Stop the Dysfunction and Have Fun Dating Today!

Stop the Dysfunction and Have Fun Dating Today!

by | Apr 19, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you feel blocked, stopped, stuck or frustrated about dating? 

Do you feel like you want to meet a wonderful man, but the dating process isn’t worth it?

Does it seem like dating just isn’t working for you? 

The thing is, as human beings, we don’t like to play games we’re not winning. 

So, why would you want to continue to date if you’re not getting the results — the kind of dates, the amazing relationship, and the experience you’re looking for?

Guess what?

Dating doesn’t have to be so hard.

Dating can be fun, exciting and easy!

When you’re experiencing joy, happiness and excitement, your energy shows it and you attract more of that into your life. 

The opposite is true when you’re not.

If you’re experiencing frustration, anxiety and disappointment, then your energy shows that, and you’ll attract more frustrating, anxiety-producing and disappointing experiences in dating.   

If your goal is to find the right man and create a beautiful, intimate, passionate, honest, supportive relationship, why not enjoy the process of getting there?

Because, that’s really the only way you’re going to create success, anyway. 

So, how do you break the dysfunctional dating patterns that are sabotaging your attempts at creating the relationship of your dreams? 

  • Be honest with yourself and get 100% clear on what you want. 

Do you want to create a loving, supportive, honest relationship? Say so. 

Do you want to get married again? Say so. 

Do you simply want to create a long-term relating relationship so you can stop dating? Say so. 🙂 

If you’re not being honest about what you really want, you know it. And underneath that knowing is a fear of NOT getting what you want that has you ignore what you’re really feeling. And you’ll  hear, see, and interpret everything you experience in dating through that fear. 

When you’re 100% honest with yourself and get clear on what you really want, then, and only then, will you be able to start attracting that into your life. 

  • Trust yourself.

Just because you had a bad experience or didn’t listen to your gut in the past, doesn’t mean your intuition is broken. 

When you don’t trust yourself to do the right thing and make the best decisions, then you’ll look for clarity and validation outside yourself. 

That leaves you powerless and simply doesn’t work.  

When you do the HeartWork to replace the fears that have you not trust yourself, you take back your power. You’re  able to clearly hear and see the bells, signals and red flags and take the steps you need to take so that you’re not wasting your time with the wrong person.. 

  • Have faith that what you want can actually happen.

This isn’t so much about who or what you believe in as much as it is about having faith and hope in a future that contains everything that you want. 

The only way to create the relationship of your dreams is to believe —  really believe —  that it can happen and that you will be able to create it.

If you’re struggling with any of these things, or simply feel like the dating game isn’t bringing you the results that you want, then we have something for you!

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Join us this week for the Dating Detox 7-Day Challenge, we’re starting on Monday, April 19th!!

During  these 7 days we’re going to share with you the most effective, clear and proven steps that we have personally used and have shared with hundreds of women around the world that have allowed them to shift from being single and lonely to being successful in love!

Join the Dating Detox Challenge Now!

Things really can change in 7 days or less!

If you’re feeling blocked, stopped, stuck or frustrated with dating and your love life, then you want to click  right now and join us  for this detox! 

Get clear on what you want, trust yourself, and believe that you can create the relationship of your dreams now.

We’re going to show you exactly how to do that!

Join the Dating Detox Challenge Now!

Ditch Control and Inspire the Man in Your Relationship!

Ditch Control and Inspire the Man in Your Relationship!

by | Mar 25, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you know what’s kryptonite to relationships and a behavior a lot of women don’t even realize they have?

It’s one of the things that is most unattractive to men and will diminish the love and respect in a relationship faster than anything else.

It’s also one of the things we get asked about by women the most because, when they recognize it as a pattern, they immediately know they want to adjust. 

Can you guess what it is? 

We’re talking about control.

Being controlling isn’t just unattractive, it’s extremely ineffective in relationships. We want to support you in understanding what control looks like and how you can adjust your behavior so that you can have less control and a lot more love and respect in your relationship. 

Trying to control my husband through constant criticism and correcting was something I didn’t even realize I was doing for a very long time.  It’s also what almost led to us splitting up.

What I felt was me being supportive, encouraging, and helpful was actually diminishing, emasculating, and stripping away the love and intimacy in my marriage.  But it was a blindspot for me.  I just didn’t see how controlling I was being.

Since you can’t change a behavior you don’t know you have, what does control look and sound like? 

The most common form control takes is through your communication. 

You may think you’re simply “being honest” with your partner or sharing your feelings with someone you’re dating… But the words you choose you may be coming off as controlling. 

Let’s say, for example, that you would really like to have more conversations on the phone with the man  you’re dating…

Do you say, “You never call me like you used to.” or “Call me tomorrow at 5pm”? 

If so, you are exhibiting control. 

Why?

Because, in the first statement, you’re not saying what you want or how you feel. You’re complaining.

In the second statement, you’re telling him what to do and when to do it.

So, how can you say this instead? 

Say, “I’d love to chat on the phone soon!” or “I would prefer to talk on the phone more often.” 

These statements focus 100% on you and serve as a very appealing invitation to call you.

Let’s say you’d like to go away for the weekend with your partner. 

Do you say, “We should go somewhere together this weekend?” 

Yep, that’s controlling. 

Instead, say, “I’d love to go away together.”

These simple adjustments in your communication are inspiring to a man and show love for him and respect for his desires and feelings, while at the same time expressing yours. 

The reason control is kryptonite in a relationship is because when a man feels like he’s being controlled, he will do one of two things. 

  1. He will dig his heels in and refuse to do the thing you’d like him to do.
  2. He will submit. 

You don’t want either of those things! 

You want a man to be inspired to be with you, to desire to make you happy, and to have fun, lightness and joy present in your relationship. 

Wonder what causes that almost-immediate urge to tell him what to do and say?

The urge to control always stems from a fear that something is or isn’t going to happen. 

So, how do you shift out of that fear and, instead, show your man that you respect him and see him as a strong man, capable of making good decisions, and trusting that he wants to make you happy?

Before you speak, ask yourself these three questions: 

  1. What am I afraid will/will not happen if I don’t say this?
  2. How can I say what I want to say, focusing solely on what I’m feeling and want to express without bringing him or his actions into the statement. 
  3. What emotion will I inspire in my partner by saying this?

It takes some conscious effort to interrupt that internal chatter that;s always going on in our heads and think about how the words we choose will land for our partners. 

Shifting out of a pattern of control isn’t easy, but it is so worth it! 

And as you practice, it becomes easier and easier to do.

If you’d like some support in shifting a pattern of control in your dating experiences or relationships, let us support you by booking a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches. On this call, we’ll explore what some of your control triggers are, and give you some clear steps on what to do to shift from controlling to inspiring your man!

Like we said, many times, these controlling behaviors are things you may not even realize you have, and with some support to help you see them, you can completely transform them and create more love and intimacy in  your relationship.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

When a man feels respected, loved and connected to you, he will do just about anything to make you happy.

Choose your words wisely so you inspire that type of connection in your relationship!

Confidence is the KEY to Attracting the Right Man

Confidence is the KEY to Attracting the Right Man

by | Mar 5, 2021 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz 

What comes to mind when you hear the word confidence? 

More specifically, what do you think of when you hear the term “confident woman”? 

Confidence looks like: 

  • Self-assurance
  • Unwavering
  • Having morals and boundaries
  • Trusting yourself
  • Powerful
  • At ease, even if you’re nervous 
  • And more!

Confidence is what has people — including the  right man — notice you. That energy is what attracts men to you and has them want to get to know you. 

On the other hand, “fake confidence,” you know that “fake-it-til-you-make-it” or “I’ve-got-it-all-together” attitude, are what repel a man. 

That fake  confidence feels like a struggle, because all of your energy is going into keeping up the facade. 

And, even if you can keep up the facade (though it’s not fun for you!), it simply won’t work. A man wants to feel like the person he’s sitting across from is the person she says she is – and there are few things that will make a man run faster than catching onto that that isn’t the case. 

So how do you develop this type of confidence? The confidence that will not only attract the right men to you, but have them stay? 

💜 You heal yourself and break free from the love barriers that are holding you down.

💜 You break free from your limiting beliefs that tell you something is wrong with you or that you’re “broken”

💜 You do the HeartWork and create new experiences and thought patterns 

💜 You learn to believe that real confidence looks like knowing you’re going to make mistakes and that you’re not always going to have it all together, and that’s okay

💜 You get clear on what you want and who you are so that you can be crystal-clear about the kind of woman you are and the kind of love you want to experience

The absolute truth is this… There’s nothing wrong with you. You aren’t broken. You have everything you need to create the relationship of your dreams. 

And that relationship begins with you. 

When you truly heal and break free from the doubts holding you back, then you get to love freely and feel assured in your choices.

When I discovered the things that I was covering up and had the courage to work through them, it took a very short amount of time before the type of men I started attracting started to shift. 

When I finally understood that it didn’t have to be hard for me, that I was LUCKY to be me, and that any man that gets to be with me is lucky, too – everything changed. 

That’s the kind of shift that will have you attracting the RIGHT man and manifesting the life and love your heart desires!

It’s also the kind of shift that will have you trust yourself to make the right choices!

If that’s the kind of confidence you want, then make sure you join us tomorrow for the Attract the RIGHT Man Webinar!

This 3-hour exclusive training is going to support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you are creating the relationship of your dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

You’ll start to understand the things you can do to easily exude confidence in every area of your life.

AND we’ll be giving you the 3 KEY pieces you need to start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams! 

I’m ready to attract the man of my dreams!

Clarity and certainty lead to confidence. Join us tomorrow so you can begin to feel safe, confident, and secure within yourself and create the life and love you want and deserve NOW! 

How to Break Through the Patterns Sabotaging You

How to Break Through the Patterns Sabotaging You

by | Mar 2, 2021 | breakups, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you feel like you keep experiencing the same disappointing results in your love life?

Do you feel like you’re trying new things and doing all the :right things,” but the same sabotaging behaviors show up?

Does it seem like, no matter what you do, you just keep repeating the patterns and getting the same results? 

First, you’re not alone.

We all have patterns, or habitual thoughts and behaviors, that hold us back from creating the results we want in our lives. These patterns are subconscious and they stem from fears and limiting beliefs that you don’t even realize are there!

The only way to stop these fears and beliefs from sabotaging your life and happiness is to break through and replace them so that they are no longer running the show. 

And here’s  what we want you to know: Repeating these patterns is not a reflection of how much you want to change them or whether you’re able to break through them. 

You can have all the desire in the world for things to change in your love life, and if you’re not doing the internal Heart Work to truly through these barriers, nothing will change.

The hard truth is, if you’re still not experiencing the relationship of your dreams and creating the results you want in your love life, there’s still some Heart Work to be done.

There are still sabotaging thoughts and behaviors to get to the bottom of and break up. There are still wounds that need to be healed.

You get to do the full Heart Work so that you can create everything you dream of. 

And if you’re in the place of thinking “Well, what about the years of therapy (or courses, workshops and retreats) I’ve already done” or “I’ve already done everything…” if you don’t have the results, there’s still a little work to do.

Consider that all of the work you’ve done already has led you to this place and moment you’re in right now, and that  because of that work, you’re ready to bust through the final beliefs NOW! Consider that this is your time for real change.

The first step in breaking through these sabotaging patterns that are holding you back, is to be willing to look at what’s not working. 

Ask yourself, “What might be having me do the same thing over and over again?”

Then recognize that it’s not anything outside of you!

I promise you that 99.99999% of the time, it’s not the app, or the man, or your ex, or your past., It’s something internal. 

If you have these thoughts on repeat… “I can’t trust people” or “Everyone lets me down” (along with a thousand other possible thoughts!), those are the fears and beliefs that are running the show of your life and stopping you from experiencing the fun, joy, and love you really want. 

After years of hearing those thoughts replaying incessantly over and over in your head, you stop realizing that you’re hearing them,  and there comes a point where those thoughts become your “truth.” …And you relate to them as the truth.

They become what we call a “Love Barrier” which blocks your ability to give and receive love freely. These Love Barriers are usually blind spots that you can’t see for yourself.But when you receive the guidance and support you need to recognize and break them down, you are able to get past them and create a flow in your love life. 

Once there’s  flow, you’re able to CHOOSE who you want to trust, spend time with, and love because the limiting beliefs and sabotaging patterns are no longer listening, speaking, or choosing for you..

So what about you? 

Are you willing to recognize that what you’ve been doing simply isn’t working to bring you the happiness, love, and relationship you want, and that you could use some support in recognizing what your blind spots that are creating the patterns that are sabotaging your dreams? 

We hoped you’d say Yes!” which is why we’re inviting you to join us at the Extraordinary Love Intensive on March 12-14th! 

This 3-day event intensive is designed to have you break through those Love Barriers, transform your love life, and attract and create the extraordinary, loving relationship of your dreams!

You will come out of this immersive weekend experience having more clarity about who you are and the patterns that are holding you back.  

You’ll do some of the deep and transformational Heartwork that’s necessary to break these patterns, and you’ll be so much closer to creating the relationship of your dreams.  

The powerful thing about these events is that when you’re there with us LIVE, you remember the work that you do. These patterns can be broken up once and for all, because what you’re experiencing it  LIVE at the event is that powerful. 

Claim your ticket to the Extraordinary Love Intensive

Don’t wait. Don’t keep putting your happiness on hold. I probably don’t need to tell you that waiting is another self-sabotaging behavior pattern that you can break free from now!

Claim Your Ticket Now!

Vulnerability is the KEY to Connection!

Vulnerability is the KEY to Connection!

by | Feb 22, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz 

Did you know that vulnerability is your superpower? 

Why?

Because vulnerability is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

So what does vulnerability look like? 

Vulnerability is…

  • Trusting yourself to know who to trust
  • Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
  • Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
  • Having clarity with yourself and living in an alignment with your values and who you really are.
  • The ability to be yourself without beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable? 

Fear.

If you aren’t being 100% vulnerable with others then there is a fear at play behind the scenes.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think. 

Fear that if you do _____ then ______ will (or wont’) happen. 

Fear that if you say ________ then they will think _______.

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve.

Do any of these fears show up for you? 

If you’re afraid of being vulnerable, there is some pain you’re trying to avoid or something you’re trying to force/make happen.

These fears lead us to either pretend, hide, or resist. 

They lead us to try to control how everyone around us thinks and feels. 

They lead us to think that we must show up one way in order to get a certain reaction from people. 

How exhausting!

What’s worse is that people can usually pick up on the inauthenticity.Most people are be able to feel the insecurity behind everything you’re trying to cover up, and, eventually, it will all come out. 

Imagine going on a date with you and all of the things you’re trying to control…
It’s you, him, and a pile of fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs sitting across from each other.

Doesn’t sound very fun, right? Or very real.

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection? 

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears. 

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected. 

You practice. The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident  you will feel in simply being yourself.

Now, we know that it’s usually easier said than done.  (If you knew how to do all of this, you’d probably already be doing it, right?)

Doing the HeartWork to tear down the walls of pretense and stepping into your authentic and Irresistible Essence takes knowing what to do, what not to do, and what to do differently.


That’s where we come in, and that’s why we’re inviting you to join  us at the Extraordinary Love Intensive on March 12-14th! This 3-day event intensive is designed to have you break through your Love Barriers, transform your love life, and attract and create the extraordinary, loving relationship of your dreams!

You will come out of this incredible weekend having more clarity about who you are and the patterns that are holding you back.  You’ll do some of the deep and transformational Heartwork that’s necessary to break these patterns and you’ll be so much closer to creating the relationship of your dreams.  This is the work we usually only do with our clients, but we want to share it with YOU so that you can stop pretending and start BEing the authentic, vulnerable irresistible version of yourself that is going to have you attract an amazing man with whom you get to create Extraordinary Love!

Life doesn’t stop. Time is going to keep going by, no matter what choices you make.
Why not make a choice that’s going to lead to more joy, love, happiness and freedom in your life…And the kind of love you’ve always wanted?!

Claim Your Ticket Now!
Hurry! Before the 2-pay option goes away!

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward the life and love your heart desires!

The BEST Way to Easily Attract the Love You Want

The BEST Way to Easily Attract the Love You Want

by | Feb 5, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Self-Love

 by Gladys Diaz 

Do you ever find yourself lying in bed at night thinking these types of thoughts? 

“Why didn’t I say the thing that I wanted to say on the date tonight?” 

“I wonder if he hasn’t called because I told him I wanted to wait to have sex. Will anyone ever want to wait for me?”

“Am I going to lose myself again if I get into another relationship?”

 “Do I need to compromise my values so that I can find a man?”

 “Should I just settle for the guy who comes close to what I’m looking for?

 Because of the years of work we’ve done with the thousands of women we’ve supported over the years, we know that these thoughts come up often when dating (and even when you’re in a relationship or  when you’re married!).

 If you’ve spent years learning how to “strategically” date, trying a bunch of different tactics to see if they , turning yourself into who you think you need to be in order for a man to be the right match, and not honoring your values or boundaries – after a while, you end up wondering who this version of you  is and where the real you went. 

 That’s what makes dating and relationships so scary – not trusting that you won’t  lose yourself in a relationship. 

 You worry about this because… 

  • you’ve done it before. 
  • you’ve convinced yourself that you have to be a certain way in order for a man to like you.
  • you’ve tried being yourself, and you feel like it doesn’t work. 

 What if you didn’t have to worry about this anymore? 

 What if you knew, not only exactly who you are, but what you desire so that you could start being 100% true to yourself in your relationships. 

 What if you were transforming and becoming the most authentic version of yourself, and that the men you associated with could see and be attracted to that?

 Well, guess what? It can be true for you. 

 One of our clients recently said, “Now that I’ve been coaching with these amazing women, I’m finally getting that the work I get to do is about me and I’m falling in love with all the parts of myself.” 

 And that is having her attract a completely different type of man!

 That’s what’s  so powerful about the work we do with women. 

 When you can be true to yourself yourself and show up as 100% authentically, beautifully YOU, then you will attract the man that you want. 

 When you do the Heartwork, you get that you don’t need to focus on the man — not the man you’re attracting or the one you’re with. 

 You get that the one and only thing in this life that you have 100% control over is you, and you get that when you focus on you, the man you want will show up. 

 That’s why we’re hosting something incredible next week and we hope you’ll join us! 

 Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully You Challenge which starts on Monday, February 8th! 

 The BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge is for you if you’re ready to: 

 💜 Remove the mask you hide behind that’s blocking you from the love you want

 💜 Find your voice and say what you want and feel without being afraid

 💜 Stop pretending and not honoring your boundaries

 💜 Stop settling for less than you want and deserve in relationships

 💜 Stop doubting your ability to attract the man and relationship of your dreams

 💜 Let go of the anxiety you feel around dating and relationships and have fun BEing YOU!

 💜 And more!

 It’s FREE to join and it’s going to be a gamechanger for you and your love life! 

 It’s time for you to know that you CAN be authentically YOU and attract a man who will love & cherish you for being the Irresistible Woman you are!.

 Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU challenge!

 What if on Valentine’s Day this year, instead of feeling sad that you don’t have your husband or partner, and wondering if that will ever change,  KNEW that you are on your way to changing that and having the Extraordinary Love you want? 

 What if you broke through the thing that’s been holding you back from having that? 

 What if your doubts were gone and you see yourself showing up as the Irresistible YOU? 

 You have no idea what can happen between now and Valentine’s Day if you’ll join us for the challenge. It’s going to support you in taking  yourself and your love life to a whole new level!

 The thing is – 

 When you don’t trust yourself, you can’t trust others.

 When you don’t love yourself, you can’t love someone else or openly receive someone else’s love.

 And when you’re not connected to who you are and what you desire, you can’t create a genuine connection with a man that leads to lasting love.  

 Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOUchallenge so you can start showing up as 100% you. 

And KNOW that when you’re BEing that – then you know that when the right man finds you and is  100% attracted to the real YOU, will fall  and stay in love with the real you! 

 Join the Challenge Now!