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Here’s the Key to Being 100% Fulfilled in Dating!

by heartsdesireintl | May 28, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know the difference between values and boundaries versus standards, rules and expectations?

Are you allowing expectations and rules to determine who you date, or do you have a clear set of values and boundaries that you use to navigate the waters of dating?

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams, then there’s a breakdown in your values and boundaries OR you’re operating from a set of rules or standards.

So what’s the difference?

Rules and expectations are all about him or them.

“Is he doing this?” or “Why isn’t he doing that?”

When you have a lot of rules, you spend time looking for what he’s not doing or “should be” doing, and usually always end up disappointed.

“He doesn’t dress the way I wish he would.”

“He doesn’t make as much money as I want him to.”

“He doesn’t call me every morning.”

You turn minor quirks into non-negotiable deal breakers and have a frustrating experience dating.

On the other hand, values and boundaries are all about you.

Values are the things that you must live by in order to feel good.
They’re your guiding principles, what matters to you the most.

Having values is being 100% clear about what you do and don’t want to experience in life and then BEing that.

Boundaries are associated with the values you hold and determine what you will and won’t do or accept in your experience with others.

Values and boundaries are inside yourself.
You’re either living in alignment with them, or you’re not.

It’s that simple.

And it makes making decisions in dating (and life!) easy!

When you’re operating from that space, it’s not about a checklist of criteria someone has to meet.

It’s about making sure the experience you’re having is in alignment with your values.

What are your values?

How can you know when you’re aligned and when you’re not?

When you’re not honoring yourself and your values and boundaries, you feel insecure, uncertain, unhappy and out of your power.

Even if you’re having fun in a dating experience that’s out of alignment, you won’t feel fulfilled. There will be a part of you that knows it’s not what you want.

When you’re living and making decisions in alignment with your values, you simply feel good and confident.

You feel empowered and in control of your experience.

You feel clarity and are fulfilled, no matter what the circumstances are outside of you.

If you’re unsure what your values are, look at your life.
When do you feel the most fulfilled and inspired?
What is it that makes you feel that way, and why?

The why will determine your values.

If you’d like some support looking inside to uncover what matters most to you and how you can apply values and boundaries to create more fulfillment in dating, book a Love Breakthrough Session now!

Click the link below and we’ll help you get clarity on what your values are and how to create boundaries that lead you to having fun and fulfillment in dating as you move toward having the relationship of your dreams!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

NOW is the Time to Become Unleashed!

by heartsdesireintl | May 21, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

When you’re not getting the results you want, it’s easy to look outside yourself and think it’s because of something outside.

When it comes to your love life, you may be doing everything you know how to do – and that’s actually the problem.

You are only able to do the things you know to do.

But what about the things you don’t know to do?

We know that when you’re doing everything you know to do and not getting the results you want – it gets frustrating.

That frustration can turn into anger and cause you to want to give up, “take a break” or quit altogether.

You’re angry because you’re unfulfilled.

You’re angry because there’s something in your life that you want and desire that’s not coming to fruition, and even if you make a little progress here and there, you’re still not free.

Are you allowing yourself to be in the shackles of your fears?

The fears of what you think will or won’t happen?

…about whether or not he’ll like you.

…about getting hurt or trying again?

Are you allowing yourself to stay burdened by the limiting beliefs that are holding you down?

Are you allowing yourself to stay stuck under the patterns you don’t know how to break, or wondering why everyone can have this “except me”?

If you’re allowing any of those things to keep hold of you, you’re not free.

Which is why we’re here to tell you, it’s time to become unleashed!

When you become unleashed you’re able to:

have the confidence and clarity you need to create the results you desire NOW
dismantle and replace your dysfunctional patterns
unleash the power to create the extraordinary love your heart desires

Becoming unleashed is about the energy you hold. Everything carries energy, which is why you manifest what you’re committed to!

When you become unleashed, you have a magnetic energy that has you, not only attract what you want in love and life, but also keep it!

Becoming unleashed means being ready for what you want, and then being able to actually receive it.

The fact of the matter is, if you’re not ready, you will miss it!

Even if the universe is sending you amazing men and incredible opportunities, they will slip right through your fingertips if you’re not ready.

Here’s the deal: If you want to be married by this time next year, you’ve got to get focused on this now!

You can have the happy, loving relationship you want, but how many more “laters” do you have?

Why wait a few more months? Or years?

Why wait until you have everything figured out?

The work we do supports you in your inner work – your Heartwork – while also learning how to date effectively, how to communicate in a way that he will understand you, and how to break patterns that have you want to be the pursuer or put the breaks on when it comes to dating and relationships.

Imagine what could be possible if you had the freedom to really be yourself?

Imagine what could open up for you if you stopped allowing your fear and doubt to win the game?

Once you become unleashed, you’ll stop experiencing the frustration these dysfunctional experiences create, once and for all, and you’ll begin to experience the JOY that comes from creating and having everything you want and deserve.

Imagine how amazing THAT will be!

If you are 100% ready and committed to breaking free from your past, unleashing your magnetic essence, and claiming the life and love you want, then you’re ready for a Love Breakthrough!

Click the link below and we’ll help you create a step-by-step plan to get you on track to having the love you want NOW!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

Extraordinary Success AND Extraordinary Love!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 15, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

4by Gladys Diaz

There are many women who believe they have to choose between having a successful business or a great relationship. They truly don’t believe it’s possible to have both.

What do you believe?

Here’s the deal: if you believe that you can’t have both, you are living in a scarcity conversation, and you’re actually blocking the success you could be experiencing in BOTH!

This week on Love Chat with the Love Twins, we featured some incredible women, colleagues and dear friends of ours, who are rocking it in their business as well as their love lives. Through these conversations, we really highlighted how not only is it possible for you to have both – but it actually makes all of it even better!

In one of the interviews, we got to hear from Amy Yamada’s partner, Ken, who shared his experience as a man being in partnership with such an incredible and successful woman!

High-quality men want to support, be in contribution to, and pour into a high-quality woman. Ken shared how much more attracted he was to Amy knowing that she was an entrepreneur and motivational speaker.

For her, at first, she felt uneasy sharing about her business with him for fear of being in here “masculine” energy. But when she decided to lean into being her authentic self, which includes being an entrepreneur , it allowed him to really see her, and it ended up being one of the things that most attracted him to her.

He said he simply wouldn’t have been attracted to her if she had not led with that.

NOT the fact that she was a business woman, but that she was AUTHENTIC.

What more proof do you need, ladies?!

Men want to support us.

I’ll never forget, years back, when I was crying – sitting in a restaurant with tears flowing down my face because I’d just been on off the phone with my business coach. I was feeling so defeated that I didn’t know what all of the tech terms meant or what all of this software I needed was, and didn’t know how I was ever going to be successful in my business.

Ric saw the opportunity, and he literally learned how to create funnels, build websites and do all-things-tech related to our business, simply as a result of wanting to support me and my dream. All these years later and I can’t even imagine where I, or Hearts Desire International for that matter, would be without him. (And now he has a great business of his own doing this for other people, too! Talk about a win-win!)

The other reason why men love being with high-quality, successful, driven women is because it inspires them to be more.

I’ll also never forget the day when I heard Ric, my very soft-spoken husband, stand on one of our stages at an event and said, “Seeing how committed Gladys is to her own transformation inspires me to become a better man.”

Definitely another tearful moment for me!

Until then I knew he admired the things I did, my career, and professional accomplishments But that day, he was talking about what he admired about ME and the woman I am! No award,degree, or certificate can hold a candle to that!

The absolutely beautiful thing about creating a partnership with someone who loves and admires you for your determination and commitment in the world is what you can create together.

It also gives you the opportunity to lean on one another and lift each other up when you have days where you’re having a hard time seeing it in yourself.

Supportive partners see you, experience you and hear you in a way that you sometimes fail to see, and they can share your life, your success, and all of the ordinary-extraordinary moments with you as you continue to strive for success in business and love.

If you have a limiting belief that you need to choose between business and love then we have something very important to share with you.

In just two weeks we’ll be hostingThe Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event, and you won’t want to miss it!!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want to stop wasting time and want to start having SUCCESS in love!

This is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

The event is happening on October 23rd-25th, and we can’t wait to have you there!

In fact, we’re so committed to having you there, that, for Birthday Week, we’re lowering the price of the ticket to just $47!!! (It’s our birthday, and will give you gifts if we want to!!!)

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

When you know that you are a loveable woman, then you can attract someone who believes that, too.

When you’re honest and authentic about who you are, business success and all, that’s when you’ll find the man who will love you completely.

When you trust yourself, love yourself, and know that you’re capable of creating an amazing relationship in your life, you WILL!

Join us to discover this for yourself!

This is what I know was true for me and, it is true for you, too.

True or False? Men are Intimidated by Strong and Successful Women

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 11, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

True or False?

Men are intimidated and turned off by strong and successful women.

False!

It is a myth and limiting belief that men are intimidated by strong women.

The truth that we have discovered through working with hundreds of women is that you can be a strong, powerful and successful woman and create the loving, connected passionate relationship that you desire.

The key is creating an interdependent relationship and developing the Irresistible Essences in yourself that are attractive to a man.

A man admires and appreciates confidence and happiness in a woman. He loves knowing that the woman he’s with doesn’t depend on him for her happiness, but that he gets to come to the relationship and bring even more happiness into her life.

What a confident, high-quality man doesn’t like is being with a woman who tries to control him, change him, or show and tell him how he should do things. What he doesn’t like is when the woman constantly tries to take the lead.

That’s a total turn off.

There’s a big difference between the woman who is strong, successful, and capable and a woman who is intimidating, forceful, demanding or overbearing.

If you have a tendency to show up in the more forceful ways of being, you may have a pattern of control that you get to look at.

Ask yourself:
What’s going has me switch into “control mode??
Why is that showing up for me?
What am I afraid will or won’t happen if I’m not in control of a person or situation?

Fear wears many masks, and control is a big one.

Do you fear he’ll leave?

Do you fear you won’t be enough and, therefore, you’re always trying to prove something to yourself, him, and others?

Do you fear things won’t go the way you want them to if you don’t control the situation?

Let me tell you as a former control freak: It’s exhausting to try to be in control of everyone and everything!
It’s absolutely draining to be constantly trying to control your man, or the whole universe, for that matter!

Life is so much better when you let go and learn to allow and go with the flow.

I can tell you from my experience as a love coach that the best and most fulfilling way to have the most wonderful experience in a relationship is to do less.

That’s right!

Now… If the thought of not controlling anything scares you to your core, not to worry. There are still several thing you have 100% control over:

You get to be in control of your thoughts.

You get to be in control of your words.

You get to be in control of your behavior.

Everything else? Just let it go!

High-quality men, the kind I know you’re looking for, want to be with a woman who’s passionate, is up to big things in her life, and is the kind of woman who makes amazing things happen.

High-quality men have passions of their own and are up to big things, too.

The only men who aren’t turned off by a woman that tries to control everything are men who aren’t doing things with their own lives and want someone who will tell them what to do.

And we know you aren’t looking for a man like that!

It’s a practice of learning how to let go showing your partner that you trust him, and then letting things be.

It’s a practice because it takes effort – but it’s so worth it!

If you’re wanting to experience even more trust, openness and joy in dating and relationships, then you absolutely want to make sure that you join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE Virtual Live Event!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event is for strong, successful, powerful women who want SUCCESS in love now! This event is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

The regular ticket price is $497 – but right now it’s only $97 and that price ends TONIGHT at Midnight EST!

So if you know you want to attend and grab a seat for this super-low price, grab your ticket now!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

The other reason you don’t want to wait is because this year we’ll be sending you a special “LOVE Box” filled with gifts and materials you’ll be using during the event, and we only ordered a certain number of them. Once they’re gone, they’re GONE

So again, if you already know you want to attend and have a life-changing experience where you and your love life will never be the same, grab your ticket and your LOVE Box now!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

Whether you’ve come to the Irresistible Woman Live event in the past or not, this year is going to be very special, because there are things we can virtually that we couldn’t do before.

PLUS, there are people who would not normally be able to fly across the country, or across the world, who can come this year – so we know it’s going to be extra amazing!

This is a really special opportunity to share a powerful weekend together and have the transformation of a lifetime, and we can’t wait to see you there!

The Key to True Love

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 21, 2020 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

What is the key to true love?

Many women think it lies in finding the right person or having a perfected list of qualities you’re looking for in a partner.

Some think it’s about where or how you meet the person, while others think the key is in “divine timing.”

What we’ve found from working with women of every age, from many countries, and all backgrounds is that there is one thing that truly separates the women that create the loving, intimate, long term relationship they desire and those that don’t.

The key to creating true love with another person is creating true love within yourself first.

Now, we’re not talking about self-care, though we do encourage doing all the things that fill you up and nourish your soul.

Self-love is deeper.

Self-love is about the relationship you have with yourself.

It’s the things you say about and to yourself.

It’s feeling comfortable with the most intimate parts of who you are.

It’s the beliefs you hold about yourself.

It’s the way you trust who you are and how you feel.

It’s loving and accepting every part of you, even the parts of you you’re afraid others may not like.

It’s bringing forgiveness and acceptance to your past.

True self-love creates confidence, trust and the ability to create the things you most deeply desire.

This is important whether you are single, in a relationship, or in a relationship that isn’t everything you hoped it would be, because the relationship you have with yourself will be reflected in the relationships you create with other people.

Do you have any resistance coming up around this?
Do you doubt that this could really be what’s missing from creating what you want in your life?

If so, you’re not the only one. It’s easier to point outside of yourself for why things aren’t working the way you’d like to in your life. It’s much harder to look inward and be responsible for what you’re experiencing and creating in your relationships and in your life.

And, if you don’t have the skills to know how to turn things around it can be a terrifying and frustrating place to be. We get that.

We also know that knowing exactly what to do and how to do it brings incredible amounts of confidence, joy, and empowerment, because the relationship you have with yourself is the ONE thing you have total control over.

Everything starts with you.
And that’s GREAT news!

When I was in the midst of my own self-love mission, everything in my life looked perfect on the outside. I had the job, I had great kids, I traveled with my girlfriends, and I was dating a lot — though none of those dating experiences ever went very far.

Men would always tell me that I had an amazing life and was an amazing woman, but that they knew they just couldn’t give me what I wanted.

I felt so confused and wondered why.If my life was so awesome, how could I still come home at night and feel so miserable and lonely and alone?

Once I did the HeartWork I realized that all I wanted was someone to validate that I was lovable, when what I really needed was to create that love inside myself first.

Recognizing that belief, uncovering where it came from, and creating something different within myself was such a transformative experience that it’s literally why we started doing the work that we do.

We want every single woman to create the love and relationship that she deserves and desires, and, like we’ve said, we know it starts with you.

That’s why we’d love to invite you to the Self-Love Secret Mission, a free 5-day challenge happening next week!

Imagine five days where you can break-though and create the type of love and relationship with yourself that you want to create with others.

Throughout the week, you will experience falling in love with yourself and start seeing the miracles that follow.

Out of this experience we’ve seen women obtain new jobs, receive promotions, manifest new homes, and create the relationship of their dreams — all through the healing and transformation that comes through doing this HeartWork.

If you’re ready to create a deeply loving, profound, and powerful relationship with yourself that will have you create the life and love you really want, then make sure you join us for the Self-Love Secret Mission!

Click here to join us for the Self-Love Secret Mission!

When you dive into self-love and develop a deep and intimate relationship with yourself, you tap into and unleash your Irresistible Essence, which is the key to creating everything your heart desires!

We can’t wait to see you there!

How to Be Someone to Be Admired

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 12, 2020 | Dating, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Love, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Who’s someone you really admire?

Someone you look up to? Someone who’s made a difference for you?

Who would you like to be more like?

What characteristics do they have that you admire?

Do they show integrity? Are they authentic and real?
Maybe they have high energy that’s contagious.
Are they loving and generous?
Are they dignified and show grace under fire?

Take Oprah, for example. There is just such an amazing way that she exemplifies grace under fire. She is compassionate while being rigorous. She is kind while being strong. She speaks up and takes a stand without being reactive. She is dignified.

Those are just a few of the things that we look up to in women.

How about you?

Oftentimes, we recognize things in others that we’d like to develop more of in ourselves.

Whether you’re in a relationship or dating, it’s essential to be self-aware. To be able to recognize the places within yourself that are your opportunities for growth.

We say, “opportunities for growth,” because it’s not that you’re doing anything wrong or that you’re trying to be something you’re not. One of the biggest sources of stress in dating and relationships comes from being inauthentic or trying to be someone you’re not.

We say “opportunities for growth,” because recognizing the areas in which you’d like to develop are opportunities for higher levels of self-esteem, confidence and more desired experiences.

And all of those things are highly attractive, right?

It’s like that awesome quote by Sophia Bush says:

“You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.”

You can strive to develop yourself while also exercising self-love and grace and always striving to be your authentic best.

So what are the ways of being you’d like to embody ?

Here are some ideas from our community:

Confident

Real

Authentic

Good Listener

Forgiving

Genuine

Considerate

Respectful

Loving

Physically Fit

Graceful

Honest

Gentle

Integrity

A finisher

Committed

Disciplined

Focused

Owning a State of Ease

Sense of Humor

Smart

Generous

Grit

Humble

Solution Oriented

And those are just a start!

What is it for you?

Choose two ways of being that would make the biggest difference for you and for those around you that you can focus on embodying this week.

And remember to make it fun!

There is a natural human desire to grow. There’s so much fulfillment and satisfaction that comes from recognizing your growth opportunities and doing something about them!

If you’d like help recognizing what some of those opportunities are for you, book a Love Breakthrough Call. That’s what we’re here for!

Sometimes, the thing holding us back is in our blind spot, and all it takes is someone to lovingly point it out, help us remove it and replace it with something else that makes all the difference.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

We look forward to hearing the ways in which you’re stretching yourself this week!

YOU can be the woman you most admire when you BE the love you want to see!

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