What’s Really Stopping You From Having the Love You Want

What’s Really Stopping You From Having the Love You Want

by Gladys Diaz

 

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You’re successful.

You have great friends and a good life.

But one thing is missing.

You don’t have that special someone with whom to share it.

As successful as you feel in other areas of your life, you just can’t seem to figure out why you can’t attract the right man into your life.
Maybe you have no problem getting dates, but they just don’t end up going past the first or second date.

Maybe it’s been months or years since your last long-term relationship and you just haven’t found someone you really feel connected to.

Perhaps it’s just beginning to feel like this “relationship thing” just isn’t for you.

If you find yourself relating to any of these situations, we’ve got some great news for you.

First of all, there’s nothing broken or wrong with you, so you can stop trying to fix yourself!

The reason you’re not having the success you want in love is that there are barriers blocking you from attracting the right man.

And, because many of these barriers are “invisible” to you, it looks like online dating not working, guys not wanting to commit, and you being “cursed” with attracting emotionally unavailable guys!

Just like you’re unable to avoid a car that’s in your blind spot, it’s impossible for you to break through a love barrier you can’t see.

If you’re ready to stop suffering and start loving, join Michelle and me for a new teleclass we’ve created especially for you called, “Breaking Through Your Love Barriers to Attract the Love You Want!”

In this teleclass you will learn:

  • How to uncover your Love Barriers – those “invisible” emotional and behavioral patterns that are blocking you from attracting the right man into your life and experiencing the kind of love you really want
  • The practical steps you can take to break through these barriers, feel more confident in dating, trust your intuition to guide you to choose the man who will love and treat you the way you desire and deserve
  • The keys to attracting the right kind of man so that you can have more fun in dating and experience happiness and LOVE in your relationship

 

Seeing what’s in your blind spot can help you avoid a car accident.

Getting clear on what your love barriers are can help you avoid heartache so that you can start having more fun while dating, begin attracting men you are attracted to, and be in the kind of relationship your heart desires!

Join us for this FREE teleclass on Tuesday, June 9th and get ready for a love breakthrough!

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It’s time to break through your barriers and experience the love you want!

Your happiness is your responsibility. If you’ve been feeling disappointed and frustrated with your experience of dating and relationships, it’s time to make a change! Join us and take the first step toward attracting the love you’ve been longing for!
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Stop Ignoring the Signs That Your Relationship is in Trouble

by Gladys Diaz

This week my heart has been heavy.  I’ve heard from three different women who have reached out to tell me that their marriages are ending. 
 
It’s heartbreaking for me to hear news like this.  Marriage is such a sacred, precious union.  When two people choose to join their lives because they love each other, they do it fully expecting the love that they feel for one another to grow stronger over the years.  They do not get married hoping to hurt, disrespect, and kill the love they once felt for one another. 
 
I’m the first one to admit that having a wonderful marriage takes work. It’s a daily commitment to being my best self so that I can have the love, happiness, and peace in my marriage that envisioned when we first got married. It wasn’t always like this for us. We went through rough patches, just like every other couple.  There were times when I wondered if we’d make it. 
 
I remember noticing that things were changing between us. I remember asking myself where the love, passion and fun we used to share had gone.  We were arguing more often, rarely having fun together, and I carried my resentment like a badge of honor.  We were not hugging, kissing, or sleeping together as often and there were many nights when I cried myself to sleep. 
 
Our marriage didn’t get to that point over night.  There were signs along the way.  Things had been getting bad for a while.  And I silently prayed and hoped that things would change. 
 
One day I decided I couldn’t ignore what was happening any longer. I couldn’t just keep hoping and praying that things would get better.  I knew I had to do something in order to transform who I was being so that I could help turn my marriage around. 
 
I began doing my inner work, sought out mentors and coaches who would help and hold me accountable, and began experiencing the inner shift that began having a very real effect on my marriage. 
 
It took some work and it didn’t happen overnight, but soon the constant arguing stopped.  We were holding hands and smiling at each other again.  We began laughing and kissing and making love again.  My transformation helped transform my relationship and I began to see the man I’d fallen in love with in a whole new light! 
 
If you’re going through a difficult time in your marriage (or you know someone who is), don’t ignore the signs. Don’t pretend you don’t see them, and certainly don’t think that things are just magically going to get better on their own.  They won’t.

In today’s video I do something I rarely do because of how protective I am of the time I have with my family on the weekends.  However, I’m really committed to making a difference, so I’m offering to talk with a few of you who are ready to begin turning your marriage around this weekend.

Now, here’s the deal.

There are thousands of women reading this email right now and I’m only opening a few spots, because I still want to spend time with my husband and kids. I also only have two spots available in my private coaching program. So, I’m asking that you reach out to me only if you are serious about investing in and doing the work you’ll need to do to turn your marriage around before it’s too late.

I’m not giving you the link to my calendar. If you want to speak with me this weekend, send me an email. It will be a first-come-first serve basis and I will let you know the times I have available, which will be mid-morning/early afternoon Eastern time.

I know in my heart that you don’t have to suffer and that by applying certain skills and practices you can transform your marriage. I’ve helped hundreds of women do this and I want to help you, too.

The signs are there and the time is now. If you’re ready to turn things around, hit reply and let’s talk!

Don’t let your reasons stop you!

Don’t let your reasons stop you!

by Gladys Diaz

I’ve been preparing and practicing my presentations for The Irresistible Woman Seminar today and I’ve been thinking of you non-stop!  So I decided to cut a quick video for you and then right back to my work!

I can’t help that you keep coming to mind! Every time that I read a really powerful point or one of the heart-shifting exercises we are going to be doing this weekend, it makes me sad to think that may not be there!
 

I don’t know what has had you not sign up until now, but I do know one thing about you. The fact that you took the time to open the email and even read this far means that you know how committed Michelle and I are to providing you with the information that we know is going to make a difference in your love life and relationships!

How do I know that? Because you wouldn’t be a part of this community if you weren’t!

So, whatever has been stopping you from attending, I just want you to ask yourself if it really is something insurmountable, “unfixable,” or life-threatening.

If it’s not, then I’m going to ask you to do something I consistently invite my clients to do.

I invite you to be UN-reasonable!

That means I’m inviting you to stop letting your “reasons” stand in the way of having what you want!

Here’s the thing, when you really want something – a nice car or outfit, a vacation, or to reach a goal, you figure out a way to make it happen.

Family members might tell you not to do it.

Your friends may tell you you’re crazy to do it.

You may even question your own sanity.

But you do it. Because it matters to you.

If your love life matters to you, if you truly want to be in a relationship where you feel adored, and you know that you know that you are love, then I’m inviting you to put those reasons that are stopping you aside and join us for The Irresistible Woman Seminar.

It’s going to be at least a year until we have this event again.

Do you really want to keep putting your happiness, your dreams, and the love that you want on hold?

I hope not!

So, push past your excuses, be UN-reasonable and join us for a weekend that is going to have you put an end to the loneliness, frustration, and “suffering” you’ve been experiencing in love and relationships.

Just click on the link below and join us!

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P.S. If you need support, reach out to me (gladys@heartsdesireintl.com). I can’t help you if I don’t know what you need!

Are You Settling for Less?

Are You Settling for Less?

by Gladys Diaz

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One of the biggest fears women I speak to have is that they are going to have to “settle” for less than they want or deserve. 

 

The fear of having to settle for something or someone stems from a scarcity mindset that has you believe you can’t really have it all, that you want “too much,” and that “at least something is better than nothing.”

 

This fear of settling will impact the way you view and listen to people and situations, the way you approach dating and relationships, and the way you go about making your dreams come true.

Think about it. 

 

If you’re feeling stuck in your love life, and there’s an underlying belief that you really can’t have the life, career, and the loving relationship that you want, how committed are you going to be to going after your dreams?

 

How willing will you be to push and break through the resignation, sadness and frustration that can show up when you’re not seeing the results that you want right away?

 

How is all of this fear and resignation showing up in your life today?

 

Are you in the relationship that you want?

 

If you are in a relationship, is it the happy, loving, and passionate you dreamed it would be?

 

Do you really believe you can have the kind of relationship your heart desires?

 

If you’ve been living life inside of the fear that you’ll have to settle because you’re not going to get what you want anyway, it’s time to turn that thinking pattern around and start  attracting into your life what you really want!

 

 

What if you didn’t have to settle?  What if you really could have everything your heart desires?

 

Well, last week, our friend, Melissa Binkley and I hosted a teleclass where I shared how you can do just that!

 

If you didn’t join us on the call, I’m going to invite you to listen to the teleclass today and begin to shift that scarcity-based fear into an empowering and abundant-based reality!

 

And to prove how committed we are to you living from a space of abundance, we shared an incredible (CRAZY) offer with you that is only being made available to the women in our communities!

 

That’s how committed we are to you having the success, health, happiness, and LOVE your heart desires!

 

So, listen to the teleclass, because the offer is about to expire (you’ll hear why on the call)!

 

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And, once you’ve taken us up on the offer, let me know, because I have another special bonus just for YOU!

 

That’s the kind of thing that starts happening when you step out of scarcity and step into living in abundance!

 

Let’s see just how ready you really are to have it ALL!

Your path to having it ALL beings with believing you CAN have it!  

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Another Reason Successful Women Struggle in Love

by Gladys Diaz

 

As a successful woman, you know that most goals require a few key components:

Time

Attention

Effort

 

It’s nearly impossible to attain any goal without these. 

Stop for a moment and think about one of the goals you’ve accomplished in your life of which you are most proud. 

 

How much time did you put into attaining that goal?

How much attention did you give it?

How much effort went into making sure you achieved the goal?

 

Now, think about this: Was it worth it?

 

If the goal was something that is important to you, I can guarantee that the answer to the last question is a resounding “YES!”

 When we achieve a goal that is important to us – one of our heart’s desires – the time, attention, and effort we put into it seems worth it once we have what we set out to accomplish.

Why is it, then, that, when it comes to love, most women, including successful, goal-driven women, believe that “Love should just happen”?

 

I can’t tell you how many women tell me they want to be in a loving, committed relationship, but they don’t want to date.

 Or that, if it’s “meant to be,” the right man will just somehow magically “show up” in their lives.

 Or they want to turn their marriages or relationships around, but they don’t feel they should have to be the one making the changes.

 Anything worthwhile – including having the relationship of your dreams – takes time, attention, and effort.

 

Now, those of you who know Michelle and me know that we believe in the power of intention, visualization, and attraction.  What you can see, feel, and believe can manifest!

 

 However, there is a difference between being intentional and being hopeful.

 You may hope to meet a great man.  You may hope to turn your relationship around.  

 Hope is a powerful thing.

 However, hope without action is nothing more than a wish.

 

When you are being intentional about something, you are not only thinking about or envisioning it, but you are taking actions that are consistent with that intention. Your thoughts, words, actions, and ways of being are all aligned with that intention, which means everything you think, say, and do is thought, said, and done with the intention of attaining that desired goal.

 

So, if you’re resisting taking steps to turn your love life around, I want you to ask yourself this question:

 Is the pain, frustration, and loneliness worth it?

 

See, if you’re not doing anything to change the situation, all the complaining, wishing, and dreaming is not going to make a bit of difference.

 You’ve got to be willing to do something that is going to pull you forward, in the direction of your desired goal.

 Now, the effort doesn’t have to be “hard” or painful.”

 You want to take the right steps in the right sequence so that you are not wasting your time, attention and effort.

 

Just as in your career or business, taking the right steps at the right time and in the right order improve your chances for success dramatically!  Anything else is, as they say, like throwing spaghetti at the wall and hoping it sticks!

 So what are some of the steps you can take to get on track and headed in the direction of making yourself, your happiness, and your love life a priority?  If you’re a successful professional woman, some of these steps will seem familiar!  But, just as in business, knowing what they are and not doing them, makes absolutely NO difference!

1. Set a clearly defined goal for what you want to achieve.  You want to be crystal-clear about the experience you want to have in a relationship.  Not what you want him to have, look, or be like, but what you want to experience, know and feel when you are in the kind of loving relationship you want to have.

 2. Create a plan of action that propels you in the direction of your desired goal.  Think about where you want to be a year from now.  In order to be in that place – in a committed relationship, engaged to be married, on a romantic getaway with your spouse where you renew your vows to love one another for life – whatever it is, what would necessarily have to be in place a month prior to that?  3 months prior? 6 months prior? 9 months prior? TODAY?

 Working backwards in 3-month increments, write down your milestones. 

Beneath each milestone, write down 3 action steps you will take, including the steps you will take TODAY.

 3. TAKE ACTION. Writing down what you are going to do and then not do them is a sure-fire recipe for not achieving your goal.  Inaction is an action. It’s just not an action that is going to take you in the direction of your desired goal.  Staying stuck and feeling frustrated about it is just more whining, moaning, and complaining, which is not going to make a difference for you at all!

 

 If you’re not clear about which steps to take or which ones you should take first, then here’s your first step: Speak with someone who can guide you!  Because, the truth is that unless you’re getting direction from someone who’s been there, has the results you want and is as committed as you are to seeing you achieve your dreams, then you’re just going to be even more frustrated and exhausted, and you’ll simply reinforce the fears and limiting beliefs that have kept you stuck where you are for so long! 

 So, how can you take action toward get the support and guidance you need TODAY?

  

  1. Work with a relationship coach who has the result you want and can help you achieve your goal.  And, yes, I’m absolutely talking about reaching out to Michelle and me for support.  I know we can help you break through this block if you’re ready to be coached and started TODAY!  Now, here’s the thing.  You may not feel 100% ready. You probably feel a bit nervous or afraid about finally committing to making a change.  That’s perfectly natural. The great thing about working with a coach is that I can help you deal with and dismantle those fears so that you can begin moving forward!  You’re no longer in this all alone!

  

  1. Learn the steps you need to take to achieve your desired goal.  One of the best ways to do that is to attend a seminar that will help you get started on the path to reaching that goal. We are hosting The Irresistible Woman LIVE in a few weeks.  Make one of your TODAY goals to click below and register for that event TODAY.

 

 As a matter of fact, I want to see if you’re really serious about committing to getting started on this action plan.  If you are, you can click and use this special link to get 50% off the ticket price.

And, if you do Steps 1 and 2, we’ll give you a VIP ticket for the General Admission Early Bird Price!

 How’s that for committed action?

 That’s how serious we are about supporting you in reaching your desired goal!

 

 Remember, loving, passionate, intimate relationships – just like any worthwhile goal –  don’t “just happen.”

 They are created and nurtured every single day.

 Focus your time, attention, and effort on having the love, happiness, and success your heart desires!

 Get clear, create your plan, and take action.

 

Get started now by setting up a time to talk and joining us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE Event!

 

We promise you, having the relationship you want is worth it!


 

Click here to set up a time to talk and get started on your Love Action Plan!

 

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What’s Most Important to A Man: The Third “P”: Please

What’s Most Important to A Man: The Third “P”: Please

by Gladys Diaz

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This week, I’ve been dealing with a really bad cold, but, as “luck” would have it, the cold provided me with more evidence of the 3 P’s to share with you, because my husband has gone above and beyond this week to do everything in his power to Provide for, Protect, and (wait for it…) Please me!

 

That’s right! The third “P” most important to a man is that he feels like he is able to Please you.

 

Now, this may be difficult for you to believe if you’re either not in a great relationship, or it’s been a while since you’ve felt like a man has gone out of his way to make you happy. But trust me, this one is right up there with the other two P’s as something that is essential to a man.

 

Why is pleasing you so important to him?

 

Well, no good man ever wakes up in the morning saying, “I wonder what I can do today to make her absolutely miserable!” 

 

First of all, if you’re miserable, chances are you are making him miserable, too!

Secondly, it really does make a man feel fulfilled and complete to know that he is capable of making you feel happy.

You’ll often here me say:

A man doesn’t just want to see you smiling. He also wants to know that he had something to do with the smile on your face!  (Tweet, Tweet that one!)

When a man has the consistent experience that nothing he does is good enough, or that “there’s just no pleasing you,” it makes him want to withdraw and stop trying. He doesn’t want to know that he’s doing anything that is causing you to feel disappointed or unhappy. It simply doesn’t feel “good” or “right” to him to know that he’s contributing to your unhappiness.

So, what are some ways that you can help a man contribute to your happiness?

Stop making what makes you happy a secret!

  1. Let him know what makes you happy. If there are things that you enjoy, like, or prefer, make let him know. If there is something you’d like to eat, an item you’d like to purchase, or a place you’d like to visit, tell him. Now, don’t tell him what to do or how to do it. Just let him know that it’s something that would make you happy. Let him figure out how to make it happen if he chooses to. Don’t make him try to guess or figure out what you want. Instead, set him up to win, because when he wins, you win!

 

  1. If something he does pleases you, inform your face! In other words: SMILE! Don’t keep your happiness a secret because you feel like you’ll owe him something or you feel like he’ll stop trying. In fact, the very opposite is true. The positive feeling of knowing that he did something to make you smile is like a drug to man. He’s going to want to repeat that feeling – for you and himself – again, so you’ve just increased the chances that he’ll look for other ways to please you.

 

  1. Show your appreciation. Don’t withhold your appreciation in an effort to seem like what he did is “no big deal.” You know how great it feels when you do something nice for someone and they let you know how much it meant to them. He’s no different. Letting him know that you are both happy and grateful for what he did will go a long way toward creating a wonderful cycle of giving, receiving, and appreciation in your relationship!

 

A good man will always do what he cans to please you.

If you feel like the man in your life has stopped doing the little things to make you happy, rather than looking outward at what he’s doing (or not doing; or not doing “well enough”) –

  • Look within and see if you’ve stopped telling him what makes you happy out of fear that you won’t get it.

 

  • See if you’ve been acting as if you don’t notice what he’s doing, or if you’ve been complaining that it’s not enough.

 

  • Ask yourself if you’ve stopped demonstrating your appreciation for the little things, the big things, and everything in between.

If you’ve been doing any of the above, don’t beat yourself up about it. Instead, make today the day you begin to turn things around by starting to look for and notice the things he is doing – even if it’s something you think he should be doing.

Then smile and let him know that, not only are you happy, but that he had something to do with the smile on your face!

 

Comments? Questions?  Let us know below!  We love hearing from you!

 

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