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Vulnerability is the KEY to Connection!

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 22, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Did you know that vulnerability is your superpower?

Why?

Because vulnerability is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

So what does vulnerability look like?

Vulnerability is…

Trusting yourself to know who to trust
Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
Having clarity with yourself and living in an alignment with your values and who you really are.
The ability to be yourself without beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable?

Fear.

If you aren’t being 100% vulnerable with others then there is a fear at play behind the scenes.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think.

Fear that if you do _____ then ______ will (or wont’) happen.

Fear that if you say ________ then they will think _______.

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve.

Do any of these fears show up for you?

If you’re afraid of being vulnerable, there is some pain you’re trying to avoid or something you’re trying to force/make happen.

These fears lead us to either pretend, hide, or resist.

They lead us to try to control how everyone around us thinks and feels.

They lead us to think that we must show up one way in order to get a certain reaction from people.

How exhausting!

What’s worse is that people can usually pick up on the inauthenticity.Most people are be able to feel the insecurity behind everything you’re trying to cover up, and, eventually, it will all come out.

Imagine going on a date with you and all of the things you’re trying to control…
It’s you, him, and a pile of fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs sitting across from each other.

Doesn’t sound very fun, right? Or very real.

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection?

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears.

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected.

You practice. The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Now, we know that it’s usually easier said than done. (If you knew how to do all of this, you’d probably already be doing it, right?)

Doing the HeartWork to tear down the walls of pretense and stepping into your authentic and Irresistible Essence takes knowing what to do, what not to do, and what to do differently.

That’s where we come in, and that’s why we’re inviting you to join us at the Extraordinary Love Intensive on March 12-14th! This 3-day event intensive is designed to have you break through your Love Barriers, transform your love life, and attract and create the extraordinary, loving relationship of your dreams!

You will come out of this incredible weekend having more clarity about who you are and the patterns that are holding you back. You’ll do some of the deep and transformational Heartwork that’s necessary to break these patterns and you’ll be so much closer to creating the relationship of your dreams. This is the work we usually only do with our clients, but we want to share it with YOU so that you can stop pretending and start BEing the authentic, vulnerable irresistible version of yourself that is going to have you attract an amazing man with whom you get to create Extraordinary Love!

Life doesn’t stop. Time is going to keep going by, no matter what choices you make.
Why not make a choice that’s going to lead to more joy, love, happiness and freedom in your life…And the kind of love you’ve always wanted?!

Claim Your Ticket Now!
Hurry! Before the 2-pay option goes away!

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward the life and love your heart desires!

The BEST Way to Easily Attract the Love You Want

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 5, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever find yourself lying in bed at night thinking these types of thoughts?

“Why didn’t I say the thing that I wanted to say on the date tonight?”

“I wonder if he hasn’t called because I told him I wanted to wait to have sex. Will anyone ever want to wait for me?”

“Am I going to lose myself again if I get into another relationship?”

“Do I need to compromise my values so that I can find a man?”

“Should I just settle for the guy who comes close to what I’m looking for?

Because of the years of work we’ve done with the thousands of women we’ve supported over the years, we know that these thoughts come up often when dating (and even when you’re in a relationship or when you’re married!).

If you’ve spent years learning how to “strategically” date, trying a bunch of different tactics to see if they , turning yourself into who you think you need to be in order for a man to be the right match, and not honoring your values or boundaries – after a while, you end up wondering who this version of you is and where the real you went.

That’s what makes dating and relationships so scary – not trusting that you won’t lose yourself in a relationship.

You worry about this because…

you’ve done it before.
you’ve convinced yourself that you have to be a certain way in order for a man to like you.
you’ve tried being yourself, and you feel like it doesn’t work.

What if you didn’t have to worry about this anymore?

What if you knew, not only exactly who you are, but what you desire so that you could start being 100% true to yourself in your relationships.

What if you were transforming and becoming the most authentic version of yourself, and that the men you associated with could see and be attracted to that?

Well, guess what? It can be true for you.

One of our clients recently said, “Now that I’ve been coaching with these amazing women, I’m finally getting that the work I get to do is about me and I’m falling in love with all the parts of myself.”

And that is having her attract a completely different type of man!

That’s what’s so powerful about the work we do with women.

When you can be true to yourself yourself and show up as 100% authentically, beautifully YOU, then you will attract the man that you want.

When you do the Heartwork, you get that you don’t need to focus on the man — not the man you’re attracting or the one you’re with.

You get that the one and only thing in this life that you have 100% control over is you, and you get that when you focus on you, the man you want will show up.

That’s why we’re hosting something incredible next week and we hope you’ll join us!

Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully You Challenge which starts on Monday, February 8th!

The BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge is for you if you’re ready to:

💜 Remove the mask you hide behind that’s blocking you from the love you want

💜 Find your voice and say what you want and feel without being afraid

💜 Stop pretending and not honoring your boundaries

💜 Stop settling for less than you want and deserve in relationships

💜 Stop doubting your ability to attract the man and relationship of your dreams

💜 Let go of the anxiety you feel around dating and relationships and have fun BEing YOU!

💜 And more!

It’s FREE to join and it’s going to be a gamechanger for you and your love life!

It’s time for you to know that you CAN be authentically YOU and attract a man who will love & cherish you for being the Irresistible Woman you are!.

Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU challenge!

What if on Valentine’s Day this year, instead of feeling sad that you don’t have your husband or partner, and wondering if that will ever change, KNEW that you are on your way to changing that and having the Extraordinary Love you want?

What if you broke through the thing that’s been holding you back from having that?

What if your doubts were gone and you see yourself showing up as the Irresistible YOU?

You have no idea what can happen between now and Valentine’s Day if you’ll join us for the challenge. It’s going to support you in taking yourself and your love life to a whole new level!

The thing is –

When you don’t trust yourself, you can’t trust others.

When you don’t love yourself, you can’t love someone else or openly receive someone else’s love.

And when you’re not connected to who you are and what you desire, you can’t create a genuine connection with a man that leads to lasting love.

Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOUchallenge so you can start showing up as 100% you.

And KNOW that when you’re BEing that – then you know that when the right man finds you and is 100% attracted to the real YOU, will fall and stay in love with the real you!

Join the Challenge Now!

How to Make Your Love Life a Priority

by heartsdesireintl | Jan 15, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Are you making your love life a priority?

Here we are at the beginning of a new year and, we’re willing to bet that you’ve listed your love life as one of your top priorities for 2021.

That’s great!

Now, what are you actually doing about it?

What actions are you taking to make sure that you start creating the love you want now?

The truth is that if you aren’t seeing the results you want to see in your love life, then your commitment is actually somewhere else.

Even if you’ve got a vision board created, you’ve set some goals, and your vision statement is written out; if you’re not taking committed action on this goal, it’s not going to happen.

And we get it. When you’re a highly driven woman, you have goals and you’re used to hitting them, it can be frustrating and tiring when you’re not seeing success in your love life.

So what do you usually do?

You focus on something else. Something you think you have more control over and feel more confident in.

Or you pretend that you don’t want to be in a relationship, that it’s not important to you, or that you’re 100% okay being single.

But here’s the thing…

There’s never going to be a better time to get committed to your love life.

If you’re waiting until that big project is complete, until you finish school, until your kids grow up, until you lose the weight,until you’re 100% healthy and have everything figured out…

it’s never going to happen.

One of the saddest things for us to hear from women who say they’ve been waiting 15, 20, 48 years to create the love they want. They never thought they’d be waiting that long, and can’t believe how much time has passed.

We want you to have the relationship of your dreams NOW!

We know that creating an extraordinary love and life requires making it a priority!

So how do you do that?

How do you make creating the love you want a priority in your already full, busy, and beautiful life?

Distinguish what’s most important to you.

What are the top five priorities in your life? Community? Friends? Family? Work? Home? Yoga? Health? Is your love life one of those top 5?

Ask yourself why those things matter to you.

Getting clear on why something is important to you, helps motivate you to put the time and energy into creating what you want to see.

Ask yourself why creating an incredible relationship is important to – and why is that important to you – and why is that important?
Keep going deep with yourself and getting to the heart of what you really want and why you really want it is critical to making sure you realize your goals!

Decide what actions you will commit to taking to move the needle forward.

What actions will you take daily, weekly and monthly to create progress in your love life? Aligning your actions with your priorities is the key to creating what you desire.

Once you have these things laid out – you should start feeling more aligned with yourself and your goals. You’ll start to see shifts in what you’re creating and what you’re attracting into your life.

If you’re still having a hard time – get curious about what’s getting in the way?
What’s in the gap between being clear with yourself about what you want?

If you’d like support with getting clear on what you really want, what’s stopping you from having that, and you want guidance in determining the actions that will help you most in creating the relationship of your dreams, then we want to talk to you!

Book a Love Breakthrough session with one of our coaches. They can’t wait to talk to you and help you start to put your priorities in order and begin creating the life and love your heart desires!.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

How to Create More Intimacy With Your Man

by heartsdesireintl | Nov 30, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Let me ask you a couple of questions:

How much connection and intimacy do you feel in your relationship?
How effective is your communication?

Did you know that communication and intimacy are 100% linked in a relationship?

Communication is key! You can have all the love in the world, and if you don’t know how to communicate effectively, then the relationship simply will not work.

98% of the coaching we do is around communication.

Why? Because it’s one of the most important aspects of any relationship (and it begins when you’re dating!).

99% of divorces and break-ups happen because root issues in a relationship never get resolved because the couple doesn’t know how to communicate clearly, effectively, and in a way that BOTH partners feel heard and understood.

Let me paint the picture for you of how this happens. I’m sure you’re going to be able to relate.

Do you ever have the experience when you’re talking to your partner that you’re not even sure whether you’re having the same conversation?

I remember before Ric and I learned the tools we teach now — sometimes it would feel like we were so far from being on the same page that it was like we weren’t even in the same room!

We were both so committed to being right that we weren’t even listening to each other.

We would be talking about something completely innocent, like what bread we like to buy, and then I would say something, Ric would say something different, which made me feel like he didn’t hear or understand what I said.

So, I’d say it again, but louder this time, and he still wouldn’t understand, and, before we knew it, we were yelling at each other, saying things we didn’t mean, being disrespectful, and hurting each other.

And then we wouldn’t talk for two or three days.

Well, we would talk a little, but it would be what I like to call the “caveman’s grunt.” I would ask Ric a question and he would give me a one-syllable or one-word answer under his breath, to let me know that he didn’t want to talk to me. (Ugh!)

Sound familiar?

That’s how break-ups and divorce happen.

Arguments start over silly (or sometimes important) things, the communication breaks down, and soon you’re arguing about something completely unrelated.

Then the silent treatment begins, and the real problem never gets resolved.

So, do you want some real communication tools?

Do you want to stop getting frustrated with your spouse, getting angry and then reacting instead of responding thoughtfully and intentionally?

Do you want to know what to say so that when your spouse says, “What did you say?” instead of repeating the same words louder, you can respond in a way that will make you feel understood and heard (and loved)?

Do you want to know how to utilize your intention, tone and body language in your communication to increase love and intimacy?

These are just a few of the things you’ll learn inside our Black Friday Special, the New Year New Love Bundle!

Grab the New Year, New Love Bundle Now!

We are passionate about supporting women to communicate effectively because we know personally the painful consequences poor communication can have on a relationship.

We want you to have all the tools that will have you communicate in a way that has you create the love, connection and intimacy you desire with your partner! .

Click here to amp up the intimacy in your relationship!

Tip: This offer goes away TODAY, so act now.

True or False? Men are Intimidated by Strong and Successful Women

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 11, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

True or False?

Men are intimidated and turned off by strong and successful women.

False!

It is a myth and limiting belief that men are intimidated by strong women.

The truth that we have discovered through working with hundreds of women is that you can be a strong, powerful and successful woman and create the loving, connected passionate relationship that you desire.

The key is creating an interdependent relationship and developing the Irresistible Essences in yourself that are attractive to a man.

A man admires and appreciates confidence and happiness in a woman. He loves knowing that the woman he’s with doesn’t depend on him for her happiness, but that he gets to come to the relationship and bring even more happiness into her life.

What a confident, high-quality man doesn’t like is being with a woman who tries to control him, change him, or show and tell him how he should do things. What he doesn’t like is when the woman constantly tries to take the lead.

That’s a total turn off.

There’s a big difference between the woman who is strong, successful, and capable and a woman who is intimidating, forceful, demanding or overbearing.

If you have a tendency to show up in the more forceful ways of being, you may have a pattern of control that you get to look at.

Ask yourself:
What’s going has me switch into “control mode??
Why is that showing up for me?
What am I afraid will or won’t happen if I’m not in control of a person or situation?

Fear wears many masks, and control is a big one.

Do you fear he’ll leave?

Do you fear you won’t be enough and, therefore, you’re always trying to prove something to yourself, him, and others?

Do you fear things won’t go the way you want them to if you don’t control the situation?

Let me tell you as a former control freak: It’s exhausting to try to be in control of everyone and everything!
It’s absolutely draining to be constantly trying to control your man, or the whole universe, for that matter!

Life is so much better when you let go and learn to allow and go with the flow.

I can tell you from my experience as a love coach that the best and most fulfilling way to have the most wonderful experience in a relationship is to do less.

That’s right!

Now… If the thought of not controlling anything scares you to your core, not to worry. There are still several thing you have 100% control over:

You get to be in control of your thoughts.

You get to be in control of your words.

You get to be in control of your behavior.

Everything else? Just let it go!

High-quality men, the kind I know you’re looking for, want to be with a woman who’s passionate, is up to big things in her life, and is the kind of woman who makes amazing things happen.

High-quality men have passions of their own and are up to big things, too.

The only men who aren’t turned off by a woman that tries to control everything are men who aren’t doing things with their own lives and want someone who will tell them what to do.

And we know you aren’t looking for a man like that!

It’s a practice of learning how to let go showing your partner that you trust him, and then letting things be.

It’s a practice because it takes effort – but it’s so worth it!

If you’re wanting to experience even more trust, openness and joy in dating and relationships, then you absolutely want to make sure that you join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE Virtual Live Event!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event is for strong, successful, powerful women who want SUCCESS in love now! This event is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

The regular ticket price is $497 – but right now it’s only $97 and that price ends TONIGHT at Midnight EST!

So if you know you want to attend and grab a seat for this super-low price, grab your ticket now!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

The other reason you don’t want to wait is because this year we’ll be sending you a special “LOVE Box” filled with gifts and materials you’ll be using during the event, and we only ordered a certain number of them. Once they’re gone, they’re GONE

So again, if you already know you want to attend and have a life-changing experience where you and your love life will never be the same, grab your ticket and your LOVE Box now!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

Whether you’ve come to the Irresistible Woman Live event in the past or not, this year is going to be very special, because there are things we can virtually that we couldn’t do before.

PLUS, there are people who would not normally be able to fly across the country, or across the world, who can come this year – so we know it’s going to be extra amazing!

This is a really special opportunity to share a powerful weekend together and have the transformation of a lifetime, and we can’t wait to see you there!

Let Go of the Wrong Man So You Can Attract the Right One

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 8, 2020 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

rby Gladys Diaz

Are you with the wrong guy?

Are you in a relationship that feels like settling?

Are you still hung up on a relationship that’s long been over, but you can’t seem to move on?

Are you frustrated feeling like you’re never going to be able to find the right person to bring into your life?

The answers to these questions are so important, because there is no way to create the relationship of your dreams if you’re stuck in something that’s not it. It can get tricky, because sometimes you may be open to seeing the red flags, and sometimes you’re not.

So how do you know if you’re with the wrong guy?

If you have clarity and know what you want to be experiencing in the relationship of your dreams, then you know when you’re not in it.

You must get crystal-clear on what it is that you want to feel and experience when you’re with the right guy in order to know when you’re with the wrong one.

Now, “crystal-clarity” isn’t the laundry list of what you want your guy to look like or have. It’s about the experience you have when you’re with him.

Do you feel at peace when you’re with him?
Can you be yourself?
Is the relationship aligned with your values and what’s important to you?

When you know what you want – it becomes crystal clear if you’re in it or not. It becomes less about looking for “red flags” and more about looking at what you’re actually experiencing when you’re around him, and then deciding if it’s aligned with what you really want.

Why is this important?

It’s important because, if you’re not having the experience you want to have in the relationship of your dreams, then the truth is: You’re settling.

We know why you stay.

You think maybe he’ll come around.
You think maybe he’ll change.
Maybe… if you wait a little longer… love him a little more… give more of yourself to him…

If you find yourself in this pattern, listen up. Stop falling in love with “the potential” of what you think you see in a man, and start looking at what is actually there. Not from a judgmental place, but from a place of who he really is right now.

We also know that if you’re willing to settle in a relationship, then you’re struggling with your self-worth and self-esteem. You’re not getting that you really do deserve to have exactly what you want in a loving relationship.

When I was dating, this was me.

At one point, I was dating a man who was not only married, but was seeing three other women at the same time as me!

When I look back on that experience, I am dumbfounded as to what I was thinking, because, at the time, it didn’t even occur to me that maybe this wasn’t a good situation for me to be in.

Years later, I know what I was thinking. I was continuing in my pattern of thinking if I could just be enough or do something right, that he’d choose me. I had fun with him, but the experience of being in what I thought was a relationship with him was super stressful. I was always wondering who he was with and whether he was going to call! It was not fun at all!

It was not what I wanted, and this was blocking me from creating what I did want.

The even bigger risk is that staying in a wrong relationship like the one I was in can have long-term effects on your psyche and your self-esteem, and the time it can take to heal from that can be devastating.

Another aspect of being with the wrong guy is staying energetically connected to him, even after the relationship has ended.

The longest I’ve heard of a woman not being able to let go of a relationship is 17 years (that’s a teenager!)! 17 years of holding on to something that no longer existed and stopping herself from moving forward and creating the relationship she desired.

That’s heartbreaking!

So, what does it look like to let go?

First, you must bring acceptance to what is. You must realize that this relationship is not what you’re committed to creating and having, and accept that it needs to end. If it already ended, you need to accept that it’s over, once and for all.

Second, bring gratitude to the experience. Recognize the good memories, the lessons learned, and the people that may have come into your life through this person that are a blessing to you. When you feel gratitude for what was, it brings an empowerment to the choice you’re making to move on.

Third, you’ve got to realign yourself with your values. Your values are the compass you can use to guide your life. Though your boundaries and standards may change as the circumstances of your life change, your values – the things that matter to you most – will never change. Be true to and honor them, and you will always know you’re making the best choice for you.

Fourth, do the Heartwork to understand how you got there in the first place. What are the core issues that drive the pattern of attracting the wrong man? Behind every dysfunctional pattern there’s a need you’re filling. Get clear on what that is so that you can shift it.

Fifth, begin taking committed action in the direction you’re now going. If you’re having a hard time letting go, make the choice to “lock the door” and move on! Take a stand, set boundaries and choose to move forward.

We know that a lot of this is “easier said than done” when you don’t know exactly how to do it on your own. Think about it… If you knew what to do and how to do it, you would have moved on from this relationship a long time ago.

If any or all of this sounds all too familiar, we’d love to support you in finally letting go of the past, the wrong relationships, and anything that is holding you back from having the relationship of your dreams.

One of the fastest and most life-changing ways to do this is to join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want SUCCESS in love is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

In these three days, you are going to get connected to who you truly are, experience transformations and breakthroughs in your relationship with yourself, break free from the past, and create the access for creating the relationship of your dreams!

Whether you’re deeply desiring to attract the man or you want to create your dream relationship with the man you’re already with – this event is for you!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

You’ll even get a special “LOVE box” filled with cool swag and materials we’ll be using during the event IF you’re one of the first 100 people to grab your ticket.

Once the swag boxes are gone, they’re GONE, so don’t miss out on getting yours mailed to you before the event!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

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