by heartsdesireintl | Nov 19, 2013 | Dating, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Last week, I shared about having gone to a conference for two days full days and how, in the past I would have felt guilty about doing something like that. Based on some of your responses, many of you relate to feeling guilty about putting yourselves first.
One of the things I didn’t mention is that, after having prepared all of the meals for my family, I completely left everything else in my husband’s hands for 2 full days.
What does that mean? Well, it means that he made the kids’ lunches, took them and picked them up from school, helped them do and check their homework, fed them, did the dishes, got them ready for bath and bedtime, and let them stay up a few minutes late so that I could kiss them goodnight when I got home!
And what did I do? Did I call to check up on him to make sure he knew what to do? Or remind him that my son had to be picked up at 3:15 from kickball practice? Or in any other way, shape or form try to “help” him handle things?
Nope!
And this doesn’t mean I’m not “a good mother” or “a caring wife.” In fact, it makes me an even better wife!
Why?
Because I trust him.
And, I must admit that this wasn’t always true for me.
One of the most common questions I get from women is how they can “get” their husbands or boyfriends to help them more often. My answer? Let him know you need help and then let him help you!
Sound too simple to be true? Well, it is!
The truth is that many of us don’t ask for help when we need it. It makes us feel vulnerable, we don’t want to have to ask, and then, if he does offer to help, we want to tell him how to do it the “right way” (a.k.a. “my way”).
Why is it so hard to ask for help? Because you then have to admit that you can’t do it all. And, what’s worse, you can’t do it all perfectly.
There’s probably nothing more debilitating than feeling like you have to do everything yourself so that it will turn out just right.
That self-imposed standard of perfection will have you work yourself to the point of exhaustion, all in the effort to look good and avoid looking bad in the eyes of others. Whereas, if you were simply to admit that you need or would like help, you’d be done in less time and have a lot less stress to deal with!
The truth is that people don’t notice, talk about, or give us nearly as much attention as we think they do!
What can be even more challenging than asking for help is actually receiving it. Allowing someone else to step in and take on some of the load can be helpful, but it can also be stressful for a perfectionist and can lead to wanting to tell the person how something should be done “correctly.”
Last week, I shared about having gone to a conference for two days full days and how, in the past I would have felt guilty about doing something like that. Based on some of your responses, many of you relate to feeling guilty about putting yourselves first.
One of the things I didn’t mention is that, after having prepared all of the meals for my family, I completely left everything else in my husband’s hands for 2 full days.
What does that mean? Well, it means that he made the kids’ lunches, took them and picked them up from school, helped them do and check their homework, fed them, did the dishes, got them ready for bath and bedtime, and let them stay up a few minutes late so that I could kiss them goodnight when I got home!
And what did I do? Did I call to check up on him to make sure he knew what to do? Or remind him that my son had to be picked up at 3:15 from kickball practice? Or in any other way, shape or form try to “help” him handle things?
Nope!
And it’s not because I’m not “a good mother” or “a caring wife.” It’s simply because I trust him. And, I must admit that this wasn’t always true for me.
One of the most common questions I get from women is how they can “get” their husbands or boyfriends to help them more often. My answer? Let him know you need help and then let him help you!
Sound too simple to be true? Well, it is!
The truth is that many of us don’t ask for help when we need it. It makes us feel vulnerable, we don’t want to have to ask, and then, if he does offer to help, we want to tell him how to do it the “right way” (a.k.a. “my way”).
Why is it so hard to ask for help? Because you then have to admit that you can’t do it all. And, what’s worse, you can’t do it all perfectly.
There’s probably nothing more debilitating than feeling like you have to do everything yourself so that it will turn out just right.
That self-imposed standard of perfection will have you work yourself to the point of exhaustion, all in the effort to look good and avoid looking bad in the eyes of others. Whereas, if you were simply to admit that you need or would like help, you’d be done in less time and have a lot less stress to deal with!
The truth is that people don’t notice, talk about, or give us nearly as much attention as we think they do!
What can be even more challenging than asking for help is actually receiving it. Allowing someone else to step in and take on some of the load can be helpful, but it can also be stressful for a perfectionist and can lead to wanting to tell the person how something should be done “correctly.”
What happens, however, is that by stepping in, reminding, correcting, and telling the other person how to do what they’re doing can make them feel as if you don’t trust them and that you’re not grateful for the help. It’s also what often leads to men not volunteering to help. Who in the world wants to be told what to do and how to do it every step of the way?
So, what can you do to begin getting more help?
Ask for help. Simply acknowledge that you could use some assistance, and say “I need help.” You don’t have to back it up with all of the reasons, justifications, and complaints about why you need help. Just let him know you could use some help.
Tell him what you need help with, but don’t tell him how to do it. Let him know what it is you would like help with and then let it go – meaning, don’t offer any unsolicited advice, directions, or “helpful hints.” If he indicates that he’s got it, then he’s got it.
Trust him. Letting go is going to require that you trust him. Trust in his capabilities to do what he said he’d do. Trust that if he needs your help, he’ll ask for it, just like you did (but realize that he probably won’t). Not only does letting go communicate trust, but it also communicates respect.
Be thankful. Leaving a task, project, or errand in his hands brings with it the possibility that the end result may not look exactly like what you had imagined. Regardless of how the help is given, it’s important to appreciate his effort. Letting him know you’re thankful not only makes him feel good about having eased your load, but that “feel-good-feeling” is something he’ll probably want to experience again, which means you may be getting even more help in the future!
Letting go of having control over everything can be scary. But trust is an essential ingredient in creating intimacy in a relationship. So, if you want to experience true intimacy in your relationship…
Take a deep breath…
Remember you chose a great guy…
And…let…go…
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by heartsdesireintl | Jul 19, 2013 | Communication, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship Advice, Romance, Sex
by Gladys Diaz
Last Sunday, my husband and I celebrated our 13th Wedding Anniversary! To celebrate, he whisked me away for a long weekend at the beach. I have to say that I was like an expectant bride all week long. The idea of having four whole days away, just the two of us, was so exciting! I had butterflies in my stomach, could barely concentrate, and kept imagining what four days of no schedules and interruptions would look like!
Now, don’t get me wrong. I love our boys, I love being a mom, and I love the time we spend together as a family. I also love seeing my husband with the boys, because he’s such a great dad. But, I also want to have time to spend with my husband. I like the idea of being a couple.
Having those days together, walking on the boardwalk, sitting on the shore and listening to the sound of the waves, sharing a romantic meal, making out and making love whenever we wanted – it was like we used to be in the beginning, where everything was new and it was like we were the only 2 people in the world! I learned things about my husband that I never knew in our 14 years together. It was exciting to know that there is still so much to discover about one another!
As mothers, we have a responsibility to our kids, but we’re also women who are wives and lovers. And, while we may not be able to go away with our husbands every weekend, there are ways that we can continue making “we time” a priority.
1. Have regular date nights. Whether it’s once a week or twice a month, make time to spend time alone together, free of distractions and interruptions. Actually designate and schedule the days or nights when you’ll make time to have a date. To make it fun, take turns planning the dates. Some couples even make a game of trying to out-do one another. But, if doing that becomes stressful and not fun, forget about it and read the next tip! The idea is to enjoy the time you’re spending with each other.
2. Keep it simple. If budget is an issue and you can’t afford to get baby sitters and go out often, have a date night in. After putting the kids to bed, make or order in a nice dinner, or share a special desert. Turn off the TV and smart phones, and just be with one another. Play a board game (be creative about how to make it romantic!), build a puzzle together, or do something else that allows you time to talk and connect. And remember to smile and flirt with him! He still likes that!
3. Make it about the two of you. We all live busy lives, so it may be tempting to start talking about bills, the kids, and household decisions that need to be made when we finally get some uninterrupted time together. However, this is also a great time to really connect with one another. Talk about your goals and dreams. Take time to express how grateful you are to have him in your life and give yourself permission to be mushy!
4. Let go of expectations. You may have a certain picture in your mind about what a “perfect romantic date” should be. If you husband plans something that’s not as exciting or romantic as you would have liked, don’t allow your unmet expectations to cheat you out of enjoying your time together. Just receive his time and attention and appreciate the time you have together. You can always plan something different when it’s your turn to plan the date.
5. Stay present. It’s easy to let our minds wander off when we’re not focused on being present. If you find your mind wandering off, take a nice deep breath, allow yourself to see, hear, and feel where you are and what is around you, and bring yourself back to the present. Sometimes, I actually tell myself, “Where am I? I’m in a restaurant. I’m having a great glass of wine. I hear the soft music in the background. I’m sitting across from the man I love!” This helps me to bring myself back to where I really want to be!
6. Get physical. Whether it’s holding hands, making out, or making one of those board games interesting by coming up with your own sexy rules (wink, wink), make time physical touch. Hugging, touching, kissing, and making love are an important part of marriage. It’s what makes a romantic relationship different from a friendship. So definitely make physical touch a part of your “we time” experience.
If the physical side of your relationship has begun to fizzle or one of you is struggling with making physical intimacy part of the relationship again, keep it fun and light. There are card and board games, coupons, and rolling die that include playful activities that are fun and don’t necessarily involve having intercourse. Focus on other types of touch that may feel more comfortable at first, like hand-holding or a back rub. The important thing is to not have the expectation of having sex seem like an obligation for either one of you. The more you begin to connect, the more likely it is that the other types of intimacy will begin to resurface.
Being parents is part of our relationship as husband and wife, but, before there were kids, there was a couple that loved and couldn’t wait to spend time with one another. Being intentional about having “we time” can help us keep the love, laughter, and romance alive in our relationships, which will make us happier parents, too!
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by heartsdesireintl | Jul 1, 2013 | Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
Yesterday I attended Social Media Day Miami, an amazing event organized by a group of community volunteers who believe in the power of social media for connecting, sharing your message, making a difference, and building your business. Many of the organizers belong to the Social Media Club of South Florida, the group that the set the 30-Day Blogging Challenge in which I’ve been participating.
I attended the event to learn how I can continue to use social media to connect with women from around the world who are interested in not only attracting a good man into their lives, but building an extraordinary relationship that lasts for a lifetime. Surprisingly, however, some of the best lessons I learned had nothing to do with social media.
They didn’t even take place during the sessions. They happened spontaneously in the hallways talking with some of the men who attended the event.
They were lessons about how men feel about being married; how they see their roles as fathers; and how, when a man is really interested in a woman, there is nothing that he’ll let get in the way of being with her.
Lesson #1: Men Love Being Happily Married
The first teachable moment occurred as I was on my way to a session. I happened to stop to say hello to a very good friend of mine who just happened to be talking about me to two young men and a lady. She was telling them about how the coaching she’d received from me and Heart’s Desire International had helped her get in touch with her feminine energy and attract an incredibly wonderful man into her life!
I was so surprised to see how excited the two guys were about the work that I do. They wanted to know more about it, and then Lesson #1 came. One of the men said, “You know what I didn’t know. That when you get married (pointing at his wedding ring), it just gets better!”
This is why, when I introduce myself as a dating and relationship coach, and a woman quickly (and, sometimes nervously) says, “Oh, I’m happily married!” – as in: “I don’t need your business card. Nothing’s wrong here! Thank you!”) – I tell her “That’s great! Here’s my card! I also specialize in teaching women how to keep the love and passion alive in their relationships so that they can stay happily married for a lifetime!”
It was great to hear a man speak so excitedly about love and relationships, and even more heartwarming to hear him speak about being married as the best thing that ever happened to him. That, ladies, is one of the best compliments a woman can ever get!
Lesson #2: Men Take Their Roles as Fathers Seriously
As another friend and I were talking to two other men later in the day, the conversation turned to marriage and parenting (I can’t help it! I’m a magnet for these conversations!)
It was absolutely inspiring when the men began talking about their children and how they see their roles as fathers. One of the men shared how, he’s not so concerned about his kids getting a good job and succeeding. He said that those things will fall in place. Instead, he said he wants them to become “good people.” He wants them to honor God and just be good people. And the passion with which he spoke let you know just how committed he was to being the role model for them to follow.
The other man shared how for him it’s important that his kids be open to all different types of people. He and his wife come from completely different cultural backgrounds, and he wants his children to be exposed to as many cultures, foods, and experiences as possible. He told us how every weekend he and his family spend time with other families from different backgrounds, eating cultural foods, and just learning about one another. He, too, was passionate as he spoke, and it was so great to see a man taking on that role of leader and teacher in his family. And, for the second time that day, I heard a man say that being married and having a family were the best things that had ever happened to him!
Both these men left me inspired. Not because this is something that is rare. There are billions of other dads out there who are just as loving, committed to their families, and who take their responsibility as fathers seriously. What inspired me was how willing they were to be so open and vulnerable and the pride with which they spoke of their children at a business event. I was really moved and said a prayer of thanks for my own husband who had stayed home with our kids so that I could attend the event!
Lesson #3: When a Man is Really Interested in You, He Won’t Let Anything Stand in His Way
One of the two men who was sharing about his role as a father, also shared the story of how he and his wife met and got together. (I told you – I’m a magnet for these types of stories!)
He told us how, after feeling some attraction to her, he organized a business event halfway across the country, just so that he could see her. Then, when she mentioned she’d be bringing a male friend to their first lunch, he assumed it was her boyfriend, and begged his business partner to go with him so that it wouldn’t be too awkward. She never did bring the other man to the lunch (and he ended up being just a friend), but he’d already made up a story in his head that she wasn’t interested. He shared how he felt so foolish for having thought that there would be anything between them and how he came home feeling like the trip had been a waste of time.
A few weeks later, when she was flown in to his city by her company, he told us how he felt he had to rent a car because his was so beaten up and he didn’t want her to see it. (He also told the hilarious story of how he tried to get the rental car key chain off to no avail and how he had to drive while trying to hide it!).
He took a lot of heat from his business partner for planning a business event in another city, taking someone with him on that trip, and now wanting to spend more company money on a rental car – all for a woman! But this man had a feeling. Not a guarantee. Not a solid sign from the universe. He just had a feeling that this woman was worth his efforts. And he was willing to do what he could to see if maybe there was something there for her, too.
The sweetest part of the story was when he told about the moment where he knew there was something between them. She reached out for his hand to let him smell the body lotion she was trying on her hand, and he that when she touched his hand, he felt something and he just knew. (How romantic is that!?!)
He shared how they went through the challenges of a long-distance relationship, had their ups and downs, and even broke up during the course of their relationship. But today, they are together and happily married with four children!
What was fascinating to me and my friend was how this man, who knew there were no guarantees about actually getting together with this woman was willing to do what he could to be with her. And the best part was that the woman in this love story didn’t have to do anything. She was just being herself. She didn’t have to say or do anything to get him to like her. He was attracted to her and who she was, and he figured out a way to be with her.
That’s why being your most natural, feminine self is one of the best ways to attract really great men into your life. Smile, flirt, and let who you are shine through. That’s how the man who is already looking for you will be able to recognize you so that he can walk across the room (or fly across the country) to come speak to you! That’s also why, if you are single and you haven’t already signed up for the “Meet Mr. Right-for-You” Video Training Series, I invite you to do that now! In this 3-part video series, you’ll learn more about how to meet more great men, have more fun while dating, and move past the excuses that are stopping you from having the love story your heart desires!
And, if you’re married or in a relationship, stay tuned, because your video series on how to create a love that lasts for a lifetime is coming soon! Make sure you’re subscribed to our newsletter list so that you can hear about when that series is released!
The Social Media Day Miami event was a huge success, both in and outside of the sessions! From the presenters, I left with some really great ideas on how to use social media to build my brand, reach more hearts, and make a bigger difference in the world. I was able to connect with new people and reconnect with friends I’ve grown to love (many of which our friendships began or have grown thanks to social media). And, in the hallways, I got a peek into the hearts of three men who were more than happy to share the love they have for their wives and families.
Yep! To me, that made for an incredibly successful day!
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by heartsdesireintl | Jun 28, 2013 | Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
I recently ended a relationship with a man that after almost two years of dating I realized was not in partnership. As much as I wanted the relationship to work out, I saw qualities in him that would not make him a good husband. I see where I could have ended this relationship sooner, but because of my age (I am 40 years old), I wanted to give it my all because I really wanted to be married and have a family. I am now glad I ended it, because I know I wouldn’t have been happy married to him. However, I now find myself at 40 years old wanting children and single. I don’t know if I want to invest another 1-2 years in another relationship and then, if it doesn’t work, out find myself unable to have children. I have looked into freezing my eggs but there is no 100% certainty that the eggs will be viable years from now. I have also looked into sperm donors. Adoption is not out of the question, but I would really like to have a child of my own. What would you advise someone like me?
Thanks for being so vulnerable and sharing this with us. Wanting to have children is one of the first responses I get when I ask a woman what it is that she wants to experience in a relationship. As a mother, I can completely understand why women want to experience this in their lives, and I wish this sort of joy on everyone! However, as you well point out in your email, being in a happy relationship and being a mother are two completely different things.
In today’s day and age, it’s become easier for women to have children, whether or not they are in a relationship. However, too many children are born into unhappy marriages, and, since you reached out to me and I’m a relationship expert and not a fertility expert, I’d like to focus on the relationship side of your question, first.
You mentioned how you probably stayed in the relationship a little longer than you could have, but chose to stay because of your age and wanting to be married and have a family. If you’ve been following my blog, you know that I completely agree with honoring your desire to be married and that I fully believe that it’s possible for every woman to be in a happy, loving relationship that lasts for a lifetime. So, I acknowledge you for trying to work things out.
However, it’s also important that you acknowledge why you really chose to stay. On the surface, it may seem that it was out of the desire to marry and have a family with him. But if there were signs way before you left indicating that you probably would not have had a happy marriage with him, then there’s probably another reason – a deep-seeded fear – that may have had you stay.
What are some of the reasons that might have a woman choose to stay in a relationship with someone who may not be right for her?
- Not being sure of what you want in a relationship: You’ve heard us say this before in our blog and at our events: If you’re not crystal-clear about what you want, you will settle for what you think you can get. Settling for less than what you want and deserve does not honor the beauty and wonder of who you are, nor will it allow you to ever feel truly fulfilled in a relationship. When you get clear about what you want in a relationship, then you are able to see what does and doesn’t align with that.
- Fear of not being loved: The fear of being alone is only out-ranked by the fear of not being loved. The fear of not having someone in our lives who will love and accept us exactly the way we are and the way we are not can drive us, again, to settle for less than what is possible for us in love and relationships. The truth is that you are already naturally love-able – able to love and be loved. The fact that you have not yet attracted the man with whom you’ll spend your life does not indicate that it will never happen. Believe that experiencing true love is possible for you!
- Fear of taking a risk: I know it can be scary to get out there and start over again. However, if what you want is to be in a happy loving marriage where you can then start creating a happy family, it’s going to take the courage and willingness to put your heart out there again. This time, however, really be clear about what you want to experience so that you don’t spend 1-2 years trying to make something work that is not leading to the kind of relationship you want to experience. Take some time to get to know different men, and, if you’re not having the experience of being happy, loved, and cherished, then have the courage to walk away and make room for the man who is willing to create that family and relationship with you.
Bringing a child into an unhappy marriage is not only unfair to the child, but it dishonors you and the love you are worthy of. So, yes, look into all of your options for having a child and choose the one that works best for you. And, if what you want to experience motherhood within a happy relationship where the two of you can be partners in life, love, and parenting, then get clear about what you want, remember that you are love-able, and be willing to take the risk to open up your heart and love again!
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by heartsdesireintl | Jun 22, 2013 | breakups, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
I dated a man for 7 years before I married him. We had, – or I should say I had – an awful experience with my stepchildren. They kept accusing me of being a gold digger, and not only am I NOT, but I watched the greedy children complain about what they were getting if I married him. We ended up running off and eloped! What a mistake.
It was only days into the marriage and they were walking in our home like they stilled lived there. Borrowing excessive money behind my back and created a wedge by only communicating with their dad and made me feel like an outsider.
To make a long story short, I filed for divorce and a restraining order after multiple abuse and disappearing acts and text messages to old girlfriends. My dilemma is I keep going back and forth about whether he really loved me and, if so, what went wrong and could it have been worked out? I can’t seem to trust anyone! I’m very skeptical of every guy I meet or date, I feel like I never got closure because of the restraining order/no contact order. However, he texted me numerous times, mailed perfume, called my therapist, and challenged boundaries over and over again. The police did nothing but slap his hand. And, as for me, I still feel like I need to tell him off or expose his lies and deceit to the world before I can move on. He betray me in every way and yet painted a picture of how much he loved me to everyone when, in fact, lied about his abuse and cheating on me. I know it takes time, but, sheez, I was made as a fool. I truly believe he’s a narcissist. How do I move on?
I can hear how much pain you feel at having that relationship turn out the way it did and how afraid you are to move forward. Having invested that much time with someone, only to have things not turn out the way you had hoped and dreamed would leave anyone feeling unsure of herself and about what to do to move on.
The first thing I thought of when I read your email was, “How were things during those 7 years of courtship?” Seven years is a very long time to wait to get married and long time for someone to not reveal his true colors.
I’m wondering if there were reasons why it took that long for a commitment to be made, beyond the issues with his children. I also wonder what your relationship with him and his children was like before you both began talking about marriage and how he responded to the way you were treated by them.
Blending a family can have its challenges, and how the couple chooses to address those challenges prior to marriage sets the foundation for what it will be like once they are married.
Did you let him know how much their behavior hurt you? Was he willing to stand up for you? Did he treat you with love and respect in front of them? How did you feel about becoming part of the family? Did you express those feelings purely to him – not telling him what he needed to do about it, but just sharing what you felt and how you would like to feel? And how did he respond to their efforts to ignore and make you feel left out?
I want to clarify that I’m not saying that any of this was your “fault.” I don’t believe that blaming or shaming ourselves serves us in any way. However, in order to truly begin to move forward, it’s important that we are willing to take responsibility for the role that we played in the relationship, looking to see where we were willing to accept things that we knew did not feel right for us, and learning those lessons so that we do not repeat the same behaviors in the future. It’s not “easy” work, to look within, rather than outside of ourselves for the things that didn’t work, but it is an essential to creating new patterns of thought and behavior.
For example, you mention that there were incidents of abuse and infidelity. Were there were signs and red flags regarding his tendencies to hurt and be unfaithful to you?
It’s been my experience in working with women that, when there has been abuse and consistent incidences of infidelity in the marriage, there were actually red flags that were ignored early in the relationship.
Was he prone to getting excessively angry? Did he ever shake or push you or put his hands on you in anger? Were there times when you felt afraid for your safety and later dismissed, excused, or rationalized his behavior and the way you felt? Did you feel emotionally and physically safe when you were with him?
Regarding the infidelity, were there disappearances prior to getting married? Would he drop out of communication for long periods of time? It sounds like you found inappropriate text messages. Did something make you look through his phone to find the text messages?
Usually, when women invest time in looking through their husbands’ or boyfriends’ phones, computers, and electronic accounts, it’s because something in their gut is sending is telling them that there is something going on. Were there signs prior to getting married that he might not be capable of being faithful to you?
Again, please understand that I’m not saying you did anything to deserve any type of unacceptable behavior on his part. It’s just important that you’re willing to see whether there was anything you might have done that sent the message that behavior that hurt, dishonored, or disrespected you was something you would tolerate or excuse.
It’s important that you recognize whether there were signs that were ignored and ways that you justified them so that you can be aware of these in the future and not allow your fears and uncertainty to keep you from being willing to open your heart to a man who will love and cherish you the way you deserve!
It’s also important to remember to have compassion with yourself. I imagine that it can’t be easy for you to have been through everything you’ve gone through. Regardless of whether or not there were signs that were ignored, the fact is that you loved him and you envisioned yourself being loved by him for the rest of your life. Seeing that dream come to an end can’t be an easy reality to deal with, and I hope that you are taking time to really bring love, forgiveness, and compassion to yourself. The truth is that, whatever decisions and choices that were made in the past, they are not predictors of what is possible for you in the future. You are deserving of love, time, attention, loyalty, and intimacy.
If you can own the role you played in your previous relationship, take the lessons from it that will serve you, and bring compassion and love to yourself, you will be on the path to moving beyond this pain and opening your heart again so that you can experience the love you deserve and your heart desires!
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by heartsdesireintl | Jun 5, 2013 | breakups, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
One of my favorite parts about the work that I do is being able to connect with and make a real difference for the people with whom I work. There really is nothing more rewarding to me than guiding a woman through her biggest fears, greatest blocks, and limiting beliefs, and having her come through more empowered and confident than ever, with the promise of her heart’s desires being fulfilled on the other side!
I don’t always get an opportunity to connect with everyone in our community on a personal level, but lately I’ve been trying to think of ways to create opportunities for more personal connections, where I can hear from and share with you on a more consistent basis.
Well, those of you who know me know that I don’t believe in coincidences, and that I do believe that everything that happens does so at the perfect time and for a specific reason. That’s why yesterday, when I read about a 30-Day Challenge yesterday, I got excited!
And the best part is YOU get to be part of it, too!
One of the groups I’m very proud to be part of is the Social Media Club of South Florida. The members are participating in a 30-Day Blogging Challenge during the month of June.
So, why is this exciting and how can you be part of it?
The 30-Day Blogging Challenge I participated in last year is what helped me to start blogging on a more consistent basis. I joined the group right before the last challenge began and it motivated me to create “Your Heart’s Desire Thought of the Day,” where, for 30 days, I blogged about a different dating and relationship topic each day. People enjoyed it, I loved reading and responding to the comments, and, when the challenge ended, I had several requests to continue with the daily messages (If you were one of those people, consider this your request being granted!).
Another reason I’m so excited is because I’ll be doing things a little differently this time. Instead of me coming up with the 30 topics I’ll be blogging about, this time, I will be answering your questions about love, dating, and relationships! That’s right! All you have to do is ask me a question via email or our Facebook page, and I will answer your question in one of the blog posts during the month of June! Your name will be kept confidential on the blog post, and you’ll have the opportunity to have some of your burning questions answered!
Here’s all you need to do:
- Type the words “Burning Question” in the subject line of your email or in your Facebook comment.
- Send your question via email to gladys@heartsdesireintl.com or post your question on our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/heartsdesireintl.
- Once the question gets answered, I’ll send you an email or Facebook message letting you know that your question’s been answered on Heart’s Desire’s blog.
That’s it!
Now, I really need your help, because today is June 5th, and the challenge began on June 1st! Believing that it’s never too late for anything wonderful to happen (in life or relationships!), I want to get started right away – as in tomorrow, June 6th! So, if you have a question (or 2… or 3) that you’d like answered, just send me an email or go to our Facebook page and ask it NOW! And, please don’t wait to see if someone else asks first. I need to answer 30 questions in 30 days and I want yours to be one of them.
Just send me any questions you have about:
- dating
- love
- sex
- relationships
- parenting
- romance
- marriage
- breakups
- avoiding divorce
- intimacy
- any other burning questions you have
So, go ahead! Make my day and partner with me to make this next 30 days ones that make a huge difference for you and the thousands of others people who are going to benefit from reading the answer to your question!
Questions? Comments? Let us know! We love hearing from you!
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