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Have Online Dating Work For You Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 20, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

What is the number one question you have when it comes to online dating?

Does it have anything to do with your profile?

These are the questions we get asked the most….

❓ Why do I keep attracting the wrong kind of men?

❓ Why are none of the men I’m matching with reaching out?

❓ What should I include in my profile?

❓ What shouldn’t I include?

❓ What sites are the best to get on?

❓ What type of photos should I use?

We’re going to be answering ALL of these questions, plus more tomorrow at our Ultimate Attraction Dating Profile Workshop, but we wanted to give you just a few tips today.

So let’s dive in!

When it comes to online dating, your profile is the most important part!

Why? Because you have 3-6 seconds to capture a man’s attention which means your photos and the first sentence of your profile must be captivating!

Here’s what NOT to do:

DON’T start with a list of adjectives

DON’T include a list of things you like to do

DON’T put a timeline of your life

DON’T list all of your educational or professional credentials

DON’T put pictures of you with alcohol or showing too much skin

DON’T use sarcasm or put yourself down

You want your profile to showcase who you really are! You want it to be refreshing, different and full of depth. The more natural it sounds, the more receptive men will be to it so make sure it shows your authentic you!

DO make the first sentence inviting and interesting

DO introduce yourself the way you would introduce yourself at a party

DO start with “I am a woman who is….” and follow with something you’re really interested in

DO share something that you’re passionate about

DO be lighthearted and fun

Do be authentically yourself

These tips are so basic they often get overlooked.

And truthfully, these are things most women think they’re doing… but then we get our eyes on their profile and we know exactly why they’re attracting the type of men they are.

If you’re ready to start attracting the right kind of men in online dating, join us tomorrow for the Ultimate Attraction Online Dating Profile Workshop!

We’re going to be teaching you exactly what you need to know to have clarity around what to do before, during and after you create your online dating profile so that you attract high-quality, commitment-minded, ready-for-love men who will be ready to partner with you in creating the relationship of your dreams!

We’ll be answering your questions, giving you coaching and having hands-on activities so that you walk away with a profile that starts giving you the results you’ve been waiting for.

Have Online Dating Work for you Now!

In this hands-on, interactive workshop on how to attract the RIGHT man online, you’ll discover:

what to do before you ever type the first word or post the first picture on your profile that will make the difference between whether you attract the right man or not
what to put in your profile to make sure you’re attracting a man who is a perfect match for you
how to make sure your profile gets noticed by the right guys, not the ones who want to play games or be pen pals
and more!

Stop wasting your time attracting the wrong men online and learn how to create a profile that attracts the high quality, commitment-minded man you want to meet, get to know and marry!

Register Here!

Stop Repelling Men and Receive Extraordinary Love Instead!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 30, 2021 | Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance

by Gladys Diaz

Do you over-give in relationships?

Do you have a pattern of cooking dinner for men, offering to pay for things, giving gifts, or constantly planning dates?

If you answered yes, do your thoughts sound like these?

“If I do enough, I’ll be good enough”

“If I give enough, he’ll want me.”

“If I prove how good I am, someone will see that and stay.”

Overgiving is a pattern that doesn’t work in dating. It doesn’t work because masculine men need to provide and give in order to feel on purpose in the relationship.

It also doesn’t work because it will always lead you to feeling resentful and dissatisfied.

I used to do this in dating relationships.

I would give and give – and give some more – and then all the sudden I’d start feeling resentful. I’d think, “He’s just using me!” — even though he’d never asked me to do any of it!

I had all of the thoughts listed above, I was doing all of the things above and, you guessed it, it wasn’t working.

You see, underneath a pattern of over-giving is a self-worth conversation.

You’re either trying to hide what you’re afraid they’ll see in you – or – You’re trying to overcome something you believe already exists in you.

Either way, none of it is true!

The thing is – it’s not enough simply to know it’s not true.

It’s about what you’re going to do to breakthrough it!

So…

Why do you feel you need to prove your value?

What’s driving the pattern of behavior?

What need is being fulfilled?

Is it a need to be liked and accepted? Is it a need to feel needed or valuable to someone?

The first step in breaking through a pattern of overgiving is to get connected to what belief is driving the behavior.

Once you’ve gotten clear on that – you get to start questioning it. You get to go to the very center of why that belief exists and do the Heartwork to create something entirely different inside you.

You get to transform the belief so that the behavior disappears.

And once you do that, you get to a point where those beliefs don’t even phase you anymore. When the thought pops up, you can immediately shift and move on!

How amazing would that be?!

Through doing this Heartwork you will replace these patterns and be out there in the dating world in your Irresistible Essence, authentic self and attracting the man that will love and appreciate you for all of it!

Are you ready to shift these patterns? Are you ready to transform them once and for all?

If you answered yes, the Extraordinary Love Intensive, is what you need and it’s just around the corner! It’s happening next weekend and you don’t want to miss it!

This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the patterns that are causing you to repel men and relationships (and overgiving is a big one!) and have you transform so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams.

After the event there will be no more trying to prove your value or doing too much in a relationship.

After the event you will not only know how to step back and be in your feminine receiving energy, but you’ll feel comfortable and naturally do so!

Join us for the Extraordinary Love Intensive by claiming your ticket now!

Remember, there’s a hurt or pain that hasn’t been healed when you’re compensating with overgiving behavior. It’s time to heal so you can experience happiness, joy, abundance, love, partnership support and so much more inside an extraordinary relationship!

How to Stop Rushing and Start Believing It’s Coming

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 23, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, heartache, keeping the love alive, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Are you feeling impatient with dating?

Are you wondering if it’s ever going to happen for you?

Does it feel like it’s taking sooooooo long, you’re beginning to wonder if you even care anymore?

I remember feeling that way.

I remember feeling extremely disappointed in the experience I was having with dating.

I remember after I’d gotten divorced I had this incredible feeling like, “Wow! I finally have a chance to have everything I want now!”

It wasn’t too long before I realized it may not be as fun or as easy as I’d thought it would be and I began to want to give up.

I know the feelings.

I know the stirring of impatience.

…wondering if it’s ever going to happen for me.

…the frustration.

…the (what seemed like) endless crying.

… questioning my judgement because I kept picking the wrong men.

…wanting to give up and instead, focus on my kids and my career.

I know how all of that feels which is why it’s become our mission to share what we learned with you.

Why is it so important to stay patient while dating?

So you can maintain the excitement for it, which will have you attract exactly what you desire.

And so that you don’t go into desperation and are able to stick with the process as you develop the skills.

There are three important things to remember while dating:

Have Faith.

Believe that it’s going to happen for you. It wouldn’t be a desire in your heart, if it wasn’t meant to happen for you.

Believe that you’ll find the right coach.

Believe that what is meant for you is coming if you simply stay the course.

Believe in Yourself.

Know that you can turn your patterns around.

Know that you’ll be able to stay strong and committed through the process.

Know that you can do it.

You can create anything your heart desires. Believing that I deserved it is what changed everything for me.

Follow Through on the Promises you Make to Yourself.

If you don’t stand for yourself and for what you want, you will grasp for anything you can get. You will go into desperation mode and won’t let it happen naturally.

Lean into the coaching and training you are in this community to have. If you don’t, you’ll talk yourself out of the miracle that’s waiting for you.

My life became miraculously magical when I did the HeartWork. Everything, not just my love life, began to shift.

Everything changed when I learned to take my time and BE the kind of woman that could attract the man I wanted.

There was no rush because I knew it was coming.

Imagine what it would be like to BE in your life like that?

To live without rush or desperation because you know it’s already on its way and that, not only do you deserve it, but that you have the skills to create it.

You deserve to have the type of love you want. You deserve to have your heart’s desire!

The Extraordinary Love Intensive is just around the corner and if you’d like to shift your love life (not to mention your whole life!) when you need to join us!

This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the barriers holding you back so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams.

After the event there will be no more thinking it’s never going to happen or that being in the relationship your heart desires is not for you.

After the event you will know it’s coming for you, believe in yourself and your ability to create it and have the skills to follow through and stay the course!

Claim your ticket here.

Remember, it wouldn’t be a desire in your heart if it wasn’t meant to happen for you.

See you at the Extraordinary Love Intensive!

Stop Dysfunctional Dating Patterns and Create the Love You Want Now

by heartsdesireintl | May 4, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to end your dysfunctional dating patterns?

You know… those patterns that keep repeating themselves, causing heartache relationship after relationship?

Are you ready to stop tolerating less than the results you want from the relationships you keep attracting?

Are you ready to feel free, have fun in dating, and create real love?

Are you ready to be in a relationship with someone you feel completely connected to and who’s 100% in love and committed to you?

If you aren’t experiencing the results you want in your dating life, chances are you have some dysfunctional patterns that you NEED to shift before you can create the relationship of your dreams.

Not sure if you have a dysfunctional dating pattern?

Here’s a hint: If something happens 3 or more times, it’s a pattern!

Here’s another hint: Dysfunctional patterns always have a fear and a commitment behind them. They always show up because of a need that’s not being met.

Can you relate to continually attracting…

relationships that start strong and then the man ends it for another woman?
men who aren’t available?
men who say they’ll do something, then don’t?
attracting long-distance relationships that don’t go anywhere or end up being scams?
attracting men who aren’t trustworthy?

These are just a few.

What are your patterns?

So, how do you end the dysfunctional cycle these patterns create?

Identify the fear feeding the pattern.

What is the fear that’s beneath your pattern?

What’s the limiting belief underneath the fear?

The fear you have fuels the limiting belief, which then creates the pattern.

The result you get confirms the fear and belief and continues the pattern.

It’s a vicious cycle!!

2. Get to the source of where the fear started for you.

What experience or situation first created this experience?

What are you getting out of continuing this pattern?

How does it strengthen your fears and limiting beliefs?

Once you have uncovered the fear and the source of the fear, then you can break through the pattern so that you no longer carry the energy that keeps attracting it to you.

When you’ve transformed these fears and limiting beliefs, then you get that you can be 100% in love with YOU, and you come into your irresistible essence!

You have a deep feeling of worthiness, you know that you are loveable, you’re alluring, authentic, and so much more!

The fact is, low-quality men will not be attracted to you when you’re in your high-vibe Irresistible Essence.

They simply won’t.

When you master the process of healing and disappearing the fears and limiting beliefs you have, then, and only then, can you actually transform your experience and create the results you want.

If you want to have a massive breakthrough and shift your dating experience FAST then you NEED to join us at the Unleash Your Irresistible Essence Retreat!

This three-day, immersive experience is designed to create a radical shift in your dating life.

After attending the retreat, you will:

have the confidence and clarity you need to create the results you desire NOW
have dismantled and replaced your dysfunctional patterns
have unleashed the power to create the extraordinary love your heart desires

We have very few seats left, so don’t think or second-guess yourself out of this incredible opportunity.

Take action now.

Claim your spot for the Unleash Your Irresistible Essence Retreat

Once you break these patterns, you’ll stop attracting the wrong kind of men and have these dysfunctional experiences once and for all.

Imagine how amazing THAT will be!

Register to join us now.

The Secret to Going from Disappointed to Delighted in Dating!

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 6, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Guess what?

We have a little secret for you…. ready?!

Dating does not have to be a heavy, horrible or disappointing experience.

Dating can (and should be) enjoyable, exciting and fun!

The best part of the secret is that it’s up to you!

Now hear this, if you’re feeling disappointed with dating, you’re not alone which is why we’re sharing some tips on how you can create the experience you want to be having in dating.

First of all, if you’re feeling like dating isn’t being what you wish it would be, take a look at your mindset.

Are you afraid you won’t be attracted to anyone you meet?
Are men not responding the way you wish they would on the apps?
Do you feel like it’s an endless texting game and you never get asked on an actual date?
Do you worry that you won’t say the right thing?
Are you afraid a man won’t be attracted to you?

What are your thoughts about dating?

This is so important because if you’re having these types of thoughts and fears, and you’re unaware of them, most likely they are running the show and showing up in your experience.

Once you’re aware of them, you can do the Heart Work to turn them from beliefs into fleeting thoughts so that you’re not setting yourself up for disappointment but rather delight!

The second secret in loving dating is to let go of expectations.

Whether you’re disappointed about where you are in life right now versus where you thought you’d be or if your experience with a man isn’t adding up to what you hoped… those disappointments are coming from unmet expectations.

So, get honest with yourself and then stop making it mean anything.

You are where you are and what’s happening is what’s happening. You can either be someone who lets life dictate who they’re going to be OR you can be the kind of woman who decides how you’re going to show up no matter what.

When you let go of expectations and see dating (and life) as an adventure it becomes exciting and fun no matter what happens!

The third secret if you want dating to be fun, is to be prepared.

In order to be interested and interesting, show up knowing the answers to these questions:

What do I want him to know about me?
What do I want to know about him?

Being prepared allows you to let go of your worries and anxieties and make sure that the intention of the date (to get to know each other) is met!

And remember: this is not about being strategic, this is about being authentic.

Which leads us to the final secret…..

Be yourself!

Being yourself allows your fun side to come out which is what makes you attractive.

Being yourself allows you to be vulnerable which is what creates a connection.

Being yourself makes it possible for the man to get to know you.

Being yourself allows your irresistible essence to come out!

The real secret to having fun and experiencing joy in dating is to be the love you want to see!

By being honest about your fears and worries, letting go of expectations, showing up prepared and being yourself, you can (and will) experience all of the fun, joy and excitement dating has to offer.

It really is up to you!

Want some support in making this your reality?

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

Our clients not only reach the destination they’re aiming for by creating the relationship of their dreams, but they also enjoy the process of the journey! If you’re looking for a transformation in how you experience dating, let us support you now.

How to Attract the Man You’re Looking For

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 1, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Are you attracting the type of men you’re looking for?

Do you find yourself saying “I want a man who has this and who has that,” like you’ve got some type of quality assurance checklist?

Do you feel excited and hopeful after the majority of your dates, or do you feel disappointed most of the time?

If you’re not attracting the kind of men you want and the quality of your dates aren’t meeting your expectations, you’ll eventually feel disappointed, discouraged and no longer excited about dating.

You may wonder what’s wrong with you and why it’s not working.

Even if you are going on lots of dates, if the type of men you’re looking for aren’t the ones showing up, it’s frustrating.

Sound familiar?

If your answer is yes, do you know why you’re not attracting the type of men you want?

Do you want to know how?

Be willing to acknowledge and admit that you don’t have all the answers. If you’re stuck in the “I already know that” and “I already did that work,” then you’re never going to get anywhere. Open up to the possibility that there’s something you don’t know yet and that there’s something that’s stopping you.
Remember too, there are often many layers when it comes to beliefs and fears. Just because you’ve done some personal development work, doesn’t mean there’s not something else there. Be willing and courageous enough to get your blocks out of the way so you can have the kind of love you want.
Gain awareness about what’s stopping you. Even if you have all the dating skills and are attracting the right men, if you don’t have awareness about your own blind spots, dating leaves you feeling empty and like nothing works.

If you feel like you keep attracting the same type of man – and he’s not what you’re looking for – get curious about why. Look into your personal beliefs, patterns and fears, and see what’s connected.

When I was frustrated because I kept attracting the same type of men with all the same issues I didn’t want, I got curious.

Through my Heartwork, I realized that the issues the men were presenting were directly related to beliefs I had about myself that I’d formed as a child and throughout my life. When I did the work to shift those beliefs, the men I started attracting and the relationships I began creating changed.
Commit to doing whatever you need to do to have a breakthrough. Let go of hoping, wishing and waiting for things to change and for him to magically appear. We have worked with women that have been alone and waiting for 15, 20, even 35 years before they’ve committed to doing whatever it takes to create a shift. You don’t have to wait that long.

Yes, we believe in having faith. And you must have faith coupled with action.
Move forward with committed action! Clarify your online profile. Say yes to lots of dates! Be okay with things looking and feeling differently than you’re used to.

Your gut responds to your comfort zone, so it’s natural to feel a bit of fear when things start working differently than the patterns you’ve always had. Allow your brain time to reorient and keep moving forward, even if it feels kind of strange.
Allow yourself time to get to know men and see them through the lens of the relationship of your dreams. If you say you want a relationship with a kind, loving, passionate man who doesn’t have kids, and then you meet a man that is kind, loving and passionate who does have kids, that doesn’t mean you’re not attracting the right type of men! It simply means you prefer to date a man who doesn’t have children.Be open to the idea that you may find something great in someone who’s circumstances aren’t exactly what you thought you’d prefer. And if you are clear that it’s not what you want, choose to let it go and know that the right men are out there and the next one is coming.

Here’s the thing, so much is possible when you open yourself up and do the inner work to discover why you’re not attracting the men you want.

This is why we do the work we do. We help women to see their blind spots and breakthrough them so they can create the relationship of their dreams.

We know that all the dating skills, tricks, and how-to’s don’t mean anything unless there is clarity on the inside.

If you’d like someone who knows how to ask the right questions and can help you recognize your personal blind spots so you can start attracting the type of men you want, then we are the coaches for you!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

Helping women to see the thing that holds the key to their freedom is why we do what we do, because when you see it, then you can do something about it.

Let us support you in connecting the dots so that you can create the relationship of your dreams now

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