This weekend was one of those non-stop, every-minute-planned, busy-but-”good busy” weekends!
Usually, I hate this kind of weekend, because I love just being able to relax with my family. However, this weekend it was all about fueling my family’s dreams, and that’s what made it exciting, instead of exhausting!
It all started on Thursday morning where I rushed to get my older son tickets to go see a mechanical engineer that works with NASA and then rushed him over there in the evening so that he could watch the 2-hour lecture.
Here’s the thing. My idea of a fun evening is NOT listening to and watching descriptions of all of the rocks they are finding on Mars! However, my son’s dream is to be a mechanical engineer and one of the astronauts who will actually get to step on Mars, so, every time I looked over and saw the wide-eyed look of wonder on my son’s face, and I just knew he was envisioning himself standing there, I had to smile, and that made it worth it! (And, I’ll admit, the rovers are pretty cool, too!)
Then, on Saturday morning, we rushed him over to a magnet high school that specializes in Pre-Engineering coursework so that his four years of high school are focused on what he really dreams of and wants to do.
Here’s the thing: This school is over 30 minutes away from our home and we’ll have to wake up at 5:30am to get him there on time, and there is a perfectly good school only 10 minutes away from our house! However, it doesn’t specialize in engineering. So, while it’s not convenient, we’ll be getting up at the crack of dawn (literally) for the next four years to make sure he gets a head start on making his dream come true.
After that, we rushed him to his campout (he also dreams of being an Eagle Scout) and then it was time to fuel our little one’s dream of being a race car driver!
Here’s the thing: I don’t like racing. It’s not my “thing.” But he dreams of driving race cars for NASCAR, and there was an exhibition race in town (the first-ever of it’s kind in the U.S.), so we surprised him as one of his early birthday presents.
Was it worth it? Well, you tell me.
When your little one looks at you, all wide-eyed and emotional and says, “Best. Birthday. Ever!” and then hugs you as he says, “Thank you, Mommy.” What do you think?
(I think “Yes! Soooo worth it!”)
And then Sunday was all about fueling my dreams!
Michelle and I are rebranding Heart’s Desire International, and we wanted pictures that are aligned with our message, our mission, and our vision for women around the world having both the life and the love their hearts truly desire!
We had the opportunity to work with an amazing photographer who is a colleague of mine, and we got to have our hair and makeup done, wear beautiful clothes our stylist helped us pick out, and take amazing photos in Downtown Miami!
(These pics are just selfies taken by us. Professional photos to come soon!)
It was a long day! Lots of changing, walking, driving, changing again, and smiling until our cheeks hurt, but again, so worth it!
My favorite parts were spending time with my twin (always fun!), especially when we were just being our silly selves, and when our husbands and my sons joined us for photos, since they are such a huge part of our mission!
And the entire time we were taking our pictures, YOU were on our minds!
Why?
Because one of the best parts of our business is that our dreams can only come true when we help you make your dreams come true!
Look, I know that “making dreams come true” can sound a bit “woo-woo” or cliche, but that really is what we are all about: Helping you take the steps you need to take so that you can have both the life and love your heart desires.
It’s what we’ve dedicated our lives to doing!
So, for just a minute, I want you to think about your relationship dreams.
What is it that you truly want to experience in the relationship of your dreams?
When you look at the thoughts you have about that dream and the actions you are taking every day, are your thoughts and actions fueling your dreams, or your doubts?
Are you spending more time thinking about and really taking the action steps that will lead you to having the kind of relationship you say you want, or are you giving fuel to the fears and doubts that have you thinking that that vision is possible for others, but not you?
And do you have the skills that you need to distinguish, dismantle, andreplace those fears and doubts so that you can consistently take inspired action that is directly aligned with making your dreams come true?
If so, then you know you are because you’re already living in a happy, loving relationship that fuels your dreams every day.
If not, then it’s simply time to begin fueling your dreams by getting clear around what it is you truly want and what thoughts and actions you need to stop and start so that you can manifest the kind of relationship you desire or deserve.
Because, here’s the thing: Every thought you have and every action you take is giving you the results you have now.
So, if you’ve been fueling your dreams, congratulations! We’re so happy for you and love hearing success stories, so please comment below and share them with us!
And, if you’re not (YET), then let’s talk, because there is no better time to begin fueling your dreams then right now, and we’d love nothing more than to help you do just that!
You deserve to have the love of your dreams, Beautiful!
Today we’re celebrating Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. in the United States, and, aside from relishing having a day to spend with my family, I also wanted to take a few minutes to reflect and remember why this day is so important.
If I had to use just three words to describe Dr. King and his life, the words would be faith, love, and hope. And, of course, all of these were enveloped in his dream.
As I was looking through some of his inspirational quotes, I came across this one:
“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”
As soon as I read it, I immediately thought back to my family’s vacation to Hawaii in November, and the way I felt when I stood inside the volcano crater and looked up at the tiny staircase that was miles and miles away, at the top of the mountain (see the photo below, and you’ll see the staircase at the upper left-hand corner).
I remember thinking, “How in the world will I ever make it up there, especially with my fear of heights and the pain in my knee?”
I didn’t know how I’d make it, but I did know one thing:
I was NOT going to allow my fear to stop me from getting to the top of that mountain and witnessing the view from up there!
So, I started climbing.
And, yes, I was scared. I got dizzy a few times. My feet slipped on the rocks. And the pain in my knee became almost unbearable the higher we climbed.
But I had faith that something beautiful, something I’d never seen or experienced before, was waiting for me at the top of that mountain and on the other side of my fear. So I climbed!
And, when I got to the top of the mountain, it was so worth it! I’d climbed my first mountain, the view was absolutely breathtaking, and I was experiencing it all with the three guys I love most in this world!
Honestly, it was MORE than worth it!
So, why am I telling you this?
I know that love and relationships can be scary. There is so much uncertainty because there aren’t any guarantees.
You don’t know if it’s going to work out with the guy you are seeing.
You’re afraid of having your heart broken again.
It feels safer to stay where you are, even though it’s not where you want to be.
I get it.
However, staying where you are — whether you are single or in a relationship that is stagnant or not working — is the surefire way to NOT get to where you truly desire to be: The place where you feel loved and adored. That amazing place where you know that you know that you are loved!
Maybe it’s been a long journey for you.
Maybe you feel like the pain is more than you can take.
Or maybe you’re just tired of trying.
Whatever your “mountain” is, I promise you that if you will have your faith be stronger than your fear, if you are willing to focus on your desire more than your doubt, and if you are courageous enough to take that first step in the direction of your dreams, with the right guidance and support, you WILL get to the place where you are in the relationship your heart desires with the man who is absolutely right for you.
If you’re ready to take that first step and you want to know exactly how to do that, then it’s time for you to have a Love Breakthrough! Simply use the link below to schedule time for us to talk and together we will take a look at what your personal love goals are, distinguish what has been stopping you from attracting that loving relationship to you, and what your best first step is for getting the happy, loving relationship your heart desires.
Having the love you want isn’t about learning a bunch of generic tips, tricks or strategies. Your personal love goals are yours to achieve, and knowing the right steps for you to take is critical in order for you to have the love you want! Take that first step of FAITH, and I’ll be waiting to help guide you to the other side!
I remember just four years ago, how hopelessly stuck I felt in my job.
Yes, I was making great money, but I was miserable! I honestly felt like part of me was dying inside every time I sat at my computer.
See, I have been a coach, speaker, teacher, and trainer since I was 17 years old.
My heart beats to connect with and help people go from wherever they are to levels they can’t even begin to imagine.
But, due to downsizing and restructuring, my boss, in an effort to avoid letting me go, had put me in a department where all I did for 8-12 hours (or more) per day was type up questions for online courses.
As I said, I could feel my soul cringing and a little bit of life escaping me every time I was up until 2:00am, crying at my computer, wondering why the heck I was so afraid to let go of that paycheck!
It wasn’t until I received the call that my position was being eliminated that everything changed.
See, even though I was being told that I was being laid off, they offered me another job, making the same amount of money, but it would require me traveling 80% of the time. I thought about my husband and kids, and, as afraid as I was of losing 60% of our income in one full swoop, I refused to spend my life on a plane away from the three people I love most in this world.
So, I walked away.
And it was both the scariest and most liberating moment of my life, because, thanks to walking away from that position, I now have the opportunity to do what I love and was born to do as a relationship coach!
There is NOTHING more rewarding than knowing that I am living my purpose and helping women’s dreams come true! And now I also get to help relationship coaches build successful coaching practices so that they can help other women’s dreams come true, too! The love just keeps on spreading!
Oh! And I’m making more money than I ever did in my old job!
So, what does this have to do with you and your love life?
Are you in a relationship right now that you KNOW is not the right one for you?
Are you holding onto it because you are too afraid to let go and open your heart to loving and being loved again?
Or, are you in a relationship that you want to stay in, but you feel like it’s not going anywhere, like the love has stopped growing, and you feel stuck, frustrated and alone even though you’re “with” someone?
Whatever your version of “stuck” is, I want you to know that, as afraid as you are of letting go, that false sense of safety that continuing to hold on is giving you is robbing you of the opportunity to actually feel the love, joy, and fulfillment you can feel in a relationship that is loving, exciting, fulfilling, and fun!
But, just as when you were a kid playing on the monkey bars, in order to move forward, you’ve got to be willing to let go!
If you’re tired of feeling stuck and you want to know how to move forward, take a look at this quick video I shot for you.
In it, I explain the 3 steps you can take to begin moving forward in your relationship.
I know it can feel scary.
I know it feels “safer” to be stuck.
But the only thing that’s really happening is that you are cheating yourself out of the love and happiness that are waiting for you.
Is there a man in your life that you’ve been afraid to let go of – either because you won’t break up or leave him, or because you’re still holding onto the memory of him?
Do you know that the very act of not letting go is what is stopping you from welcoming the right man – the one who is ready to love you NOW – from coming into your life?
Don’t believe me?
Just ask my client, Osmara!
If you follow us on Facebook, you saw the picture I posted earlier this week of the 3 new engagement rings 3 of my clients are sporting!
Yes! That’s right! In the past 2 months, 3 beautiful women who once thought that they would never find the right man for them got engaged to the love of their lives! And we couldn’t be happier for them!
You see that beauty on the left? That one belongs to Osmara!
Osmara and I have been friends for a while and I’ve seen her go through both happy and painful times in her love life. After knowing each other for a few years, she began working with me as a client, and I was able to help her through a very difficult relationship and break up.
Well, rather than me telling you her story, here’s the comment she left in the FB post about her journey to love:
We first started working together when I was single in 2012 and ready to find love. Soon after, I manifested a man who would be my boyfriend for a year and a half. In this relationship (and the subsequent ending) I would be broken open and impelled to connect with myself on the deepest of levels.
When we broke up I was still holding on because I thought he was “the one” and I was scared he was “as good as it got.”
Talk about Lack Mentality!
You held my hand during very dark, scary times… And I will never forget that.
I could write a whole blog post on this story and maybe one day I will…
I was so infatuated with this relationship that I didn’t even realize, I actually met my fiance and future husband (I love saying that!) when I was with my ex! He was at a seminar we attended and I would have never guessed he’d be my true ONE then.
So I picked up the pieces of my shattered illusions and licked my wounds and came to love me and stand strong as just me. Single, in my solitude, I learned to come home to myself.
Then last September, Ash, my fiance, unexpectedly came into my life. Our first conversation was only
meant to be 45 min and it went on for over 4 hours. That was the first of many conversations that went on for hours and hours.
I’ve never felt more at home than w him. It’s not an effort or work, it flows. That’s not to say we don’t have to work on our s**t or that we don’t bump heads because, oh, boy, yes we do!
But the work I did with you, Gladys, helped prep me to be able to accept this love that is everything I’ve been dreaming of. It helped me to see where I was holding on to the old because of fear. And I’m so glad I let go, because right as I did, in a matter of days, mi amor (my love) came right into my reality.
Eternally grateful, humbled, and inspired. xx
Isn’t that amazing?
The man of her dreams was standing right in front of her all along, but she couldn’t see him because she was too afraid to let go of a relationship that was causing her more pain and heartache than she ever needed to feel.
It was only when she had the courage to let go and love herself more than she loved him that she was able to come to the place where she was ready to love and be loved again!
Maybe you can relate to this story…
Maybe you are so afraid to let go of the man who is not right for you, isn’t committing to you, or is not loving you the way you want and deserve to be loved because you are so afraid of being alone.
Maybe you’re afraid that you won’t ever find someone you connect with or love as much as him.
Or maybe you’re afraid that there isn’t anyone out there who can love you the way you dream of being loved.
Whatever your reason for not letting go, you need to realize that, in holding onto him, those clenched hands aren’t able to open up and receive the love that’s already there for you!
I’m not saying it’s “easy” to do. But, with the right support and guidance, you can do the Heart Work release yourself from a painful relationship and open your heart to give and receive the love your heart most desires.
Remember: You can still love him and choose to love yourself enough to let him go.
Today’s a bit of a sentimental one for me. My older son – my first baby – turned 13 today!
I keep looking at his baby pictures, remembering thousands of magical moments, and keep asking myself, “How in the world did 13 years go by this fast?!?”
This got me thinking about how easy it is to put things off for later, to fool ourselves into thinking that there are things that can wait until tomorrow, and leaving things undone and unsaid until another day.
I’ll admit it. I fall into this trap, too. And I should know better!
I know that tomorrow isn’t promised. I’ve lost people I love, like my dad, my first husband, and my best friend just four months ago. I also know someone who just lost her daughter last week, and my heart breaks for her.
The truth is that there are things in our lives – unimportant, insignificant things like painting a room or cleaning out a closet – that can wait until the next day, next month, or next year to get done or taken care of.
Your love life or relationship, however, is NOT one of them!
If one of the deepest desires of your heart is to share your life with a man who loves, supports, and adores you, and not having that loving, happy relationship you’ve always wanted and dreamed of is not present in your life right now, then it’s not something you want to ignore or pretend that it isn’t important to you.
And doing nothing about it is definitely not going to bring that love you want into your life!
So, what do you do?
The first step is to acknowledge the desires of your heart.
Wanting to share your life with a man is not a sign of “neediness,” weakness, or that you aren’t happy with yourself.
Wanting to transform and renew the relationship with the man you love is not a waste of time, or senseless.
It’s simply acknowledging what your heart already knows to be true!
The next step is to look to see what it is that is standing in the way of you having what you want.
It’s important to look within on this one. Saying that something or someone outside of you is what’s standing in the way of you having your heart’s desires has you feel powerless because, well, you are.
There isn’t anything outside of you that is 100% in your realm of control. So, while there may be some outside factors that may be contributing to you not having your heart’s desires, you want to focus your energy on the thought and behavior patterns that keep being repeated over and over again in your relationship.
For the next 3 days, really notice your thoughts and behaviors, particularly when it comes to dating or your relationship. Notice what the most recurring thoughts and actions are – especially the ones that lead to disappointment or frustration. Jot them down in a notebook or in your phone. This is going to give you some truly eye-opening information you can use for the next step
The third step is to take intentional and inspired action to transform those thoughts and behaviors that keep sabotaging your chances of having the love you want.
Once you’ve noticed the thought and behavior patterns that are blocking you from experiencing the love and happiness you want in your relationship, choose one you want to stop. I recommend beginning with the one that is causing you the most pain. However, since all of them are sabotaging your happiness, choose any one of them and focus on transforming that thought or behavior.
Some of the best ways to transform thought and behavior patterns are to make a list of affirmations and inspired actions you will take the next time you feel triggered or fall into the pattern.
Now, it takes a high level of awareness to (1) catch yourself before you fall into the pattern, (2) interrupt the pattern, (3) and replace it with a new, effective, and empowering pattern. It’s always most effective when you have a coach or mentor who can help you create your action plan and provides accountability so that you don’t slip back into the old, familiar, dysfunctional patterns.
If you’re truly serious about having today be the day you begin transforming your love life and relationship, I invite you to try this for the next 24 days:
Acknowledge the desires of your heart when it comes to love.
Truly make a concerted effort over the course of 3 days to notice the thought and behavior patterns that sabotage you having what you most want.
Choose one of those dysfunctional patterns that you would like to transform.
Create an inspired action plan that has you being intentional about replacing and transforming that thought and/or behavior pattern.
Carry out the plan for 21 days. It takes a minimum of 21 days to create a new pattern or habit, so this will allow you to practice daily replacing the dysfunctional thoughts and behaviors with new ones that give you the results you want.
If you’d like support or feedback regarding your inspired plan of action, especially steps 4 and 5, simply schedule a complimentary Love Breakthrough Session with me and we’ll talk about the best way to interrupt your old patterns of sabotage and replace them with new patterns that lead you to the love your heart desires!
Tomorrow isn’t promised, and today – right now – is the perfect time for you to stop putting your happiness off for another day. You have the power within you to create the love you want. You were created to love and be loved. Don’t let anything stand in the way of you having the love you desire and deserve! Schedule your Love Breakthrough Session now!
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We had the opportunity to work with an amazing photographer who is a colleague of mine, and we got to have our hair and makeup done, wear beautiful clothes our stylist helped us pick out, and take amazing photos in Downtown Miami! 
