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Stop Sabotaging Your Dating Life With These Solutions!

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 10, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Does it feel like your results in dating keep getting sabotaged?

Have you noticed you keep having the same (or similar) experience over and over again (and they’re not the ones you want)?

Are you ready to break through these sabotaging patterns once and for all so you can create the relationship of your dreams?!

The top three patterns we see from our clients that are sabotaging their dating (consciously or unconsciously) are:

Dating only one man at a time
Settling for less than what you really want in a man/relationship
Complaining about dating

Do you think you may be falling into any of these patterns?

Let’s break each of them down so you see what we’re talking about.

#1 Sabotaging Pattern: Dating only one man at a time.

We’ve said it once, and we’ll say it a thousand more times: Dating only one man at a time is setting yourself up for failure. Not only that, but this pattern will cause the dating process to take so much more time than necessary.

And we know you don’t want to waste your time!

Solution: Date more than one man at a time.

What does this look like?

Dating means spending time with someone and getting to know them.
Dating more than one person at a time means going on dates with multiple men and getting to know them while noticing what you are and aren’t experiencing with them.

This doesn’t mean you’re sleeping around, having sex with all of them, or even kissing multiple men!

It simply means you’re talking, meeting, and getting to know them so that you can make an informed decision about whether you’d like to keep getting to know them or not.

Why does this matter? When you’re only seeing one man at a time, you limit your availability, options and experience.

When you open yourself up to seeing multiple men, you increase your chances of creating a relationship with the man that’s right for you.

You also take the pressure off of not only the men, but yourself!
You’re able to keep yourself from getting attached to anyone too soon, making a relationship out of something that’s not one, and getting your heart broken unnecessarily.

#2 Sabotaging Pattern: Settling for less than what you really want in a man/relationship

Choosing to keep seeing someone who is having you experience less than the relationship of your dreams, is settling.
Doing so, wastes precious time you could be spending with someone else (i.e. the RIGHT man!).

Solution: Do the HeartWork to break through this pattern.

Settling comes from a belief that you don’t deserve what you truly want, that it doesn’t exist, or that you won’t be able to get it, so you do what you think you have to do to save yourself from disappointment.

Why does this matter? Until you break through these limiting beliefs, you will never be able to create the relationship of your dreams and attract not only a man, but the man who is aligned with the experience and the kind of relationship you want to have.

#3 Sabotaging Pattern: Complaining about dating

Constantly talking about how hard dating is, how frustrated you are with the experience, how terrible the men you’re attracting are, or how long the process is taking is a sabotaging pattern.

When you do this, you then create experiences to prove that you’re right.
Do you really want to be right about any of that?

Solution: Pay attention to your language and create effective ways to date.

Why does this matter? Your mind believes what you tell it is true, and you then subconsciously create the experiences that will have you prove yourself right.

Energy flows where attention goes!

So, instead of complaining about what you don’t want or what isn’t working, get crystal-clear and stay laser-focused on the kind of relationship you want to experience for the rest of your life.

Your life — including the relationship of your dreams is your creation!

What do you want to create?

If you want to have a Love Breakthrough and turn these self-sabotaging patterns (plus the ones that you might not even realize are there for you!) around once and for all, then you need to join us for the Love Breakthrough Challenge!

In this 5-Day Love Breakthrough Challenge, we’re going to guide you through the same EFFECTIVE, CLEAR, AND PROVEN steps of our HeartWork process, we’ve personally used in our own lives and have shared with thousands of women around the world, which is what has empowered them to shift from being frustrated, disappointed, and lonely to being happy and successful in love!

Click here to sign up for FREE now!

We start on Monday, September 20th, so sign up now.

This WILL transform you and your love life!

How to Embrace Your Feminine, Authentic Self

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 3, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you a driven, ambitious, successful woman?

Do you spend your daytime hours of your career in your masculine (“doing”) energy?

Do you find it difficult to relax into your feminine energy before a date, or when you’re with your partner?

If you answered yes, it’s perfectly natural. Being in our masculine/doing energy is called for when we’re at work and getting things done.

That said, when the work day is over, you get to take a moment and shift into your feminine energy.

If you’re getting feedback that…

You seem like you don’t need anyone else
You act like you don’t want a man in your life or that you’re fine alone
You’re intimidating
Nothing is ever good enough for you
You’re aggressive of “too direct”

…then it’s time to look at how you can shift and relax into your feminine energy!

Now, to be clear, as we said above, masculine energy isn’t “bad.”

The energy of doing, driving, managing, advising, etc. is what’s made you successful in your career and in other areas of your life!

The problem is that it simply doesn’t work when it comes to dating and romantic relationships.

Feminine Energy is NOT about being weak, not having a voice, acting like a doormat, or not having an opinion.

Being in your innate, feminine and Irresistible Essence is powerful! It’s what has you show up as vulnerable, authentic, light and joyful.

It IS the energy of BEing receptive.

It’s allowing your partner to be there with you and do things for you.

It’s allowing others to see you and deeply connect with you.

So what are the ways of BEing you can cultivate inside yourself so that your true feminine self shines through?

These ways of BEing are what we call your Irresistible Essences — your innate power of femininity that creates the magical spark that naturally draws masculine men to you.

We use the word MAGICAL to help you remember what they are:

M – Mesmerizing

A – Authentic

G – Gracious

I – Inspiring

C – Confident

A – Alluring

L – Love-able

Let’s dive in a bit deeper, shall we?

BEing Mesmerizing looks like captivating a man’s attention and drawing him into you through your Way of BEing. It’s like casting a spell that has men notice and be drawn to you.

BEing Authentic means being YOURSELF. It’s knowing that you’re more than enough and showing up that way. Remember: He can’t fall (or stay) in love with you if YOU are not even there!

BEing Gracious is allowing yourself to receive and giving him the gift of being able to give to you. Some women really struggle with this one, because they’re so used to doing for themselves. It’s important to point out that receiving is NOT about being entitled or not being able to take care of yourself.

For example, on a date, allowing the man to pay is not about “expecting” him to do something or feeling like you’re entitled to the dinner. It’s about graciously accepting that he’s invited you out and receiving that with grace and gratitude.

So, allow him to pay. Accept his compliments. And offer gratitude in return. Let him know how much you appreciated the dinner, his company, and the date. It’s highly attractive, and knowing he was able to make you smile will inspire him to want to do even more!

BEing Inspiring means being a breath of happiness, love and fun. No one wants to swim in a pool of upset. So instead of making him feel obligated to be with you or required to do anything, inspire him to show up for you by the way you are when you’re around him.

BEing Confident looks like doing your own thing and creating your own happiness. It’s knowing that you’re enough without feeling as if you have to “prove” it. Remember this: Confidence is the #1 most attractive thing to a man.

BEing Alluring is also a Way of BEing. It means being radiant, authentic, drawing people to you simply by being the amazing woman you are.

BEing Love-Able means knowing deep down, for real, that you are both able to love and be loved by another. It looks like knowing you don’t have to withhold love or be afraid to receive it.

So there you have it!

These 7 ways of BEing, the Irresistible Essences, are what will support you in relaxing into your feminine energy and attracting a man that wants to get to know you, and wants to stay with you!

If you’d like support with showing up more fully as your true, authentic, feminine self, book a call with our coaches now.

If it’s become second nature to be in your masculine energy, it’s okay! You can learn how to easily shift and feel more fully connected to you. We can show you how!

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 27, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Sex

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know what is the most vital ingredient in creating intimate relationships?

Do you know what would make it possible for you to connect deeply with a man and enhance your love life?

What would it feel like to actually allow yourself to be seen by others for who YOU truly are?

Being vulnerably YOU in dating is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams yet, this is the most important that may be missing!

So what does vulnerability look like?

Vulnerability is…

Being open
Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
Being willing to share yourself and your feelings
Trusting yourself to know who to trust
Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
Having clarity about and living in an alignment with your values and boundaries, and who you really are.
The ability to be yourself without judging or beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable?

Fear.

Fear of being abandoned.

Fear of rejection.

Fear that you may get taken advantage of.

Fear of looking “weak”.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think.

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve of you.

What fears show up for you?

Why is knowing this so important?

It’s important when it comes to dating, because, when you’re afraid, you suppress yourself.

You pretend, hide, or resist.

You don’t trust yourself to go for the things you want in life.

You say you want a deep, intimate relationship, but you’re not willing to actually show up authentically and open .

You may even worry that if you create the relationship you want, you’ll lose it, and then that fear causes you to sabotage every opportunity at true love and happiness.

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection?

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears.

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected.

You practice.

The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Doing this on your own isn’t always easy, because, think about it: If you knew how to do that, you probably would have done it already.

If you know that being vulnerable is something you struggle with, and you’d like support in doing this HeartWork and breaking through the fear so that you can authentically connect with someone and create the relationship of your dreams, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches today.

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

Remember, it takes courage to go for the things you really want in your life.

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward having the life and love your heart desires!

You Can Break Through Your Fears Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 13, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

What are fears that come up in the realm of love and relationships?

Are you afraid you won’t be enough?

Are you terrified of rejection or abandonment?

Are you scared you’ll keep repeating your heartbreaking past and are afraid to try again now?

Maybe you’re afraid that…

dating will just be a waste of time
you’ll be controlled
you’ll lose yourself in a relationship
you won’t find someone who really understands you
it’ll be hard to share your life with someone
you’ll get your heartbroken (again)
he’ll lie or cheat like every other guy has

Obviously, those are only some of the fears that come up for women while dating.

What are your fears?

The thing about fear is that it’s a fact of life.

It’s part of being human, and there’s no way out of that.

The other thing about fear is that even though it’s a given in life, it doesn’t have to control your life.

Fear is your brain’s way of thinking about what you are afraid is or isn’t going to happen.

And your brain doesn’t recognize the difference between an imagined fear and what’s actually happening.

When fear is running the show, you’ll subconsciously sabotage your experiences in an attempt to either stop whatever you’re afraid of from happening, or force something to happen.

By taking ownership of your fears and recognizing what is an imagined fear vs reality, you take your power back and can be the conscious owner of your life and your results.

None of us want to waste our time, get our hearts broken, be rejected, or experience the same painful things we’ve experienced in the past.

When you take the time to do the necessary Heartwork, you increase your chances of attracting the man and relationships that will be good for you.

And the first step to doing that is to powerfully master your fears.

So, how do you do that?

1. Distinguish your fear by recognizing what it is and where it comes from.

2. Dismantle the fear by doing the work to release it and leave it in the past. Then, when fearful thoughts come up — because they will — you’ll be able to see them for what they are, instead of relating to them as “the truth.”

3. Replace the fear with a new empowering belief that has you open up to new ideas of what’s possible for you.

You don’t have to be afraid of what’s happened in the past.

You can experience love, happiness, peace and healing in your heart when you do the Heartwork necessary to break through your fears!

If you’d like support with learning how to master your thoughts and emotions so you aren’t being driven by them, we want to support you!

Our Ready to Love Again Program begins in just over a week, and this is the powerful work we begin with!

If you are at all interested in learning more, or if you’d simply like to chat with someone about how you (yes, YOU!) can learn to dismantle your fears and take control of your life, click below to book a Love Breakthrough Call.

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session

Our coaches are here to support you in seeing what you can’t see right now, so that you can move forward and create the life and love your heart desires!

How to Stop Rushing and Start Believing It’s Coming

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 23, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, heartache, keeping the love alive, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Are you feeling impatient with dating?

Are you wondering if it’s ever going to happen for you?

Does it feel like it’s taking sooooooo long, you’re beginning to wonder if you even care anymore?

I remember feeling that way.

I remember feeling extremely disappointed in the experience I was having with dating.

I remember after I’d gotten divorced I had this incredible feeling like, “Wow! I finally have a chance to have everything I want now!”

It wasn’t too long before I realized it may not be as fun or as easy as I’d thought it would be and I began to want to give up.

I know the feelings.

I know the stirring of impatience.

…wondering if it’s ever going to happen for me.

…the frustration.

…the (what seemed like) endless crying.

… questioning my judgement because I kept picking the wrong men.

…wanting to give up and instead, focus on my kids and my career.

I know how all of that feels which is why it’s become our mission to share what we learned with you.

Why is it so important to stay patient while dating?

So you can maintain the excitement for it, which will have you attract exactly what you desire.

And so that you don’t go into desperation and are able to stick with the process as you develop the skills.

There are three important things to remember while dating:

Have Faith.

Believe that it’s going to happen for you. It wouldn’t be a desire in your heart, if it wasn’t meant to happen for you.

Believe that you’ll find the right coach.

Believe that what is meant for you is coming if you simply stay the course.

Believe in Yourself.

Know that you can turn your patterns around.

Know that you’ll be able to stay strong and committed through the process.

Know that you can do it.

You can create anything your heart desires. Believing that I deserved it is what changed everything for me.

Follow Through on the Promises you Make to Yourself.

If you don’t stand for yourself and for what you want, you will grasp for anything you can get. You will go into desperation mode and won’t let it happen naturally.

Lean into the coaching and training you are in this community to have. If you don’t, you’ll talk yourself out of the miracle that’s waiting for you.

My life became miraculously magical when I did the HeartWork. Everything, not just my love life, began to shift.

Everything changed when I learned to take my time and BE the kind of woman that could attract the man I wanted.

There was no rush because I knew it was coming.

Imagine what it would be like to BE in your life like that?

To live without rush or desperation because you know it’s already on its way and that, not only do you deserve it, but that you have the skills to create it.

You deserve to have the type of love you want. You deserve to have your heart’s desire!

The Extraordinary Love Intensive is just around the corner and if you’d like to shift your love life (not to mention your whole life!) when you need to join us!

This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the barriers holding you back so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams.

After the event there will be no more thinking it’s never going to happen or that being in the relationship your heart desires is not for you.

After the event you will know it’s coming for you, believe in yourself and your ability to create it and have the skills to follow through and stay the course!

Claim your ticket here.

Remember, it wouldn’t be a desire in your heart if it wasn’t meant to happen for you.

See you at the Extraordinary Love Intensive!

How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 16, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

What is standing in your way of creating the relationship of your dreams?

Are there self-sabotaging tendencies and patterns that are causing your love life to not move forward like you’d like it to?

If so, are you getting frustrated, angry or hopeless?

The frustration you feel that things aren’t happening like you’d like can manifest differently for different people.

Maybe you feel angry – thinking that all men are jerks, dating sucks, and online dating will never lead you to a good man.

Perhaps you feel sad and hopeless – thinking that it’s never really going to happen for you, so why even try? Which leads you to wanting to give up.

If that’s what you’re currently experiencing, it’s important to look at how often those feelings show up, not just in your love life, but in every aspect of your life, because that’s going to give you the clues to what you need to shift.

So, how do you make the relationship of your dreams happen now?

First, you have to get crystal-clear on what you want to experience in that relationship.

Notice that we didn’t say, get crystal-clear on what you want the man to be like or what you want to get out of the relationship.

It’s about the experience you want to have!

When you focus on what the man is like – if he has kids, what his career is, what he looks like, etc – it causes you to focus outside of you and to give up your power to create what you want It feels like there is this “one specific person that must exist” in order for you to be happy, and that has you giving your power away.

When you focus on the experience you want to create, it’s not about looking for “one person” so that you can have the relationship you want, it’s about creating something that another person wants to be part of creating with you!

What do you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams?

Do you want to experience….

💕 laughing

💕 understanding

💕 calm communication

💕 affection

💕 soul-level intimacy

💕 fun

💕 respect

💕 unconditional love

💕 having a best friend and someone championing you in life

💕 feeling heard

💕 travel the world

💕 adventures

💕 honesty and faithfulness

The second thing you need in order to begin experiencing the relationship of your dreams is to have the skills to create your crystal-clear vision.

You may say you want a cheerleader and best friend as a partner in life, but then you spend time protecting yourself and criticizing every man that comes along.

You may say you want to have fun and adventure, but then don’t want to spend time meeting new men on the app.

See the disconnect? Fear is standing in the way of you attracting what you want.

How do you recognize that there’s a fear that’s running you?

That’s where we come in!

A coach will tell you when and where you’re sabotaging yourself.
A coach will support you in seeing what you can’t see.

We will show you the fears you have and the masks you may be wearing that are blocking you from having the love you want.

AND, we’ll teach you how to get those Love Barriers out of the way so that you can begin experiencing the love, happiness, and intimacy you desire and deserve!

We will cause you to have a breakthrough!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough so you can actually start experiencing the kind of love you desire, then join us tomorrow, Saturday, July 17th at 12pm ET for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you?

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

When you don’t have the conscious knowledge of what’s holding you back, all you can do is what you already know to do. And if you keep doing what you’ve always done – all you can hope to experience is what you’ve always had.

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do differently so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams… starting right NOW!!!

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