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by heartsdesireintl | Nov 27, 2015 | Communication, Dating, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Uncategorized
Hope that you had a wonderful day yesterday and that was overflowing with love and gratitude, no matter where you are in the world!
Michelle and I are heading out for some Black Friday shopping, and we wanted to let you know about the crazy sale we’re having just for you!
A few weeks ago, we asked you to send us your questions about what to say or do when your man says or does something that leaves you… well… speechless!
We read every single one of your questions and we’ve created a program that is going to give you the answers you’ve been waiting for!
So, in honor of Black Friday, we’re giving you the opportunity to jump in and grab your “What to Say to Your Man” Black Friday Bundle!
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The “What to Say to Your Man” Black Friday Bundle includes:
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- “What to Say to Your Man: EXACTLY What to Say and Do to Get the Love You Want!” 2-hour Masterclass, where we will teach you what to say and how to write your own scripts for responding in any situation!
- A private Facebook group where you can get direct access to coaching from Gladys & Michelle, as well as interact with other Masterclass participants.
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Why are we so excited about this?
Because good communication is KEY in making a relationship work, and if you don’t know what to say (or not say) and how to say it, you’ll experience a lot of stress, arguments, and unnecessary heartache.
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by heartsdesireintl | Aug 24, 2015 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice, Self-Love
by Gladys Diaz
Today is the first day of school for my kids and I’m really missing them! The house seems so quiet, and I find myself counting down the hours to when I can go pick them up!
As much as I would have liked summer to have lasted a little longer, I’m also excited for them! They have no idea how many new and exciting lessons they are going to learn, all of the amazing things they are not even aware that they don’t know! It’s like a whole new world is waiting just to be discovered!
I’m also excited for the ladies who are just getting started our Ready to Love Again program! They, too, are beginning a new journey filled with thrilling lessons, awesome discoveries, and breakthroughs too big for them to even imagine!
Already, we are hearing wonderful feedback from what is opening up for them after just one call!
Here are some of the comments we’ve received!
“I actually feel different, just from one call…That can’t be?!?
I feel somehow empowered. Yes, I am still chicken on many things, but today I’m somehow standing taller, like a have a back up team or something… My love twins!”
~ Dalia
“The other day I had an a-ha moment after a meditation that was life changing! Out of nowhere I recognized that the past 15 years was what it took of me to grow, evolve and accept myself without shame or judgments and have the courage to step up to the Love Twins and say, “Help me break my patterns that have kept me prisoner to my own denial.”
I thanked the 17 years, to be exact, as if they were a friend, and, in that moment, I felt like years just lifted off my shoulders. I no longer feel it’s too late for me to find my partner!
Thanks to your advice, Gladys, the other day I was open, friendly and smiled with a man in the grocery store. He said, “I hope to see you then soon now that you maybe shopping here again.”
I felt like it was a dress rehearsal or practice for opening up to love. I won’t tell myself that I am too old to find a loving relationship anymore!
Thanks, Love Twins and sisters on this journey!”
~ Y.E.
Another participant who was struggling with attracting men into her life that were either (1) unavailable, or (2) she was not interested in has already met a guy who is (1) available and (2) as interested in her as she is in him!
While these results are fast, they are not entirely surprising to us, because we know the difference it makes to work with coaches in a program that is completely centered around YOU attracting the love and happiness your heart desires!
So, if you’re ready to take your heart back to school and learn the skills that lead to you creating the love that you want, take a moment right now to schedule a call to speak with one of us!
We are only keeping registration open for another week or two, or until the last of the remaining 5 seats are taken – whichever comes first!
Our next call is this week, so make sure you schedule time to talk NOW so that you can join us!
The last thing you want is for another year (or 2, or 17) to go by with you wondering why it is that you haven’t been able to attract the love you desire and deserve.
No one can do this work for you – it’s entirely up to you – but we are here to do the work with you and give you the support that you need to break free from your love barriers and break through to the love and happiness that are waiting for you on the other side!
Click here now to schedule time to talk and see if this program is right for you!
No matter what you’ve been through, there is nothing standing in the way of you having the loving relationship you want except the stuff you’re holding onto from your past. Release the past and open your heart to new and extraordinary love!
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by heartsdesireintl | Aug 17, 2015 | Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
I recently got back from a week-long vacation with my family, and I learned a lot of interesting things about myself while on this trip.
During the trip, I made a commitment to let go of control. I’ve been working pretty hard since last November, and I just wanted to relax. I didn’t want to have to be the one making decisions, doing some of the driving, or having to handle much of anything. My primary focus was to have as much fun as possible with my family!
In giving up control, one of the things I got to do a lot of was receiving.
Now, I teach women how one of the most powerful ways to embrace our femininity is to receive.
Knowing that two of a man’s primary needs are to know that he can provide for and please the woman he loves, in receiving a man’s gifts, time, help, and affection, I am clear that I give my husband the gift of fulfilling on his purpose and myself the gift of feeling cherished and taken care of! It truly is a win-win situation!
So, receiving in and of itself is not difficult for me…
…Until it comes to really expensive or extravagant gifts.
Then I seem to get a bit uncomfortable.
While on the trip, my husband and I were presented with an opportunity to make one of my dreams come true. It’s a big dream, so, consequently, it comes with a big price tag. Nevertheless, I have had this dream for a long time and I am the kind of person who, when I want something, I find a way to make it happen!
This time, however, my husband was the one making it happen for me!
I noticed how I got a little nervous and uncomfortable at the thought of this.
As happy as I was that my dream was coming true, I also felt a little guilty. I had all types of thoughts running through my head.
This is too much…
He’s only doing this for me.
Maybe we should wait a while.
When it came time to make the final decision, my husband asked me, “So, what do you think?”
I could have honored and shared with him all of the feelings, fears and concerns running through my head.
I could have given him some ideas about what to do or how to handle the negotiations.
I could have told him that it was okay. Knowing that he wanted to make this happen for me was enough. I could wait.
In other words, I could have stepped in, taken over, taken charge, and not gotten what I really wanted.
But I didn’t want to. I just wanted to bask in the warmth of seeing how excited he was to be figuring out a way to make this dream happen for me!
So, instead of stepping in and giving into my limiting thoughts and beliefs, I chose to step back and trust. I chose to receive.
I simply said, “I’m so excited! I’ve wanted this for a long time. I don’t know if we ‘should’ do it, but I want this, and I know you. You always make the best decisions for us. And if you’re thinking of doing this, then I know you’ve thought it through, and I trust you. Thank you!”
I wish I’d had my phone ready to take a picture of my husband’s face. (smile)
He looked so happy and confident.
In that moment, I realized just how much making me happy means to him. I mean, I knew it before, but I got really present and I could see it in that moment!
And it was awesome!
Was I still a little scared? Yes.
Was I going to cheat him out of the pleasure of knowing he is making one of my dreams come true? Heck, no!
One of the blessings of being in a relationship with a man who truly loves you is being able to openly receive his love – even when it makes you a little uncomfortable.
Receiving is a gift you give yourself and the person who is giving to you.
In allowing my husband to provide me with something he knew I wanted, I gave him the gift of seeing my happiness and gratitude.
In allowing myself to receive the gift, I was able to experience seeing the joy that he experiences when he’s able to make me happy.
It’s not the type or size of the gift that makes the difference, either.
Yes, this happened to be something big, but I also have the pleasure of receiving compliments; “I love you’s”; “for-no-reason-roses” (those roses he shows up with for absolutely no reason!); as well as offers to help me do the dishes, make dinner, and watch the boys so I can go get my hair done. All of these things make me feel happy and loved
So, what about you? How open are you to receiving?
- Are you dismissing or joking away compliments?
- Are you refusing to allow people – especially men – to open doors, carry objects, or help you with a task that needs to get done?
- Are you refusing gifts – both big and small – such as offers to pay for your coffee or meal, tickets to an event, or something you’ve been wanting for a long time?
Given that men thrive on feeling like they can provide for and please the woman they care about, when you receive, you are stepping into one of the highest states of your Feminine Essence! It creates a win-win experience for both of you, as he gets to feel great about making you happy and you get to experience feeling cherished!
If you aren’t having that kind of experience in your relationship – either because you are single or because the romance, tenderness, and intimacy in your relationship have been slowly (or quickly) deteriorating, know that you CAN have it!
This isn’t something special reserved for a few “lucky” women, and you aren’t the one woman in the world destined to not have this experience.
If you want to know what it’s like to love and be loved, to be cared for and taken care of (even though you are capable of taking care of yourself), and to have the feeling that your partner’s top priority is making you happy, then let’s set up time to talk.
During a Love Breakthrough Session you will see what has been standing in the way of you having the kind of love and relationship you dream of. Then we give you a plan for removing that love barrier and making a way for love to flow freely into your life.
You can either keep feeling sorry for yourself, blaming the man you are with for not having this kind of experience, or you can learn the steps you can take to turn your love life and your situation around.
It’s up to you!
There is nothing like the feeling that comes with knowing that the man you are with wants nothing more than to know that he had something to do with the smile on your face! It’s time to make that smile permanent!
Click here to schedule time to talk!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
by heartsdesireintl | Feb 20, 2015 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance, Uncategorized
by Gladys Diaz
This week, I’ve been dealing with a really bad cold, but, as “luck” would have it, the cold provided me with more evidence of the 3 P’s to share with you, because my husband has gone above and beyond this week to do everything in his power to Provide for, Protect, and (wait for it…) Please me!
That’s right! The third “P” most important to a man is that he feels like he is able to Please you.
Now, this may be difficult for you to believe if you’re either not in a great relationship, or it’s been a while since you’ve felt like a man has gone out of his way to make you happy. But trust me, this one is right up there with the other two P’s as something that is essential to a man.
Why is pleasing you so important to him?
Well, no good man ever wakes up in the morning saying, “I wonder what I can do today to make her absolutely miserable!”
First of all, if you’re miserable, chances are you are making him miserable, too!
Secondly, it really does make a man feel fulfilled and complete to know that he is capable of making you feel happy.
You’ll often here me say:
A man doesn’t just want to see you smiling. He also wants to know that he had something to do with the smile on your face! (Tweet, Tweet that one!)
When a man has the consistent experience that nothing he does is good enough, or that “there’s just no pleasing you,” it makes him want to withdraw and stop trying. He doesn’t want to know that he’s doing anything that is causing you to feel disappointed or unhappy. It simply doesn’t feel “good” or “right” to him to know that he’s contributing to your unhappiness.
So, what are some ways that you can help a man contribute to your happiness?
Stop making what makes you happy a secret!
- Let him know what makes you happy. If there are things that you enjoy, like, or prefer, make let him know. If there is something you’d like to eat, an item you’d like to purchase, or a place you’d like to visit, tell him. Now, don’t tell him what to do or how to do it. Just let him know that it’s something that would make you happy. Let him figure out how to make it happen if he chooses to. Don’t make him try to guess or figure out what you want. Instead, set him up to win, because when he wins, you win!
- If something he does pleases you, inform your face! In other words: SMILE! Don’t keep your happiness a secret because you feel like you’ll owe him something or you feel like he’ll stop trying. In fact, the very opposite is true. The positive feeling of knowing that he did something to make you smile is like a drug to man. He’s going to want to repeat that feeling – for you and himself – again, so you’ve just increased the chances that he’ll look for other ways to please you.
- Show your appreciation. Don’t withhold your appreciation in an effort to seem like what he did is “no big deal.” You know how great it feels when you do something nice for someone and they let you know how much it meant to them. He’s no different. Letting him know that you are both happy and grateful for what he did will go a long way toward creating a wonderful cycle of giving, receiving, and appreciation in your relationship!
A good man will always do what he cans to please you.
If you feel like the man in your life has stopped doing the little things to make you happy, rather than looking outward at what he’s doing (or not doing; or not doing “well enough”) –
- Look within and see if you’ve stopped telling him what makes you happy out of fear that you won’t get it.
- See if you’ve been acting as if you don’t notice what he’s doing, or if you’ve been complaining that it’s not enough.
- Ask yourself if you’ve stopped demonstrating your appreciation for the little things, the big things, and everything in between.
If you’ve been doing any of the above, don’t beat yourself up about it. Instead, make today the day you begin to turn things around by starting to look for and notice the things he is doing – even if it’s something you think he should be doing.
Then smile and let him know that, not only are you happy, but that he had something to do with the smile on your face!
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by heartsdesireintl | Feb 6, 2015 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
The other day I shared with you one of “The 3 P’s” most important to a man: Providing for the woman he loves.
Today I’d like to focus on the second “P”: Protecting the woman he loves.
It may seem a little old-fashioned to think that a man feels that he needs to “protect” the woman he loves. After all, we women have become very independent and self-sufficient, and we can take care of ourselves – physically, emotionally, and financially.
However, when you think back to the beginning of time, men were the providers and protectors. If they didn’t protect the tribe, people died. It was just that simple.
That need to feel like he’s capable of protecting you from harm is inherent in a man. When he has the experience that he’s not able to prevent something bad from happening to you, he may very well react with what appears to be anger. And, in the moment, it may seem like that anger is directed at you.
I remember one day I was sharing with my husband about a business deal. I had shared an idea and made a verbal agreement with someone about a program that we were going to partner together to create and launch. Eventually, it turned out that the person went ahead with the idea without me and offered me a role in the project, but not a full partnership. I, of course, was disappointed and hurt, and shared these feelings with my husband. I shared that I still wanted to be part of the project, because I believed in it, but I was very hurt that I had been informed about the change in plans after the fact.
All of a sudden, I felt like I was being “attacked.” Instead of comforting and encouraging me, he began yelling and telling me that I would be a fool to continue working with this person who obviously took an idea we had brainstormed together and ran with it on her own, without discussing anything with me. He kept getting louder and angrier, and I was completely confused and felt as if he was rubbing salt in my wounds.
Rather than say something I would regret, I went upstairs and laid in my chaise lounge chair, crying. On top of being hurt, I was angry! Why was he taking this out on me?
Then I asked myself a question that has helped me to move from anger to understanding in the past.
What would have him say something like that to me?
See, my husband loves me, and I know that he wants to protect me from harm, not cause me harm. As soon as I asked myself that question (What would have him say something like that to me?”), I was able to see it as clear as day: He was trying to protect me!
See, in my husband’s eyes, someone had let me down, hurt me, cost me what could have been a great financial opportunity, and left me out of a partnership I had been so excited about being a part of.
However, worse than all of that, there was nothing he could do to prevent or “fix” it for me.
He felt helpless because he didn’t and couldn’t protect me!
After I moved from anger to compassion, I then moved into a space of gratitude!
I was so grateful that my husband was so loving and protective – even if he didn’t express it the way I would express it.
I walked downstairs, stood behind the couch he was sitting on, leaned down, and whispered in his ear, “I get it. You’re upset because you want to protect me from being hurt or taken advantage of. Thank you for your love.”
He turned around and looked me in the eye. I don’t know if it was shock and awe at the fact that I’d figured it out, or just plain and simple relief that I got what he’d been trying to express, but I’ll never forget the look in his eyes. He just said, “I am upset. I love you and don’t like seeing you sad or hurt.”
I walked around the couch, sat next to him, and nuzzled my nose into the crook of his neck and cried a little bit more.
Nothing had been resolved, but I felt loved, protected and at peace, no matter what ended up happening with the business project! I had my hero next to me, and, right then and there, that was all that really mattered!
Think about it:
Has there been a time when you felt like your husband or boyfriend wasn’t being supportive of your dream or idea?
Consider that he wants more than anything to see you realize your dream and be happy, and is afraid you’ll be disappointed if your idea fails. And, because there’s nothing he can do to stop that from happening, he tries to discourage you from getting your hopes too high.
Has there been a time when he’s gotten angry at you for being friends with or associating with someone who has hurt or disappointed you in the past?
Consider that he hates seeing you sad and upset, so he gets angry, and directs that anger at you, because he’s afraid you’ll get hurt and disappointed again. And, because there isn’t much he can do to prevent that from happening, he tries pointing out how foolish it is to trust someone who was capable of hurting or lying to you in the first place.
Regardless of what your specific situation is, if you can try to listen for the love behind the words of anger, it’s very possible that you will also hear his his desire to keep you safe.
While you may not understand his approach, if you can listen for and hear his love and concern and his desire to protect you, you, too, will be able to move from upset, to compassion, to gratitude that you have a man at your side who wants nothing more than to be your hero!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
