by heartsdesireintl | Nov 17, 2014 | Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Have you ever had one of those moments when you feel like you are exactly where you were meant to be?
Last week was like that for me!
I spent the first part of the week in California with one of my mentors and her coaches, and then spent the last part of the week attending a very intensive 3-day business workshop where I had incredible personal breakthroughs.
I just love transformation, don’t you?
During both events, I had the opportunity to listen to amazing women share about their personal journeys of how they came to where they are now in their lives, relationships, and businesses. With each interaction, I was able to connect with them on very personal level and share some of my heart with them, as well.
Some of the stories I heard this week were heart-breaking.
I met women who had lost everything due to natural disasters and unforeseen circumstances and had to rebuild their lives.
I spoke to women who had hit a wall in their love lives and, with coaching, were able to turn their relationships completely around.
I met women who are still experiencing the dark part of their journeys, but who were committed to working on transforming those areas of their lives.
I saw women break through their fears right in front of my very eyes!
All of these women – from different parts of the world, economic situations, and life circumstances – shared one thing in common: The unwillingness to stay stuck where they were.
Some may call that perseverance, tenacity, or determination. I call it the Essence of who we are as women.
There is something that lies within the core of our Selves – some refer to it as our spirit, or soul – that we are equipped with, which makes us able to experience pain and resolve to move forward with grace and strength.
If you are in one of those dark moments in your life –
If your relationship is falling apart and you don’t know where or how to begin to turn it around…
If you are frustrated with dating and are close to wanting to give up (or you already have)…
If you are feeling lost, lonely, and afraid all the time and long to love and be loved…
I want you to know that you are not alone.
No matter what it is you are going through, there is love, peace, and freedom on the other side of this! It may not seem like it now, but I promise you – because I have been through my own dark valleys when it comes to love – that you can experience more love, joy, and fulfillment than you can imagine!
It will take some work to get there, and some of it won’t be “easy,” but, as I said, you won’t be alone.
As we approach the end of 2014, take an inventory of your love life. Ask yourself:
- Is my love life everything I want it to be?
- Even if things are “good” or “okay,” is there another level of love and intimacy I’d like to discover?
- If my love life is not what I want it to be, am I willing to take a courageous step forward and do the inner and outer Heart Work to shift that and begin seeing my heart’s desires fulfilled?
These are questions only you can answer. Only you know what’s really going on in your heart.
Whatever your answers to these questions, I’m happy to help you walk through any of them, if you’re ready. I truly am here to serve and support you, and my commitment is that you actually begin to see your heart’s desires fulfilled. Just click here to set up a time to talk.
by heartsdesireintl | Oct 28, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
Have you ever had an experience that completely changes the way you see and experience life, even if nothing in your life changes?
That’s what I experienced this weekend!
Thanks to my amazing sister, Michelle, who gave me one of my best birthday presents ever, I was able to attend Oprah Winfrey’s “Live the Life You Want Weekend”!
Beyond the thrill of having the opportunity to see Oprah, Deepak Chopra, and Iyanla Vanzant – three of my favorite thought leaders, along with three new favorites: Elizabeth Gilbert, Rob Bell, and Amy Purdy – in person, it was the messages they shared that most touched and moved me!
The entire weekend was about embracing and living your life’s purpose and becoming who you were created to be so that you can have the life you want: The Life Your Heart Desires!
One powerful, heart-shaking quote after another filled me with more love, joy, and hopeful anticipation than I could have ever imagined! And, with each one, Michelle and I thought of you, and how we could use what we were learning and reaffirming to inspire and guide you to have the life and love your heart desires!
Why did we think of you?
Because our life’s purposes is completely intertwined with yours!
See, it is our life’s mission to ensure that each and every woman on the planet has the experience of loving and being loved each and every day of her life and is living the life of her dreams!
One of the most powerful quotes of weekend was spoken during a benediction Rev. Rob Bell said at the end of his talk. In the blessing, he prayed that by embracing the life we already have, may we come to see that we are already living the life we want.
How powerful is that?!?
What it made me see is that everything in my life – every sad moment and every happy one, every struggle and every celebration, every breakdown and every breakthrough, and every single choice I’ve ever made – has led me to the moment I am living right now.
And, if I embrace all of it with arms wide open, rather than resisting and pushing away the events and circumstances I don’t like, if I stop pretending that I don’t feel the pain and sadness when things don’t go the way I hoped they would, and if I take the time to just see and listen to the lesson I’m being taught in that moment, then I can trust that I am exactly where I need to be on the path leading me to where I want to go!
The same is true for you.
I know that not everything in your life looks the way you’d like it to.
I know that you have challenges and situations that feel like immovable barriers right now.
I know that you’ve experienced heartache and that even the thought of ever experiencing something like that again keeps you stuck and not wanting to take the steps you know can lead you in the direction of your hopes and dreams.
I also know that you have within you all of the power, beauty and grace to move forward and break through those barriers with strength, grace, and ease.
I know that you have the strength to face the choices you have made, to forgive yourself, and to break free from all of that unnecessary pain you’ve been carrying with you.
And, most of all, I know that you don’t have to do it alone. That’s why we’re here. That is our life’s purpose.
So, wherever you are on your journey – whether you are on the precipice of a huge breakthrough, or in a dark valley – know that there is a light within you just waiting to be ignited and unleashed!
Know that, if you allow it to, everything around you is pulling you toward the life and love your heart desires. You just have to let go of the past, the fear, and the heartache, so that you can let loose and set yourself free!
Nothing would make us happier than to see you living your every dream come true, except knowing that we, in some small way, played a part in helping that happen for you!
So, if you are ready to begin experience the life, happiness, and love that is waiting for you, know that we are only a phone call away!
Just click here to schedule a Ready for Love Breakthrough Session!
Know and believe that you truly can have the life and love your heart desires, and that we’re here to serve you!
Until our hearts meet again, always remember that you are loved!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
by heartsdesireintl | Oct 21, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship Advice, Success, Uncategorized
by Gladys Diaz
This weekend, I had an amazing breakthrough! I’ve gone back and forth about whether or not to share this, because it has to do with money, and I know that some people have “an issue” with that. But my breakthrough had so much more to do with things other than money, that I feel I need to share it with you, because it would be selfish not to!
Over the past two months I have invested more time and money in receiving coaching and training on running my business than ever before.
At every conference, meeting, and on every training call, I listened and took notes as if my life depended on it (because, in the big scheme of things, it does!). I made sure to spend time with the people who were shining most brightly, to connect with the leaders of the events (leaders by example – ALL of them), and to invest in further growth and development.
As I did this, a feeling of excitement began to brew in me. You know, like when you begin getting butterflies in your stomach at just the thought of something wonderful that is about to happen? Well, I began approaching life as if something wonderful was about to happen at any moment!
All of this Hopeful Anticipation came to a head this weekend at a Speaking Bootcamp, when I stood in front of a group of fellow entrepreneurs – many of them strangers – and gave a 5-minute talk about “Being The Invincible Woman in Your Work Life and The Absolutely Irresistible Woman in Your Love Life!”
As part of the talk, I extended the invitation for the ladies in the room to attend an upcoming event we are having for professional and entrepreneurial women who want to experience new levels of success in both their professional lives AND their love lives.
I spoke from my heart and with passion, because I knew what it cost me to not leave the office and “Vice-President Gladys” at the office, and bring a lot of the masculine energy I had to embody at work into my home. It was absolutely killing the romance and intimacy in my relationship.
I spoke with authority and conviction, because I knew what I did to turn that around and bring love, intimacy, and passion back into my marriage.
And yes, even though I was shaking a little, I spoke directly to every woman who in there with confidence and courage, because, my faith in what I was saying and the opportunity I was extending were bigger than my fear!
The result? An amazing breakthrough!
When I looked up, before I’d even finished speaking, there were four women standing in the back of the room, waiting to sign up for The Irresistible Woman Seminar that will be held in February!
So, why do I share this with you?
I share this so that you will know that whatever is stopping you from having and experiencing the kind of loving relationship your heart desires, your faith that you can have it needs to be bigger than your fear!
I share this because what made the difference for me was surrounding myself with like-minded women and inspirational thought leaders who are living what they teach. And that’s important to me, because that is what I commit to doing every single day in my marriage!
I share this because I am going to be extending several opportunities with you over the next few weeks and months that are going to guide you in being invincible in the workplace and absolutely irresistible in your love life!
And, finally, I share this because we have about two and half months left in the year, and, if you think that it’s too late to make a real change that will result in you meeting your love goals for 2014, I’m going to flat-out tell you that you are wrong. It’s not too late!
On the first day of the Speaking Bootcamp, we were asked to share our goal regarding what we wanted to get out of the weekend. I wrote down that I wanted to speak in such a way that women were moved to take immediate and decisive action to purchase the products and services that would allow them to achieve their hearts’ desires.” I also shared that I wanted to be able to inspire 20%-30% of the women in the room to work with me.
Guess what? Both of those goals were met that day!
So the question to ask yourself is not whether it’s too late to achieve your love goals. What there is for you to decide is whether or not you are ready to do whatever it takes to start taking action that will lead you toward achieving those goals.
If you are – and, please, only if you are truly ready – to begin working toward your love goals, click here to schedule an appointment for a Ready for Love Breakthrough Session, and let’s create an action plan that will help you begin taking decisive action toward achieving those goals.
Nothing is sweeter than experiencing a breakthrough that you know is going to change your life forever. That’s what I experienced this weekend, and that’s what I would love to guide you in experiencing, too!
Here’s to creating and living a life of all of your heart’s desires fulfilled!
Click here to schedule your Ready for Love Breakthrough Session!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
by heartsdesireintl | Oct 3, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
“How do I find my soulmate?
“How do I know if he’s my soulmate?”
Those are probably two of the most-frequently asked questions I hear from women! And who can blame them? Everyone wants to know that the next person they date or the man who they are with is, in fact, “The One,” their soulmate.
When my first husband, Andy, passed away, I swore that that was it for me. I was so upset and saddened at the thought that my once-in-a lifetime love – my soulmate – had come and gone and I’d no longer have the experience of sharing my life and soul with someone who truly and unconditionally loved me as much as I loved him.
Thankfully, I was wrong!
When I met and began falling in love with Ric, I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was the one I’d be spending the rest of my life with. I was ecstatic that I had been wrong about there only being one person in all the world who would I would love and who would love me in such a powerful, passionate, incredible way!
While the idea of having one soulmate that has been predestined to share his life with you can seem very romantic, that belief is fed by a fear of scarcity, which is what has so many women – perhaps even you – think that you have to find that one, “perfect” guy, or your doomed to experience a lifetime of loneliness.
That is scary. And depressing.
The truth is that there is an abundance of wonderful, loving, men who are also seeking out someone with whom they would like to spend their lives. In fact, they are out there, looking for you! And the great news is that, as you meet and get to know them, then you get to choose which ones you’d like to get to know better, and, eventually, which one you’d like to spend the rest of your life with.
So, the question remains: How do you find your soulmate?
Well, it begins with YOU.
Whether you are single and looking to attract your soulmate or you’re in a relationship with someone that doesn’t feel like everything you thought it would be, loving and being loved by your soulmate begins with being crystal-clear about what it is that you want to experience in a relationship.
If you want to experience love, passion, and fun in your relationship, then be loving, passionate, and fun NOW.
If you want to experience trust, compassion, and forgiveness in your relationship, be trusting and trustworthy, compassionate, and forgiving NOW.
If you want to experience a drama-free, peaceful, and easy-flowing relationship, then stop creating and inviting drama into your life, seek to be peaceful with others, and be open to not having to control and manage everything and everyone in your life.
How you attract your soulmate is that you are BEing everything you want to experience in your relationship in your life right now!
And in BEing everything your heart desires, you are living from your soul!
The love that you want, dream of, and long for isn’t something that is or that you will find anywhere outside of you. Like attracts like. So, if you want to attract someone who is going to give you the experience you would like to have in love for the rest of your life, you need to start being that in your life NOW.
That is how he will recognize you! And that is how he will be drawn to you!
This may sound “woo-woo” to you. You can choose to believe it or not. But if you haven’t found your soulmate yet, or if you thought the man you are with was your soulmate and you’re beginning to doubt it, consider that being with your soulmate is not about fate, or chance, or luck. It’s about you BEing that amazing, irresistibly alluring love magnet that he simply can’t resist falling in love with!
If you’d like to hear more about how to BE the love you want to see and experience with a soulmate, I invite you to check out the interview that airs today on the Global Latino Summit! One of my very good friends and internationally renowned author and speaker, Deborah Deras, interviewed me on “How to Go From Heartbreak to Finding Your Soulmate.”
This was one of the most fun and heart-warming interviews I’ve done to date, and I know you’ll really enjoy it! Just click here to register for the Global Latino Summit, and you’ll receive instant access to the interview, as well as the other amazing interviews she is making available. But hurry! This interview is only available for 24 hours, so you’ll want to head on over the GLS site now!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
P.S. Ready to attract your soulmate or transform your relationship in 2015? I’m opening enrollment for my VIP Private Coaching Program now! Click here to set up a time to talk and see if this program is right for you! Let’s make 2015 the year your dreams come true!
by heartsdesireintl | Sep 19, 2014 | Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Success
by Gladys Diaz
This month I have had the privilege of attending two informative and inspiring business conferences especially for women. Usually, at these events, the majority of the speakers are women who have reached high levels of success, so I was pleasantly surprised and excited to hear from five multimillionaire men who were sharing their secrets to success with us
But it’s what they shared that really caught me by surprise!
See, I was thinking they were going to tell us all about the steps they took to start a business, market themselves, and catapult their businesses into the millions. Instead, every single one of them told us the story of how difficult it was for them at the beginning, how they failed over and over again, and how one thing kept them going and believing in themselves through the darkest times: The support and trust of the women they loved!
Without fail, each of the men shared how, right when he was about to give up on himself and his dreams, his wife said the one thing that made the difference and had him make the decision to do whatever it took to succeed:
“I trust and believe in you.”
Now, granted, saying those words is a lot easier when the man you love is doing well, achieving success, and getting results.
But how do you find the strength and courage to authentically say that, even when all signs are pointing to failed attempts, one disappointment after another, and a lack of results?
- You remember why you fell in love with him in the first place. It can be easy to forget just how much you admired him and the greatness you saw in him when you first fell in love. It’s easier to allow your fears, doubts and disappointments to cloud the vision of who the man you love really is. However, if you can bring yourself back to remember what it was that had you decide that this man is the man who, at one time in your life, you were 100% certain you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, it makes it a whole lot easier to believe in him, because his courage, determination, and whatever other characteristics that drew you to him are still there! You just have to look more closely to see them.
- You stand next to him with unwavering trust. Our fears are sneaky things. They will convince us beyond a shadow of a doubt that things can’t change, that the worst-case scenario is inevitable and that we must protect ourselves and survive danger at all costs. Whether the fear you are experiencing during the difficult times is based in a fear of scarcity (not having your needs met), fear of abandonment, or a fear of being taken advantage of (especially if you’re having to work a little harder during those difficult times), feeling afraid and uncertain about the future can trigger that “fight-or-flight” response that can have you either complaining, criticizing, or chipping away at your man’s spirit, or wanting to run away and leave everything (including him) behind. It takes courage to trust him. It takes courage to trust that things will get better. And, most of all, it takes courage to trust in yourself and know that you made the right choice when you chose to love him!
- You speak words that lift him up, rather than tear him down. There may be times when your fear, sadness, and disappointment feel like they are getting the best of you. You may think that telling him and reminding him about what he needs to do will get him to do it. You may think that criticizing, questioning, or correcting his decisions will make him want to change. You may think that pointing out everything you feel he is doing wrong or should be doing differently will lead to different results. The truth, however, is that, if you want him to rise above the circumstances, you need to raise him up with your words.
True, your man is completely responsible for his own happiness and for the choices he makes. However, never underestimate the influence you have on him and how he comes to see and know himself. He sees himself and what he’s capable of through your eyes, and way you see him can either tear him down or lift him up. It can either discourage and deter or encourage and inspire him to new heights!
So, what does your man see when he looks into your eyes?
Does he see cynicism, doubt, and shame, or does he see trust, faith, and love?
If you have been tearing your man down out of your own fears and frustrations, the good news is that every moment gives us an opportunity to choose differently.
So, what will you choose to do and say today to help inspire your man to greatness?
Because, when it’s all said and done and he’s finally made it to the top, guess who he’s going to make sure is up there with him?
Let us know what you’re going to do today to inspire your man to greatness in the comments below! We love hearing from you!
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by heartsdesireintl | Sep 9, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance, Success
by Gladys Diaz
Have you ever felt like something is just too hard and it’s time to give up – even when it’s something you really want or believe in, like a dream or a goal you’ve been working on for some time?
Many times, when I’m on my runs, I tell myself I’m not going to stop until I reach a certain distance. There are times when my legs are aching, sweat is dripping into my eyes, and I feel like my chest will explode, and I just want to stop. And, sometimes, I do. But the moment I do, I check the app I use while running, and if I haven’t reached that preset distance, I will literally say to myself aloud, “Don’t you dare stop now!”
Pretty tough, right?
Well, I’ve found that sometimes I need to get real with myself, or else I’ll quit before it’s time to stop. If I don’t remind myself of what my goals are, the milestone I set, and why I’m doing something, left to my own devices, I’ll quit when things get a little too uncomfortable for me – whether it’s in running, a goal I’ve set for myself in business, my well-being, and, yes, my relationship.
What about you? Are you getting ready to give up on something?
I speak to a lot of women – women of all ages, cultures, and relationship statuses – and there’s common question that comes up:
“Do you think there’s hope for me?”
Maybe you’re a single woman who’s become frustrated with dating unavailable men or men you’re not really attracted to, or the fact you haven’t gone on a date for months (or years) and you’re wondering whether you’re just meant to be alone.
Maybe you’ve been in an on-again-off-again relationship for several years, or one in which you’ve been waiting for him to commit or proposed to you, or things just seem to be unraveling at the seams, and you wonder whether it’s time to call it quits.
Maybe you’re in a marriage where things have been on a downward spiral for a while, or you feel like you’re just housemates or co-parents, and you wonder whether it’s even worth possible to bring the love and romance you once shared together.
And maybe you’re like many of my clients and you’ve taken several courses, read many books, and done a ton of spiritual and inner work and you’re asking yourself why these thing seem to lead everyone else in the directions of their dreams, but not yours, and you’re wondering whether there’s simply something “broken” inside of you.
I don’t know where you are, but I do know this:
The only surefire way to not reach your goals and for your dreams not to come true is for you to decide to give up!
That’s the only thing that will guarantee that you won’t get what your heart desires.
So, I’m going to say this with all of my love:
Don’t you dare stop now!
What if there’s something you didn’t know you could do to turn your love life around?
What if there’s just a little more work to do to finally get the things that have been blocking love from coming to you out of your way?
What if the next guy you meet in person or online is the one who’s been looking for you all along?
What if the man you love is just waiting for a sign that you’re not ready to give up on your relationship?
What if there is still hope?
Are you seriously willing to give up without doing everything you can to make your dreams come true?
If you’re not ready to give up yet, then take out a piece of paper and answer these questions:
- What is it that my heart truly desires?
- What is making me want to stop and is in the way of me having this be realized in my life?
- Is there someone who or something that can help me discover how to get past this?
- Am I courageous enough to reach out for help and do what it takes and not give up?
- What’s the next action step I will take, rather than stop and give up?
I know you’re tired. I know you’re afraid. But I also know that you can be courageous and unstoppable. I know you can take that next action step. And I know that you don’t have to do it alone!
If you’d like support (and a nice, hard push) in taking that next step, then you can always reach out to me and step up a time to talk!
I’m not giving up on you, so don’t you dare give up on you, either!
Have you ever had one of those moments when you feel like you are exactly where you were meant to be?
