tissue” inner work you’ve done isn’t working, but… what if…?

What if you’re just inches away from your next breakthrough?

What if you can dig a little deeper and finally have the happiness and love you want?

What would that make possible for you?

Check out the video and let me know what opens up for you!

Don’t forget to comment below! We love hearing from you!

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