I don’t know if you’re aware of it, because these things are usually going on in the subconscious, as blind spots, but there are things that you are telling yourself that are actually stopping you from having the love you want.
The frustrating part about it is that, because you’re not aware that they are lies, you actually believe them. To you, they are the truth! And, unfortunately, these are the very thoughts and words that are keeping you stuck in your love life!
I shot a really quick raw-and-real, tough love video, and I hope you’ll give yourself a few minutes to watch it because this could actually transform your life as you know it!
Most people in your life won’t tell you what I’m telling you in this video. In fact, many of them are agreeing with you and helping you to continue believing the lies. So, it’s with an incredible amount of love that I want to share this with you, because I see you bigger than any thought or fear or excuse you may have! To me you are amazing and you deserve everything your heart desires!
Watch the video and tell me what you think!
P.S. You really can get unstuck and it doesn’t have to be hard. Simply stop believing the lies I talk about in this video and trust me! We can get to the other side of this together!
I realize that today can be a bitter-sweet days for some people, given that the day is focused on love — primarily romantic love — and it can be painful if you’re not in a relationship, or in a relationship that’s not going well at the moment. If you’re not focused — truly focused — on the love that’s all around and within you, you can actually find yourself feeling Toxic Emotions, such as jealousy, sadness, or loneliness.
So, what can you do to make today a happy day, and one where you are able to see, receive, and give love, no matter what your relationship status is?
1. Gather evidence of love all around you.
Rather than trying to resist or reject all of the signs of love around you today, look for evidence of love and pull it toward you. One thing you can do is put your hands over your heart when you see evidence of love today — whether it is a picture of flowers someone received, or a couple holding hands, or anything having to do with love and romance — and, rather than get hurt, angry, or resentful, with your hand on your heart, say something like, “I’m so happy for her/them, and I can’t wait to feel that way, too!” or “I’m so happy for her/them! I send them love and receive that love as it comes back to me!”
2. Make a Love Plan for yourself.
If you haven’t already planned out what you are going to do to fill your day with love, take the time to do it now! Plan to do something nice for yourself, get yourself a token of your own love for yourself, and make plans with friends or family. Isolating yourself only reinforces the belief “I am alone,” and that only deepens any feelings of sadness or separation you may be feeling today. So, rather than being reactive and closing yourself off, surround yourself with the people and things you love and enjoy. You, more than anyone else in the world, deserve your own love, so be generous in giving that love to YOU!
3. Bask in Gratitude.
One of the most powerful and transformative energies we can embody and practice is gratitude. As you gather evidence of love and fill yourself up with love, remember to truly feel and express thanks for the things, people, and blessings you have in your life. It’s virtually impossible to be angry and grateful or upset and grateful at the same time. When you choose to turn your heart and thoughts to the things for which you are grateful, you are making a conscious choice to not allow negative thoughts and feelings to overtake you. Does this mean you have to “pretend” you don’t feel the sadness or upset? No. Resistance only has those feelings strengthen and persist. Instead, feel the feelings, acknowledge that they are there, and then choose to release them. And, as you release them, fill the space left by the negative feelings with thoughts of the things, people, and blessings for which you are grateful. This practice can leave you feeling empowered, rather than disempowered, as you will come to see just how able you are of navigating through and your emotions with power, grace, and ease!
Putting these simple practices in place today (and every day) can help you manifest and experience love, joy, peace, and gratitude, which are highly magnetic emotions and can truly shift your state as well as your experience of living and loving!
My heart-felt wish for you today is that you are able to see, feel, and create love all around and within you and that you come to the indisputable realization that…
This weekend was one of those non-stop, every-minute-planned, busy-but-”good busy” weekends!
Usually, I hate this kind of weekend, because I love just being able to relax with my family. However, this weekend it was all about fueling my family’s dreams, and that’s what made it exciting, instead of exhausting!
It all started on Thursday morning where I rushed to get my older son tickets to go see a mechanical engineer that works with NASA and then rushed him over there in the evening so that he could watch the 2-hour lecture.
Here’s the thing. My idea of a fun evening is NOT listening to and watching descriptions of all of the rocks they are finding on Mars! However, my son’s dream is to be a mechanical engineer and one of the astronauts who will actually get to step on Mars, so, every time I looked over and saw the wide-eyed look of wonder on my son’s face, and I just knew he was envisioning himself standing there, I had to smile, and that made it worth it! (And, I’ll admit, the rovers are pretty cool, too!)
Then, on Saturday morning, we rushed him over to a magnet high school that specializes in Pre-Engineering coursework so that his four years of high school are focused on what he really dreams of and wants to do.
Here’s the thing: This school is over 30 minutes away from our home and we’ll have to wake up at 5:30am to get him there on time, and there is a perfectly good school only 10 minutes away from our house! However, it doesn’t specialize in engineering. So, while it’s not convenient, we’ll be getting up at the crack of dawn (literally) for the next four years to make sure he gets a head start on making his dream come true.
After that, we rushed him to his campout (he also dreams of being an Eagle Scout) and then it was time to fuel our little one’s dream of being a race car driver!
Here’s the thing: I don’t like racing. It’s not my “thing.” But he dreams of driving race cars for NASCAR, and there was an exhibition race in town (the first-ever of it’s kind in the U.S.), so we surprised him as one of his early birthday presents.
Was it worth it? Well, you tell me.
When your little one looks at you, all wide-eyed and emotional and says, “Best. Birthday. Ever!” and then hugs you as he says, “Thank you, Mommy.” What do you think?
(I think “Yes! Soooo worth it!”)
And then Sunday was all about fueling my dreams!
Michelle and I are rebranding Heart’s Desire International, and we wanted pictures that are aligned with our message, our mission, and our vision for women around the world having both the life and the love their hearts truly desire!
We had the opportunity to work with an amazing photographer who is a colleague of mine, and we got to have our hair and makeup done, wear beautiful clothes our stylist helped us pick out, and take amazing photos in Downtown Miami!
(These pics are just selfies taken by us. Professional photos to come soon!)
It was a long day! Lots of changing, walking, driving, changing again, and smiling until our cheeks hurt, but again, so worth it!
My favorite parts were spending time with my twin (always fun!), especially when we were just being our silly selves, and when our husbands and my sons joined us for photos, since they are such a huge part of our mission!
And the entire time we were taking our pictures, YOU were on our minds!
Why?
Because one of the best parts of our business is that our dreams can only come true when we help you make your dreams come true!
Look, I know that “making dreams come true” can sound a bit “woo-woo” or cliche, but that really is what we are all about: Helping you take the steps you need to take so that you can have both the life and love your heart desires.
It’s what we’ve dedicated our lives to doing!
So, for just a minute, I want you to think about your relationship dreams.
What is it that you truly want to experience in the relationship of your dreams?
When you look at the thoughts you have about that dream and the actions you are taking every day, are your thoughts and actions fueling your dreams, or your doubts?
Are you spending more time thinking about and really taking the action steps that will lead you to having the kind of relationship you say you want, or are you giving fuel to the fears and doubts that have you thinking that that vision is possible for others, but not you?
And do you have the skills that you need to distinguish, dismantle, andreplace those fears and doubts so that you can consistently take inspired action that is directly aligned with making your dreams come true?
If so, then you know you are because you’re already living in a happy, loving relationship that fuels your dreams every day.
If not, then it’s simply time to begin fueling your dreams by getting clear around what it is you truly want and what thoughts and actions you need to stop and start so that you can manifest the kind of relationship you desire or deserve.
Because, here’s the thing: Every thought you have and every action you take is giving you the results you have now.
So, if you’ve been fueling your dreams, congratulations! We’re so happy for you and love hearing success stories, so please comment below and share them with us!
And, if you’re not (YET), then let’s talk, because there is no better time to begin fueling your dreams then right now, and we’d love nothing more than to help you do just that!
You deserve to have the love of your dreams, Beautiful!
Today we’re celebrating Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. in the United States, and, aside from relishing having a day to spend with my family, I also wanted to take a few minutes to reflect and remember why this day is so important.
If I had to use just three words to describe Dr. King and his life, the words would be faith, love, and hope. And, of course, all of these were enveloped in his dream.
As I was looking through some of his inspirational quotes, I came across this one:
“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”
As soon as I read it, I immediately thought back to my family’s vacation to Hawaii in November, and the way I felt when I stood inside the volcano crater and looked up at the tiny staircase that was miles and miles away, at the top of the mountain (see the photo below, and you’ll see the staircase at the upper left-hand corner).
I remember thinking, “How in the world will I ever make it up there, especially with my fear of heights and the pain in my knee?”
I didn’t know how I’d make it, but I did know one thing:
I was NOT going to allow my fear to stop me from getting to the top of that mountain and witnessing the view from up there!
So, I started climbing.
And, yes, I was scared. I got dizzy a few times. My feet slipped on the rocks. And the pain in my knee became almost unbearable the higher we climbed.
But I had faith that something beautiful, something I’d never seen or experienced before, was waiting for me at the top of that mountain and on the other side of my fear. So I climbed!
And, when I got to the top of the mountain, it was so worth it! I’d climbed my first mountain, the view was absolutely breathtaking, and I was experiencing it all with the three guys I love most in this world!
Honestly, it was MORE than worth it!
So, why am I telling you this?
I know that love and relationships can be scary. There is so much uncertainty because there aren’t any guarantees.
You don’t know if it’s going to work out with the guy you are seeing.
You’re afraid of having your heart broken again.
It feels safer to stay where you are, even though it’s not where you want to be.
I get it.
However, staying where you are — whether you are single or in a relationship that is stagnant or not working — is the surefire way to NOT get to where you truly desire to be: The place where you feel loved and adored. That amazing place where you know that you know that you are loved!
Maybe it’s been a long journey for you.
Maybe you feel like the pain is more than you can take.
Or maybe you’re just tired of trying.
Whatever your “mountain” is, I promise you that if you will have your faith be stronger than your fear, if you are willing to focus on your desire more than your doubt, and if you are courageous enough to take that first step in the direction of your dreams, with the right guidance and support, you WILL get to the place where you are in the relationship your heart desires with the man who is absolutely right for you.
If you’re ready to take that first step and you want to know exactly how to do that, then it’s time for you to have a Love Breakthrough! Simply use the link below to schedule time for us to talk and together we will take a look at what your personal love goals are, distinguish what has been stopping you from attracting that loving relationship to you, and what your best first step is for getting the happy, loving relationship your heart desires.
Having the love you want isn’t about learning a bunch of generic tips, tricks or strategies. Your personal love goals are yours to achieve, and knowing the right steps for you to take is critical in order for you to have the love you want! Take that first step of FAITH, and I’ll be waiting to help guide you to the other side!
Happy Thanksgiving to those of you who live in the U.S. and celebrate this wonderful holiday!
Today, my heart is overflowing with thanks!
For the past two weeks, I have been in Hawaii, enjoying more natural beauty than I even knew existed! From beautiful beaches, to majestic mountains, and breathtaking sunsets, it has been one miraculous moment after the other.
If you would have told me a few years ago that I would be spending Thanksgiving with my husband and kids on this amazing island, I probably would not have thought it would be possible.
Yet, here we are! And every moment of this trip has been a dream come true!
While some people may say that I should have come alone with my husband for a romantic getaway, I’ll tell you what I know to be true! Love and romance are a creation! We get to create as much love, passion, and romance as our hearts desire. And, while, yes, perhaps it may have been a bit more romantic to be here without the kids, that hasn’t stopped us from creating some truly romantic moments while we’ve been here.
The first one happened at the Pearl Harbor Memorial, I mentioned to my husband that I would love to have a unique souvenir that I would see and use often and that would remind me of our trip. Before we left Pearl Harbor, we saw a small kiosk selling Hawaiian pearls. As soon as I saw the pendant of “The Tree of Life,” I gasped! It was so beautiful and original, and the monument had moved me to tears. Plus, knowing that the tree symbolizes rebirth, renewal, and a reminder that we are all interconnected made it all the more special!
I kept going between wanting the ring or the pendant, because they were both so beautiful! Then, my husband surprised me by telling the saleslady, “She’ll take both of them!” I squealed with delight as my eyes watered up and I wrapped my arms around his neck and gave him a sweet, long kiss!
The saleslady’s eyes watered, too, and she said, “How cute! How long have you two been together?”
“17 years,” I
answered.
“Wow! And he is still like that with you? You are lucky!”
“Yes. I’m blessed,” I said, and gave him another hug!
Then the next day, after driving all over the island to find the perfect spot to watch the sunset, because I mentioned that I wanted to see the sun set the previous day,” there was a Hawaiian man with a dreamy voice who began to sing, “What a Wonderful World.”
That happens to be one of my favorite songs, and with the sun setting, my husband and my kids there with me, the words took on a whole new meaning, and, again, my eyes watered as I looked over at my husband and smiled.
He stood up, came around to my side of the table, and drew me into his arms so that I could dance with him! No one else was dancing, and it didn’t matter. We just stared into each other’s eyes and danced! Another moment I will never forget!
So, why am I telling you all of this?
Because THIS is the kind of love you can have!
I’m not “lucky” and this relationship didn’t “just happen.” I have spent over two decades learning about what makes love last, I practice what I teach in my marriage ever single day, and making sure that you experience the joy of KNOWING that you are loved every single day of your life is why I do the work I do!
No matter where you are in your love life, whether you are single and ready to attract the man of your dreams, or you are in a relationship and you want to continue making the love grow deeper, stronger, and more passionate with time, YOU can have the loving relationship your heart desires!
You can learn the secrets to BEing a Simply Irresistible Woman — the kind of woman a man can’t help but love, and adore, and desire!
That’s why you want to make sure you keep your eyes open for our Black Friday special. We have NEVER offered such a generous sale before, and, honestly, we don’t plan on doing it again.
If you’re ready to start turning your love life around and you want to be the kind of woman who can attract and create a forever kind of love, then make sure you mark your calendar for midnight (12:00am ET) Friday, because this is an once-in-a-lifetime simply irresistible offer that can help you experience and have love for a lifetime!
This past weekend Michelle and I had the honor of speaking at the Women’s Prosperity
Network’s UNConference and sharing with the ladies in the audience the secrets to being an Unstoppable Woman in business and a Simply Irresistible Woman in your love life!
One of the parts of the talk that most resonated with the women was where we give them “The CPA’s of Love.” No, we’re not accountants, but we can tell you about the things that will either make deposits or withdrawals to the levels of love and intimacy you feel in your relationship and will either INSPIRE your man or push him away!
Well, we got so much positive feedback that I decided to shoot a short video so that you can have that information, too!
Just watch the video below and share in the comments what you’re biggest “a-ha” or take-away is and which action step you are going to take!
Having a wonderful relationship doesn’t have to be “hard.” Follow these simple steps and experience the magic of being a Simply Irresistible Woman!
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