Heart's Desire Intl

How to Stop Meeting Mr. Wrong and Meet Mr. Right, Instead!

by heartsdesireintl | Nov 20, 2020 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to meet the right man?

The man who’s not only good for you and to you, but also someone who you feel magic with?

One thing we hear from women consistently is that they find themselves in one of two scenarios… Let’s see if you can relate.

Scenario One: You keep attracting men into your life who aren’t good for you. They’re the “bad guys” who don’t show up, only want sex, aren’t looking for commitment, or ghost you after the first date (if you even make it to a date!).

There’s chemistry and connection, but, obviously, these interactions aren’t going anywhere.

The problem with this scenario is that these women start to believe that all men are like this, and they lose faith in dating and their ability to attract a different kind of man.

Can you relate?

What about this one.

Scenario Two: You attract good men into your life – men of integrity and honor. Men who are seeking out the same loving, passionate, committed relationship they are and are ready to create that now.

Sounds great right?

The problem with scenario two is that you often don’t feel a connection with these men. There’s no chemistry, and even though you’re glad that you’re attracting the good men, you still can’t seem to attract the right one… The man you can’t wait to spend the rest of your life with.

Do you see yourself in either of those scenarios?

Are you tired of meeting man after man, but never having it turn into the loving, passionate, committed relationship you really want?

If so, you want to ask yourself – “Why am I attracting this into my life?”

Get curious. Is it a pattern?

What are the common denominators?

How do you get to shift?

After I got divorced, I was dating lots of men who all had the same problems. They were either addicted to something, in a relationship with another woman, and/or had some kind of drama constantly surrounding them.

I was getting so frustrated, because I felt like I was dating the same man over and over again in a different body!

One day I was telling a coach and mentor about my frustration, and, after he listened patiently, he asked me, “What do all of these men have in common?”

Without even thinking, I responded with, “They’re all liars cheaters, and they don’t know what they want!”

He asked, “Okay, what else?”

After a few more minutes of trying to answer his questions and getting more and more frustrated by the minute, I finally exclaimed, “Just tell me what you’re seeing, because I’m not seeing it!”

He said, “The only thing these five strangers have in common is you. You are the common denominator.”

Well, of course that isn’t what I wanted to hear. But once I let it sink in, I knew he was right. I knew that there was that was having me be attracted to and attracting this kind of man into my life.

I’d had enough of this. I was ready to make a change.

That’s when I really began my journey of doing the Heartwork and getting underneath this pattern to see what it was that I needed to heal and shift within myself.

Once I did that, everything shifted.

We often say that “happy enough is not good enough”!

We’re committed to extraordinary love.

The type of love that feels magical and takes your breath away.

The type of love that has you feeling on top of the world and like you can do anything.

The type of love that is just that – extraordinary.

It starts with attracting the right man. And that starts with you.

Please join us tomorrow, Saturday, November 21st for the Attract the Right Man Webinar, where we’ll be diving into how to break this painful pattern once and for all!

In this 3-hour masterclass, you will:

Learn what to STOP doing so that you can stop being attracted to and attracting the wrong man into your life
Discover what to START doing instead, so that you start attracting the kind of man who wants to create a happy, loving, committed relationship with you
Apply the steps and practices that will have you experience dating and relationships differently because you will be attracting and getting to know a completely different kind of man!

Click here to say “YES!” to Attracting the RIGHT Man into Your Life!

Whether you find that you keep attracting and dating “good guys” who are nice enough, but you simply don’t feel a connection with, OR you keep bringing in the same “bad guy” in a different body, we’re going to show you how to break this pattern and bring in the RIGHT man — the one who will honor you, cherish you, and love you for the rest of your life!

It’s time for you to attract the RIGHT man now!

Top Three “Red Flags” to Watch For

by heartsdesireintl | Nov 17, 2020 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

If you’re dating, you’ve probably heard the term “red flag.” But do you know what a real “red flag” is?

Do you know what you should be watching out for while dating?

Do you know what things make a man “undateable”?

You may be surprised to hear that there aren’t really that many “red flags.” There are some things that you want to be paying attention to, and that’s what we want to focus on today.

While dating, you want to have an open mind and an open heart while still noticing whether or not a man is “datable.” You want to allow yourself to fall in love with someone while not allowing the chemistry or the attraction to be the driving factor.

So, what are some real “red flags” you want to watch out for?

A man is in another relationship. Whether he’s in the process of breaking up, still married, separated, in the legal process of divorce, they’re working out custody issues, still living together but not in love, or any other reason that keeps them connected to another person, a man who is in any way, shape, or form still involved with someone else is a bright red flag!.

Why is this important to pay attention to?

If someone is willing to date you while they are still in a relationship with someone else, he’s already telling you something about his character.

We have worked with women who were dating someone who was “leaving” their partner, and then 2 years, 4 years, even 7 years down the road , they are still with that other person. Waiting for him to choose them!

You don’t want to set yourself up to lose in dating.

When you hear that someone is in a relationship with someone else and you don’t see that as a red flag, it has to do with your worthiness.

You deserve someone who can and is willing to fully commit to you, And, if you catch yourself pushing that thought to the side, making excuses for him, or justifying his situation to yourself and others, then you get to ask what’s going on for you and why you’re not seeing that you deserve more.

The thought that would come up for me when I was allowing myself to ignore this read flag was “If they have that many options and they want to be with me, then there must be something really special about me.”

Can you hear the unworthiness in that question?

The thing is that this person couldn’t commit himself fully to you even if he wanted to because he’s still committed to someone else.

If he’s willing to be with you while still being with someone else, why would he stay committed to you down the road?

If you’re involved with a man who’s involved with someone else, it’s time to reach out for support so that you can make a choice the empowers you and is aligned with your dream of a happy, loving relationship.

2. A man that has an active addiction. Regardless of what the addiction is, whether it’s alcohol, drugs, pornography, food, gambling, etc, this is a red flag.

Why is this important to look out for?

When someone has an active addiction to something, that thing will always be the priority in his life. That means that you will not be the priority in his life. It’s not that he’s a “bad person,” it’s that he has a problem that takes over his reasoning.

You want to make sure that you’re aware and awake and that you’re not blinded by infatuation, desperation, chemistry, or attraction when choosing who to date and fall in love with.

Too many women mistakenly believe that if they love the man enough, wait long enough, or help him enough, he will choose them over his addiction. It’s a really painful game to play, and one where the woman usually does not win.

Notice your thoughts.Are you pushing something away?
Are you making excuses or justifications about his behavior?
Are you choosing to not notice something that you should be paying attention to?

Ignoring a problem is never the same thing as resolving it. If you’re pushing these thoughts away, it’s time to reach out for support.

3. A man that is physically or emotionally abusive. Is the man you’re with constantly criticizing you, cutting you down or making you the brunt of his jokes? Does he refuse to take responsibility for things and turn everything back around on you?

Does he push, grab, or hit you? Even if he apologizes, cries about it, or promises never to do it again afterwards?

Why is knowing the answers to these questions important?

If you start to feel less than or criticized, especially in the early stages of a relationship, this person is simply not right for you.

Someone who has good intentions is not going to put you down or make you the brunt of his jokes.

If you’ve mentioned that this is hurtful, and he’s sensed that he can get away with this with you, and he continues to treat you this way, he’s not trying to actually win your heart.

Pay attention!

If you don’t feel better about yourself when or after you’re with someone, then you shouldn’t be dating him.

When dating or in a relationship with someone, make sure that chemistry doesn’t overpower your integrity.

If you see that you are afraid, denying your values, making excuses, hiding things from your family and friends, and ignoring some really clear warning signs, it is time to get support NOW!

This is where the HeartWork comes into play as a way of raising your own level of self-worth.

When you have high levels of self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth, you know that you deserve better and you don’t settle for anything less.

You notice these red flags and you choose to walk away, knowing that you will attract someone who loves, cherishes, honors, and chooses YOU, and that you can have the loving, peaceful, intimate relationship of your dreams with.

Breaking through the Love Barriers stopping you from having the kind of love you want is one of the most important journeys of your life, and if you’d like support so that you have the tools to overcome self-doubt, not settle for anything less than the extraordinary love you desire and deserve, we’d love to talk to you.

We want you to know not just how to attract a man but how to attract the RIGHT man – someone who will be everything you want and deserve and more!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

Let us support you in recognizing what’s missing in your dating and relationship experiences so that you can create the relationship of your dreams now!

Extraordinary Success AND Extraordinary Love!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 15, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

4by Gladys Diaz

There are many women who believe they have to choose between having a successful business or a great relationship. They truly don’t believe it’s possible to have both.

What do you believe?

Here’s the deal: if you believe that you can’t have both, you are living in a scarcity conversation, and you’re actually blocking the success you could be experiencing in BOTH!

This week on Love Chat with the Love Twins, we featured some incredible women, colleagues and dear friends of ours, who are rocking it in their business as well as their love lives. Through these conversations, we really highlighted how not only is it possible for you to have both – but it actually makes all of it even better!

In one of the interviews, we got to hear from Amy Yamada’s partner, Ken, who shared his experience as a man being in partnership with such an incredible and successful woman!

High-quality men want to support, be in contribution to, and pour into a high-quality woman. Ken shared how much more attracted he was to Amy knowing that she was an entrepreneur and motivational speaker.

For her, at first, she felt uneasy sharing about her business with him for fear of being in here “masculine” energy. But when she decided to lean into being her authentic self, which includes being an entrepreneur , it allowed him to really see her, and it ended up being one of the things that most attracted him to her.

He said he simply wouldn’t have been attracted to her if she had not led with that.

NOT the fact that she was a business woman, but that she was AUTHENTIC.

What more proof do you need, ladies?!

Men want to support us.

I’ll never forget, years back, when I was crying – sitting in a restaurant with tears flowing down my face because I’d just been on off the phone with my business coach. I was feeling so defeated that I didn’t know what all of the tech terms meant or what all of this software I needed was, and didn’t know how I was ever going to be successful in my business.

Ric saw the opportunity, and he literally learned how to create funnels, build websites and do all-things-tech related to our business, simply as a result of wanting to support me and my dream. All these years later and I can’t even imagine where I, or Hearts Desire International for that matter, would be without him. (And now he has a great business of his own doing this for other people, too! Talk about a win-win!)

The other reason why men love being with high-quality, successful, driven women is because it inspires them to be more.

I’ll also never forget the day when I heard Ric, my very soft-spoken husband, stand on one of our stages at an event and said, “Seeing how committed Gladys is to her own transformation inspires me to become a better man.”

Definitely another tearful moment for me!

Until then I knew he admired the things I did, my career, and professional accomplishments But that day, he was talking about what he admired about ME and the woman I am! No award,degree, or certificate can hold a candle to that!

The absolutely beautiful thing about creating a partnership with someone who loves and admires you for your determination and commitment in the world is what you can create together.

It also gives you the opportunity to lean on one another and lift each other up when you have days where you’re having a hard time seeing it in yourself.

Supportive partners see you, experience you and hear you in a way that you sometimes fail to see, and they can share your life, your success, and all of the ordinary-extraordinary moments with you as you continue to strive for success in business and love.

If you have a limiting belief that you need to choose between business and love then we have something very important to share with you.

In just two weeks we’ll be hostingThe Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event, and you won’t want to miss it!!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want to stop wasting time and want to start having SUCCESS in love!

This is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

The event is happening on October 23rd-25th, and we can’t wait to have you there!

In fact, we’re so committed to having you there, that, for Birthday Week, we’re lowering the price of the ticket to just $47!!! (It’s our birthday, and will give you gifts if we want to!!!)

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

When you know that you are a loveable woman, then you can attract someone who believes that, too.

When you’re honest and authentic about who you are, business success and all, that’s when you’ll find the man who will love you completely.

When you trust yourself, love yourself, and know that you’re capable of creating an amazing relationship in your life, you WILL!

Join us to discover this for yourself!

This is what I know was true for me and, it is true for you, too.

Are You Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop?

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 2, 2020 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Forgiveness, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

How do you keep the love growing?

How do you keep the relationship from going stale?

How do you keep your marriage from getting complacent, too comfortable, or boring?

There is something we hear a lot from women. A very common concern is “Things are great now, but what happens when _________ (you fill in the blank).”

How do you not just create a relationship, but a long-lasting relationship that gets better and better with time?

We find that women who have this concern are waiting for the other shoe to drop — even when things are going well. They have a fear – whether it’s that they’re afraid he’s not trustworthy, that they’ll eventually fall into old habits and ruin things, or they’re sure there’s something wrong with him that they just haven’t seen yet – and it’s causing them to sabotage their relationships over and over again.

The problem when you are in this cycle of waiting for something to go wrong is that your focus is on what isn’t going to work, versus what’s right and going well in the present .

See if this sounds familiar…

One of our past clients found herself in this pattern. After years and years of dating, she finally found herself in the relationship of her dreams. She had met a wonderful man, and they had an incredible time together. He would fly to see her and pay to fly her out to visit him. Things were going wonderfully, and he was starting to initiate conversations about where they wanted to take the relationship next. EEEEE – exciting!

One weekend, he flew out to see her and she found herself acting strange. She could feel herself pulling away and trying to withdraw, and when he would ask what was wrong, she would respond like most women do by saying, “Nothing!”

Well, he was persistent with asking her what was going on, and eventually she told him that she could feel herself pulling away because she was waiting for something to go wrong. – How could things actually be this good?

Instead of being overjoyed and in the moment about how wonderful things were for her then, she was worried about what might happen to ruin things in the future.

Have you ever experienced yourself doing something similar?

This pattern of behavior is so detrimental and destructive to relationships, because when men are having to constantly defend themselves against things they aren’t doing, or feel like they’re paying the price for men who came before them, they get exhausted by it, and the love and intimacy starts to chip away.

When you have a history of bad relationships or trauma from your childhood, you often spend time and energy in your current relationship looking for that same history to repeat itself as a way to prepare yourself for what may happen.

The thing is, if you go into a relationship, even with the perfect man, doing this, you will sabotage it.

So, how does this show up for you?

Does it show up like it did for this client, where you pull away when things are going well?

Do you always feel like you have to do something to either “fix” the situation or the person you’re dating?

Do you create drama in your relationship so that you can feel the dips of things going badly in order to feel the high that comes with things being good again?

Here’s how you can recognize when you’re in the pattern of drama or looking for things to go wrong in our relationship:

You’re telling someone about something that isn’t working in your life and they give you a solution, and you respond with a “Yeah, but…!”

Someone presents a solution to you, and you follow-up with yet another problem that needs to be solved..

No matter how well things are going, you don’t allow yourself to enjoy the good times because you are preparing yourself for the impending doom that is on its way.

Recognizing this pattern is one of the first steps in the Heartwork that we teach, so that you can start training yourself to experience happiness and joy. Getting to a place where you understand that “peace” does not equal “boring” is a great place to begin.

Here’s the truth: Life comes with enough challenges that you don’t want or need to u create more of them.

We often hear the phrase, “Hard times are part of being in a relationship,,” and that makes us cringe! Yes, hard times come sometimes. That’s part of life. But hard times are not a requirement in a relationship.

Our goal is for every one of our clients to experience joy, love, and excitement in a relationship and to know that those can come on an ordinary day simply because you’re together.

If you’re looking for more ways to break this pattern of drama and expecting bad things to happen in your relationship, please join us tomorrow for our Reignite the Spark Masterclass !

This 3-hour event is for every woman who is looking to make her relationship, partnership, or marriage the best that it’s ever been. We want to help you take things to the next level to experience even more love, excitement and joy in your life and relationship than ever before.

Click HERE to register NOW!

Marriage doesn’t have to be hard or get boring., Feeling peaceful and comfortable with your partner is a good thing. And just because you’ve been together a long time doesn’t mean the passion has to fade.

When I’m sitting on my couch and I look over at Ric and my boys, I think “This is it! This is what joy feels like! This is what I was waiting for!”

That’s what we want for you, too, NAME!!

Join us tomorrow for Reignite the Spark!

How to Overcome the Fear of Getting Hurt

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 29, 2020 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, Infidelity, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Do you have a fear that you will be hurt or rejected?

If you don’t, you must be superhuman, because as human beings, we all deal with this!

The real question is: Is that fear running the show?
Is that fear causing you to hold back in relationships or keeping you from creating one altogether?

It doesn’t matter if you’re single or in a relationship, this message is for you!

It’s a common misconception that, once you get into a relationship, that fear of rejection or of getting hurt goes away, but that’s just not true. The fear of hurt or rejection can be holding you back from creating deep, intimate connection, either way.

Here’s how it works.

You have fears that something will or won’t happen in the future because of something that did or didn’t happen in the past.

Fear is running the show if it causes you to react in a certain way that is a coping mechanism for not getting hurt.

This may look like withdrawing from your partner or pulling back.

It may look like being paralyzed and feeling like you can’t do or say anything because of your fear that it will go badly.

It may look like pretending, acting as if everything is fine, when, actually, you’re feeling scared inside.

Here’s how it looks for me.

My previous marriage was not a happy marriage. The relationship brought out the worst in me and I was often critical, loud, snappy and impatient.

I remember how I would feel every time I’d come home and put the key up to the door to open it. Each time, I would stop and feel my chest tighten as I wondered what I was about to encounter on the other side of the door. I’d just hope that today might be a good day.

My fear of being alone caused me to stay in that unhappy relationship. I would stay quiet and pretend that everything was fine, and then I couldn’t really understand what was real and what I really wanted.

Fast forward to now.

I’m in an extremely happy and fulfilling relationship, but I’m still human. So during times when I may be sleep deprived or extra busy, those qualities of being critical, snappy or impatient can come out and my fear rears its ugly head.

My fear is that if I allow those qualities that I don’t like in myself to come out – and sometimes they do – then I won’t be loved or I’ll begin to recreate the relationship I had with my ex.

Your fear may be feeling like your feelings won’t be validated, fearing you’ll be used or get hurt.

When fear is running the show you feel powerless, and that’s not the way we want you to feel!!

So how do you overcome these fears?

First, you need to recognize it and acknowledge it.

What is it that you’re afraid of that’s stopping you from having the relationship you want to have?

Your fear is impacting you whether you acknowledge it or not, so you might as well bring it to light.

Then ask yourself:- If I was standing outside this fear and standing in my power, who would I be that would allow me to make a different choice?

When I recognize myself in the space where those undesirable qualities come out and I feel the fear coming to the surface, I ask myself that question.

I acknowledge the fear and step forward to own it. I take responsibility for anything I may have said to Arnie that I didn’t really mean, and I apologize so that I don’t go back to allowing that old fear running the show and hurt my relationship.

I know that I’m a powerful woman, and that I get to choose how I feel and behave. When I apologize, I open up the space in our relationship for intimacy and love to be present again.

The truth is: You can either be run by your fears or run by your ability to choose a different experience. You get to choose.

It can take a little bit of effort to get to the bottom of these fears, which is why we’re so excited to invite you to the Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want to overcome their fears in love once and for all is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

We’ve changed the dates to October 23rd-25th, and this year, it’s going to be better than ever!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

Once you transform something, you don’t go back to it. Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the fears that are holding you back in love and relationships!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

True or False? Men are Intimidated by Strong and Successful Women

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 11, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

True or False?

Men are intimidated and turned off by strong and successful women.

False!

It is a myth and limiting belief that men are intimidated by strong women.

The truth that we have discovered through working with hundreds of women is that you can be a strong, powerful and successful woman and create the loving, connected passionate relationship that you desire.

The key is creating an interdependent relationship and developing the Irresistible Essences in yourself that are attractive to a man.

A man admires and appreciates confidence and happiness in a woman. He loves knowing that the woman he’s with doesn’t depend on him for her happiness, but that he gets to come to the relationship and bring even more happiness into her life.

What a confident, high-quality man doesn’t like is being with a woman who tries to control him, change him, or show and tell him how he should do things. What he doesn’t like is when the woman constantly tries to take the lead.

That’s a total turn off.

There’s a big difference between the woman who is strong, successful, and capable and a woman who is intimidating, forceful, demanding or overbearing.

If you have a tendency to show up in the more forceful ways of being, you may have a pattern of control that you get to look at.

Ask yourself:
What’s going has me switch into “control mode??
Why is that showing up for me?
What am I afraid will or won’t happen if I’m not in control of a person or situation?

Fear wears many masks, and control is a big one.

Do you fear he’ll leave?

Do you fear you won’t be enough and, therefore, you’re always trying to prove something to yourself, him, and others?

Do you fear things won’t go the way you want them to if you don’t control the situation?

Let me tell you as a former control freak: It’s exhausting to try to be in control of everyone and everything!
It’s absolutely draining to be constantly trying to control your man, or the whole universe, for that matter!

Life is so much better when you let go and learn to allow and go with the flow.

I can tell you from my experience as a love coach that the best and most fulfilling way to have the most wonderful experience in a relationship is to do less.

That’s right!

Now… If the thought of not controlling anything scares you to your core, not to worry. There are still several thing you have 100% control over:

You get to be in control of your thoughts.

You get to be in control of your words.

You get to be in control of your behavior.

Everything else? Just let it go!

High-quality men, the kind I know you’re looking for, want to be with a woman who’s passionate, is up to big things in her life, and is the kind of woman who makes amazing things happen.

High-quality men have passions of their own and are up to big things, too.

The only men who aren’t turned off by a woman that tries to control everything are men who aren’t doing things with their own lives and want someone who will tell them what to do.

And we know you aren’t looking for a man like that!

It’s a practice of learning how to let go showing your partner that you trust him, and then letting things be.

It’s a practice because it takes effort – but it’s so worth it!

If you’re wanting to experience even more trust, openness and joy in dating and relationships, then you absolutely want to make sure that you join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE Virtual Live Event!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event is for strong, successful, powerful women who want SUCCESS in love now! This event is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

The regular ticket price is $497 – but right now it’s only $97 and that price ends TONIGHT at Midnight EST!

So if you know you want to attend and grab a seat for this super-low price, grab your ticket now!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

The other reason you don’t want to wait is because this year we’ll be sending you a special “LOVE Box” filled with gifts and materials you’ll be using during the event, and we only ordered a certain number of them. Once they’re gone, they’re GONE

So again, if you already know you want to attend and have a life-changing experience where you and your love life will never be the same, grab your ticket and your LOVE Box now!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

Whether you’ve come to the Irresistible Woman Live event in the past or not, this year is going to be very special, because there are things we can virtually that we couldn’t do before.

PLUS, there are people who would not normally be able to fly across the country, or across the world, who can come this year – so we know it’s going to be extra amazing!

This is a really special opportunity to share a powerful weekend together and have the transformation of a lifetime, and we can’t wait to see you there!

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