by heartsdesireintl | Dec 15, 2014 | Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
The other day, I had a meltdown… and not a little one, either! I had a full-blown meltdown at the bottom of the stairs in my home like I haven’t had in years!
I’d had a pretty busy day scheduled, and I ended up having to add two additional activities to my list – including having some materials printed that I’d stayed up all night creating, picking them up, and then braving a 3-hour round trip in rush hour traffic with my two kids to deliver the materials in time for an event.
As tired as I was, I was also feeling pretty proud of myself for having accomplished even the unexpected events with grace and ease. I proudly showed my husband the materials I’d had printed and, in less than 2 seconds, he noticed that I’d left out a critical piece of information! That was it – the proverbial last drop in my overflowing bucket! I crumpled into a puddle of tears at the bottom of my staircase, completely frustrated, and just sobbed.
Immediately, my husband rushed over to console me. He held me and, as he often does, began giving me solutions, offering ways in which I could “fix” the problem. Years ago, I would have gotten angry at him for trying to fix things. This time, all I could do was keep crying because none of the ideas he was offering sounded viable at that moment.
A few minutes later, my older son came over and held me in his arms. He reminded me that it wasn’t so bad and that I was a great mother. He said he was sorry I was so sad and that he wished he could fix the problem for me.
Once he went up the stairs, my little one came with tears in his eyes. Bravely, he said, “Mama, just think about all of the good things in your life and you’ll feel better.” Then he hugged me tightly and left the room.
As I sat there, still in tears, a smile made its way across my face.
See, my three guys aren’t used to seeing me in that state. Usually, I’m pretty positive, find ways to problem-solve, and am the one encouraging them.
On that day, however, they were there for me. Each of them, in his own way, gave me exactly what I needed – love and the belief that everything would be okay!
In the midst of my vulnerability, what was sparked in them was the desire to protect me and let me know that they were there for me.
You may believe, as many people do, that vulnerability is a sign weakness. You may see it as something that opens you up to being hurt by another. While that may be true in some instances, what vulnerability does is that it opens the doorway to intimacy. It allows others to connect with you in a way that simply isn’t possible when you’re being guarded and holding people at arms’ length.
For men, vulnerability ignites in them the desire to protect us. It has them step up and be our heroes. It allows them to connect with us on a real level – a gut level.
To be clear, vulnerability doesn’t mean you have to be in tears, like I was. It just means letting your guard down long enough to let someone in and be there for you. It means allowing him to see who you really are so that he can connect with you, because, without vulnerability, there is no room for intimacy.
I don’t think I’ll ever forget that day – not because of all of the things that got accomplished or the things that went wrong. I think what I’ll always remember is how incredibly loved and cherished I felt on that day; how safe I felt knowing that my three guys were there for me; and how happy I felt knowing that, not only am I not doing so badly at this wife-and-mom-thing, but that my boys have an amazing example of how to be a loving man in their father.
And, when I think about all of these good things, as my little one suggested I do, all I feel is blessed!
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by heartsdesireintl | Nov 17, 2014 | Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Have you ever had one of those moments when you feel like you are exactly where you were meant to be?
Last week was like that for me!
I spent the first part of the week in California with one of my mentors and her coaches, and then spent the last part of the week attending a very intensive 3-day business workshop where I had incredible personal breakthroughs.
I just love transformation, don’t you?
During both events, I had the opportunity to listen to amazing women share about their personal journeys of how they came to where they are now in their lives, relationships, and businesses. With each interaction, I was able to connect with them on very personal level and share some of my heart with them, as well.
Some of the stories I heard this week were heart-breaking.
I met women who had lost everything due to natural disasters and unforeseen circumstances and had to rebuild their lives.
I spoke to women who had hit a wall in their love lives and, with coaching, were able to turn their relationships completely around.
I met women who are still experiencing the dark part of their journeys, but who were committed to working on transforming those areas of their lives.
I saw women break through their fears right in front of my very eyes!
All of these women – from different parts of the world, economic situations, and life circumstances – shared one thing in common: The unwillingness to stay stuck where they were.
Some may call that perseverance, tenacity, or determination. I call it the Essence of who we are as women.
There is something that lies within the core of our Selves – some refer to it as our spirit, or soul – that we are equipped with, which makes us able to experience pain and resolve to move forward with grace and strength.
If you are in one of those dark moments in your life –
If your relationship is falling apart and you don’t know where or how to begin to turn it around…
If you are frustrated with dating and are close to wanting to give up (or you already have)…
If you are feeling lost, lonely, and afraid all the time and long to love and be loved…
I want you to know that you are not alone.
No matter what it is you are going through, there is love, peace, and freedom on the other side of this! It may not seem like it now, but I promise you – because I have been through my own dark valleys when it comes to love – that you can experience more love, joy, and fulfillment than you can imagine!
It will take some work to get there, and some of it won’t be “easy,” but, as I said, you won’t be alone.
As we approach the end of 2014, take an inventory of your love life. Ask yourself:
- Is my love life everything I want it to be?
- Even if things are “good” or “okay,” is there another level of love and intimacy I’d like to discover?
- If my love life is not what I want it to be, am I willing to take a courageous step forward and do the inner and outer Heart Work to shift that and begin seeing my heart’s desires fulfilled?
These are questions only you can answer. Only you know what’s really going on in your heart.
Whatever your answers to these questions, I’m happy to help you walk through any of them, if you’re ready. I truly am here to serve and support you, and my commitment is that you actually begin to see your heart’s desires fulfilled. Just click here to set up a time to talk.
by heartsdesireintl | Nov 4, 2014 | Dating, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success
by Gladys Diaz
November is one of my favorite months of the year because it seems as if most of us are more present to the blessings we have in our lives. The more present we are to our blessings, the more gratitude we feel, the more we begin to see more of what we want in our lives. It’s pretty amazing the way that happens!
If you’re reading this, it’s likely that there is one thing in particular you desire to have more of in your life: LOVE!
Love is one of our purest and deepest desires because you are a loving being. You were made of love, to love, and for love. It’s simply who you are!
During the month of November, Michelle and I have partnered up with some amazing women who are just as committed as we are to guiding you to get more of what you want in your life! And, because we are all about you creating and experiencing the life and love your heart desires, we’re not keeping it only to attracting more romantic love into your life.
Over the next several weeks, we’ll be sharing opportunities for you to participate in both live and virtual events that will enable you to:
- Access more of what you want through practicing gratitude on a daily basis
- Manifest more abundance and success in all of the areas of your life
- Create harmony between your professional, personal, and family life
- End 2014 powerfully so that you can move into 2015 with grace, ease, and equipped to fulfill the desires of your heart
And, of course, we’ll continue to provide you with the tools, skills, and solutions that guide you toward creating the extraordinary life and love you desire and deserve!
Now, we intend to give to our hearts’ content, and we want you to prepare yourself to receive.
We realize that may sound strange, but the truth is that receiving – particularly when you are being given more than you feel you desire or deserve – can sometimes feel uncomfortable.
Rather than receiving the blessings coming to us, we tend to block or push them away out of guilt, fear, or habit.
That’s why it’s important to prepare yourself and your heart to receive!
Here are a few steps to help prepare yourself to receive all of the gifts, information, and invitations we will be sharing with you, along with the other blessings that are coming your way!
- Remember that you are worthy of every gift, offer of assistance, compliment, and smile you receive. You are a beautiful loving being, and, because of that, you attract beauty and love. So, if you begin to feel overwhelmed, uncomfortable, or “weird” when you are begin given gifts of any kind, simply tell yourself: I am a beautiful, loving being, and I am worthy of all of the beauty and love I am attracting and receiving in my life!
- Remember that there are no strings attached to the gifts, offers, compliments, or smiles you receive. Part of what makes receiving difficult is that we somehow feel like we’ll owe the other person something of equal or greater value in return. That kind of thinking is associated with a feeling of unworthiness and keeps us from receiving what others freely want to give us. So, if you begin to feel those strings getting attached, cut them immediately by repeating the affirmation above, and add: I openly and willingly receive the loving gifts and gestures others freely give me.
- Remember to be grateful for everything! Whether you’re in a space right now where you feel like you don’t have enough of what you want or need, or you are relishing in a feeling of abundance, gratitude is the doorway to experiencing more happiness, peace, love, and everything else your heart desires. So, make it a practice to take just a few minutes each day to just take inventory of the blessings in your life and express gratitude for at least 5 things every day. You can write them down, or simply say them aloud or to yourself. However you choose to express it, just take a few moments at the beginning and end of each day to say, “I am grateful for…”
- Bonus: Remember to be grateful in anticipation of receiving what you want! One of my favorite practices of all time is expressing gratitude in anticipation of receiving what I want. After expressing thanks for the blessings that already surround me, I begin to express thanks for the blessings that are making their way to me. So, if you want to meet the man of your dreams, already give thanks for the fact that he is making his way to you. If you are married or in a relationship, express thanks for the love that is growing between the two of you and for all of the beautiful memories you will create together. If there is something you desire for your family, career, or business, give thanks in advance for those blessings that are being manifested. And, as you do this, allow yourself to actually feel and experience the love, happiness, freedom and peace in anticipation of receiving the blessing. I promise you, this will be life-changing!
If you practice these steps, you will begin to experience the joy of receiving. And, in doing so, you also give the people who are giving to you the joy of having their gift received and appreciated! It creates a beautiful cycle of giving, receiving, and appreciation that keeps growing and multiplying the blessings!
So, take a deep breath…
Open your heart…
And receive the love and blessings that are coming your way!
And, just because we love surprising you with gifts, here’s a sneak peek into the events you can take part in over the next few weeks!
- Redefining Womanhood Series (Launches November 10, 2014): Discover 21 Creative Solutions for paving your own path to success in work, marriage, and parenting from top female leaders who are paving the way and redefining what it means to be “A Successful Woman” in today’s world! Click here to reserve your spot!
- 10 Days of Gratitude Video Series (Launches November 20, 2014): Join Mia Saenz as she hosts 10 inspirational interviews all focused on the incredible power that gratitude has on our lives! (Registration link coming soon!)
Remember: Give thanks… Believe… Receive!
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by heartsdesireintl | Oct 31, 2014 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Happy Halloween!
For those who celebrate the holiday, today is a day of trick and treats, and where people are open to feeling a little frightened. It’s part of what makes the holiday fun!
When it comes, to relationships, however, being tricked and feeling frightened is not the type of fun we’re seeking!
As exhilarating and wonderful as falling and staying in love can be, it can also be one of the scariest experiences we’ll go through! It’s not the kissing, hugging, and spending time together that is frightening. What makes love seem scary is (1) all of the “stuff” we make up in our minds about what love is and should be, and (2) the amount of vulnerability it takes to let someone into our hearts.
Whether I’m talking to a single woman who is describing the man she’s considering dating, or the woman who has been married to the same man for years, I’m always fascinated to hear how much judgment there is around love.
The ironic thing is that what people say they want most in a relationship is to experience “unconditional love”! Yet, when it comes to looking over at the person on the other side of the date or relationship, there are so many thoughts and ideas about how he should be, think, and act, what he should be doing or not doing, that there is very little space for the man to just be himself.
Add to that the fact that you’re concerned about not being loved and accepted for who you are, and you’ve got a sure-fire recipe for fear!
What is it that makes opening our hearts feel like such a frightening thing?
The thought of someone finding out something about you that you are ashamed or embarrassed about or that may cause him to stop loving you can have you pretending to be someone you’re not a lot of the time.
The idea that you might open your heart to someone, only to have it broken again, can cause you to guard yourself to the point that you’re actually shutting the other person out, not allowing him a chance at giving you the love you so deeply desire.
The truth of the matter is this: To love takes courage.
Whether you are out there dating and getting to know new people in the hopes of meeting the man with whom you’ll share the rest of your life, or you are already with that man and you’re working on creating a lifetime love, it takes a tremendous amount of courage to step out from behind the walls you’ve built up to protect yourself from experiencing pain and open your heart to someone – especially when there are no guarantees about how things are eventually going to turn out.
But, however scary it feels, you’ve got to be courageous.
You have to trust yourself enough to take a risk.
And the faith that you will experience the love your heart desires needs to be bigger than the fear that you might not.
Wherever you are in your love life, make a choice today to step out in faith, to do something that you’ve been afraid to do before, and to be vulnerable.
Yes, you’ll probably feel a little frightened. That’s okay. Be courageous and do it, anyway!
It’s the only way to break through the fear and possibly experience a love that’s sweeter than any piece of candy you may find in your pumpkin at the end of the night!
Be brave today, and always remember that you are loved!
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by heartsdesireintl | Oct 28, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
Have you ever had an experience that completely changes the way you see and experience life, even if nothing in your life changes?
That’s what I experienced this weekend!
Thanks to my amazing sister, Michelle, who gave me one of my best birthday presents ever, I was able to attend Oprah Winfrey’s “Live the Life You Want Weekend”!
Beyond the thrill of having the opportunity to see Oprah, Deepak Chopra, and Iyanla Vanzant – three of my favorite thought leaders, along with three new favorites: Elizabeth Gilbert, Rob Bell, and Amy Purdy – in person, it was the messages they shared that most touched and moved me!
The entire weekend was about embracing and living your life’s purpose and becoming who you were created to be so that you can have the life you want: The Life Your Heart Desires!
One powerful, heart-shaking quote after another filled me with more love, joy, and hopeful anticipation than I could have ever imagined! And, with each one, Michelle and I thought of you, and how we could use what we were learning and reaffirming to inspire and guide you to have the life and love your heart desires!
Why did we think of you?
Because our life’s purposes is completely intertwined with yours!
See, it is our life’s mission to ensure that each and every woman on the planet has the experience of loving and being loved each and every day of her life and is living the life of her dreams!
One of the most powerful quotes of weekend was spoken during a benediction Rev. Rob Bell said at the end of his talk. In the blessing, he prayed that by embracing the life we already have, may we come to see that we are already living the life we want.
How powerful is that?!?
What it made me see is that everything in my life – every sad moment and every happy one, every struggle and every celebration, every breakdown and every breakthrough, and every single choice I’ve ever made – has led me to the moment I am living right now.
And, if I embrace all of it with arms wide open, rather than resisting and pushing away the events and circumstances I don’t like, if I stop pretending that I don’t feel the pain and sadness when things don’t go the way I hoped they would, and if I take the time to just see and listen to the lesson I’m being taught in that moment, then I can trust that I am exactly where I need to be on the path leading me to where I want to go!
The same is true for you.
I know that not everything in your life looks the way you’d like it to.
I know that you have challenges and situations that feel like immovable barriers right now.
I know that you’ve experienced heartache and that even the thought of ever experiencing something like that again keeps you stuck and not wanting to take the steps you know can lead you in the direction of your hopes and dreams.
I also know that you have within you all of the power, beauty and grace to move forward and break through those barriers with strength, grace, and ease.
I know that you have the strength to face the choices you have made, to forgive yourself, and to break free from all of that unnecessary pain you’ve been carrying with you.
And, most of all, I know that you don’t have to do it alone. That’s why we’re here. That is our life’s purpose.
So, wherever you are on your journey – whether you are on the precipice of a huge breakthrough, or in a dark valley – know that there is a light within you just waiting to be ignited and unleashed!
Know that, if you allow it to, everything around you is pulling you toward the life and love your heart desires. You just have to let go of the past, the fear, and the heartache, so that you can let loose and set yourself free!
Nothing would make us happier than to see you living your every dream come true, except knowing that we, in some small way, played a part in helping that happen for you!
So, if you are ready to begin experience the life, happiness, and love that is waiting for you, know that we are only a phone call away!
Just click here to schedule a Ready for Love Breakthrough Session!
Know and believe that you truly can have the life and love your heart desires, and that we’re here to serve you!
Until our hearts meet again, always remember that you are loved!
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by heartsdesireintl | Oct 21, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship Advice, Success, Uncategorized
by Gladys Diaz
This weekend, I had an amazing breakthrough! I’ve gone back and forth about whether or not to share this, because it has to do with money, and I know that some people have “an issue” with that. But my breakthrough had so much more to do with things other than money, that I feel I need to share it with you, because it would be selfish not to!
Over the past two months I have invested more time and money in receiving coaching and training on running my business than ever before.
At every conference, meeting, and on every training call, I listened and took notes as if my life depended on it (because, in the big scheme of things, it does!). I made sure to spend time with the people who were shining most brightly, to connect with the leaders of the events (leaders by example – ALL of them), and to invest in further growth and development.
As I did this, a feeling of excitement began to brew in me. You know, like when you begin getting butterflies in your stomach at just the thought of something wonderful that is about to happen? Well, I began approaching life as if something wonderful was about to happen at any moment!
All of this Hopeful Anticipation came to a head this weekend at a Speaking Bootcamp, when I stood in front of a group of fellow entrepreneurs – many of them strangers – and gave a 5-minute talk about “Being The Invincible Woman in Your Work Life and The Absolutely Irresistible Woman in Your Love Life!”
As part of the talk, I extended the invitation for the ladies in the room to attend an upcoming event we are having for professional and entrepreneurial women who want to experience new levels of success in both their professional lives AND their love lives.
I spoke from my heart and with passion, because I knew what it cost me to not leave the office and “Vice-President Gladys” at the office, and bring a lot of the masculine energy I had to embody at work into my home. It was absolutely killing the romance and intimacy in my relationship.
I spoke with authority and conviction, because I knew what I did to turn that around and bring love, intimacy, and passion back into my marriage.
And yes, even though I was shaking a little, I spoke directly to every woman who in there with confidence and courage, because, my faith in what I was saying and the opportunity I was extending were bigger than my fear!
The result? An amazing breakthrough!
When I looked up, before I’d even finished speaking, there were four women standing in the back of the room, waiting to sign up for The Irresistible Woman Seminar that will be held in February!
So, why do I share this with you?
I share this so that you will know that whatever is stopping you from having and experiencing the kind of loving relationship your heart desires, your faith that you can have it needs to be bigger than your fear!
I share this because what made the difference for me was surrounding myself with like-minded women and inspirational thought leaders who are living what they teach. And that’s important to me, because that is what I commit to doing every single day in my marriage!
I share this because I am going to be extending several opportunities with you over the next few weeks and months that are going to guide you in being invincible in the workplace and absolutely irresistible in your love life!
And, finally, I share this because we have about two and half months left in the year, and, if you think that it’s too late to make a real change that will result in you meeting your love goals for 2014, I’m going to flat-out tell you that you are wrong. It’s not too late!
On the first day of the Speaking Bootcamp, we were asked to share our goal regarding what we wanted to get out of the weekend. I wrote down that I wanted to speak in such a way that women were moved to take immediate and decisive action to purchase the products and services that would allow them to achieve their hearts’ desires.” I also shared that I wanted to be able to inspire 20%-30% of the women in the room to work with me.
Guess what? Both of those goals were met that day!
So the question to ask yourself is not whether it’s too late to achieve your love goals. What there is for you to decide is whether or not you are ready to do whatever it takes to start taking action that will lead you toward achieving those goals.
If you are – and, please, only if you are truly ready – to begin working toward your love goals, click here to schedule an appointment for a Ready for Love Breakthrough Session, and let’s create an action plan that will help you begin taking decisive action toward achieving those goals.
Nothing is sweeter than experiencing a breakthrough that you know is going to change your life forever. That’s what I experienced this weekend, and that’s what I would love to guide you in experiencing, too!
Here’s to creating and living a life of all of your heart’s desires fulfilled!
Click here to schedule your Ready for Love Breakthrough Session!
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