How to Know If It’s a “Red Flag” or a “Fear Flag”.

How to Know If It’s a “Red Flag” or a “Fear Flag”.

by | Aug 1, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

“Oh my gosh, is that a red flag?”

When you’re out there dating and getting to know men, do you often find yourself thinking that question?
 
Do you know the difference between a “red flag” and a “fear flag”?

The term “red flag” is thrown around a lot by women who are dating. If we had a dollar for every time we’ve heard it in our work – we’d have a lot, I mean a lot a lot – of dollars!!

There definitely are some red flags that you want to be aware of while dating. It’s important to be awake and aware when you’re getting to know men and thinking about who you’d like to spend your life with.

However, a lot of the things women think are red flags simply aren’t.

So, what is an actual red flag?

A red flag in dating is something that causes you real (versus imagined or feared), physical or emotional danger.

Primary examples of red flags in dating are:

  • Threats of physical abuse
  • Signs of physical anger
  • Hitting things (or you) when angry
  • Consistently rude, disrespectful with you/others
  • Makes fun of you or is degrading
  • Verbal abuse when angry
  • Actively addicted to alcohol, marijuana, substances, pornography, or gambling (just to name a few) 
  • A man that’s still married (even if he’s separated or in the process of divorce)

Red flags are things that are character flaws or character traits that don’t work in loving, committed, happy, long-term relationships.

Some of them are usually obvious from the get-go, but many of them usually don’t come out right away during the dating process.

This is why it’s so important to give yourself time to get to know someone.

Dating is simply the process of getting to know someone to see if you want to keep getting to know them.

When you give yourself that time, you can look for consistency of authenticity so you can discern for yourself if any of these true red flags are present. 

When you give yourself that time, you don’t need to be afraid that you’ll make a poor decision or that you won’t see everything you need to see.

The thing is, if you’re finding that every single man you’re attracting is bringing up the “red flag” question – why would you want to keep doing that?

Get curious about why you’re continuing to attract these types of issues into your life.

Your red flag is the one that’s waving in the wind letting you know there’s a pattern within you from an emotional wound from the past that’s begging to be healed. 

One of our clients recently got engaged to an incredible man who she’s madly in love with! When she messaged us to let us know the good news she said, “I almost didn’t date him because I thought he was a scammer.” It felt too good to be true to her, and she almost ran away. 

Good thing she had a coach who was able to support her through her “fear flags” so she could heal the emotional wounds inside of her while she took the time to get to know the incredible man that she now gets to love and be loved by for a lifetime! 

So, if you’re ready to attract the man that’s going to be your partner for a life-time, then you need to join us in September for Irresistible Woman LIVE! 

If you’re tired of attracting men who aren’t what you’re looking for….

If you’re sick of experiencing red flags in dating… 

If you’re simply tired of feeling afraid and not trusting yourself to see clearly and make the best decisions for you…. 

You get to do the HeartWork that will heal you from the patterns that are having you continue to experience “red flags” and “fear flags”! 

That’s what we’ll be teaching you at Irresistible Woman LIVE! 

The way you relate to yourself and the way you relate to men will be completely transformed! 

Grab your ticket here! 

When you’re out there dating, we want you to attract high-quality men, know that you’re safe and know that you have the power inside you to create everything you dream of.

That’s what you’ll get when you join us at Irresistible Woman LIVE. 

Claim your spot here.  

 

Do You Really Want To Be In The Relationship Of Your Dreams?

Do You Really Want To Be In The Relationship Of Your Dreams?

by | Jul 25, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you want to be in the relationship of your dreams now?

Like really ?

Guess what…

In the last month our clients have created 9 new committed relationships, 2 engagements (with upcoming marriages planned within two weeks of each other in September) and 2 additional marriages!

And those are only the ones we’ve heard about! 

We don’t know what your goals were at the beginning of the year, NAME, but if you’re here in our community we’re guessing that some of them had to do with creating the relationship of your dreams.

Think back to 3 months ago…

6 months ago…

Where did you think you’d be by now?

How close are you to creating it?

So often we allow time to keep going by without the things we want most in our life changing.

Why is that?

When it comes to dating and relationships, here’s why –

1. If you don’t know how to date, it’s intimidating and confusing and doesn’t result in the fun experience it should be. This causes you to put it off.

2. If you’ve made past mistakes in relationships or had your heart broken and haven’t healed – the fears and anxieties you have about the past will also have you avoid your greatest dreams.

The fact is – when you’re really committed to creating something in your life – you take consistent action to create it.

It’s possible that you think you’re doing all the right things – but you’re still not experiencing the results you want because you’re not clear on what works in dating.

If you’re exhausted by dating – you’re trying to control when and how it happens.

Being courted by a man – being treated to dinner, taken to shows, going on walks on the beach – what’s exhausting about that?!

Dating should be fun and relaxing!

If you say that you’re ready to be in the relationship of your dreams NOW then it’s time to take action NOW.

And not just any actions – the ones that will have dating and relationships be fun and exciting!

This is why you need to purchase your Ultimate Love Bundle so you can join us in less than two months for Irresistible Woman LIVE!

If you don’t want to spend another holiday alone…

If you want to step into your happily ever after together with the love of your dreams…

You get to practice the things that give you the emotional and dating mastery that will have you show up as the kind of woman that the type of high quality man you want is looking for.

That’s what we’re going to be teaching you at Irresistible Woman LIVE!

Your life simply will never be the same.

The way you relate to yourself and the way you relate to men will be completely transformed!

You’ll waste so much less time PLUS feel happy and empowered, enabled to make dating fun and successful so that you can create the relationship of your dreams NOW!

Grab your ticket here!

If you’ve ever said you need to take a “break” from dating, come and enjoy yourself and spend three days with us.We’ll take care of you and make sure you have all the tools you need to create the powerful transformation that will have you create and BE IN the relationship of your dreams with the love of your life by the end of this year!

When you’re out there dating, we want you to know that you’re doing the things that will give you the results you want.

Claim your spot here.

See you there! 

 

The Secret To Stop Getting “Triggered”!

The Secret To Stop Getting “Triggered”!

by | Jul 15, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like to be able to feel confident in any situation or conversation you encounter that you’ll be able to handle it with grace and ease? 

How would it feel to experience less reactivity or emotional meltdown and experience more happiness and joy? 

Imagine what it would mean for your life if you were able to maintain peace inside of you no matter what happens around you? 

Tomorrow in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop we’re going to be showing you how to create just that!

See if this scenario sounds familiar: 

Something happens…

… your boyfriend says something in a “tone”

… a guy you’ve been texting stops responding

… your boss calls you in for an unscheduled meeting

… a co-worker doesn’t do something they promised they’d do

… someone cuts you off on the highway
 

And all of the sudden you feel disrespected, rejected, worried or angry. 

You’re “triggered.” 

A memory, fear or limiting belief was opened up and like a domino effect sets off a series of other thoughts and associated behaviors.

The switch has been flipped and you have an emotional reaction that has you say or do things you later regret. Your mind and mouth take on a mind of their own and it’s not until after the dust has settled that you regret your behavior and see the line of carnage in your wake. 

We’ve all been there, . 

There was a time when Ric and I couldn’t even talk about some things for longer then 5 minutes because one of us would explode.

Sometimes the fall-out you create from these emotional reactions is short-lived. 

But sometimes, the result is a complete loss of a relationship, future relationship, or opportunity. 

The result is always a loss of personal peace and confidence and the impact on you and those around you is loss of time, energy, intimacy, connection, happiness and joy.

What if you didn’t have to experience things that way? 

What if you could turn off the “trigger” in an instant before it spiraled out of control? 

What if you could have mastery over your emotions instead of being a reaction waiting to happen? 

That’s what we’re going to be teaching you how to do tomorrow in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop. 

You’re going to learn how to: 

  • Identify the emotional triggers that have you react, strike back, or shut down in conversations and relationships.
  • Break through the automatic and limiting thought patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and relationships, so that you can attract and keep the love your heart desires
  • Increase your level of self awareness and master managing your emotions , so that you are able to have empowering conversations and build a strong, happy, and loving relationship

The reason why marriages aren’t working right now is because most people don’t have the skills to not have a reaction to what others say and do. 

Ric and I almost lost our marriage because of this. 

But we didn’t because we up-leveled our emotional intelligence by learning the tools and skills that work in communicating and relationships. Now we can discuss anything for as long as we want to and maintain connection, love and peace in the space. 

And that’s what we want for you too. 

 

 

Tips For Talking About Religion With A Date.

Tips For Talking About Religion With A Date.

by | Jun 24, 2022 | Communication, Dating, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Does spirituality or religion play an integral role in your life?

Some of the questions we often get from our clients about this topic are:

  • When is it appropriate to bring up religion in the dating experience? 
  • What if he doesn’t share my same beliefs? Can a relationship still work? 
  • How much should I share?
  • What if we’re not aligned?
  • What if I can’t ever find someone I’m attracted to that’s in my religion?

So, let’s give you some answers!

If you’re unwilling to date outside of your religion – put it in your dating profile. If this matters to you, trust that you will find someone who is aligned because hiding it or pushing down that desire won’t ever work.

Otherwise, we suggest that you don’t bring it up and allow it to come up naturally in the dating experience.

We recommend not having heavy and significant conversations early on while dating. The beginning of getting to know someone should feel light and fun and exciting!

If the topic comes up naturally, and it’s something that’s important for you to share, then simply be honest and authentic.

This is how it happened for me…

Ric and I met at a dance club and then we spent hours more talking that night. The topic of religion came up naturally because in Ric sharing about his divorce, I shared that my previous husband had passed away.

Ric asked me how I ever got through something like that and my authentic response was, “My faith in God is the only thing that got me through it.”

That was authentic and a very natural response for me because my religion was a big part of my life at the time. I was in a Christian band, I was a youth minister, and I went to church every Sunday.

Ric had very different beliefs.

While he was also Catholic, he wasn’t actively practicing. Later in our dating relationship we talked about religion more and he expressed that his main concern was that I would try and convert him.

We decided then that mutual respect and peace were two values that we would always hold in our marriage. We wouldn’t ever feel the need to defend or debate our beliefs.

I expressed that it was important that my children be baptized and that I was married in the church. He didn’t have a problem with either of those things and that’s what happened.

Over 20 years into marriage and that mutual respect has remained. Having differing beliefs has never been a problem.

It can work!

What’s important is that you’re gracious, accepting, authentic, respectful and honest with yourself and with him from the beginning.

Marriage will throw many different balls at you and the fact is, you and your partner aren’t going to always agree. That doesn’t mean that someone has to be wrong.

Respect is what will get you through.

Being clear on who you are and what you want is critical.

The most important thing to remember while dating is that a man can’t fall in love with you if you aren’t there. You get to be authentic and show up fully as you!

Let go of judgments. Be honest. Be authentic.

If you’re ready to be in the relationship of your dreams, want to get crystal clear on who you are and know how to attract that relationship to you before the end of this year then join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE 2022 in September!

This 3-day virtual event is specifically for smart, successful, strong women who also want to be successful in love.

We have a special offer that includes a ticket going on now and the price is only going to go up.

If you know you want to join us, so yourself a favor and grab your ticket here now!

 

The Breakthrough That Has You Find The Love of Your Life

The Breakthrough That Has You Find The Love of Your Life

by | Jun 18, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to have a breakthrough in love?

Do you know what a breakthrough feels like?

Did you know there’s a difference between a breakthrough and an insight?

Here’s how you can tell…

An insight is a logical experience where you suddenly realize or see something new that supports you in understanding why you’re creating what you have in your life.

An insight could be remembering an event from your childhood that created the fear of abandonment that’s running your love life or realizing that you keep creating the same experience over and over again with different men.

Those are all insights – and they’re super important to have!

However – a breakthrough is something more.

A breakthrough is a heart-changing experience that rises above and beyond what’s ordinary. Having a breakthrough creates an energetic shift that transforms you and the way you’re showing up in your life.

It’s powerful!!!

So how do you create one?

First of all – since a breakthrough is an experience above and beyond the ordinary – it’s usually not something you can create for yourself. A real breakthrough requires the support of someone who can see what you can’t see AND support you in transforming it.

Creating a breakthrough in your life requires the assistance of a coach.

On top of having a coach, you must be:

1) Committed to having a breakthrough and declaring what you want.
2) Willing to move past what’s comfortable
3) Ready and excited to apply the coaching

So let’s dive deeper.

1) Committed to Having a Breakthrough and Declaring What You Want.

A declaration is not a list of things you don’t want or what you’re tired of creating.

A declaration is a powerful statement with crystal clarity of what you do want.

If you can’t articulate what you want, you’re not going to get it.

So what do you want?

What’s the thing that if it was no longer in your way would accelerate your experience and have you create the relationship of your dreams?

Once you know that – that’s the first step to creating a breakthrough!

2) Willing to Move Past What’s Comfortable

Doing what you’ve always done will get you the same results you’ve always gotten. The relationship you’ve always dreamt of is outside your comfort zone!

3) Be Ready and Excited to Apply the Coaching

Again, since a breakthrough is something above and beyond the ordinary, it’s going to take doing something above and beyond what you’ve always done.

The coaching you receive might not make perfect sense because it’s going to be something different. But if you’ll trust your coach and apply the coaching they give – you will have a transformation!

You get to have a breakthrough so that you don’t keep doing the same patterns over and over forever and never create the results you want. 

And the best news of all is that tomorrow we’ve got the perfect opportunity for you at Love Breakthrough LIVE! 

Register for Love Breakthrough LIVE Now!

If you want to attract more love and are frustrated that you’re doing all the things and still not getting the results you desire.

If you keep thinking you have more time, but are realizing that the time keeps ticking and nothing is changing.

If you want to have conversations with your partner that don’t require a breakdown or a fight to get resolved.

If you’re ready to have the loving, supportive, connected, safe love you desire – then you get to have a breakthrough NOW!

Join us tomorrow (and be open and willing to receive) and we promise you’ll walk away with a breakthrough.

Allow us to help you break through the bricks that are up and blocking you.

This really can be the moment everything changes. 

How to Stop Meeting Mr. Wrong and Meet Mr. Right, Instead!

How to Stop Meeting Mr. Wrong and Meet Mr. Right, Instead!

by | May 13, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Michelle Roza

Are you ready to meet the RIGHT man? 

The man who’s not only good for you and to you, but also someone who you feel magic with? 

We have found that women who are dating find themselves in one of two scenarios… 

1. You keep attracting men into your life who aren’t good for you. They’re the “bad guys” who don’t  show up, only want sex, aren’t looking for commitment, or ghost you after the first date (if you even make it to a date!).

 There’s chemistry and connection, but, obviously, these interactions  aren’t going anywhere.

The problem with this, is that these women start to believe that all men are like this, and they then lose faith in dating and their ability to attract a different kind of man.

  1. Scenario Two: You attract good men into your  life – men of integrity and honor. Men who are seeking out the same loving, passionate, committed relationship that you are.

     

Sounds great right?

It would be except for that you often don’t feel a connection with these men. There’s no chemistry, and even though you’re glad that you’re attracting good men, you  still can’t seem to attract the right one… The man you can’t wait to spend the rest of your life with.

Do you see yourself in either of those scenarios?  

Are you tired of meeting man after man, but never having it  turn into the loving, passionate, committed relationship you really want? 

After I got divorced, I went into the dating experience really excited and thought I was finally going to be able to attract the man that was right for me.

Five years later, that excitement had turned into disenchantment, disappointment and resignation. I was thinking, “Maybe I’m meant to be single.” 

Life was pretty good, I was doing great at work, my children were thriving and I thought maybe I should let go of this desire to be in love.

But the truth was that underneath that resignation was the fear that there was something wrong with me, the fear that it simply was never going to happen and the uncertainty of why what I was doing wasn’t working. 

That’s when I began my journey of doing the HeartWork and getting underneath these fears and patterns to see what it was that I needed to heal and shift within myself. 

I knew that if I could just crack the code to attracting the man that would love me for me and that I would love for him – I would be able to create the extraordinary relationship I had always dreamt of. 

We’re committed to extraordinary love. 

The type of love that feels magical and takes your breath away. 

The type of love that has you feeling on top of the world and like you can do anything. 

The type of love that is just that – extraordinary. 

It starts with attracting the RIGHT man. And that starts with you. 

If any of this sounds familiar to you, please join us tomorrow for the Attract  the RIGHT Man Webinar, where we’ll be diving into how to break the patterns that are keeping you stuck in dating once and for all! 

In this 3-hour masterclass, you will:

  • Learn what to STOP doing so that you can stop being attracted to and attracting the wrong man into your life
  • Discover what to START doing instead, so that you start attracting the kind of man who wants to create a happy, loving, committed relationship with you
  • Apply the steps and practices that will have you experience dating and relationships differently because you will be attracting and getting to know a completely different kind of man!

Click here to say “YES!” to Attracting the RIGHT Man into Your Life!

Whether you find that you keep attracting and dating “good guys” who are nice enough, but you simply don’t feel a connection with, 

OR 

you keep bringing in the same “bad guy” in a different body,  we’re going to show you how to break this pattern and bring in the RIGHT man — the one who will honor you, cherish you, and love you for the rest of your life! 

It’s time for you to attract  the RIGHT  man now!

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