by heartsdesireintl | Jun 19, 2015 | Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice, Romance, Self-Love, Uncategorized
by Gladys Diaz
One of our favorite parts of being relationship coaches is being able to help women through some of the difficult situations in their love lives. Many times, we are able to help a woman turn a difficult situation around in just a few minutes by helping her get clear about what is happening, help her set up some action steps, and then hold her accountable for completing those steps!
That’s why we are hosting a LIVE Love Q&A Call on Tuesday, June 23rd at 9:00pm ET!
On this call, we will be answering YOUR questions about love, dating, and relationships.
- What’s causing you the biggest amount of pain right now in your love life?
- Where do you feel “stuck” and unable to move forward in your love life?
- What one question do you have that, if you had it answered, would help you move forward?
Ask us your question now!
It takes courage to allow someone into your heart to help you break through the fear and pain that has been holding you back. Michelle and I promise to give you real steps that you can take to bust through those barriers and move forward, toward the life and love your heart desires!
To have your question answered on the call, please follow these simple steps:
- Register for the call by clicking here.
- Type your question in the “Question” box. Please be clear about the one thing you would like us to answer.
- Set a reminder on your phone for Tuesday, June 23, 2015 at 9:00pm ET.
- Be on the call ready to have a breakthrough!
Don’t have a question, but want to join us and hear the answers anyway? Click here to reserve your seat!
Whether you have a question or not, being on this call will be a powerful experience! You will learn relationship skills that will help you have a breakthrough in love!
Feel free to share this post with your friends so that they can join us, too!
So, what’s your question?
Send it to us and register for the call now!
P.S. What if one answer is all you need to leave the past behind and move toward the future and the love that are waiting there for you? Send us your question and register now!
by heartsdesireintl | Dec 18, 2014 | Dating, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Uncategorized
by Gladys Diaz
During the next few weeks, many of us will be celebrating a variety of different holidays. This time of the year can be very stressful if we are not intentional about handling all of the events, tasks, and celebrations with love. grace, and ease!
Since I don’t want to add too much more to your “Holiday To-Do List,” I came up with a short-but-sweet list of things you can do to get through the holidays feeling love, peace, and joy! Whether you are single or in a relationship, you’ll want to have this list handy during the next few weeks!
If You’re Single During the Holidays…
The holidays can feel especially lonely, if you don’t have someone special to share them with. It can seem like everyone else has someone to cuddle and laugh with. You may be attending parties and events where there are couples and not too many (if any) singles present, and you may hear that ever-dreaded question about when you plan to settle down, get married, and start a family!
If you’re single during the holidays, here are some things that can help you get through them with hope and a smile!
- Accept as many invitations as possible for dates, holiday parties and social events. While what you really want is to share these days with that someone special, it’s helpful to surround yourself with family and friends who make you smile and bring out the best in you. Plus, you never know who you are going to meet at your cousin’s tacky sweater party or the last-minute holiday work party you were invited to. Resist the urge to want to be alone (unless you need to take a break), and accept as many invitations as possible. This goes for dates, too! Some people are “selective” about who they will see and spend time with during the holidays. While you may not want to bring someone you don’t know very well to your family gathering, going to a party or put to dinner is a great way to have fun and get to know someone new! (Plus, as I said before… you never know!)
- Plan some girls’ nights out with your friends. Aside from attending events solo or with a date, be intentional about spending time with your girlfriends. Whether they are single or in relationships, I promise you that everyone wants to disconnect and just have fun for the sake of having fun! Don’t wait until the last minute, since it may take some creative thinking to have everyone arrange their schedules. Also, let your friends know that this is your way of creating a new holiday tradition that is stress-free, feminine, and fun!
If You’re in a Relationship During the Holidays…
Sharing the holidays with someone is nice, but it can also bring about feelings of stress, especially if you’re trying to create time to spend with two families! It can be even more stressful if you are not close to or don’t have a great relationship with your partner’s family.
If you are married or in a relationship during the holidays, here are some things that can help you get through them feeling closer to your partner!
- Remember that your partner may want to be with his family just as much as you’d like to be with yours. It can be tricky to fit in time to be with both families over a short amount of time, especially if one or both families don’t live in your city or the same city. Create a plan together, but, rather than telling him what you “should do,” let him know what you would like to do and then ask him what he’d like to do. See if there is a way to create a win-win situation. If in-person visiting isn’t possible, then plan a video chat family reunion, where you can all share some treats as you speak over Skype or Facetime. Block out enough time so that no one feels rushed and you can really connect with one another. If you’ve sent and received gifts from distant family members, plan to open them when you’re on camera so that you can enjoy the moment together!
- Remember to share some “couple time.” Let’s be honest. Being with family and in-laws can be really stressful. Make some time to disconnect from the crowd and just share some alone time with your partner. If you’re visiting with or having family visit you, consider that you may have some readily available babysitters to watch the kids or pets so that the two of you can sneak away for a romantic walk or dinner! Plan your time for when the kids will be sleeping so that you don’t have rush back and you can stay out as long as you like with your honey!
Whether You Are Single or In a Relationship.
- Remember to put yourself at the top of your holiday list. Take time to practice self-care by scheduling time to relax and replenish your mind, body, and soul. Yes, it’s the season for giving, but you need to give to yourself, too. If you are going to be traveling to visit family members, bring some of your favorite books and music with you, and see if there is a gym nearby where you can exercise to get some of those endorphins moving! This also gives you a reason to spend some time alone, especially if being with family is becoming a bit too much to handle (Don’t feel guilty… We all have that one – or two, or three – family member we need a time out from!) Also remember to ask for help if you need it. This will help you feel more grateful and less exhausted (and resentful), and gives others a chance to do something for you, too!
- Be Present. Getting caught up in all of the activities, visits, and shopping can actually rob you of actually BEing with your loved ones. If you’re hosting the holiday get-together, don’t worry about planning out every single moment of the day. Allow for everyone (including yourself) to have some downtime. As you’re sitting around the table, take a moment to really look at and appreciate each person in the room. If you find yourself getting irritable or feeling exhausted, take a time out so that you can recharge (see the tip above) and so that you can really BE with the people you love!
- Begin thinking about what you’d like your love life and relationship to look like in 2015. As we begin to close out this year and move into next year, take a moment to take inventory of your love life.
If you’re single, ask yourself –
- What do I want my experience of dating to be like?
- What do I want the experience of being in a relationship to be like?
- What kind of girlfriend do I want to be?
- When I take a moment to stop and reflect on December 31st next year, how will I describe myself and my love life/relationship?
If you’re married or in a relationship, ask yourself –
- What do I want the experience of being in a relationship to be like?
- What do I want to see more/less of in my relationship?
- When I take a moment to stop and reflect December 31st next year, how will I describe myself and my relationship?
by heartsdesireintl | Nov 4, 2014 | Dating, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success
by Gladys Diaz
November is one of my favorite months of the year because it seems as if most of us are more present to the blessings we have in our lives. The more present we are to our blessings, the more gratitude we feel, the more we begin to see more of what we want in our lives. It’s pretty amazing the way that happens!
If you’re reading this, it’s likely that there is one thing in particular you desire to have more of in your life: LOVE!
Love is one of our purest and deepest desires because you are a loving being. You were made of love, to love, and for love. It’s simply who you are!
During the month of November, Michelle and I have partnered up with some amazing women who are just as committed as we are to guiding you to get more of what you want in your life! And, because we are all about you creating and experiencing the life and love your heart desires, we’re not keeping it only to attracting more romantic love into your life.
Over the next several weeks, we’ll be sharing opportunities for you to participate in both live and virtual events that will enable you to:
- Access more of what you want through practicing gratitude on a daily basis
- Manifest more abundance and success in all of the areas of your life
- Create harmony between your professional, personal, and family life
- End 2014 powerfully so that you can move into 2015 with grace, ease, and equipped to fulfill the desires of your heart
And, of course, we’ll continue to provide you with the tools, skills, and solutions that guide you toward creating the extraordinary life and love you desire and deserve!
Now, we intend to give to our hearts’ content, and we want you to prepare yourself to receive.
We realize that may sound strange, but the truth is that receiving – particularly when you are being given more than you feel you desire or deserve – can sometimes feel uncomfortable.
Rather than receiving the blessings coming to us, we tend to block or push them away out of guilt, fear, or habit.
That’s why it’s important to prepare yourself and your heart to receive!
Here are a few steps to help prepare yourself to receive all of the gifts, information, and invitations we will be sharing with you, along with the other blessings that are coming your way!
- Remember that you are worthy of every gift, offer of assistance, compliment, and smile you receive. You are a beautiful loving being, and, because of that, you attract beauty and love. So, if you begin to feel overwhelmed, uncomfortable, or “weird” when you are begin given gifts of any kind, simply tell yourself: I am a beautiful, loving being, and I am worthy of all of the beauty and love I am attracting and receiving in my life!
- Remember that there are no strings attached to the gifts, offers, compliments, or smiles you receive. Part of what makes receiving difficult is that we somehow feel like we’ll owe the other person something of equal or greater value in return. That kind of thinking is associated with a feeling of unworthiness and keeps us from receiving what others freely want to give us. So, if you begin to feel those strings getting attached, cut them immediately by repeating the affirmation above, and add: I openly and willingly receive the loving gifts and gestures others freely give me.
- Remember to be grateful for everything! Whether you’re in a space right now where you feel like you don’t have enough of what you want or need, or you are relishing in a feeling of abundance, gratitude is the doorway to experiencing more happiness, peace, love, and everything else your heart desires. So, make it a practice to take just a few minutes each day to just take inventory of the blessings in your life and express gratitude for at least 5 things every day. You can write them down, or simply say them aloud or to yourself. However you choose to express it, just take a few moments at the beginning and end of each day to say, “I am grateful for…”
- Bonus: Remember to be grateful in anticipation of receiving what you want! One of my favorite practices of all time is expressing gratitude in anticipation of receiving what I want. After expressing thanks for the blessings that already surround me, I begin to express thanks for the blessings that are making their way to me. So, if you want to meet the man of your dreams, already give thanks for the fact that he is making his way to you. If you are married or in a relationship, express thanks for the love that is growing between the two of you and for all of the beautiful memories you will create together. If there is something you desire for your family, career, or business, give thanks in advance for those blessings that are being manifested. And, as you do this, allow yourself to actually feel and experience the love, happiness, freedom and peace in anticipation of receiving the blessing. I promise you, this will be life-changing!
If you practice these steps, you will begin to experience the joy of receiving. And, in doing so, you also give the people who are giving to you the joy of having their gift received and appreciated! It creates a beautiful cycle of giving, receiving, and appreciation that keeps growing and multiplying the blessings!
So, take a deep breath…
Open your heart…
And receive the love and blessings that are coming your way!
And, just because we love surprising you with gifts, here’s a sneak peek into the events you can take part in over the next few weeks!
- Redefining Womanhood Series (Launches November 10, 2014): Discover 21 Creative Solutions for paving your own path to success in work, marriage, and parenting from top female leaders who are paving the way and redefining what it means to be “A Successful Woman” in today’s world! Click here to reserve your spot!
- 10 Days of Gratitude Video Series (Launches November 20, 2014): Join Mia Saenz as she hosts 10 inspirational interviews all focused on the incredible power that gratitude has on our lives! (Registration link coming soon!)
Remember: Give thanks… Believe… Receive!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
by heartsdesireintl | Oct 9, 2014 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Self-Love
by Gladys Diaz
I wrote this message from a plane, on my way to California, to speak to a wonderful group of single moms, followed by two amazing days of dreaming, planning, and taking inspired actions with my business mastermind group!
One of my favorite things to do on a plane is read a great book. While I try to make reading a daily practice, I don’t always have the luxury of several uninterrupted hours to just sit and lose myself in a great book.
For this trip, I decided to bring along my signed copy of Sharon Lechter’s book Think and Grow Rich for Women. Based on the principles of Napoleon Hill’s timeless guide to attaining wealth through the power of your thoughts and inspired action, Lechter’s book is written by a woman, inspired by the stories of successful women, and intended for women. (My kind of book!)
As I read the chapters on having a Burning Desire and faith, I smiled as I recognized how so many of the ideas shared for creating material wealth are similar to the coaching we provide our clients when it comes to creating the relationship your heart desires! I was especially moved by the chapter on faith.
Faith is more than something that only exists inside of religion. While it’s a spiritual practice, for sure, it is also a driving force in helping you to achieve what your heart’s desires. Until you begin to believe – truly believe – that you are worthy of the love, peace, passion, intimacy, and fulfillment you would like to experience in a relationship, it will be impossible to experience it. Why?
Because, until you believe that you are deserving of it, you won’t believe it’s possible for you. And, if you don’t believe it’s possible for you to experience it, it will be impossible for you to Be the love you want to see and attract that love into your life.
So, I want you to ask yourself:
Do I truly believe myself to be worthy of the love my heart desires?
Is there absolutely, positively not a shadow of a doubt for you that you can and will attract and create (or reignite, if your relationship has lost some of its spark) that type of extraordinary love?
If your answer is “Yes,” then ask yourself:
What actions am I taking daily that are aligned and consistent with me attracting and experiencing that type of love?
A dream without inspired action is simply a wish. No matter how much you believe something could happen, unless you are taking actions that are consistent with what it is you want- both physical actions and in the way you choose to Be – you will simply be wishing for that type of love. Now, there’s nothing wrong with wishing. It just isn’t as powerful a method for manifesting your dreams as Being and taking inspired actions that lead you in the direction of your dreams.
If your answer to the question above is “No,” and you don’t truly believe yourself worthy and capable of experiencing the love your heart desires, then there’s additional work to do to uncover what the hidden barriers – the thoughts, doubts, and limiting beliefs – are that are standing in the way of you seeing this as something that is completely possible for you. Without distinguishing the hidden barriers and doing the work to dismantle them, you are robbing yourself of the opportunity to experience the love you say you want.
Inaction and indecision are actions and decisions in and of themselves. Choosing to do nothing to change your circumstances is an action, and one that is giving you the experience you are currently having in love – whether it’s not having fun or success in dating, or having your relationship or marriage slowly (or quickly) deteriorate before your eyes.
You have absolutely no control over what anyone else – a guy, your boyfriend, or your husband – does or doesn’t do to make your dream come true. But you have 100% power over what you choose to do to create and transform your experience of love.
So, I have a few last questions for you to ask yourself:
What am I committed to doing to create the experience I want to have in life and love?
What is stopping me or standing in my way of doing that?
What specific steps will I take to transform the experience I am currently having?
How will I demonstrate my faith in my ability to experience the love I want?
These are powerful questions, and I encourage you to not allow “I don’t know” to be an answer for any of them. Be real with yourself and begin to transform your relationship with yourself, how you see yourself, and what you believe is possible for you.
I’d love to hear your responses to these questions! Please leave a comment below and let us know what’s opened up for you inside of answering the questions for yourself. And, remember, if you need someone to help and walk you through this, we’re only a click away!
by heartsdesireintl | Jul 31, 2014 | Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship Advice, Romance, Self-Love, Sex
by Gladys Diaz
The other day, Michelle and I had a very powerful interview with Bill Weil for his “Conscious Couples Conversation” program.
In this interview, we dove deep and talking about some of the most common questions we get asked when it comes to relationships, including:
- The higher purpose of relationships
- The difference between how men and women define and experience love and respect
- The natural power women have to create and transform relationships
- The most common mistakes women make in relationships
- The essential ingredients for having a loving, intimate relationships
- The 3 R’s for keeping the love alive in your relationship
- How to have win-win arguments
And a lot more, including:
- An interesting story about the “twin connection” Michelle and I share
- How Michelle and I work together to coach women
- A beautiful excerpt from Michelle and Arnie’s wedding vows (so moving!)
Whether you are single or in a relationship, you will walk away from listening to this interview with a HUGE amount of information and inspiration for creating a loving, intimate, relationship!
Click the image below to listen to this POWER-FULL conversation!
Comment? Question about the interview? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
