How can I break the patterns that keep sabotaging my relationships?

How can I break the patterns that keep sabotaging my relationships?

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Are there patterns that keep showing up in your relationships?

  • Dating unfaithful or unavailable men?
  • Short-lived romances that end after a few dates?
  • Getting emotionally attached too quickly to a man?
  • Having sex too early in a relationship?

 

Knowing that there is a pattern is only the first step in possibly breaking through it.  To truly break through a pattern, you need to know how to distinguish and dismantle the pattern!

In the recording below, you can go through an exercise to identify one of your patterns and listen in on a live coaching session with a participant on our “Love Breakthrough” Live Q&A Call.  You’ll also learn the steps you can take to break through your own self-sabotaging patterns once and for all!

 

How can I break the patterns that keep sabotaging my relationships? (Exercise and Live Coaching Session)

Still have a question you’d like answered?  

How can I relax when a man who is attracted to me approaches me?

How can I relax when a man who is attracted to me approaches me?

 

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Not knowing how to feel confident when flirting and dating men can send the signal, “I’m not approachable” or “I’m not interested.”  Click below to hear how we answered one of our reader’s questions about how to relax when a man who she finds attractive approaches her.

How can I relax when a man who is attracted to me approaches me?

Still have a question you’d like answered?  

We’ve got the answers to your top questions about love!

We’ve got the answers to your top questions about love!

by Gladys Diaz

 

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The weekend is upon us and we know it can be a tough time when you’re single or unhappy in love.

We also know that being single is just temporary when you have the skills that can help you break through your love barriers and begin attracting the kind of man, love, and relationship you truly want!

 

We can hear you asking, Okay, so how do I do that?

We thought you’d ask!  It’s why we hosted a “Love Breakthrough” Live Q&A Call on Tuesday!

We received tons of questions from women all of the world in different stages of life and love, and we loved that we got to coach some of them LIVE on the call!

If you missed out, we wanted to give you the opportunity to hear some of the discussions, questions and answers that took place on the call.

 

More importantly, we want you to hear the answers that most relate to where you are in your love life, so we’re making it easy for you!

 

When you click on a question  below, you’ll be able to click on a question or topic that you’re interested in and listen to Michelle and I address it!

 

You’ll also be able to:

  • Listen to 2 live coaching sessions
  • Go through an exercise to identify your dysfunctional love patterns
  • And take advantage of a really special opportunity to work talk with me and Michelle to get your questions answered personally!

 

Talk about having it your way!

We’re all about giving you the tools and the answers you need to have the love your heart desires! 
Let us know your a-ha’s when you comment below!

 

Just click under a question to get your answer!  

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How can I relax when a man who is attracted to me approaches me?

 

 

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How do I know which man to choose if I’m dating more than one at a time?

 

 

 

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How can I trust myself again to choose the right man after I’ve chosen the wrong one? (Live Coaching Session)

 

 

 

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How can I get a man to be attracted to me again?

 

 

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How can I break the patterns that keep sabotaging my relationships? (Exercise and Live Coaching Session)

 

 

 

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How come I’m the one who is attracting the wrong person? Isn’t it about the men, too?

 

 

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How can I break through my love barriers and attract new and extraordinary love? (Very Special Offer!)

 

Still have a question you need answered?  

Got a Love Question You Need Answered?

Got a Love Question You Need Answered?

by Gladys Diaz

 

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One of our favorite parts of being relationship coaches is being able to help women through some of the difficult situations in their love lives. Many times, we are able to help a woman turn a difficult situation around in just a few minutes by helping her get clear about what is happening, help her set up some action steps, and then hold her accountable for completing those steps! 

That’s why we are hosting a LIVE Love Q&A Call on Tuesday, June 23rd at 9:00pm ET! 

 

On this call, we will be answering YOUR questions about love, dating, and relationships.

  • What’s causing you the biggest amount of pain right now in your love life?
  • Where do you feel “stuck” and unable to move forward in your love life?
  • What one question do you have that, if you had it answered, would help you move forward?

 Ask us your question now!

 

It takes courage to allow someone into your heart to help you break through the fear and pain that has been holding you back.  Michelle and I promise to give you real steps that you can take to bust through those barriers and move forward, toward the life and love your heart desires!

 

To have your question answered on the call, please follow these simple steps:

  1. Register for the call by clicking here.
  2. Type your question in the “Question” boxPlease be clear about the one thing you would like us to answer.
  3. Set a reminder on your phone for Tuesday, June 23, 2015 at 9:00pm ET.
  4. Be on the call ready to have a breakthrough!

 

Don’t have a question, but want to join us and hear the answers anyway?  Click here to reserve your seat!

 

Whether you have a question or not, being on this call will be a powerful experience! You will learn relationship skills that will help you have a breakthrough in love!

 

Feel free to share this post with your friends so that they can join us, too!

 

So, what’s your question? 

Send it to us and register for the call now!

 

P.S. What if one answer is all you need to leave the past behind and move toward the future and the love that are waiting there for you?  Send us your question and register now!

Stop Ignoring the Signs That Your Relationship is in Trouble

by Gladys Diaz

This week my heart has been heavy.  I’ve heard from three different women who have reached out to tell me that their marriages are ending. 
 
It’s heartbreaking for me to hear news like this.  Marriage is such a sacred, precious union.  When two people choose to join their lives because they love each other, they do it fully expecting the love that they feel for one another to grow stronger over the years.  They do not get married hoping to hurt, disrespect, and kill the love they once felt for one another. 
 
I’m the first one to admit that having a wonderful marriage takes work. It’s a daily commitment to being my best self so that I can have the love, happiness, and peace in my marriage that envisioned when we first got married. It wasn’t always like this for us. We went through rough patches, just like every other couple.  There were times when I wondered if we’d make it. 
 
I remember noticing that things were changing between us. I remember asking myself where the love, passion and fun we used to share had gone.  We were arguing more often, rarely having fun together, and I carried my resentment like a badge of honor.  We were not hugging, kissing, or sleeping together as often and there were many nights when I cried myself to sleep. 
 
Our marriage didn’t get to that point over night.  There were signs along the way.  Things had been getting bad for a while.  And I silently prayed and hoped that things would change. 
 
One day I decided I couldn’t ignore what was happening any longer. I couldn’t just keep hoping and praying that things would get better.  I knew I had to do something in order to transform who I was being so that I could help turn my marriage around. 
 
I began doing my inner work, sought out mentors and coaches who would help and hold me accountable, and began experiencing the inner shift that began having a very real effect on my marriage. 
 
It took some work and it didn’t happen overnight, but soon the constant arguing stopped.  We were holding hands and smiling at each other again.  We began laughing and kissing and making love again.  My transformation helped transform my relationship and I began to see the man I’d fallen in love with in a whole new light! 
 
If you’re going through a difficult time in your marriage (or you know someone who is), don’t ignore the signs. Don’t pretend you don’t see them, and certainly don’t think that things are just magically going to get better on their own.  They won’t.

In today’s video I do something I rarely do because of how protective I am of the time I have with my family on the weekends.  However, I’m really committed to making a difference, so I’m offering to talk with a few of you who are ready to begin turning your marriage around this weekend.

Now, here’s the deal.

There are thousands of women reading this email right now and I’m only opening a few spots, because I still want to spend time with my husband and kids. I also only have two spots available in my private coaching program. So, I’m asking that you reach out to me only if you are serious about investing in and doing the work you’ll need to do to turn your marriage around before it’s too late.

I’m not giving you the link to my calendar. If you want to speak with me this weekend, send me an email. It will be a first-come-first serve basis and I will let you know the times I have available, which will be mid-morning/early afternoon Eastern time.

I know in my heart that you don’t have to suffer and that by applying certain skills and practices you can transform your marriage. I’ve helped hundreds of women do this and I want to help you, too.

The signs are there and the time is now. If you’re ready to turn things around, hit reply and let’s talk!

Making and Keeping Agreements Are Keys to Strengthening Your Relationship

Making and Keeping Agreements Are Keys to Strengthening Your Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

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Monday was my first day back after a week off for vacation, and I’m excited!

 

It wasn’t always this way for me. I used to dread having to go back to work after being on vacation. I would think of reasons/excuses to give my boss for not having to go in that first day. I’d dread looking at my inbox and having to deal with everything that didn’t get done while I was away.

That was then…

Now, however, I absolutely love what I do and I love the women I work with, and, since it doesn’t seem like “work,” I have to be really aware of how I manage my time when I’m on vacation so that I can really take time off to relax, replenish, and renew my mind, body, and spirit before heading back to the office.

One of the concerns I get from professional women is that they fear their partner won’t understand and feel comfortable with their drive and determination when it comes to their careers. They worry that their partners will somehow feel “threatened” or intimidated by their success.

That’s why one of the ways I create harmony between my work and personal life is by making agreements – both with myself and my husband.

See, my husband knows how much my clients mean to me. He knows that, if they are in the middle of a crisis in their relationships, it wouldn’t sit right with me to just ignore them because I’m on vacation. He also knows that I’m in the middle of planning two huge projects, and, if something came up around them, I’d need to at least be aware of it in order to delegate the issue to someone else.

What my husband also knows beyond a shadow of a doubt is that he and the boys mean more to me than anything else, and that I consider the time I spend with them precious.

So, before going on vacation, we agreed on what our days would look like and what I would do to manage anything that might come up regarding work. This way, rather than being on the phone checking email all day long, I had had certain times designated when I would check in, look to see what I needed to respond to, and the rest of the time was 100% family fun time!

By creating and honoring an agreement about what I would do/not do while on vacation, I took 100% responsibility for my happiness and for the work that would/would not get done that week. I also sent the message to my husband and kids that they are my priority and that, after those few minutes when I did work during the day, they had my undivided attention.

Because of this agreement, I didn’t have to feel “guilty” about answering or not answering an email. I kept to my schedule and did everything I could to be present with and enjoy the time I spent with my in-loves (my term for “in-laws).

The even better part was that, because my intention was to be fully present with my family and I was willing to work a little harder and longer the 2 weeks prior to vacation, I actually had very little I had to attend to work-wise during the week! (It’s just like it says in one of the books I finished reading while on vacation, The Alchemist: “…when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it”!)

In this case, the universe, my family, my team, and I conspired to make sure that I had a fun a restful vacation! But it didn’t “just happen.” Like everything else in life that it is important, it took setting a clear intention and planning!

 

A relationship is a partnership.

Creating agreements with your partner is one of the essential keys to making that partnership work. When making agreements, keep these things in mind:

  1. Only promise what you fully intend to fulfill. It’s important that you determine what you are willing to do and that you fully intend to honor the agreement.

 

  1. Keep the agreement. Even more important than making an agreement is keeping the agreement. In honoring the agreement, you send the message to your partner that he can trust you to honor your word (in this case, as well as in the rest of the relationship).
The truth is that the majority of the problems in relationships can be traced back to one or both of the partners not having kept a promise or agreement that was made.

Does this mean you’ll never break a promise or that you’ll keep every single agreement you ever make?

No.

The goal, of course, is to strive for that. But, if you fail to keep an agreement, follow these steps.

  1. Acknowledge that the agreement wasn’t kept. Don’t ignore the broken agreement or pretend as if nothing happened. Honor yourself and your partner by acknowledging how the agreement was broken.
  2. Apologize for whatever you did on your end to break the agreement.
  3. Make a new agreement (keeping in mind that you fully intend to honor it this time).
  4. Do everything in your power to honor the agreement.

 

Your relationship is the most important partnership you’ll ever have.  

While this doesn’t mean you won’t have other partnerships or projects that are important to you, it does mean that striving to make that partnership work needs to be a daily priority.  Making and keeping agreements is one way to make sure your partnership works!

 

Questions?  Comments?  Let us know below!  We love hearing from you!