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How to Inspire a Man to Ask You On a Date!

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 18, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel like you’d like to “throw in the towel” when it comes to love?

We understand the heartache that comes when you feel like it’s getting too hard, when you’re wondering if this relationship thing is ever going to work for you.

You feel this way because you haven’t gotten the results you want… YET.

That’s where we come in!

The work we do with women will support you to step into your confidence and tap into the power you already have so you can attract the relationship you want.

Once you have that, you will attract the right man who will honor and cherish you for the rest of your life!

So, how do you get a guy to ask you out on a date?

It’s actually not about “getting” a man to do anything.

It’s really about “inspiring” a man.

It’s about being magnetic and inspiring so that he naturally wants to ask you out.

In fact… He can’t resist wanting to be with you!

Here are some important tips for inspiring the date…

1. When you’re on the app, stay on there for a while while you transition to a date.

By doing this, you get the opportunity to see how often he contacts you, which lets you know how interested he is in getting to know you. You also get to know him.

And, if the dating site is alerted about any “scamming” or fake profiles, you’ll get the alerts in your notifications.

2. Before accepting a date, have multiple phone conversations before you meet in person.

You want to show that you are a woman who values herself, her time, and who she spends it with.

By sharing that you prefer to talk on the phone before meeting, you demonstrate this, as well as taking the opportunity to see if this is someone you want to spend your precious time going on a date with.

3. Keep talking to multiple men at a time, and take your time!

We know this is hard. Women are hard-wired to want connection, to feel secure, and to want to know that he’s the one. But rushing at the beginning can cost you a lot of time, energy, and heartache in the long run. And wasting the time you could be spending with the RIGHT man is not something you want to do.

Remain open to meeting and getting to know different men, and allow yourself the gift of allowing things to unfold naturally.

4. The most important thing to remember is to not take things personally!

Remember: He doesn’t know you, and men are not the enemy.

If you find yourself not having fun or getting “triggered” easily, take a breath and ask yourself, “What am I actually upset about?” or “What am I afraid of?”

Once you do the Heartwork to overcome these fears and deepen the relationship with yourself, you’ll stop attracting men who are attracted to your past, fears, and limiting beliefs..

You’ll only attract men who are RIGHT for you — men who want the same loving, committed relationship you want!

If you’d like an opportunity to do this Heartwork with us, one of the BEST things you can do is join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge, which starts on Monday, June 21st!

The BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge is for you if you’re ready to:

💜 Remove the mask you hide behind that’s blocking you from attracting and having the love you want.

💜 Find your voice and say what you want and feel without being afraid

💜 Stop pretending and not honoring your boundaries

💜 Stop settling for less than you want and deserve in relationships

💜 Stop doubting your ability to attract the man and relationship of your dreams

💜 Let go of the anxiety you feel around dating and relationships and have fun BEing YOU!

💜 And sooooo much more!

The challenge is FREE to join, and it’s going to be a game-changer for you and your love life!

It’s time for you to know that you CAN be authentically YOU and attract the man who will love & cherish you for being the Irresistible Woman you are!

Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU challenge!

We’re in the middle of 2021! If you want to experience a New Year’s kiss with the love of your life in about 6 months, then NOW is the time to get your heart and life ready to receive it!

One of the #1 Fears in Dating Is…

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 4, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Infidelity, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

One of the #1 fears women have is: “I’m afraid I will lose myself in a relationship.”

Can you relate?

The thing is, in dating and relationships, you don’t really lose yourself.

What happens is that you give away your power by straying away from your values.
You give in a little here and a little there, move a boundary further and further past the point that is true for you… and eventually… you simply disappear.

If you’ve ever felt this way in a relationship, the question to ask yourself is: “Which of my values is not being honored?”

Discovering the answer to that question is the easy way to get back in alignment with yourself and what’s true for you.

Knowing what your values are, and making sure that you’re living your life according to them, is the simplest way to date — and to live!

In dating, you’re not going to agree on everything. The problem comes in when differences create a conflict within yourself.

Whether the misalignment is about religion, whether or not you want to wait to be intimate, family relationships, medical conditions, or something else; those things can be worked out – (1) If they are aligned with your values, and (2) if they also align with what your partner wants and values.

But you have to be clear about what your values are.

When these things come up you can handle them as a strong, mature woman instead of as a woman who’s afraid of losing something.

When you show up as someone who knows who she is, what she wants, where she’s at, and what she’s looking for, then you’ll attract someone who is aligned with and and wants that kind of woman as a partner.

Having values you live by is not about having an insurmountable list of “standards” that a man must meet. That way of dating keeps you feeling “safe,” but it also keeps you alone.

Living a life and making choices that are aligned with what you truly value is about raising your standards for yourself. That’s what creates irresistibility.

You must get crystal-clear on what you want and what your values and standards are in order to create a relationship and partnership that honors them.

When you’re not clear, your brain makes stuff up to make people, things, and situations “fit,” and that’s when things get “complicated.”

When you’re crystal-clear, there’s no sorta/maybe when it comes to making choices for yourself, your life, and what you want in a relationship.Everything is either aligned with your values, or it’s not.

It’s that simple.

If you meet a man that’s not aligned with your values or you’re not aligned with his, trust that he’s not the right one. Honor yourself, admire him for being true to himself, and let it go.

The more you practice being true to yourself, the easier it gets.

The more confident you are about your own values, the easier it gets to live in it and create a life and love that reflects and embodies what your heart truly desires.

When you date this way, you can create an amazing and incredible relationship with someone who is absolutely in love with you– The Real You.

Sometimes, you may not even realize you’re not clear about what your values are or how to honor them, so, if you’d like support with discovering what your values are and how you can live more authentically into them, book a call and speak with one of our coaches now.

It’s time for you to find true love!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

Here’s the Key to Being 100% Fulfilled in Dating!

by heartsdesireintl | May 28, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know the difference between values and boundaries versus standards, rules and expectations?

Are you allowing expectations and rules to determine who you date, or do you have a clear set of values and boundaries that you use to navigate the waters of dating?

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams, then there’s a breakdown in your values and boundaries OR you’re operating from a set of rules or standards.

So what’s the difference?

Rules and expectations are all about him or them.

“Is he doing this?” or “Why isn’t he doing that?”

When you have a lot of rules, you spend time looking for what he’s not doing or “should be” doing, and usually always end up disappointed.

“He doesn’t dress the way I wish he would.”

“He doesn’t make as much money as I want him to.”

“He doesn’t call me every morning.”

You turn minor quirks into non-negotiable deal breakers and have a frustrating experience dating.

On the other hand, values and boundaries are all about you.

Values are the things that you must live by in order to feel good.
They’re your guiding principles, what matters to you the most.

Having values is being 100% clear about what you do and don’t want to experience in life and then BEing that.

Boundaries are associated with the values you hold and determine what you will and won’t do or accept in your experience with others.

Values and boundaries are inside yourself.
You’re either living in alignment with them, or you’re not.

It’s that simple.

And it makes making decisions in dating (and life!) easy!

When you’re operating from that space, it’s not about a checklist of criteria someone has to meet.

It’s about making sure the experience you’re having is in alignment with your values.

What are your values?

How can you know when you’re aligned and when you’re not?

When you’re not honoring yourself and your values and boundaries, you feel insecure, uncertain, unhappy and out of your power.

Even if you’re having fun in a dating experience that’s out of alignment, you won’t feel fulfilled. There will be a part of you that knows it’s not what you want.

When you’re living and making decisions in alignment with your values, you simply feel good and confident.

You feel empowered and in control of your experience.

You feel clarity and are fulfilled, no matter what the circumstances are outside of you.

If you’re unsure what your values are, look at your life.
When do you feel the most fulfilled and inspired?
What is it that makes you feel that way, and why?

The why will determine your values.

If you’d like some support looking inside to uncover what matters most to you and how you can apply values and boundaries to create more fulfillment in dating, book a Love Breakthrough Session now!

Click the link below and we’ll help you get clarity on what your values are and how to create boundaries that lead you to having fun and fulfillment in dating as you move toward having the relationship of your dreams!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

NOW is the Time to Become Unleashed!

by heartsdesireintl | May 21, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

When you’re not getting the results you want, it’s easy to look outside yourself and think it’s because of something outside.

When it comes to your love life, you may be doing everything you know how to do – and that’s actually the problem.

You are only able to do the things you know to do.

But what about the things you don’t know to do?

We know that when you’re doing everything you know to do and not getting the results you want – it gets frustrating.

That frustration can turn into anger and cause you to want to give up, “take a break” or quit altogether.

You’re angry because you’re unfulfilled.

You’re angry because there’s something in your life that you want and desire that’s not coming to fruition, and even if you make a little progress here and there, you’re still not free.

Are you allowing yourself to be in the shackles of your fears?

The fears of what you think will or won’t happen?

…about whether or not he’ll like you.

…about getting hurt or trying again?

Are you allowing yourself to stay burdened by the limiting beliefs that are holding you down?

Are you allowing yourself to stay stuck under the patterns you don’t know how to break, or wondering why everyone can have this “except me”?

If you’re allowing any of those things to keep hold of you, you’re not free.

Which is why we’re here to tell you, it’s time to become unleashed!

When you become unleashed you’re able to:

have the confidence and clarity you need to create the results you desire NOW
dismantle and replace your dysfunctional patterns
unleash the power to create the extraordinary love your heart desires

Becoming unleashed is about the energy you hold. Everything carries energy, which is why you manifest what you’re committed to!

When you become unleashed, you have a magnetic energy that has you, not only attract what you want in love and life, but also keep it!

Becoming unleashed means being ready for what you want, and then being able to actually receive it.

The fact of the matter is, if you’re not ready, you will miss it!

Even if the universe is sending you amazing men and incredible opportunities, they will slip right through your fingertips if you’re not ready.

Here’s the deal: If you want to be married by this time next year, you’ve got to get focused on this now!

You can have the happy, loving relationship you want, but how many more “laters” do you have?

Why wait a few more months? Or years?

Why wait until you have everything figured out?

The work we do supports you in your inner work – your Heartwork – while also learning how to date effectively, how to communicate in a way that he will understand you, and how to break patterns that have you want to be the pursuer or put the breaks on when it comes to dating and relationships.

Imagine what could be possible if you had the freedom to really be yourself?

Imagine what could open up for you if you stopped allowing your fear and doubt to win the game?

Once you become unleashed, you’ll stop experiencing the frustration these dysfunctional experiences create, once and for all, and you’ll begin to experience the JOY that comes from creating and having everything you want and deserve.

Imagine how amazing THAT will be!

If you are 100% ready and committed to breaking free from your past, unleashing your magnetic essence, and claiming the life and love you want, then you’re ready for a Love Breakthrough!

Click the link below and we’ll help you create a step-by-step plan to get you on track to having the love you want NOW!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

Extraordinary Success AND Extraordinary Love!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 15, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

4by Gladys Diaz

There are many women who believe they have to choose between having a successful business or a great relationship. They truly don’t believe it’s possible to have both.

What do you believe?

Here’s the deal: if you believe that you can’t have both, you are living in a scarcity conversation, and you’re actually blocking the success you could be experiencing in BOTH!

This week on Love Chat with the Love Twins, we featured some incredible women, colleagues and dear friends of ours, who are rocking it in their business as well as their love lives. Through these conversations, we really highlighted how not only is it possible for you to have both – but it actually makes all of it even better!

In one of the interviews, we got to hear from Amy Yamada’s partner, Ken, who shared his experience as a man being in partnership with such an incredible and successful woman!

High-quality men want to support, be in contribution to, and pour into a high-quality woman. Ken shared how much more attracted he was to Amy knowing that she was an entrepreneur and motivational speaker.

For her, at first, she felt uneasy sharing about her business with him for fear of being in here “masculine” energy. But when she decided to lean into being her authentic self, which includes being an entrepreneur , it allowed him to really see her, and it ended up being one of the things that most attracted him to her.

He said he simply wouldn’t have been attracted to her if she had not led with that.

NOT the fact that she was a business woman, but that she was AUTHENTIC.

What more proof do you need, ladies?!

Men want to support us.

I’ll never forget, years back, when I was crying – sitting in a restaurant with tears flowing down my face because I’d just been on off the phone with my business coach. I was feeling so defeated that I didn’t know what all of the tech terms meant or what all of this software I needed was, and didn’t know how I was ever going to be successful in my business.

Ric saw the opportunity, and he literally learned how to create funnels, build websites and do all-things-tech related to our business, simply as a result of wanting to support me and my dream. All these years later and I can’t even imagine where I, or Hearts Desire International for that matter, would be without him. (And now he has a great business of his own doing this for other people, too! Talk about a win-win!)

The other reason why men love being with high-quality, successful, driven women is because it inspires them to be more.

I’ll also never forget the day when I heard Ric, my very soft-spoken husband, stand on one of our stages at an event and said, “Seeing how committed Gladys is to her own transformation inspires me to become a better man.”

Definitely another tearful moment for me!

Until then I knew he admired the things I did, my career, and professional accomplishments But that day, he was talking about what he admired about ME and the woman I am! No award,degree, or certificate can hold a candle to that!

The absolutely beautiful thing about creating a partnership with someone who loves and admires you for your determination and commitment in the world is what you can create together.

It also gives you the opportunity to lean on one another and lift each other up when you have days where you’re having a hard time seeing it in yourself.

Supportive partners see you, experience you and hear you in a way that you sometimes fail to see, and they can share your life, your success, and all of the ordinary-extraordinary moments with you as you continue to strive for success in business and love.

If you have a limiting belief that you need to choose between business and love then we have something very important to share with you.

In just two weeks we’ll be hostingThe Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event, and you won’t want to miss it!!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want to stop wasting time and want to start having SUCCESS in love!

This is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

The event is happening on October 23rd-25th, and we can’t wait to have you there!

In fact, we’re so committed to having you there, that, for Birthday Week, we’re lowering the price of the ticket to just $47!!! (It’s our birthday, and will give you gifts if we want to!!!)

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

When you know that you are a loveable woman, then you can attract someone who believes that, too.

When you’re honest and authentic about who you are, business success and all, that’s when you’ll find the man who will love you completely.

When you trust yourself, love yourself, and know that you’re capable of creating an amazing relationship in your life, you WILL!

Join us to discover this for yourself!

This is what I know was true for me and, it is true for you, too.

True or False? Men are Intimidated by Strong and Successful Women

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 11, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

True or False?

Men are intimidated and turned off by strong and successful women.

False!

It is a myth and limiting belief that men are intimidated by strong women.

The truth that we have discovered through working with hundreds of women is that you can be a strong, powerful and successful woman and create the loving, connected passionate relationship that you desire.

The key is creating an interdependent relationship and developing the Irresistible Essences in yourself that are attractive to a man.

A man admires and appreciates confidence and happiness in a woman. He loves knowing that the woman he’s with doesn’t depend on him for her happiness, but that he gets to come to the relationship and bring even more happiness into her life.

What a confident, high-quality man doesn’t like is being with a woman who tries to control him, change him, or show and tell him how he should do things. What he doesn’t like is when the woman constantly tries to take the lead.

That’s a total turn off.

There’s a big difference between the woman who is strong, successful, and capable and a woman who is intimidating, forceful, demanding or overbearing.

If you have a tendency to show up in the more forceful ways of being, you may have a pattern of control that you get to look at.

Ask yourself:
What’s going has me switch into “control mode??
Why is that showing up for me?
What am I afraid will or won’t happen if I’m not in control of a person or situation?

Fear wears many masks, and control is a big one.

Do you fear he’ll leave?

Do you fear you won’t be enough and, therefore, you’re always trying to prove something to yourself, him, and others?

Do you fear things won’t go the way you want them to if you don’t control the situation?

Let me tell you as a former control freak: It’s exhausting to try to be in control of everyone and everything!
It’s absolutely draining to be constantly trying to control your man, or the whole universe, for that matter!

Life is so much better when you let go and learn to allow and go with the flow.

I can tell you from my experience as a love coach that the best and most fulfilling way to have the most wonderful experience in a relationship is to do less.

That’s right!

Now… If the thought of not controlling anything scares you to your core, not to worry. There are still several thing you have 100% control over:

You get to be in control of your thoughts.

You get to be in control of your words.

You get to be in control of your behavior.

Everything else? Just let it go!

High-quality men, the kind I know you’re looking for, want to be with a woman who’s passionate, is up to big things in her life, and is the kind of woman who makes amazing things happen.

High-quality men have passions of their own and are up to big things, too.

The only men who aren’t turned off by a woman that tries to control everything are men who aren’t doing things with their own lives and want someone who will tell them what to do.

And we know you aren’t looking for a man like that!

It’s a practice of learning how to let go showing your partner that you trust him, and then letting things be.

It’s a practice because it takes effort – but it’s so worth it!

If you’re wanting to experience even more trust, openness and joy in dating and relationships, then you absolutely want to make sure that you join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE Virtual Live Event!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event is for strong, successful, powerful women who want SUCCESS in love now! This event is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

The regular ticket price is $497 – but right now it’s only $97 and that price ends TONIGHT at Midnight EST!

So if you know you want to attend and grab a seat for this super-low price, grab your ticket now!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

The other reason you don’t want to wait is because this year we’ll be sending you a special “LOVE Box” filled with gifts and materials you’ll be using during the event, and we only ordered a certain number of them. Once they’re gone, they’re GONE

So again, if you already know you want to attend and have a life-changing experience where you and your love life will never be the same, grab your ticket and your LOVE Box now!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

Whether you’ve come to the Irresistible Woman Live event in the past or not, this year is going to be very special, because there are things we can virtually that we couldn’t do before.

PLUS, there are people who would not normally be able to fly across the country, or across the world, who can come this year – so we know it’s going to be extra amazing!

This is a really special opportunity to share a powerful weekend together and have the transformation of a lifetime, and we can’t wait to see you there!

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