Tips For Talking About Religion With A Date.

Tips For Talking About Religion With A Date.

by | Jun 24, 2022 | Communication, Dating, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Does spirituality or religion play an integral role in your life?

Some of the questions we often get from our clients about this topic are:

  • When is it appropriate to bring up religion in the dating experience? 
  • What if he doesn’t share my same beliefs? Can a relationship still work? 
  • How much should I share?
  • What if we’re not aligned?
  • What if I can’t ever find someone I’m attracted to that’s in my religion?

So, let’s give you some answers!

If you’re unwilling to date outside of your religion – put it in your dating profile. If this matters to you, trust that you will find someone who is aligned because hiding it or pushing down that desire won’t ever work.

Otherwise, we suggest that you don’t bring it up and allow it to come up naturally in the dating experience.

We recommend not having heavy and significant conversations early on while dating. The beginning of getting to know someone should feel light and fun and exciting!

If the topic comes up naturally, and it’s something that’s important for you to share, then simply be honest and authentic.

This is how it happened for me…

Ric and I met at a dance club and then we spent hours more talking that night. The topic of religion came up naturally because in Ric sharing about his divorce, I shared that my previous husband had passed away.

Ric asked me how I ever got through something like that and my authentic response was, “My faith in God is the only thing that got me through it.”

That was authentic and a very natural response for me because my religion was a big part of my life at the time. I was in a Christian band, I was a youth minister, and I went to church every Sunday.

Ric had very different beliefs.

While he was also Catholic, he wasn’t actively practicing. Later in our dating relationship we talked about religion more and he expressed that his main concern was that I would try and convert him.

We decided then that mutual respect and peace were two values that we would always hold in our marriage. We wouldn’t ever feel the need to defend or debate our beliefs.

I expressed that it was important that my children be baptized and that I was married in the church. He didn’t have a problem with either of those things and that’s what happened.

Over 20 years into marriage and that mutual respect has remained. Having differing beliefs has never been a problem.

It can work!

What’s important is that you’re gracious, accepting, authentic, respectful and honest with yourself and with him from the beginning.

Marriage will throw many different balls at you and the fact is, you and your partner aren’t going to always agree. That doesn’t mean that someone has to be wrong.

Respect is what will get you through.

Being clear on who you are and what you want is critical.

The most important thing to remember while dating is that a man can’t fall in love with you if you aren’t there. You get to be authentic and show up fully as you!

Let go of judgments. Be honest. Be authentic.

If you’re ready to be in the relationship of your dreams, want to get crystal clear on who you are and know how to attract that relationship to you before the end of this year then join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE 2022 in September!

This 3-day virtual event is specifically for smart, successful, strong women who also want to be successful in love.

We have a special offer that includes a ticket going on now and the price is only going to go up.

If you know you want to join us, so yourself a favor and grab your ticket here now!

 

The Breakthrough That Has You Find The Love of Your Life

The Breakthrough That Has You Find The Love of Your Life

by | Jun 18, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to have a breakthrough in love?

Do you know what a breakthrough feels like?

Did you know there’s a difference between a breakthrough and an insight?

Here’s how you can tell…

An insight is a logical experience where you suddenly realize or see something new that supports you in understanding why you’re creating what you have in your life.

An insight could be remembering an event from your childhood that created the fear of abandonment that’s running your love life or realizing that you keep creating the same experience over and over again with different men.

Those are all insights – and they’re super important to have!

However – a breakthrough is something more.

A breakthrough is a heart-changing experience that rises above and beyond what’s ordinary. Having a breakthrough creates an energetic shift that transforms you and the way you’re showing up in your life.

It’s powerful!!!

So how do you create one?

First of all – since a breakthrough is an experience above and beyond the ordinary – it’s usually not something you can create for yourself. A real breakthrough requires the support of someone who can see what you can’t see AND support you in transforming it.

Creating a breakthrough in your life requires the assistance of a coach.

On top of having a coach, you must be:

1) Committed to having a breakthrough and declaring what you want.
2) Willing to move past what’s comfortable
3) Ready and excited to apply the coaching

So let’s dive deeper.

1) Committed to Having a Breakthrough and Declaring What You Want.

A declaration is not a list of things you don’t want or what you’re tired of creating.

A declaration is a powerful statement with crystal clarity of what you do want.

If you can’t articulate what you want, you’re not going to get it.

So what do you want?

What’s the thing that if it was no longer in your way would accelerate your experience and have you create the relationship of your dreams?

Once you know that – that’s the first step to creating a breakthrough!

2) Willing to Move Past What’s Comfortable

Doing what you’ve always done will get you the same results you’ve always gotten. The relationship you’ve always dreamt of is outside your comfort zone!

3) Be Ready and Excited to Apply the Coaching

Again, since a breakthrough is something above and beyond the ordinary, it’s going to take doing something above and beyond what you’ve always done.

The coaching you receive might not make perfect sense because it’s going to be something different. But if you’ll trust your coach and apply the coaching they give – you will have a transformation!

You get to have a breakthrough so that you don’t keep doing the same patterns over and over forever and never create the results you want. 

And the best news of all is that tomorrow we’ve got the perfect opportunity for you at Love Breakthrough LIVE! 

Register for Love Breakthrough LIVE Now!

If you want to attract more love and are frustrated that you’re doing all the things and still not getting the results you desire.

If you keep thinking you have more time, but are realizing that the time keeps ticking and nothing is changing.

If you want to have conversations with your partner that don’t require a breakdown or a fight to get resolved.

If you’re ready to have the loving, supportive, connected, safe love you desire – then you get to have a breakthrough NOW!

Join us tomorrow (and be open and willing to receive) and we promise you’ll walk away with a breakthrough.

Allow us to help you break through the bricks that are up and blocking you.

This really can be the moment everything changes. 

How To Be the Confident, Secure Woman Who’s Ready for Love Now!

How To Be the Confident, Secure Woman Who’s Ready for Love Now!

by | Jun 13, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel insecure while dating?

Do you wonder things like…

“What if he doesn’t like me?”
“What if we don’t feel the same connection when we see each other that we felt on the phone?”
“What if the same insecurities that had me sabotage the last relationship come up this time?”
“Will I ever just be able to be myself and know that it’s enough?”

When you feel insecure your thoughts take you away from where would really make a difference for you to be – which is inside yourself.

The key to successful dating – and the eventual dream relationship is knowing what you want, feeling secure with who you are and choosing a partner that supports you in creating that relationship.

So – how can you feel secure while dating?

The #1 thing that has women feel insecure in dating is not dating correctly and thinking they are in a relationship before they actually are.

The most important thing to remember while you’re dating is this –

Dating IS NOT a relationship.

Dating involves getting to know different men so that you can have as many different experiences as possible while discovering what it is that you want to experience in a relationship.

If you start out expecting something to become a relationship then you get attached to the idea of the man too soon – before you actually know him. Those expectations cause you to feel insecure when he doesn’t reciprocate the attachment as quickly and usually leads to the man pulling away and the dating experience coming to an end. 

On the other hand, if you’re dating many men at the same time and allowing yourself to really get to know them – you keep yourself from becoming too attached to anyone prematurely and allow yourself to be fully awake to see who is showing up for you, how you feel in the experience and what you want to develop further.

And trust us – when a man wants to be in a relationship, you will know it!

Good high, quality men who know what they want, don’t waste any time becoming exclusive and committed to the woman they want to be with.

Now – here’s the thing:

Even though dating correctly and remembering that there are plenty of good men out there is important –

– the most important thing you can do to make sure you feel secure in dating – is to increase your confidence in yourself and get crystal clear about what it is that you want to experience in life and in a relationship.

If you continue to attract men who don’t know what they want or aren’t aligned with what you’d like to experience in a relationship then you need to do the HeartWork to understand what is causing you to attract what you don’t want and how you can break through and create something different!

When you create clarity, you increase your level of security and can feel certain within yourself no matter what others do or what your outside circumstances are.

When you become connected to your authentic self and fully see the vulnerable beauty that you are – then men are attracted to that energy in you!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough and become the confident, secure woman who’s ready for love then you need to join us on Saturday for Love Breakthrough LIVE!

On this FREE LIVE Love Breakthrough Coaching Call, we’ll be coaching YOU on how to identify your love barriers, break through them, and step into the love your heart truly desires.

Click here to register to join us!

After you register you’ll have the opportunity to apply to be coached live on the session – 

And when you do, you’ll be coached on the call the same way we coach our clients, which will lead you to have incredible breakthroughs and create the love you want NOW!

We can’t wait for Saturday and hope we see your face there!

 

 

 

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How to Break Free and Own Your Worth!

How to Break Free and Own Your Worth!

by | May 23, 2022 | Uncategorized

by Gladys Diaz

Do you keep attracting what you know in your heart you don’t  want – but you can’t seem to break through and create something different?

Is there something that always seems to pull you towards what is less than what you want and you know it?

If you answered yes to either of those questions, let us ask you this…

Do you know your own worth?

So many times we hear from women some form of the following statements:

“If I was worth everything I think I want then I wouldn’t be single”

“If I was worth anything, I wouldn’t be divorced.”

“I must not be worth it, because no one has chosen me.”

Have you ever had a similar thought?

 We’re here to tell you today that your worthiness is not tied to any of that.

It’s not tied to your relationship status, how much money you have in the bank, how much you get paid, what others say about you – or anything else!

Self-worth can’t come from anything outside of you. Self-worth starts on the inside and is a decision you make.

You choose to believe it and be it!

The thing about having a worthiness conversation with yourself is that you’re probably not aware it’s the thing that’s holding you back in life and love.

And what’s more, is that if you don’t transform this – you will always be at the mercy of it.

If you don’t know, and we mean really know, that you’re worthy of peace, love, joy, success, abundance and so much more – nothing will ever be enough! 

Even if you have all the things in the world – an amazing relationship, a great career, all the money you could want – it won’t make a difference.

It will all sink out of the bottom of the cup if you don’t believe you deserve it. 

You get to break away from that.

You get to have everything you want (and more) because you know you are worthy of it!

But you have to know how to do it. You have to know how to undo the things that have happened in your past so you can shift what you believe.

And here’s something else. 

 Feeling unworthy isn’t the same as self-doubt.

We all doubt ourselves from time to time – that’s part of being human. The thing about self-doubt is you can have that feeling for a moment, but then you can motivate yourself to do the thing anyways. 

You can wonder if you’ll be good enough for the job, but you can motivate yourself to go to the interview anyways. 

 You can feel unsure about posting your dating profile online, but you can motivate yourself to do it anyway and see what happens.

When it comes to feeling unworthy – you can’t motivate yourself to be different.

You must do the HeartWork to transform your beliefs so you can attract and keep everything you want and deserve!

When you transform this you’ll no longer:

  • tolerate disrespect
  • settle for scraps when you know you could have the entire 5-course meal
  • stay in a relationship that’s not everything you want 
  • be blocked from all that you’re meant to be and have

     

When you know you’re worthy, just because you are, then you’ll attract and keep everything you want and deserve! You will bring men to you that will see your worth because you see it too.

And no one can take that away. 

 Join us for the Unleash Retreat coming up in just a couple of weeks, June 3rd-5th.

This retreat weekend is a very unique and experiential event, unlike anything else we do.

At the Unleash Retreat you’ll do activities that will have you break open your mind and heart to transform the things that are holding you back.

You will become UNLEASHED so you can stop wishing and reacting and start declaring and creating in your life.

You’ll find your voice and you’ll start using it.

You’ll distinguish the self-sabotaging patterns that you’ve created and break through them so you can become truly free! 

You’ll step out of the shadows once and for all because you’ll know your worth.

You’ll become unleashed!

Grab your ticket for the Unleash Retreat

You deserve this!

We can’t wait to see you there!

 

 

 

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How to Stop Meeting Mr. Wrong and Meet Mr. Right, Instead!

How to Stop Meeting Mr. Wrong and Meet Mr. Right, Instead!

by | May 13, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Michelle Roza

Are you ready to meet the RIGHT man? 

The man who’s not only good for you and to you, but also someone who you feel magic with? 

We have found that women who are dating find themselves in one of two scenarios… 

1. You keep attracting men into your life who aren’t good for you. They’re the “bad guys” who don’t  show up, only want sex, aren’t looking for commitment, or ghost you after the first date (if you even make it to a date!).

 There’s chemistry and connection, but, obviously, these interactions  aren’t going anywhere.

The problem with this, is that these women start to believe that all men are like this, and they then lose faith in dating and their ability to attract a different kind of man.

  1. Scenario Two: You attract good men into your  life – men of integrity and honor. Men who are seeking out the same loving, passionate, committed relationship that you are.

     

Sounds great right?

It would be except for that you often don’t feel a connection with these men. There’s no chemistry, and even though you’re glad that you’re attracting good men, you  still can’t seem to attract the right one… The man you can’t wait to spend the rest of your life with.

Do you see yourself in either of those scenarios?  

Are you tired of meeting man after man, but never having it  turn into the loving, passionate, committed relationship you really want? 

After I got divorced, I went into the dating experience really excited and thought I was finally going to be able to attract the man that was right for me.

Five years later, that excitement had turned into disenchantment, disappointment and resignation. I was thinking, “Maybe I’m meant to be single.” 

Life was pretty good, I was doing great at work, my children were thriving and I thought maybe I should let go of this desire to be in love.

But the truth was that underneath that resignation was the fear that there was something wrong with me, the fear that it simply was never going to happen and the uncertainty of why what I was doing wasn’t working. 

That’s when I began my journey of doing the HeartWork and getting underneath these fears and patterns to see what it was that I needed to heal and shift within myself. 

I knew that if I could just crack the code to attracting the man that would love me for me and that I would love for him – I would be able to create the extraordinary relationship I had always dreamt of. 

We’re committed to extraordinary love. 

The type of love that feels magical and takes your breath away. 

The type of love that has you feeling on top of the world and like you can do anything. 

The type of love that is just that – extraordinary. 

It starts with attracting the RIGHT man. And that starts with you. 

If any of this sounds familiar to you, please join us tomorrow for the Attract  the RIGHT Man Webinar, where we’ll be diving into how to break the patterns that are keeping you stuck in dating once and for all! 

In this 3-hour masterclass, you will:

  • Learn what to STOP doing so that you can stop being attracted to and attracting the wrong man into your life
  • Discover what to START doing instead, so that you start attracting the kind of man who wants to create a happy, loving, committed relationship with you
  • Apply the steps and practices that will have you experience dating and relationships differently because you will be attracting and getting to know a completely different kind of man!

Click here to say “YES!” to Attracting the RIGHT Man into Your Life!

Whether you find that you keep attracting and dating “good guys” who are nice enough, but you simply don’t feel a connection with, 

OR 

you keep bringing in the same “bad guy” in a different body,  we’re going to show you how to break this pattern and bring in the RIGHT man — the one who will honor you, cherish you, and love you for the rest of your life! 

It’s time for you to attract  the RIGHT  man now!

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