by heartsdesireintl | Feb 25, 2017 | Uncategorized
by Gladys Diaz
I was just sitting here, sipping my coffee, smiling as I read through the comments that the women in The Self-Love Secret Mission are posting on our private Facebook group. It is simply amazing what these women have begun to create in their lives in just 11 days!
There are women who:
- walked away from dead-end and toxic relationships they have been in for years
- received unexpected checks in the mail and promotions at work
- began dating again and have several men asking them out on dates
- have more confidence, which is allowing them to have what would have been scary or difficult conversations, and they are getting the results that they want
- recommitted to their health and fitness goals and have more energy
- are feeling more irresistible, love-able, and alive!
How in the world can all of this happen in just 12 days?
Well, first of all, these are powerful women who are deeply committed to themselves and their happiness!
Another reason is that the “secret” lies inside of each of the secret missions the women receive and carry out each day. On the surface, these seem like fun, “easy” missions to complete in just a few minutes per day. However, there is a deeper, more essential purpose and intention behind each of the missions.
Each mission is specifically designed to deepen the woman’s level of self-love, confidence, and irresistibility. By making the time to focus on herself each and every day while completing the missions, she is making herself, her happiness, and her heart’s desires a priority every single day. That’s not a gift most women give themselves on a daily basis.
As the women continue doing the missions during the last week of The Self-Love Secret Mission, I know we will be hearing about more miracles, breakthroughs, and even the start of some new romances.
How do I know?
Well… first, because it’s what happens each time we do this 21-day mission!
Second, because many of the women are choosing to continue working with us by joining the Ready to Love Again program, so they will have the tools and guidance to create the happy, loving relationships of their dreams with men who love, honor and adore them! I know this because, a truly deep level of love with yourself is the secret ingredient to creating lasting romantic love with another person.
See, you simply cannot share with someone else what you don’t have with or within yourself. So, the deeper and more loving a relationship you have with yourself, the more intimate and loving a relationship you can create with someone who also wants to love, honor, and adore you for the amazing woman you are!
If you chose not to join the mission, or you missed it for whatever reason, here are a few things you can do to begin creating a deeper, more loving relationship with yourself so that you can attract and keep the love of your life:
1. Make time for yourself every day.
Look, we’re all busy, successful women and our days are FULL of doing, accomplishing, and focusing on others. Taking just 10-15 minutes for yourself at least once a day goes a long way toward getting yourself into the habit of prioritizing yourself and your happiness. Remember, you can’t expect a man to commit years and years of his life to loving you, if you continue to say that you don’t have the time to dedicate at least 15 minutes to yourself each day!
Make a list of things you can do to replenish your body, soul, and spirit everyday. Do you like to journal? Does listening to uplifting music and podcasts lift your spirit? What makes you feel peaceful and happy? Make your list and do one thing a day. See how that begins to not only change and deepen your relationship with yourself, but attract more love and your other heart’s desires into your life!
2. Get support and guidance from a mentor who already has the results you want.
Self-love involves a lot more than doing a few nice things for yourself every day. There is a lot of mind-shifting and heart-shifting work involved in creating the kind of relationship with yourself that empowers you to create and attract the love, happiness, health, and wealth your heart desires.
Most of the changes that need to be made in order to break through thought and behavior patterns and habits that are keeping you from having the things you most desire are in your blind spots – the areas of your subconscious that you are not aware of. Distinguishing and dismantling those thoughts and patterns that are not giving you the results you want requires working with someone who not only has already done that kind of work and can easily guide you through it, but who also has the results that you want. The last thing you want or need is to have someone who isn’t able to produce the results you want in his or her own life telling you what it is you need to do!
I often say that every single breakthrough I’ve ever had has come as a result of working with a coach, and that is the absolute truth. I’m highly selective of who I allow to whisper in my ear and guide me toward my dream life, business, and relationship. Being a coach is a huge responsibility and privilege, so, when a woman makes the choice to work with us, Michelle and I give our hearts and souls to her because we are committed to helping her do whatever it takes to have the life and love she desires and deserves!
So, be very selective about who you choose to mentor and guide you. This will make your journey to your heart’s desires a lot faster and easier!
3. Join a group of like-minded women who will support and encourage you and not allow you to slip into old habits or behavior and thought patterns.
There is so much that can be said about the power of surrounding yourself with women who, while they are on their own individual paths, are on the same journey toward creating the life and love their hearts desire. And it’s important that the women in this group are receiving the same high-level mentorship I mentioned above so that you know that they are taking the right steps and providing you with the kind of support you need to manifest the results you want.
Another invaluable piece of coaching I give my clients is to make sure that the women who surround you are lifting you up, not commiserating or bringing negative energy into your space. When you have a setback or you’re not being loving with yourself or reflecting the best version of you, you want women who will empathize, yes, but not add to any feelings of self-doubt or self-pity. Instead, they empathize and then help you see that you are bigger than the challenge or setback and that you can lift yourself up. And, better yet, they will help you up and stand shoulder-to-shoulder with you because they believe in you and your dreams!
We see this happening in The Self-Love Secret Mission group and we definitely see the evolution of a strong and true sisterhood in our Ready to Love Again program. When you finally get that you are not in this alone and, better yet, that you don’t have to try to make it alone, you get to build on and harness the collective energy of the women who are committed mind, body, and soul to making their dreams and your dreams come true!
If you have questions about how you can harness the power of self-love, the right guidance and a powerful community to help you reach your relationship and have the kind of loving relationship that last for a lifetime, then simply leave a comment below or send me an email and let me know what your question is, and I promise to give you what I believe are the next best steps for you to take in the direction of creating the life and love your heart truly desires!
Whatever you choose to do, don’t give into the lie of thinking that getting the right guidance and support questions how powerful and capable you are of realizing the kind of relationship you want. Some of my biggest heroes and sheroes have mentors because a truly powerful person knows that associating yourself with the people who have the results you want is the fastest and surest way to realize your biggest dreams and deepest desires.
So, go ahead, send me an email and ask me a question, and I promise to get right back to you with your next best steps!
by heartsdesireintl | Feb 14, 2017 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Happy Valentine’s Day!
I realize that today can be a bitter-sweet days for some people, given that the day is focused on love — primarily romantic love — and it can be painful if you’re not in a relationship, or in a relationship that’s not going well at the moment. If you’re not focused — truly focused — on the love that’s all around and within you, you can actually find yourself feeling Toxic Emotions, such as jealousy, sadness, or loneliness.
So, what can you do to make today a happy day, and one where you are able to see, receive, and give love, no matter what your relationship status is?
1. Gather evidence of love all around you.
Rather than trying to resist or reject all of the signs of love around you today, look for evidence of love and pull it toward you. One thing you can do is put your hands over your heart when you see evidence of love today — whether it is a picture of flowers someone received, or a couple holding hands, or anything having to do with love and romance — and, rather than get hurt, angry, or resentful, with your hand on your heart, say something like, “I’m so happy for her/them, and I can’t wait to feel that way, too!” or “I’m so happy for her/them! I send them love and receive that love as it comes back to me!”
2. Make a Love Plan for yourself.
If you haven’t already planned out what you are going to do to fill your day with love, take the time to do it now! Plan to do something nice for yourself, get yourself a token of your own love for yourself, and make plans with friends or family. Isolating yourself only reinforces the belief “I am alone,” and that only deepens any feelings of sadness or separation you may be feeling today. So, rather than being reactive and closing yourself off, surround yourself with the people and things you love and enjoy. You, more than anyone else in the world, deserve your own love, so be generous in giving that love to YOU!
3. Bask in Gratitude.
One of the most powerful and transformative energies we can embody and practice is gratitude. As you gather evidence of love and fill yourself up with love, remember to truly feel and express thanks for the things, people, and blessings you have in your life. It’s virtually impossible to be angry and grateful or upset and grateful at the same time. When you choose to turn your heart and thoughts to the things for which you are grateful, you are making a conscious choice to not allow negative thoughts and feelings to overtake you. Does this mean you have to “pretend” you don’t feel the sadness or upset? No. Resistance only has those feelings strengthen and persist. Instead, feel the feelings, acknowledge that they are there, and then choose to release them. And, as you release them, fill the space left by the negative feelings with thoughts of the things, people, and blessings for which you are grateful. This practice can leave you feeling empowered, rather than disempowered, as you will come to see just how able you are of navigating through and your emotions with power, grace, and ease!
Putting these simple practices in place today (and every day) can help you manifest and experience love, joy, peace, and gratitude, which are highly magnetic emotions and can truly shift your state as well as your experience of living and loving!
My heart-felt wish for you today is that you are able to see, feel, and create love all around and within you and that you come to the indisputable realization that…
YOU ARE LOVED!
by heartsdesireintl | Jan 23, 2017 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Self-Love
by Gladys Diaz
This weekend was one of those non-stop, every-minute-planned, busy-but-”good busy” weekends!
Usually, I hate this kind of weekend, because I love just being able to relax with my family. However, this weekend it was all about fueling my family’s dreams, and that’s what made it exciting, instead of exhausting!
It all started on Thursday morning where I rushed to get my older son tickets to go see a mechanical engineer that works with NASA and then rushed him over there in the evening so that he could watch the 2-hour lecture.
Here’s the thing. My idea of a fun evening is NOT listening to and watching descriptions of all of the rocks they are finding on Mars! However, my son’s dream is to be a mechanical engineer and one of the astronauts who will actually get to step on Mars, so, every time I looked over and saw the wide-eyed look of wonder on my son’s face, and I just knew he was envisioning himself standing there, I had to smile, and that made it worth it! (And, I’ll admit, the rovers are pretty cool, too!)
Then, on Saturday morning, we rushed him over to a magnet high school that specializes in Pre-Engineering coursework so that his four years of high school are focused on what he really dreams of and wants to do.
Here’s the thing: This school is over 30 minutes away from our home and we’ll have to wake up at 5:30am to get him there on time, and there is a perfectly good school only 10 minutes away from our house! However, it doesn’t specialize in engineering. So, while it’s not convenient, we’ll be getting up at the crack of dawn (literally) for the next four years to make sure he gets a head start on making his dream come true.
After that, we rushed him to his campout (he also dreams of being an Eagle Scout) and then it was time to fuel our little one’s dream of being a race car driver!
Here’s the thing: I don’t like racing. It’s not my “thing.” But he dreams of driving race cars for NASCAR, and there was an exhibition race in town (the first-ever of it’s kind in the U.S.), so we surprised him as one of his early birthday presents.
Was it worth it? Well, you tell me.
When your little one looks at you, all wide-eyed and emotional and says, “Best. Birthday. Ever!” and then hugs you as he says, “Thank you, Mommy.” What do you think?
(I think “Yes! Soooo worth it!”)
And then Sunday was all about fueling my dreams!
Michelle and I are rebranding Heart’s Desire International, and we wanted pictures that are aligned with our message, our mission, and our vision for women around the world having both the life and the love their hearts truly desire!
We had the opportunity to work with an amazing photographer who is a colleague of mine, and we got to have our hair and makeup done, wear beautiful clothes our stylist helped us pick out, and take amazing photos in Downtown Miami!
(These pics are just selfies taken by us. Professional photos to come soon!)
It was a long day! Lots of changing, walking, driving, changing again, and smiling until our cheeks hurt, but again, so worth it!
My favorite parts were spending time with my twin (always fun!), especially when we were just being our silly selves, and when our husbands and my sons joined us for photos, since they are such a huge part of our mission!
And the entire time we were taking our pictures, YOU were on our minds!
Why?
Because one of the best parts of our business is that our dreams can only come true when we help you make your dreams come true!
Look, I know that “making dreams come true” can sound a bit “woo-woo” or cliche, but that really is what we are all about: Helping you take the steps you need to take so that you can have both the life and love your heart desires.
It’s what we’ve dedicated our lives to doing!
So, for just a minute, I want you to think about your relationship dreams.
What is it that you truly want to experience in the relationship of your dreams?
When you look at the thoughts you have about that dream and the actions you are taking every day, are your thoughts and actions fueling your dreams, or your doubts?
Are you spending more time thinking about and really taking the action steps that will lead you to having the kind of relationship you say you want, or are you giving fuel to the fears and doubts that have you thinking that that vision is possible for others, but not you?
And do you have the skills that you need to distinguish, dismantle, and replace those fears and doubts so that you can consistently take inspired action that is directly aligned with making your dreams come true?
If so, then you know you are because you’re already living in a happy, loving relationship that fuels your dreams every day.
If not, then it’s simply time to begin fueling your dreams by getting clear around what it is you truly want and what thoughts and actions you need to stop and start so that you can manifest the kind of relationship you desire or deserve.
Because, here’s the thing: Every thought you have and every action you take is giving you the results you have now.
So, if you’ve been fueling your dreams, congratulations! We’re so happy for you and love hearing success stories, so please comment below and share them with us!
And, if you’re not (YET), then let’s talk, because there is no better time to begin fueling your dreams then right now, and we’d love nothing more than to help you do just that!
You deserve to have the love of your dreams, Beautiful!
Don’t doubt that for a single second!
by heartsdesireintl | Jan 17, 2017 | Coaching, Dating, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success
by Gladys Diaz
Today we’re celebrating Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. in the United States, and, aside from relishing having a day to spend with my family, I also wanted to take a few minutes to reflect and remember why this day is so important.
If I had to use just three words to describe Dr. King and his life, the words would be faith, love, and hope. And, of course, all of these were enveloped in his dream.
As I was looking through some of his inspirational quotes, I came across this one:
“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”
As soon as I read it, I immediately thought back to my family’s vacation to Hawaii in November, and the way I felt when I stood inside the volcano crater and looked up at the tiny staircase that was miles and miles away, at the top of the mountain (see the photo below, and you’ll see the staircase at the upper left-hand corner).
I remember thinking, “How in the world will I ever make it up there, especially with my fear of heights and the pain in my knee?”
I didn’t know how I’d make it, but I did know one thing:
I was NOT going to allow my fear to stop me from getting to the top of that mountain and witnessing the view from up there!
So, I started climbing.
And, yes, I was scared. I got dizzy a few times. My feet slipped on the rocks. And the pain in my knee became almost unbearable the higher we climbed.
But I had faith that something beautiful, something I’d never seen or experienced before, was waiting for me at the top of that mountain and on the other side of my fear. So I climbed!
And, when I got to the top of the mountain, it was so worth it! I’d climbed my first mountain, the view was absolutely breathtaking, and I was experiencing it all with the three guys I love most in this world!
Honestly, it was MORE than worth it!
So, why am I telling you this?
I know that love and relationships can be scary. There is so much uncertainty because there aren’t any guarantees.
You don’t know if it’s going to work out with the guy you are seeing.
You’re afraid of having your heart broken again.
It feels safer to stay where you are, even though it’s not where you want to be.
I get it.
However, staying where you are — whether you are single or in a relationship that is stagnant or not working — is the surefire way to NOT get to where you truly desire to be: The place where you feel loved and adored. That amazing place where you know that you know that you are loved!
Maybe it’s been a long journey for you.
Maybe you feel like the pain is more than you can take.
Or maybe you’re just tired of trying.
Whatever your “mountain” is, I promise you that if you will have your faith be stronger than your fear, if you are willing to focus on your desire more than your doubt, and if you are courageous enough to take that first step in the direction of your dreams, with the right guidance and support, you WILL get to the place where you are in the relationship your heart desires with the man who is absolutely right for you.
If you’re ready to take that first step and you want to know exactly how to do that, then it’s time for you to have a Love Breakthrough! Simply use the link below to schedule time for us to talk and together we will take a look at what your personal love goals are, distinguish what has been stopping you from attracting that loving relationship to you, and what your best first step is for getting the happy, loving relationship your heart desires.
CLICK HERE to have your Love Breakthrough!
Having the love you want isn’t about learning a bunch of generic tips, tricks or strategies. Your personal love goals are yours to achieve, and knowing the right steps for you to take is critical in order for you to have the love you want! Take that first step of FAITH, and I’ll be waiting to help guide you to the other side!
CLICK HERE and take your first step in FAITH!
