Break Your TRIGGERS To Be the Irresistible YOU!

Break Your TRIGGERS To Be the Irresistible YOU!

by | Aug 29, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Parenting, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Imagine you were in a conversation with someone where you felt upset, pressured, threatened or angry.

How would you normally respond?

There was a time when I would get into arguments with people, over things that didn’t even matter the next day.

I would be so sure that I was right…

…there’d be a big blow-up, and then…

…I’d just move on like they never existed.

That worked for me – until it didn’t.

When I started to recognize how distant all of my relationships were and how impossible I was making it to get close enough to anyone to create an intimate, loving, supportive partnership – I knew something needed to change!

Can you relate?

When our fear response is set off, our “reptilian brain” kicks in and our human, automatic response is triggered. Hormones are released, the subconscious is activated and an emotional response ensues.

And whatever you do when that situation arises is what you do – without even thinking about it.

You either: 

  1. FIGHT – You lash out with criticism, bitterness, yelling and insults in an attempt to deal with the fear and hurt you’re feeling. You have an “adult temper tantrum” and everyone has to know you’re upset. 
  2. FREEZE – You hold in your feelings and internalize your anger, eventually creating sickness in your body.
  3. FLEE – You withdraw, avoid and numb out your emotions. 

What’s your pattern when your triggers are set off?

When this automatic pattern is triggered, you’re not even aware of what’s happening.

You’re not conscious that you could be doing things another way. You feel great in the moment, but then, when the adrenaline wears off – you have the emotional hangover that you don’t know what to do with.

The thing is, there’s something bigger underneath it all.

The pattern is simply the coping mechanism you developed as a child to deal with the pain, hurt and heartbreak and when those fears that are still present for you are triggered – your pattern goes off.

The thing about love and intimate relationships is that these patterns simply don’t work. There’s nothing men despise more than drama.

What men want more than anything else is a woman who’s emotionally mature – even more than they want someone they’re physically attracted to!

They want a woman who knows herself, knows her triggers and has learned how to handle her emotions with grace.

The good news is there’s a way you can break these patterns.

It’s possible to feel your feelings, communicate your needs AND show up the way you want to! 


It’s not about perfection, it’s about being able to get upset and handle it with grace.

If you don’t want to continue the patterns of your past, you get to create not just new ways – but effective ways to do things differently.

If you want to attract a man who’s a match for you, then you get to BE the woman that’s going to attract that.

This is why we’re so passionate about you joining us at Irresistible Woman LIVE!

Over the course of 3 days we’ll be doing the HeartWork necessary to release the pain of the past and give you the tools to be able to communicate and relate to yourself and others effectively!

You’ll come out of the three-day weekend event KNOWING not only that you ARE an Irresistible Woman but also be able to show up as her in every area of your life!

What’s possible when you show up that way is literally incredible.

And that’s what we want for you!

There’s only one more day – TODAY – to grab your ticket to Irresistible Woman LIVE PLUS all of the bonuses we’re currently offering for $97.

Tonight at midnight Eastern time the price is going up and the bonuses are going away, so if you’ve been on the fence – the time to act is now.

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If you have toxic patterns, you’ll attract toxic men and create toxic relationships.

It’s just that simple. 

When you learn how to rewrite those patterns and show up as the graceful, beautiful, Irresistible Woman that you are – that’s when the magic happens!

When you’re able to have circumstances show up and you’re unchanged – that’s real power!

Join us at The Irresistible Woman LIVE and step into your power now!

What Your Negative Thoughts Really Mean (And How To Shift Them)

What Your Negative Thoughts Really Mean (And How To Shift Them)

by | Aug 13, 2022 | Uncategorized

by Gladys Diaz

Does it seem like you always attract men who are less than what you want in a partner?

Do you attract men who you feel are “out of your league” and then feel insecure and awkward when you’re around them?

Are you creating the experiences that you feel you deserve?

Do you know that you are worthy of the love you want? 

Here’s the thing – Everyone is worthy of love and prosperity. You are simply because you are. There’s nothing you have to do to earn it and there’s nothing you could do to “mess it up.”

The question is then – do you believe it?

If you’re not creating exactly what you want to experience in partners and relationships – consider that there’s a limiting belief that’s operating in the background.

There’s a fear that’s based on something you’ve done, been through or survived that had you begin to doubt your worth and create a belief that you aren’t good enough or that you don’t deserve the love that you want.

The kicker is that these fears usually don’t present themselves as “I’m not worthy” or “I don’t deserve what I want.”

We talk to strong, determined, successful women all the time who are certain they don’t have a worthiness conversation going on because they can’t see it.

But as they work with us they see that it’s there and it’s sneaky.

It doesn’t sound like “I’m not worthy of being loved.”

What it does sound like is:

    • “I’m not pretty enough.” 
    • “I’m not skinny enough.”
    • A man will never choose me.” 
    • “No wonder he’s with her, she’s more outgoing and fun than me.”
    • “What’s my problem? How come I can’t find the love that I want?”
    • “That’s it! I’m going to take a break from dating.”
    • “Here we go again – this is why I’ll always be single.”
    • What does it sound like for you? 

These thoughts are an indication that there’s a limiting belief in your blindspot that you don’t believe you deserve what you want in life and love.

They’re like the “check engine light” for your soul asking that you look a little deeper.

The energetic truth is that you’ll attract that which is a match for what you feel and believe you deserve.

So how do you shift into the courage to believe? 

You must stop being afraid to be afraid.

What do we mean by that?

Get curious!

Choose to look at the thoughts and behaviors that are standing in the way between you and the extraordinary love that you want.

Pay attention to the thoughts and feelings that you have.

If you feel angry – what are you mad at? 

If you feel fear – what are you afraid of?

If you feel sad – what hurt you?

Then ask yourself if it reminds you of something that happened in the past. 

What happened right before you had that thought? 

This is what we’ll be doing next week in the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

The game we’ll be playing is being brave enough to look at what’s in the way and doing the work to break through it!

We’ll be looking at the negative thoughts that have been haunting you for 5, 10, 20, 50 years of your life….

And breaking through them in 5 DAYS so you can begin to attract what is aligned with who you are and what you want so you can create the relationship of your dreams!

Join us for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

Worthiness is a decision you make. Deservingness is knowing that you can have it. 

Decide right now that you deserve everything that you want and then register for the challenge by clicking below.

>>>>>>> https://reallovebreakthrough.com/

Next week is going to be incredible! We can’t wait to see you there.

How To Take Control of the Negative Thoughts In Your Head!

How To Take Control of the Negative Thoughts In Your Head!

by | Aug 8, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

How can you decipher the “truth” of what goes on inside your head?

How do you know if the negative thoughts you have (that we all have by the way) are what’s “real” or if they’re simply something you’re imagining, a limiting belief you have from the past or a “trigger”.

Here’s a secret for you…

90% of the thoughts you have are negative. Can you believe that?!

Those thoughts are not always, “the world is coming to an end” type of thoughts, but they are some form of fear, worry or anxiety.

This is true for us, for you and for every other person on the planet.

Why?

Because we’re human.

We’re designed to survive. It’s built into us to look for outside circumstances that may cause us harm.

Here’s the thing though…

Most of us no longer live in a world where we need to be on the constant look-out for danger.

Unfortunately our brains don’t know that and continue to throw worrying thoughts at you all day long!

When it comes to dating and relationships these negative thoughts might look like…

…”Why is my boyfriend going on a 3-day work trip with that female colleague of his? They usually only go for 2 days.”

… “Why hasn’t that guy called me yet? He said he would – he must be a flake!”

… “This guy is amazing! I can’t believe how much fun we’re having together. When am I going to find out the truth about him?”

… “Why is my husband always looking at his phone? Am I not interesting enough to want to talk to?”

You get the idea.

What are some of the negative thoughts that are currently impacting your love life?

The kicker is that all negative thoughts (left unchecked) lead to negative actions. These negative actions usually lead to some sort of emotional spin or fall-out.

Which is super unfortunate – especially if the negative thought is something that’s not even real right?!

So – what can you do to interrupt those negative thoughts so you don’t become the crazy lady that’s stalking your husband’s phone, doing late night drive-bys of your boyfriend’s house or constantly finding reasons to text the guy you just met.

(We’ve been there and chances are you have to.)

1) When a negative or fearful thought enters your mind – count to 3, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What am I making this mean?”

By doing this you’re interrupting the pattern. We aren’t always in control of the thoughts that come into our mind, but we are in control of what we do with them.

When you take a moment to pause – you’re taking control and beginning to have a conscious conversation with yourself rather than reacting to whatever’s happening inside or outside.

2) Do the HeartWork to uncover what’s underneath these thoughts. Get to the root of what has you feeling insecure, jealous, worried or afraid.

This is so important because if you don’t heal the root wound – nothing will ever change. You’ll constantly find reasons to continue to believe that you aren’t good enough, that men aren’t reliable or good or that you’ll never have the love you dream of.

Until you heal the thing that’s causing the negative belief in the first place, you’ll continue to experience the same worries, fear and insecurities.

Are you ready for something more?

Are you ready to take control of your thoughts and become the confident woman that KNOWS she is SAFE and LOVEABLE?

If you answered yes, then join us next week for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

This challenge is 5 days of high energy, high fun, and high power transformation that will have you breakthrough what’s standing between you and the real love, happiness, connection and intimacy that you want.

Join us for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge here!

At the end of next week you’ll know exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship that you dream about and you will have broken through the thing that is continuing to stop you from creating it.

Your time is now!

Don’t waste another day swimming through the negative thoughts in your head.

Take control and begin creating the life and love you want now!

 

Join us here. We can’t wait to see you there. 

 

How to Know If It’s a “Red Flag” or a “Fear Flag”.

How to Know If It’s a “Red Flag” or a “Fear Flag”.

by | Aug 1, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

“Oh my gosh, is that a red flag?”

When you’re out there dating and getting to know men, do you often find yourself thinking that question?
 
Do you know the difference between a “red flag” and a “fear flag”?

The term “red flag” is thrown around a lot by women who are dating. If we had a dollar for every time we’ve heard it in our work – we’d have a lot, I mean a lot a lot – of dollars!!

There definitely are some red flags that you want to be aware of while dating. It’s important to be awake and aware when you’re getting to know men and thinking about who you’d like to spend your life with.

However, a lot of the things women think are red flags simply aren’t.

So, what is an actual red flag?

A red flag in dating is something that causes you real (versus imagined or feared), physical or emotional danger.

Primary examples of red flags in dating are:

  • Threats of physical abuse
  • Signs of physical anger
  • Hitting things (or you) when angry
  • Consistently rude, disrespectful with you/others
  • Makes fun of you or is degrading
  • Verbal abuse when angry
  • Actively addicted to alcohol, marijuana, substances, pornography, or gambling (just to name a few) 
  • A man that’s still married (even if he’s separated or in the process of divorce)

Red flags are things that are character flaws or character traits that don’t work in loving, committed, happy, long-term relationships.

Some of them are usually obvious from the get-go, but many of them usually don’t come out right away during the dating process.

This is why it’s so important to give yourself time to get to know someone.

Dating is simply the process of getting to know someone to see if you want to keep getting to know them.

When you give yourself that time, you can look for consistency of authenticity so you can discern for yourself if any of these true red flags are present. 

When you give yourself that time, you don’t need to be afraid that you’ll make a poor decision or that you won’t see everything you need to see.

The thing is, if you’re finding that every single man you’re attracting is bringing up the “red flag” question – why would you want to keep doing that?

Get curious about why you’re continuing to attract these types of issues into your life.

Your red flag is the one that’s waving in the wind letting you know there’s a pattern within you from an emotional wound from the past that’s begging to be healed. 

One of our clients recently got engaged to an incredible man who she’s madly in love with! When she messaged us to let us know the good news she said, “I almost didn’t date him because I thought he was a scammer.” It felt too good to be true to her, and she almost ran away. 

Good thing she had a coach who was able to support her through her “fear flags” so she could heal the emotional wounds inside of her while she took the time to get to know the incredible man that she now gets to love and be loved by for a lifetime! 

So, if you’re ready to attract the man that’s going to be your partner for a life-time, then you need to join us in September for Irresistible Woman LIVE! 

If you’re tired of attracting men who aren’t what you’re looking for….

If you’re sick of experiencing red flags in dating… 

If you’re simply tired of feeling afraid and not trusting yourself to see clearly and make the best decisions for you…. 

You get to do the HeartWork that will heal you from the patterns that are having you continue to experience “red flags” and “fear flags”! 

That’s what we’ll be teaching you at Irresistible Woman LIVE! 

The way you relate to yourself and the way you relate to men will be completely transformed! 

Grab your ticket here! 

When you’re out there dating, we want you to attract high-quality men, know that you’re safe and know that you have the power inside you to create everything you dream of.

That’s what you’ll get when you join us at Irresistible Woman LIVE. 

Claim your spot here.  

 

Do You Really Want To Be In The Relationship Of Your Dreams?

Do You Really Want To Be In The Relationship Of Your Dreams?

by | Jul 25, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you want to be in the relationship of your dreams now?

Like really ?

Guess what…

In the last month our clients have created 9 new committed relationships, 2 engagements (with upcoming marriages planned within two weeks of each other in September) and 2 additional marriages!

And those are only the ones we’ve heard about! 

We don’t know what your goals were at the beginning of the year, NAME, but if you’re here in our community we’re guessing that some of them had to do with creating the relationship of your dreams.

Think back to 3 months ago…

6 months ago…

Where did you think you’d be by now?

How close are you to creating it?

So often we allow time to keep going by without the things we want most in our life changing.

Why is that?

When it comes to dating and relationships, here’s why –

1. If you don’t know how to date, it’s intimidating and confusing and doesn’t result in the fun experience it should be. This causes you to put it off.

2. If you’ve made past mistakes in relationships or had your heart broken and haven’t healed – the fears and anxieties you have about the past will also have you avoid your greatest dreams.

The fact is – when you’re really committed to creating something in your life – you take consistent action to create it.

It’s possible that you think you’re doing all the right things – but you’re still not experiencing the results you want because you’re not clear on what works in dating.

If you’re exhausted by dating – you’re trying to control when and how it happens.

Being courted by a man – being treated to dinner, taken to shows, going on walks on the beach – what’s exhausting about that?!

Dating should be fun and relaxing!

If you say that you’re ready to be in the relationship of your dreams NOW then it’s time to take action NOW.

And not just any actions – the ones that will have dating and relationships be fun and exciting!

This is why you need to purchase your Ultimate Love Bundle so you can join us in less than two months for Irresistible Woman LIVE!

If you don’t want to spend another holiday alone…

If you want to step into your happily ever after together with the love of your dreams…

You get to practice the things that give you the emotional and dating mastery that will have you show up as the kind of woman that the type of high quality man you want is looking for.

That’s what we’re going to be teaching you at Irresistible Woman LIVE!

Your life simply will never be the same.

The way you relate to yourself and the way you relate to men will be completely transformed!

You’ll waste so much less time PLUS feel happy and empowered, enabled to make dating fun and successful so that you can create the relationship of your dreams NOW!

Grab your ticket here!

If you’ve ever said you need to take a “break” from dating, come and enjoy yourself and spend three days with us.We’ll take care of you and make sure you have all the tools you need to create the powerful transformation that will have you create and BE IN the relationship of your dreams with the love of your life by the end of this year!

When you’re out there dating, we want you to know that you’re doing the things that will give you the results you want.

Claim your spot here.

See you there!