What’s Most Important to a Man: The 3 P’s

What’s Most Important to a Man: The 3 P’s

by Gladys Diaz

 

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This weekend Michelle and I participated in and spoke at the Desire to Rise event. It was an absolutely inspiring event focused on realizing our visions in 2015! We had the privilege of inspiring the audience to create and realize their visions for love by creating a Love Resolution for 2015!

Michelle and I are used to speaking to audiences made up predominantly of women, but, every once in a while, men will participate in our presentations, and we absolutely love it!Decide to Rise_Links

It’s always so heartwarming to see just how committed men are to creating loving relationships, too! In fact, the men in the room this time participated fully in our session, including holding hot pink paper links symbolizing the past fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs that had been blocking love from entering their hearts right along with all of the women and they came up to us after the session to thank us and tell us how much they got out of it! It was awesome!

Another reason we love having men in the audience is because there is nothing quite as affirming as having the men nodding their heads in agreement when we talk about the three things that are most important to them in a relationship. We call these “The 3 P’s”: To Provide for, Protect, and Please the women they love.

These are a man’s greatest desires when it comes to being in a relationship.

Because each of them is so important, we’ll focus on just one of them today and I’ll write more about the other two in subsequent posts.

A man wants to know that he is capable of providing for and taking care of the woman he loves.

Now, this doesn’t always mean that he’s the primary bread winner. It means that he’s able to contribute to her well-being in some way. For some men, that will mean providing for his beloved financially – whether that means being the one who works in the home, making more money than she does, or contributing to the finances in some way. For others it could mean that he holds down the fort and provides support for her in pursuing her dreams. For others it means that he cares for her needs in other ways. And some of us are blessed enough to have a man who does all of the above!

The point is that a man needs to know and feel like he’s needed. If he doesn’t, he either withdraws to avoid feeling incompetent or rejected, or he begins to depend on the woman, which can then lead to resentment on both sides of the relationship.

If you’re in a relationship where you’re not feeling like you’re being cared and provided for, I invite you to look to see where you may be preventing that from happening.

Are you the one doing everything in the relationship – from earning the money, to taking care of the household, to basically doing anything and everything that requires decision making and action taking?

Are you feeling exhausted and overwhelmed because you feel like you are doing it ALL with very little help?

Are you beginning to feel resentful about this, and, rather than admitting you need help, you’re continuing to plow along, getting everything done and resenting your man for not offering to help?

If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, it’s time to take a step back and provide room for him to step up.

Now, allowing a man to provide and care for you does not mean that you are incapable of doing and caring for yourself. Of course you can! The thing is that, if doing everything is causing you to resent him and is creating distance in your relationship, you want to ask yourself what’s more important – doing everything yourself to prove that you can, or allowing for the possibility of not having to do everything yourself all of the time and feeling loved and cared for in the process?

Instead of running yourself ragged, denying him the pleasure of providing for you, and causing a rift in your relationship, follow these steps:

  1. Take a breath, step back, and simply admit that you could use some help. The words, “I need help” are like a flare in the sky for a man! They signal that there is something he can do for the women he loves! Men want to help. They want to know that there’s a purpose for them being there. I know you may be skeptical. I know I was. My biggest complaint was that my husband never helped me and I felt like “the single married mom.” However, when I started saying, “I need help,” I saw just how important it was to my husband to know that he was capable of providing for me! So, even if you’re skeptical right now, I challenge you: Just try it!

 

  1. When he asks what you need help with, share what it is without complaining or over-exaggerating the need.  Once you say, “I need help,” most men will ask you what you need help with. When he does simply share what it is you need help with. At this point, avoid complaining (either verbally or in your mind) about his lack of help, your exhaustion, and the unfairness of it all when you express your need for help. That is just going to cause resistance on his part and will probably lead to yet another argument, so you want to avoid complaining and nagging at all costs.

 Instead, you can say something like, “I need help moving these boxes,” “I need help organizing these receipts for the taxes,” “I need help putting away the dishes.” Keep it short and simple, and then stop talking.

 

 

  1. Avoid attaching any expectations to what the help “should” look like. Once he offers to help, step back and allow him to do it in his way and time frame. Don’t check up on, remind, or hint at what he should/could be doing. Just move right along to something else. Many times, we sabotage ourselves from being provided for by jumping in to “help” or make things easier for our men. That has to do with our own feelings of self-worth and thinking that we’re somehow“ burdening” them. Just step back and allow yourself to receive the help. It may feel weird at first, but I promise, you’ll grow used to it!

 

  1. Let him know you noticed and appreciate his help. Once he’s done whatever he’s done to help, let him know you noticed and appreciate his help! Many times women will withhold the appreciation because they don’t want to feel as if the man did them any favors. Well… first of all, he did do you a favor by helping, and, secondly, it’s important to keep in mind that his desire to feel like he can provide for you is closely followed by his need to feel appreciated. The more you let him know that you need and appreciate him and his help, the more likely he is to begin offering to provide for you! It’s a real win-win situation!

 

I know it may seem strange and out of character for you to admit that you could use some help, especially if you’re used to taking care of things on your own. I remember wondering if I was “dumbing down” or pretending that I wasn’t capable of doing something. I was afraid I would seem weak.

What I found out, however, is that allowing my husband to help and provide for me made me feel loved and cherished. Seeing how much he wanted to help me really did make me appreciate him even more. That inspired more gratitude and tenderness from me, which only ignited his desire to continue doing things for me that caused that reaction. As I said above, it truly is a real win-win combination.

 

So, go ahead and try it, and let me know what begins to open up for you in the comments below!

We’ll focus on a man’s desire to protect the woman he loves in the next post! See you then!

 

Comments? Questions? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!

 

 

 

Transforming from the Inside Out!

Transforming from the Inside Out!

by Gladys Diaz

 

This week I’ve been thinking a lot about change.

Many of our clients are experiencing the growing pains that come with making real changes in their lives. The kinds of changes that lead to true transformation.

It’s easy to forget that change – even when it’s “good change” – can feel uncomfortable. In fact, at times, it can feel downright painful.

Transformation is a process.

It requires letting go of what’s become familiar – what we’re used to – and taking on new beliefs, behaviors and ways of being.

It involves being willing to try something new – something that brings with it the promise of new – or renewed – love.

Transformation requires courage.

It involves having the courage to hope that things can improve and turn out differently, without knowing exactly what that final outcome will be or look like.

My favorite symbol of transformation is the butterfly.

A butterfly is so beautiful and delicate. She flutters from one place to another with such grace and ease.

To see her in all of her splendor, it’s easy to forget that that she wasn’t always that beautiful, graceful being.

At one point she was a small, fuzzy, worm-like thing. Not necessarily something that inspired awe or wonder.

To get to this beautiful stage, the butterfly had to be willing to transform herself from the inside out.

 

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She had to be willing to be uncomfortable. She had to be willing to go through the pain and then release herself from what had been keeping her captive!

It’s the same with you, my beautiful butterfly-in-the-making.

To make changes so that you can experience the happy, loving, passionate relationship you have always wanted, you’re going to have to go through some changes.
You’re going to have to be willing to be courageous.

You’re going to have to be willing to let go of and release yourself from the beliefs, fears, and behaviors which do not serve you and are not giving you the results that you want.

It won’t always be easy.

There will be times when you’ll wonder if it’s just easier to stay inside of your cocoon of fear, doubt, pain and resentment.

And it might seem like it for a while, but staying there will not allow you to break free, spread your wings and experience and enjoy the love and happiness that are waiting for you on the other side!

I invite you to break through the resistance and resignation and embrace the life and love that are your birthright.butterfly flying away_bing

 

It’s time to break free and spread your wings so that you can discover the love that is already waiting for you!

If you’re ready, we’re here to help guide you in becoming the beautiful butterfly you were created to be!

 

 

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Are You Ready to Be UNreasonable?

Are You Ready to Be UNreasonable?

by Gladys Diaz

 

I have been thinking about you non-stop for the past few days, so I took a few moments to shoot this quick video!

It includes an exciting announcement and a quick training on what you can do to be UNreasonable and stop letting your reasons stand you in your way of experiencing the life and love your heart desires!

This is powerful, life-changing information!  

Just click the image below and create a breakthrough in your life TODAY!

 

If you want different results, need to break through your resistance, your reasons, and excuses!

Let the message of this video really speak to you and then take action today!

Then email me and let me know which action you are taking today!

 

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Join us for the 2015 Love Resolution Workshop and begin making 2015 The Year of Love and Dreams Come True for YOU!

There are only 4 seats left, so be UNreasonable and claim YOUR seat NOW!

Commitment vs. Fear: Size DOES Matter!

Commitment vs. Fear: Size DOES Matter!

by Gladys Diaz

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There are some instances when bigger doesn’t necessarily mean “better.” There are, however, times when size does matter, and one of the most important is when it comes to commitment.

When you make a commitment – to yourself, your partners, or anyone with whom you in a relationship – there are going to be times when you feel your commitment – your resolve – is shaken.

It’s during these times – times of upset, disappointment, and uncertainty – that you need to ask yourself:

What I am I truly committed to?

 

Unless your commitment is bigger than your fear, you’ll stop yourself from making choices and taking steps that are outside of your comfort zone.

Unless your commitment is bigger than your feelings, you’ll quit the moment you feel upset, sad, or disappointed.

And, unless your commitment is bigger than your ego, you’ll run in the other direction at the first sign that things are not going the way you thought they would.

 

When it comes to making changes in your life, your commitment MUST be bigger than any fear, doubt, or feeling you may have.

 

In relationships, commitment is the industrial-strength duct tape that holds things together during times of struggle and uncertainty. Because they involve someone aside from yourself, it can be difficult to let down your guard and trust someone else to enter into and take care of your heart. It can be terrifying at times to know that you can’t control the other person; what he wants, says, or does; or whether or not he feels the same way about you.

It takes a tremendous amount of courage to walk with faith and to do what you say you are committed to, even when there isn’t agreement for or any evidence that what you want will actually happen.

In fact, when it comes to relationships, it takes a daily – sometimes even a moment-by-moment – willingness to recommit time and time again.

 

I want you think about your love life right now and ask yourself the question:

What am I really committed to creating in my love life?

 

If you are single, and your commitment is to attract and create an extraordinary relationship, or you are in a relationship – whether things are going well or you feel that things are falling apart – and your commitment is to create and live in an extraordinary relationship, then ask yourself:

  • What steps am I taking every day that honor my commitment?
  • What evidence is there in my life that I am honoring my commitment?
  • What am I going to do or say to myself when I don’t feel like or want to honor my commitment, so that I can recommit?
  • Who am I going to ask to be my partner in supporting and holding me accountable to honoring my commitment?

Without a plan and concrete actions steps, your dreams and goals are nothing but wishes that may or may not come true…someday… maybe.

However, when you make a commitment that inspires, fills, and calls you into taking real, concrete, daily steps that are aligned with that commitment, you truly can create the life and love your heart desires!

For those of you who are ready NOW to truly commit to creating the relationship of your dreams, we invite you to join us for the 2015 Love Resolution Workshop.

At this workshop, you will:

  • Distinguish and release the fears, doubts, resentment and regrets of the past
  • Create a Love Resolution that inspires you and calls you into action
  • Develop an action plan that will have you living and experiencing your Love Resolution every day of 2015

 

Discounted Pricing ends Saturday, January 17th. After that, ticket prices will go to full-price!

 

Want to REALLY ensure your success? Come with a friend! We’ve made it easy for you!

Both you and a friend can attend the workshop together for almost 50% off the regular price!

THAT’S how committed we are to you having the life and the love your heart desires this year!

Now, how committed are you?

 

Join us for the 2015 Love Resolution Workshop and begin making 2015 The Year of Love and Dreams Come True for YOU!

Yes, Your Dreams CAN Come True!

by Gladys Diaz

If your inbox is anything like mine, you have been flooded with emails and videos over the past few days about how to make 2015 your year!

I don’t know how you’ve been receiving the messages, but each time I receive one of them, I affirm, “Yes, it is! My dreams are coming true!”

Did you notice how I stated those affirmations using positive words and in present tense?

Those are just two of the keys to anchoring a statement regarding a goal, dream, or resolution so that you are already living into making it come true!

Click on the image below to watch a video Michelle shot for you from one of her dreams come true and read on to learn more about the keys to making a goal or resolution a reality!

 

Key #1: State your goal, dream, or resolution using positive words.

Did you notice how Michelle said, “Someday I’m gonna’ come back”?

She didn’t say, “Someday I hope I can come back,” or “I wish I could come back someday.” She said, “I’m gonna’ come back!” And that’s exactly what she did!

When we state a goal, resolution or affirmation using positive words – words that focus on what we do want, rather than on what we don’t want or are afraid might happen or not happen, our mind grabs onto, or “anchors,” that statement and translates it into a command.

See, your brain believes what you tell it to believe. If you continuously feed it fears, doubts, limiting beliefs, resentments and regrets, that’s what it will grab onto and make happen. It’s why you may be wondering why it is that certain people and situations keep showing up and repeating themselves in your life.

Making a dream or a resolution a reality begins with believing that it can happen. And, sometimes, that means repeating the statement over and over again until you actually begin to believe what you keep telling yourself.

 

Key #2: State your goal, dream, or resolution in the present tense, as if it is already happening!

Rather than saying, “Maybe one day I will find someone and have a good relationship” declare what will happen: “Someday, I will have the relationship of my dreams!”

Want to make your statement even more powerful? State it as if it is already happening: I am creating the relationship of my dreams!

This may seem “woo-woo,” like wishful thinking, or as if you are lying to yourself…

Let me be clear.

When you are telling yourself things like, “There is something wrong with me,” or “Maybe I’m just not meant to be in a happy relationship,” or “There’s no way this relationship will ever get better,” you are lying to yourself!

And, what’s worse, not only are you affirming what you don’t want, but you are believing it!

Retraining your brain to create, declare, and manifest what you want takes some “rewiring,” but it’s not that difficult to do, once you know the steps to take.

These are just 2 of the keys you’ll learn about on how to manifest your goals and resolutions during the 2015 Love Resolution Workshop we’ll be hosting on January 24, 2015, and it’s why we want you to join us!

You’ll also learn other keys, such as how to create a vision of what you want your love life to be like and how to plan for success, so that you are living your resolution every day of 2015!

This will be a wonderful, life-changing experience, and we can’t wait to share it with you!

Just click here to register now!

We are close to being sold out and we don’t want you to miss out, so register now and then check your email for important information regarding the event!

One of our goals for 2015 is:

We are helping thousands of women around the world attract, create, and experience the life and love their hearts desire!

And we want you to be part of us making that resolution a reality!

Register now and let us know that you’re going to be part of us realizing our resolution!

Can’t wait to see you there!

 

Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!

3 Steps to Realizing Your Love Resolutions

by Gladys Diaz

First, I want to point out that there is a good reason why I look like a wet duck in the video below!

This morning, I was committed to going for a run, even though it’s New Year’s Eve and I would have much more preferred to have slept  in a lot longer!  However, I made a New Year’s Resolution a few weeks ago (Yes, I know I was a bit early, but why wait?), so I held myself accountable and went out for a run.

Not .25 miles into the 4-mile run, it began to rain… hard.

Immediately, fears, doubts, and excuses started going CRAZY in my head.

It’s raining too hard…

I should go back home…

I’m going to get sick…

It was amazing to me just how quickly I was ready to find a reason to justify not honoring my commitment when something unexpected happened! 

And it got me thinking about how today and in the next few days you and millions of people will be making New Year’s Resolutions that probably (sadly) won’t last beyond a month — or even a week, simply because they haven’t planned on what to do when stuff (a.k.a. life) happens!

So, at mile 3, when it finally stopped raining, I sat down on a soaking wet bench and shot a quick video message just for you on 3 steps you can take to make sure you realize your resolution, even when something unexpected happens!

Click below to watch this short video!

Michelle and I will be taking you through these 3 steps at the Love Resolution Workshop we are hosting on January 24th in Ft. Lauderdale, FL.  

In this workshop you will:

  • Break through any hidden barriers that are standing in the way of you either attracting or manifesting even more love in your life and relationships
  • Create a clear and solid vision of what you want to experience in your love life and relationships in 2015
  • Develop an action plan that will have you living into and experiencing that vision throughout 2015!
  • Plus, a few surprises!

Remember that today is the last day you and your friends can register at the current Early Bird price, so…

>>Click here to register for the Love Resolution Workshop!<<

Wishing you lots of love and an amazing and Happy New Year!

Gladys

P.S. You really do have the power to make 2015 the most extraordinary year yet! Join us for the Love Resolution Workshop and let’s get started on making 2015 The Year of Love and Dreams Come True for YOU!

 

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