I was just sitting here, sipping my coffee, smiling as I read through the comments that the women in The Self-Love Secret Mission are posting on our private Facebook group.  It is simply amazing what these women have begun to create in their lives in just 11 days!

There are women who:

• walked away from dead-end and toxic relationships they have been in for years

• received unexpected checks in the mail and promotions at work

• began dating again and have several men asking them out on dates 

• have more confidence, which is allowing them to have what would have been scary or difficult conversations, and they are getting the results that they want

• recommitted to their health and fitness goals and have more energy

• are feeling more irresistible, love-able, and alive!

How in the world can all of this happen in just 12 days?

Well, first of all, these are powerful women who are deeply committed to themselves and their happiness!

Another reason is that the “secret” lies inside of each of the secret missions the women receive and carry out each day.  On the surface, these seem like fun, “easy” missions to complete in just a few minutes per day.  However, there is a deeper, more essential purpose and intention behind each of the missions. 

Each mission is specifically designed to deepen the woman’s level of self-love, confidence, and irresistibility.  By making the time to focus on herself each and every day while completing the missions, she is making herself, her happiness, and her heart’s desires a priority every single day.  That’s not a gift most women give themselves on a daily basis.

As the women continue doing the missions during the last week of The Self-Love Secret Mission, I know we will be hearing about more miracles, breakthroughs, and even the start of some new romances.  

How do I know?  

Well… first, because it’s what happens each time we do this 21-day mission!

Second, because many of the women are choosing to continue working with us by joining the Ready to Love Again program, so they will have the tools and guidance to create the happy, loving relationships of their dreams with men who love, honor and adore them! I know this because, a truly deep level of love with yourself is the secret ingredient to creating lasting romantic love with another person.

See, you simply cannot share with someone else what you don’t have with or within yourself. So, the deeper and more loving a relationship you have with yourself, the more intimate and loving a relationship you can create with someone who also wants to love, honor, and adore you for the amazing woman you are!

If you chose not to join the mission, or you missed it for whatever reason, here are a few things you can do to begin creating a deeper, more loving relationship with yourself so that you can attract and keep the love of your life:

1. Make time for yourself every day.  

Look, we’re all busy, successful women and our days are FULL of doing, accomplishing, and focusing on others.  Taking just 10-15 minutes for yourself at least once a day goes a long way toward getting yourself into the habit of prioritizing yourself and your happiness. Remember, you can’t expect a man to commit years and years of his life to loving you, if you continue to say that you don’t have the time to dedicate at least 15 minutes to yourself each day!

Make a list of things you can do to replenish your body, soul, and spirit everyday.  Do you like to journal?  Does listening to uplifting music and podcasts lift your spirit?  What makes you feel peaceful and happy?  Make your list and do one thing a day. See how that begins to not only change and deepen your relationship with yourself, but attract more love and your other heart’s desires into your life!

2. Get support and guidance from a mentor who already has the results you want.

Self-love involves a lot more than doing a few nice things for yourself every day.  There is a lot of mind-shifting and heart-shifting work involved in creating the kind of relationship with yourself that empowers you to create and attract the love, happiness, health, and wealth your  heart desires.  

Most of the changes that need to be made in order to break through thought and behavior patterns and habits that are keeping you from having the things you most desire are in your blind spots – the areas of your subconscious that you are not aware of. Distinguishing and dismantling those thoughts and patterns that are not giving you the results you want requires working with someone who not only has already done that kind of work and can easily guide you through it, but who also has the results that you want.  The last thing you want or need is to have someone who isn’t able to produce the results you want in his or her own life telling you what it is you need to do!  

I often say that every single breakthrough I’ve ever had has come as a result of working with a coach, and that is the absolute truth. I’m highly selective of who I allow to whisper in my ear and guide me toward my dream life, business, and relationship.  Being a coach is a huge responsibility and privilege, so, when a woman makes the choice to work with us, Michelle and I give our hearts and souls to her because we are committed to helping her do whatever it takes to have the life and love she desires and deserves!

So, be very selective about who you choose to mentor and guide you.  This will make your journey to your heart’s desires a lot faster and easier!

3. Join a group of like-minded women who will support and encourage you and not allow you to slip into old habits or behavior and thought patterns.  

There is so much that can be said about the power of surrounding yourself with women who, while they are on their own individual paths, are on the same journey toward creating the life and love their hearts desire.  And it’s important that the women in this group are receiving the same high-level mentorship I mentioned above so that you know that they are taking the right steps and providing you with the kind of support you need to manifest the results you want.  

Another invaluable piece of coaching I give my clients is to make sure that the women who surround you are lifting you up, not commiserating or bringing negative energy into your space. When you have a setback or you’re not being loving with yourself or reflecting the best version of you, you want women who will empathize, yes, but not add to any feelings of self-doubt or self-pity.  Instead, they empathize and then help you see that you are bigger than the challenge or setback and that you can lift yourself up. And, better yet, they will help you up and stand shoulder-to-shoulder with you because they believe in you and your dreams!

We see this happening in The Self-Love Secret Mission group and we definitely see the evolution of a strong and true sisterhood in our Ready to Love Again program.  When you finally get that you are not in this alone and, better yet, that you don’t have to try to make it alone, you get to build on and harness the collective energy of the women who are committed mind, body, and soul to making their dreams and your dreams come true!

If you have questions about how you can harness the power of self-love, the right guidance and a powerful community to help you reach your relationship and have the kind of loving relationship that last for a lifetime, then simply leave a comment below or send me an email and let me  know what your question is, and I promise to give you what I believe are the next best steps for you to take in the direction of creating the life and love your heart truly desires!

Whatever you choose to do, don’t give into the lie of thinking that getting the right guidance and support questions how powerful and capable you are of realizing the kind of relationship you want.  Some of my biggest heroes and sheroes have mentors because a truly powerful person knows that associating yourself with the people who have the results you want is the fastest and surest way to realize your biggest dreams and deepest desires.  

So, go ahead, send me an email and ask me a question, and I promise to get right back to you with your next best steps!