by heartsdesireintl | Mar 1, 2014 | breakups, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love
by Gladys Diaz
The human brain is such a fascinating organ! The same organ that enables you to solve problems, come up with life-changing ideas, and make dreams a reality can create thoughts that hold you captive, paralyze you, and have you settle for way less than you deserve – especially when it comes to love!
See, that brilliant, idea-generating organ, also houses fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs that you begin to believe are real.
So, we’ll have thoughts, such as:
“I can’t live without him.”
“No one will ever love me.”
“I’m not good enough.”
“Maybe I’m just not meant to be in a relationship.”
“At least this is better than living alone.”
Your fear of feeling heartache or disappointment will have you settle for crumbs, instead of a feast; pain, instead of happiness; and treatment that you wouldn’t wish on our worst enemy. Incredibly, most of the time you’re not even aware that those fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs are there, because they reside in the subconscious. You treat them as “the truth,” instead of just thoughts, and, if left unaddressed, you will begin to believe them and accept that this is as good as it gets. That this pain, unhappiness, and lack of fulfillment is what you deserve.
In order to disarm those fears and limiting beliefs, you must first become aware of them, know how to dismantle them, and then replace them with new, empowering thoughts that begin to create a new reality for you and your life!
This is why Michelle and I created the “Ready to Love Again” Webinar!
In this webinar, we will discuss:
- What makes it difficult to move beyond the heartache of a breakup
- The steps you can take to move beyond your heartache and toward a new future
- How to begin attracting new love into your life NOW!
Click here to register for the “Ready to Love Again” Webinar
Stop settling, and start living a life of love! Not only do you deserve it, but the power to create it is entirely in your hands!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | Feb 14, 2014 | breakups, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance, Self-Love
by Gladys Diaz
We’re sure that by this time today, your Inbox, Facebook, and Twitter feeds are overflowing with “Happy Valentine’s Day” messages! Well, here’s one more!
For those of us in happy, loving relationships, today is a special day! We get to celebrate the love we share with the man we’ve chosen to share our lives and hearts with!
For those who are not in a loving relationship, however, it can be a pretty rotten day. All weekend long (and, here in the U.S., it’s a long weekend), you’re sure to be surrounded by hearts, balloons, proposal announcements, and reminders of everyone else’s love and happiness.
If you were on last night’s “Ready to Love Again” webinar (make sure you check out the replay below!), you heard Michelle and me share our personal stories of heartache. Spending any holiday alone can be painful, but this one’s especially difficult.
I remember the first Valentine’s Day after my husband died. All I wanted to do was crawl under a rock and just block out all of the reminders of love and joy that were around me. Everything I saw was a reminder of the love I’d lost and how broken my heart felt. I felt a little guilty about it, but I couldn’t help it. I was alone. I was devastated. And it sucked!
So, if you are feeling angry, sad, or resentful today, we want you to know that it’s understandable. This doesn’t make you a “bad” person. It just means you’re feeling sad and lonely. It’s okay.
Now, this doesn’t mean we want you wrap yourself up in a bitter, depressed Snuggy blanket! The feelings you’re feeling are real and valid. But we also want you to know that you don’t have to stay in that space. You don’t have to stay alone. You can choose to heal your heart and invite love back into your life!
On last night’s webinar, women from all over the world learned why heartache feels real, why it can be difficult to let go of it, and what they could do to begin to move on. There was healing, love, and transformation present on that call, and we are so excited for the women who accepted the invitation we gave at the end of the presentation and are now on their path to healing and freedom from the past! We’re excited because we know about the miracles they are about to experience. We know, because we’ve experienced them first-hand in our own lives and in the lives of the women who we’ve coached and worked with over the years.
All we can say is this: Expect miracles, ladies! Your life, as you know it, will never be the same!
For those of you who were unable to join us on the call, we want you to have an opportunity to experience the same type of healing as these ladies, so we’re giving you access to the webinar replay and a chance at receiving the special “Valentine’s Days” prize we offered last night.
Now, here’s the deal:
If you want something to change, then something has to change. And right now, that something is YOU!
Too many times we allow opportunities to slip right through our hands because we’re too proud, too scared, or too committed to staying stuck in the muck of our lives to draw a line in the sand and say, “This is it! The pain, sadness and loneliness end here and now!”
We’re giving you that opportunity to do that today – to listen to the webinar and make this Valentine’s Day the LAST ONE you spend single and alone!
If you’re not single, but you still feel alone inside of your marriage or relationship, contact us now! I’m not kidding. What in the world are you waiting for?
It’s not going to get better on its own. Things didn’t “just happen” to get bad in your relationship. It happened over time. The love, passion, and romance you once shared were slowly replaced by resentment, regret, and resignation.
But you can turn your relationship around!
And, yes, it is going to take some time, commitment, and the willingness to make changes if you want to transform your relationship back into a loving, peaceful, intimate romance!
This is your life. It’s your choice. And we’re here to offer you the support, tools, and encouragement you need to finally be happy and have the love your heart desires! And while we know we can help, we can’t want it more than you do. You’ve got to want it more!
So, if you’re single, click below to listen to the “Ready to Love Again” webinar and take the first step toward inviting love back into your life.
And if you’re not single, but you are feeling lonely inside of your relationship, contact us and take the first step toward restoring the love and intimacy in your relationship TODAY!
Together, we can make take the first step and make this Valentine’s Day the one where all of your dreams begin to come true!
Comments? Questions? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
by heartsdesireintl | Feb 12, 2014 | breakups, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance, Self-Love
by Gladys Diaz
Today’s a pretty special day at Heart’s Desire International… It’s Michelle and Arnie’s 3rd Wedding Anniversary!
For those of you who are not blessed enough to know Michelle and Arnie, I can tell you that they are one of the most inspiring, couples in the world! To see them together is to see what real, unconditional, and extraordinary love looks like! They love and respect one another, are each other’s biggest fans, and accept one another exactly the way they are and exactly the way they are not!
While their relationship isn’t “perfect,” because neither one of them is, either, the love that they share is as close to perfect as it gets!
Now, you may be wondering how Michelle got so “lucky” to end up with such an amazing relationship and marriage? You may think that she’s simply one of the lucky ones who just happened to land an amazing guy without having to go through any type of heartache. And you’d be wrong.
To see her now as a confident, motivational leader who wins one award and recognition after another, and has helped hundreds of women around the world fall in love with themselves and the man of their dreams, you would never guess that just a few years ago she was feeling alone, rejected, and heartbroken.
See, Michelle fell in and got married at a very young age, and her marriage was far from the fairytale romance she lives now. She and her ex-husband did not get along, did not know how to communicate with one another, and, after 13 years of fighting and chipping away at the love they once had, they divorced.
When she began dating again, Michelle will be the first to tell you that she had no idea what she was doing. And because her self-esteem was on the floor and she was looking outside of herself for validation, she dated some pretty bad frogs. At that time, she didn’t honor and love herself, so it was impossible for her to attract a man who would love and cherish her. She tried to create a relationship with men who were clear they did not want to commit, she stayed in dead-end relationships for longer than she should have, and she allowed men to treat her poorly.
It wasn’t until Michelle began practicing the skills we now teach women world-wide that she began to fall in love with herself. She began to realize that she was worthy of love, that she was loveable, and that she could have and deserved the type of happy, peaceful, loving relationship she had always dreamed of.
It wasn’t long before she began enjoying dating because she started attracting some really wonderful men into her life who treated her like the princess she is. She was able to have fun, meet different types of guys and have the really wonderful “problem” of having to choose which of these great guys she wanted to date exclusively! Arnie was one of those guys.
But their love story wasn’t always smooth sailing. While dating, Arnie had moments when he wasn’t sure he wanted to be in a committed relationship, so they would stop seeing each other. But Michelle would not go into a cave and hide until he was ready to tell her that he wanted to be in a relationship with her. She continued dating, attracting more generous, affectionate men of great character into her life, and, when he did come back, she had the choice of whether or not she would let him back into her life and her heart. And she did.
Today, she has the experience of waking up and falling asleep in the arms of the man she loves and who loves her with every part of his being. They laugh, love, grow, and dedicate their lives to empowering people to create the life and love of their dreams!
Michelle can tell this story so much better than I can (and I love hearing it!), so, if you’d like to learn more about how she turned her dating experience from one of pain and tears to one of constant tears of joy, join us tomorrow night, Thursday, February 13th, at 9:00pm ET. We will be offering a FREE webinar called “Ready to Love Again.”
In this webinar, you will learn:
- What makes it difficult to move beyond the heartache of a breakup
- The steps you can take to move beyond your heartache and toward a new future filled with LOVE
- How to begin attracting new love into your life NOW!
Just click here to register!
Michelle’s love story is beautiful, and yours can be, too!
Let’s start writing the first chapter together tomorrow night, at the “Ready to Love Again” webinar!
Congratulations, Michelle and Arnie! And thank you for inspiring us with your love and who you are as individuals and as a power couple!
by heartsdesireintl | Feb 10, 2014 | breakups, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
Valentine’s Day is just days away, and, while this week can be fun and exciting for those who are in happy, healthy relationships or having a great time dating, it’s generally not the case for people who are feeling lonely.
Valentine’s Day can be a painful reminder of a relationship that has ended, a love that’s been lost, or of how much a relationship has changed. If you are feeling lonely this Valentine’s Day, there are a few things you can do to help transform this time from one of pain to one of hope and new beginnings.
If you’re single, and you’ve experienced a breakup or some other type of heartache, it can be difficult to work through all of the feelings of loss and pain. In fact, at times, you may feel paralyzed by fear and sadness, terrified to move forward and risk allowing anyone to get that close to you again.
Being stuck in the past only robs you of your ability to experience peace, happiness, and love. Staying stuck is a choice.
If you’re ready to leave the pain and heartache from a previous relationship in the past, join Michelle and me for the “Ready to Love Again” webinar we will be hosting on Thursday, February 13th* . On this free webinar, we will be looking at why it can be difficult to move past a heartbreaking experience and what you can do now to leave the past and the pain behind so that you can begin stepping into a new future filled with the love and happiness your heart desires and you deserve.
What if you’re feeling lonely and stuck inside of a relationship? Being in a relationship where you feel that you and your partner have begun to drift apart – or worse, that you’re at the point where you’re afraid there is no way to restore the love and intimacy in your relationship – can be frightening and extremely painful. Knowing that there is someone there with whom you used to share love, joy, and intimacy, but who now feels like he’s miles away, even when he’s in the same room, can be heart wrenching.
It’s easy to slip into anger and resentment, blaming him for everything that has gone and continues to go wrong. It can also be tempting to wonder whether it would be easier to just end the relationship once and for all. Of course, that is an option, but, if you love your husband or boyfriend, and you would like to know that you’ve done everything you could to make the relationship work, there are some steps you can take to begin shifting the dynamic in the relationship and restoring the intimacy you once had.
Remember why you fell in love with him in the first place.
Regardless of what has happened, there was a time where you knew in your heart this was the man with whom you wanted to share your life. Write a list of the things you loved and admired about him. Allow yourself to remember those qualities that made you smile, feel safe, and want to spend every moment you could with him. Then begin to look for evidence of those qualities. Chances are that if you choose to look at him through the eyes of admiration, rather than resentment, you’re likely to find that the man you fell in love with has been there all along.
Express your appreciation for him.
As you begin to gather evidence of those qualities that made you fall in love with him, let him know you notice them. If he does something kind, thoughtful, or chivalrous, thank him. If he goes out of his way to do something for you, thank him. Even if he does something differently than you would have, or if there is the slightest attempt made at pleasing you, thank him. The more gratitude and appreciation you begin to express, the more you let him know that you notice the little things, the more he’ll want to do for you and and the more of a change you’ll begin to experience in your relationship.
Forgive and release resentment.
Holding on to anger and resentment shuts out love and intimacy. It’s simply impossible to feel resentment and love at the same time. While he may have hurt or disappointed you in some way, if you are choosing to stay, you’re going to need to choose to forgive. Otherwise, all you are doing is punishing yourself right along with him. Remember that forgiveness does not mean you are condoning or agreeing with what happened. You’re simply choosing to let go of the pain, anger, and resentment that has been filling the space where love and intimacy used to live.
It can feel difficult taking these first steps, because you feel so vulnerable. However, vulnerability is the key to intimacy, and it’s going to take that and courage to make a real shift in your relationship. If you need support or encouragement to begin, reach out to us and let us know. We’d be happy to help you on the path of restoring the love and intimacy you once shared this Valentine’s Day and beyond!
And, if you’re single, remember to register now for the free “Ready to Love Again” webinar we’ll be hosting this Thursday, February 13th!
No matter where you are right now in your love life, you can take the steps now to make this Valentine’s Day the last one you spend alone and feeling lonely!
Comments? Questions? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | Feb 7, 2014 | breakups, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Over the past several weeks, Michelle and I have been communicating with many of you through email, surveys, and the phone. The other day, during our business meeting, we discussed the information we’ve been receiving, and one thing was very clear:
Some of you are feeling stuck in patterns and you want to learn how to break free!
Here is some of the information we’ve collected from the “Are You Ready for Love?” Survey we sent a couple of weeks ago and the questions we received last week:
- Almost 60% of you are struggling with moving on after your last relationship
- For the majority of you, it’s been more than 1 year since the break
- More than 40% of have not gone out on a date in at least 6 months
- 71% of you feel they are not attracting men with whom they are compatible
- More than 50% of you tend to attract men who are unavailable (married, separated or “getting divorced,” in a relationship with someone else)
- 60% of you feel that you are successful in almost every area of your life, except relationships
- More than 50% of you are sleeping with a man before a commitment has been established
- Several of you feel that you’re “stuck” in an on-again-off-again relationship
And the most heart-wrenching statistic for us was learning that –
- Almost 70% of you do not believe that you will ever find the love your heart desires!
These statistics are helpful for us, because they let us know what you are dealing with, what you need, and what we can do to support you. And, just to be clear, we can help you and provide you with the support you need. We’ve worked with women all around the world who have broken free of the past and created a brand new future – the one they always dreamed of! If it happened for them, then it CAN happen for you, too!
But here’s the deal, we can’t help you if you don’t reach out. A few of you have taken the initiative to reach out to us and schedule an appointment to follow up on your survey results, to request coaching, and to get a clear picture of how to begin breaking free and creating a shift in your life.
Many of you haven’t.
But you can.
All you need to do is reach out your hand.
Listen, it’s almost Valentine’s Day and, whether you are single or in a relationship, you can make this the best one yet! Because the moment you break free from whatever it is that is making you feel like you’re stuck in dating or in your relationships, your experience of life completely transforms!
So, if you are ready to create a real breakthrough in your life, and you’re interested in having one of us help you break free from whatever is stopping you from attracting the love that you want, we want to invite you to attend the “Ready to Love Again” webinar we are hosting on Thursday, February 13th, at 9:00pm ET.
In this webinar we will discuss:
- What makes it difficult to move beyond the heartache of a breakup
- The steps you can take to move beyond your heartache and toward a new future
- How to begin attracting new love into your life NOW!
To participate, simply click here to register and we’ll send you an email with the log-in information.
If you’re tired of feeling stuck and you’re ready to break free from the past, then make sure you attend the “Ready to Love Again” webinar on Thursday the 13th!
Comments? Questions? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | Feb 5, 2014 | breakups, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Saturday was a big day for my older son. He crossed over from being a Cub Scout to being a Boy Scout. Not only that, but he was recognized for two high achievements, The Arrow of Light, which is the highest achievement a Cub Scout can earn, and Super Achiever, which means he earned all 20 activity pins before his Arrow of Light ceremony. You can imagine the tears of pride and joy that were streaming down my face – not just because of the achievements, but because, as I sat there, I reminisced about all of the challenges he went through to get there.
See, those of you who know a little bit about me know that my son has a mild form of Autism called Asperger’s Syndrome, which impacts primarily his social skills. Being in large groups, dealing with changes in schedules, and even knowing how to start/end a conversation do not come easily for him. As I sat there, I remembered the times he walked up to strangers and asked them if they wanted to buy popcorn, and dealing with hearing “No” over and over again. I remembered him facing his fears and completing difficult challenges. I remembered him sleeping alone in a tent for the first time, and how, while I was only a few feet away, I could barely sleep, thinking of him being in there all by himself.
As my son began to cross the tight rope bridge that symbolized him having faced and overcome yet another hurdle, he slipped and fell…
My heart stopped and broke at the same time. I heard a few snickers. I felt my heart break a little more. I tried to smile and act as if it wasn’t a big deal, but all I wanted to do was run over there, pick him up, and get him off that bridge and into my arms, where he would be safe.
Instead, I stood there and watched him get back up with the help of the leaders around him. I watched him take one careful step after another, working through the fear and embarrassment he was feeling, until he made it all the way to the other side.
When he got off the ropes, he came straight into my arms and he broke down. I whispered how proud of him I was. I asked him why he was crying (I knew why I was crying), and he said he was embarrassed and proud of himself at the same time. And he said he didn’t want to talk about it, so I didn’t. I just let him be.
This wasn’t the memory I wanted him to have of his big crossover day. I wished I had a “rewind” button to have him start over again and get across the bridge without falling. But that fall was symbolic of everything he went through. It was part of his journey. And, despite the pain he was in, he was strong and courageous enough to get back up in front of all of those people and walk across to the other side.
I think I was more proud of that of all the other achievements.
So, what about you?
Where have you fallen along the way on your own love journey?
Did you choose to love someone who you thought was perfect for you, only to have your heart broken?
Did you stay in a relationship much longer than you should have, in hopes that he would change and things would get better?
Did you leave a relationship before reaching out for help to see if there was something you could have done to transform the relationship?
Are you still at the other side of your own tight rope bridge, stuck and about to give up on yourself and the possibility of you having the type of loving relationship you dream of?
If this is you, and you’re ready to reach your hand out for help and allow us to help you walk across the bridge to the other side, we’re opening 4 spots in our schedule next week to speak with you. The first 4 people to respond to this post will get one of these spots.
So, go ahead! Take a stand for yourself and respond to this post if you’re ready to get started!
