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Let Go of the Wrong Man So You Can Attract the Right One

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 8, 2020 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

rby Gladys Diaz

Are you with the wrong guy?

Are you in a relationship that feels like settling?

Are you still hung up on a relationship that’s long been over, but you can’t seem to move on?

Are you frustrated feeling like you’re never going to be able to find the right person to bring into your life?

The answers to these questions are so important, because there is no way to create the relationship of your dreams if you’re stuck in something that’s not it. It can get tricky, because sometimes you may be open to seeing the red flags, and sometimes you’re not.

So how do you know if you’re with the wrong guy?

If you have clarity and know what you want to be experiencing in the relationship of your dreams, then you know when you’re not in it.

You must get crystal-clear on what it is that you want to feel and experience when you’re with the right guy in order to know when you’re with the wrong one.

Now, “crystal-clarity” isn’t the laundry list of what you want your guy to look like or have. It’s about the experience you have when you’re with him.

Do you feel at peace when you’re with him?
Can you be yourself?
Is the relationship aligned with your values and what’s important to you?

When you know what you want – it becomes crystal clear if you’re in it or not. It becomes less about looking for “red flags” and more about looking at what you’re actually experiencing when you’re around him, and then deciding if it’s aligned with what you really want.

Why is this important?

It’s important because, if you’re not having the experience you want to have in the relationship of your dreams, then the truth is: You’re settling.

We know why you stay.

You think maybe he’ll come around.
You think maybe he’ll change.
Maybe… if you wait a little longer… love him a little more… give more of yourself to him…

If you find yourself in this pattern, listen up. Stop falling in love with “the potential” of what you think you see in a man, and start looking at what is actually there. Not from a judgmental place, but from a place of who he really is right now.

We also know that if you’re willing to settle in a relationship, then you’re struggling with your self-worth and self-esteem. You’re not getting that you really do deserve to have exactly what you want in a loving relationship.

When I was dating, this was me.

At one point, I was dating a man who was not only married, but was seeing three other women at the same time as me!

When I look back on that experience, I am dumbfounded as to what I was thinking, because, at the time, it didn’t even occur to me that maybe this wasn’t a good situation for me to be in.

Years later, I know what I was thinking. I was continuing in my pattern of thinking if I could just be enough or do something right, that he’d choose me. I had fun with him, but the experience of being in what I thought was a relationship with him was super stressful. I was always wondering who he was with and whether he was going to call! It was not fun at all!

It was not what I wanted, and this was blocking me from creating what I did want.

The even bigger risk is that staying in a wrong relationship like the one I was in can have long-term effects on your psyche and your self-esteem, and the time it can take to heal from that can be devastating.

Another aspect of being with the wrong guy is staying energetically connected to him, even after the relationship has ended.

The longest I’ve heard of a woman not being able to let go of a relationship is 17 years (that’s a teenager!)! 17 years of holding on to something that no longer existed and stopping herself from moving forward and creating the relationship she desired.

That’s heartbreaking!

So, what does it look like to let go?

First, you must bring acceptance to what is. You must realize that this relationship is not what you’re committed to creating and having, and accept that it needs to end. If it already ended, you need to accept that it’s over, once and for all.

Second, bring gratitude to the experience. Recognize the good memories, the lessons learned, and the people that may have come into your life through this person that are a blessing to you. When you feel gratitude for what was, it brings an empowerment to the choice you’re making to move on.

Third, you’ve got to realign yourself with your values. Your values are the compass you can use to guide your life. Though your boundaries and standards may change as the circumstances of your life change, your values – the things that matter to you most – will never change. Be true to and honor them, and you will always know you’re making the best choice for you.

Fourth, do the Heartwork to understand how you got there in the first place. What are the core issues that drive the pattern of attracting the wrong man? Behind every dysfunctional pattern there’s a need you’re filling. Get clear on what that is so that you can shift it.

Fifth, begin taking committed action in the direction you’re now going. If you’re having a hard time letting go, make the choice to “lock the door” and move on! Take a stand, set boundaries and choose to move forward.

We know that a lot of this is “easier said than done” when you don’t know exactly how to do it on your own. Think about it… If you knew what to do and how to do it, you would have moved on from this relationship a long time ago.

If any or all of this sounds all too familiar, we’d love to support you in finally letting go of the past, the wrong relationships, and anything that is holding you back from having the relationship of your dreams.

One of the fastest and most life-changing ways to do this is to join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want SUCCESS in love is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

In these three days, you are going to get connected to who you truly are, experience transformations and breakthroughs in your relationship with yourself, break free from the past, and create the access for creating the relationship of your dreams!

Whether you’re deeply desiring to attract the man or you want to create your dream relationship with the man you’re already with – this event is for you!

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You’ll even get a special “LOVE box” filled with cool swag and materials we’ll be using during the event IF you’re one of the first 100 people to grab your ticket.

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The Key to True Love

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 21, 2020 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

What is the key to true love?

Many women think it lies in finding the right person or having a perfected list of qualities you’re looking for in a partner.

Some think it’s about where or how you meet the person, while others think the key is in “divine timing.”

What we’ve found from working with women of every age, from many countries, and all backgrounds is that there is one thing that truly separates the women that create the loving, intimate, long term relationship they desire and those that don’t.

The key to creating true love with another person is creating true love within yourself first.

Now, we’re not talking about self-care, though we do encourage doing all the things that fill you up and nourish your soul.

Self-love is deeper.

Self-love is about the relationship you have with yourself.

It’s the things you say about and to yourself.

It’s feeling comfortable with the most intimate parts of who you are.

It’s the beliefs you hold about yourself.

It’s the way you trust who you are and how you feel.

It’s loving and accepting every part of you, even the parts of you you’re afraid others may not like.

It’s bringing forgiveness and acceptance to your past.

True self-love creates confidence, trust and the ability to create the things you most deeply desire.

This is important whether you are single, in a relationship, or in a relationship that isn’t everything you hoped it would be, because the relationship you have with yourself will be reflected in the relationships you create with other people.

Do you have any resistance coming up around this?
Do you doubt that this could really be what’s missing from creating what you want in your life?

If so, you’re not the only one. It’s easier to point outside of yourself for why things aren’t working the way you’d like to in your life. It’s much harder to look inward and be responsible for what you’re experiencing and creating in your relationships and in your life.

And, if you don’t have the skills to know how to turn things around it can be a terrifying and frustrating place to be. We get that.

We also know that knowing exactly what to do and how to do it brings incredible amounts of confidence, joy, and empowerment, because the relationship you have with yourself is the ONE thing you have total control over.

Everything starts with you.
And that’s GREAT news!

When I was in the midst of my own self-love mission, everything in my life looked perfect on the outside. I had the job, I had great kids, I traveled with my girlfriends, and I was dating a lot — though none of those dating experiences ever went very far.

Men would always tell me that I had an amazing life and was an amazing woman, but that they knew they just couldn’t give me what I wanted.

I felt so confused and wondered why.If my life was so awesome, how could I still come home at night and feel so miserable and lonely and alone?

Once I did the HeartWork I realized that all I wanted was someone to validate that I was lovable, when what I really needed was to create that love inside myself first.

Recognizing that belief, uncovering where it came from, and creating something different within myself was such a transformative experience that it’s literally why we started doing the work that we do.

We want every single woman to create the love and relationship that she deserves and desires, and, like we’ve said, we know it starts with you.

That’s why we’d love to invite you to the Self-Love Secret Mission, a free 5-day challenge happening next week!

Imagine five days where you can break-though and create the type of love and relationship with yourself that you want to create with others.

Throughout the week, you will experience falling in love with yourself and start seeing the miracles that follow.

Out of this experience we’ve seen women obtain new jobs, receive promotions, manifest new homes, and create the relationship of their dreams — all through the healing and transformation that comes through doing this HeartWork.

If you’re ready to create a deeply loving, profound, and powerful relationship with yourself that will have you create the life and love you really want, then make sure you join us for the Self-Love Secret Mission!

Click here to join us for the Self-Love Secret Mission!

When you dive into self-love and develop a deep and intimate relationship with yourself, you tap into and unleash your Irresistible Essence, which is the key to creating everything your heart desires!

We can’t wait to see you there!

How to Listen to Actually Hear Your Partners

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 17, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance

by Gladys Diaz

Let’s talk about listening.

It’s been said that listening is 50% of the communication process.

Well, we think differently!

Listening is 100% of communication because, if you’re not actively listening, you’re not really having a conversation.

If you’re not listening you’re having a monologue, instead of a dialogue, and that isn’t really a conversation, now, is it?

We’re talking about not just listening, but really hearing what the other person is saying.

Have you ever had this experience of listening vs. hearing?

Think about a clock that ticks in your house. Probably, most of the time you don’t even notice the ticking, or you might hear it and it doesn’t really affect you. Now think about how you feel when you tune into it and all of the sudden the ticking becomes 10 times louder and drives you absolutely crazy!

It’s maddening right?!

Kind of a silly example, but do you see the difference between listening and actually hearing?

Hearing involves attention and presence, and is so very important in dating and relationships.

If you’re dating, you’re aiming to get to know people well enough to know if you want to keep getting to know them. How do you do that if you’re not listening well?

Really listening can help you catch key things you may otherwise have missed that can cause you to either want to get to know someone better, or save you lots of heartache and wasted time in the long run.

If you’re in a relationship, one of the most loving things you can do for your partner is to simply listen without saying a word.

How often do you do that?

We get it,. It’s not always easy. As mothers and wives we get how easy it is to give in to the desire to say something from a desire to support and help the other person.

However, when someone feels heard, they feel acknowledged, loved, cared for, seen, known and understood.

And those are beautiful gifts to receive!

So, how do you listen so you actually hear the other person?

It starts with being in control of the voice in your head. You know, the voice that is constantly thinking about, judging and placing opinions on everything you hear.

That voice that just asked if you have one of those voices… Yep, that’s the one!

Acknowledge you have that voice so you can start turning the volume down on it and really listening when others are talking.

The next step is to be an active listener.

What does that mean?

Engage with the conversation. Ask questions and seek to understand. Refrain from interrupting and interjecting your own thoughts and opinions, but let the other person know you’re listening by showing you’re invested in the conversation.

You can also say periodically things like, “I want to make sure I’m hearing you….” or “What I’m hearing you say is…” so that you can make sure you are understanding what they are trying to communicate.

The experience on the receiving end of these questions is one of “Wow! She really cares about me and wants to make sure she understands me!”

If you want to show a lot of courage, you could also ask at the end of a conversation how the other person felt about your listening. And then listen for the feedback of what the other person’s experience was.

You can become a better listener just by asking for feedback along the way!

In communication, the words you say, how you say them, and how you listen are the keys to making a difference for people in your life.
These tools work across the board. How would your relationships in all walks of life — work, family, friendships — benefit from better listening?

If you’d like some support with recognizing the blocks in your own listening patterns, that’s what we’re here for! We know the tools of communication that work in relationships — AND the ones that don’t — so that you can experience greater levels of love, trust and intimacy with those you love and care about.

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Think of the number of people in your life who are important to you and how communicating better would make a difference for them. Think about how this could transform the communication and connection in your relationships.

It’s a complete game changer when you know how to use the tools! We want you to go out in your life and have beautiful conversations that make a difference for you and the person you love!

Do You Believe Love Can Be Easy?

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 13, 2020 | Coaching, Dating, Intimacy, Love, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Believing you can have the love you desire is the key to creating the relationship of your dreams.

Do you really believe it’s possible for you?

Your answer is probably yes.

But, here’s the kicker.: Your brain is getting in the way.

Whether it’s been years since your last relationship, or you’re in one right now, if you’re struggling to know how to make it work the way you want it to, there’s a belief that’s getting in the way.

Everything we believe is given by something that happened in our past.

Things happen. Promises are broken, something unexpected happens, people change, partners die… and we start to wonder: Can I really have the love I want?

No matter what your relationship status, ask yourself this: What is getting in the way of me having the relationship I really want?

The first thing to pay attention to is what you’re thinking in the little moments.

What’s the very first thing that comes to your mind when someone says you’re beautiful?

When he doesn’t call after a date?

When he’s 10 minutes late to pick you up?

When your boss calls you in for a meeting?

The reason it’s important to pay attention to those thoughts is because those thoughts are the ones running the show.

They’re creating your “reality.”

Even if you say you know you can have the relationship you really want, but you don’t fully believe it, you won’t be able to create it.

You will always listen to your beliefs over your thoughts or words.

So, what’s running your show?

What are your dominant thoughts focused on?

Do you think you can’t trust him? That relationships never last?

Do you feel like relationships are too hard, or that a great relationship is never going to happen for you?

These thoughts were created before you had your first kiss or your first crush.

And that’s why it’s important to get to the root beliefs under those thoughts, so that you can dig them up and replace them with beliefs that will serve you.

It’s like when I’m pulling those pesky weeds out of my yard. If I don’t pull them all the way out, including the roots, they will just grow back! But if I pull them out, roots and all, they will be gone for good.

It’s the same with our beliefs.

When you get to the root of the belief that’s tainting your reality, then, and only then, can you replace it by planting new experiences which create new beliefs that are just as strong and deeply rooted as the old belief.

Those pesky beliefs that cause you to run the same patterns in your life cause disappointing experiences. Enough disappointment leads to apathy and more disempowering beliefs, and the tug-of-war in your life goes on and on!

The conversation you’re having in your head is what’s keeping you stuck exactly where you are.

If you’re done suffering and are tired of having a hard time in relationships, let us help you!

Relationships are joyful, fun, exciting, adventurous, intimate and happy! Let us help you uncover what’s making it seem so hard. Because it doesn’t have to be.

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If what you really, truly believe isn’t giving you what you want, let’s talk. It can be easy!

Is He Lacking Integrity? Are You?

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 7, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

What is your definition of integrity?

The universal answers that probably come to mind are,”Being honest,” or “Doing the right thing when nobody’s watching.”

Here’s our definition:“Honoring your word to the same level that you honor yourself.”

This looks like following through with the things you say you’ll do – both to yourself and to others.

This looks like honoring your personal thoughts and beliefs.

This looks like knowing what you want and not settling for less.

There was a time in my life when I didn’t really think about integrity. It just wasn’t something that mattered to me. I thought that being ten minutes late was still being on time. I justified my behavior and figured that if I didn’t follow through on things, people would understand.

The thing is, I had no idea what I was doing to myself subconsciously.

The fact is, I was destroying my confidence regarding what I deserved. I was destroying the level of belief I had in myself about what I could create and accomplish.

Every time I took a job that paid less than what I wanted, I was diminishing my personal integrity.

Every time I called a guy I liked after I’d promised myself I’d wait to hear from him. I was showing that I didn’t believe I was worth being honest to.

Every time I didn’t stick to a diet or exercise plan ,I was lowering my ability to trust myself.

I didn’t see that what I said mattered.

The problem with this is that you can’t create a powerful life if you can’t trust yourself.

Every time I lowered my integrity, my life got more chaotic.

And, finally I had a powerful wake-up call.

“What if I started living my life by what I say matters?”

Guess what happened?

Well, when it comes to dating,I stopped tolerating certain things. If a guy said he’d call at a certain time and he didn’t, I noticed. If he did it time and time again I would choose to let him go.

I stopped dating men that were separated, but still married.

I raised my standards and stopped dating men who lied, did marijuana, and had lower standards than me.

By raising my standards, I raised my awareness.

I realized that I could choose, and I started to choose differently.

I started dating men who cared about integrity, too, and that made all the difference.

What if you were living your life like what you say matters? What might change?

The #1 thing that improves self confidence is following through with the things you say you’ll do – both to others AND to yourself.

Even the little things!

You can’t attract what you don’t create. You must start with yourself and have a look at your own level of integrity.

When it comes to dating, you get to choose what you tolerate in a relationship – you get to decide!

We get it, sometimes emotions and attraction take over and we make concessions and accept behavior we don’t like.

That’s why you need to be aware and awake.

Does he show up late or cancel 50% of the time?

Does he treat you well both publicly and privately?

Are you tolerating something you don’t want to have in a relationship?

These are just the beginning of the questions you can ask yourself to make sure you are creating or in the kind of relationship you’d like to be in.

And, if it appears that you’re in a relationship that lacks respect and integrity – look at yourself first. Be honest with yourself about whether or not you are respecting and being in integrity with yourself.

Don’t waste time and energy on things that don’t matter. Let him go.

Choose what you’ll tolerate.

Believe that you’re available to men who have and demonstrate integrity.

There’s power in that.

If you’d like support diving into the questions that will bring you what you really desire in a relationship and what you may be tolerating to light, we’d love to speak with you!

Let us be the powerful wake-up call that supports you in creating the love and mutually respectful relationship you really want!

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Creating the life and relationship you want is always an internal job. If you’re attracting or in relationship with men that lie, don’t follow-through, or lack integrity in some other way – it’s time to take a look inward. We’re here to help you course-correct that so that you can experience the love and happiness your heart desires.

We’ve got you.

How To Get the Love RIGHT NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | May 29, 2020 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance

by Gladys Diaz

How long has it been since your last significant relationship?
And, if you’re in a relationship, how long has it been since you felt truly happy in it?

A month?
A year?
Several years?

This has been a recurring theme for women stepping in. For some it’s been two, five or seven years since their last relationship or since they felt truly happy in their relationships For some it’s been 12 or even 15 years!

Oh, my heart just aches that it’s been that long since they’ve had that love and partnership they deserve and desire.

I’m so glad they found us!

Let me ask you another question.

How many times in the last 2 months have you heard the term, “stay at home,” “be careful,” or “stay safe.”
It’s only natural for you to be feeling the urge to push pause on your dreams.

That’s why we feel called to say that the time to make your relationship dreams come true is RIGHT NO.

Whether it’s been two months or two years or two decades since your last relationship, the time is now to create the relationship of your dreams – regardless of what the current situation says is possible.

Life is still happening! It may look a bit different right now, but life is still going on and there are things in your life that still get to be created during this time.

Love is one of them!

You can be careful and safe in order to protect your health and still be open to creating the relationship and love you desire.

What you can’t be is frantic, fearful or closed off – because that will only have you attract more of the same.

Even while you are staying at home, this is not the time to be isolated and alone.

This is the time to be creating community as you work through the Love Barriers that are keeping you from experiencing the amazing desires you have in your heart.

Now is the time to create the relationship of your dreams – with the right guidance.

Unless you’re a professional baker, baking a cake probably wouldn’t be very much fun without a recipe or guidance on how to do it, right?

If you were just trying to figure it out, it would feel frustrating and probably wouldn’t turn out very good either!

Trying to create a relationship all on your own is the same. When you don’t know what to do, how to do it, and the best way to do it, it can be frustrating and “hard.”

Get the support you need so you can have fun with it!

The doors for our Ready For Love NOW program close tonight at midnight, so the time to join is now.

This isn’t just a program.

This is a movement.

There are 60 other women who have already stepped in. 60 women who have said yes to their lives, to themselves and to love!

I have such a strong feeling that these women are going to take this and spread it to other women in the world. They are stepping forward during a time when, from the outside, it looks like there is no hope, and they are reigniting the fire in their hearts!

There is so much power in surrounding yourself with powerful women, thought leaders, and others who are working toward the same goals as you!

So will you join us?

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(If there aren’t any slots available before midnight, that means other women grabbed the available spots. Simply choose another time, and we’ll make sure we note that you reached out to us before midnight.)

This 12-week program is going to teach you how to break through the Love Barriers that are holding you back from creating the love you want.

It’s going to support you in how to take care of yourself emotionally, physically and mentally so you can be the type of woman you could fall in love with!

And most importantly, at the end of the 12 weeks, you’re going to walk away from this program being so completely in love with yourself that a man won’t be able to help but fall in love with you, too. (And you may even have found your man! – This has been known to happen during our programs, so we wouldn’t be surprised!)

What will it feel like to know you are worthy of love, to be open to love and to know that you have the skills to create the love your heart desires?

What will it feel like when you have found your man and get to bask in the love, passion, joy, and companionship you have waited for for so long?

And, if you’re in a relationship, what will it feel like to know that you you know that you are loved and adored by the man that you love?

Well, it’s time to stop imagining and start making it happen! Let the waiting end now!

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