I’ve been fighting off a bad cold this week, but I wanted to shoot a follow-up video to the one I sent you last week, because we got such great responses from it!
This week, we’re taking a look at how the thoughts that are stopping you from creating the amazing loving relationships you want are the same thoughts that are stopping you from moving forward in the other areas of your life, particularly your career!
Why is that? Watch the video and see!
The truth is that you have an amazing ability to create what it is you want in your life and, once you get to the work of transforming the doubts and limiting beliefs standing in your way, you CAN experience all of the love, happiness, and success your heart desires!
Watch the video and let me know what opens up for you!
I’m keeping this post short and sweet because we are on vacation and my kids are waiting for me to go do something fun!
However, I just had to take a few minutes to write because I wanted to tell you about two things!
First, we just heard that we have another new bride! That’s right, another one of our clients just got married this past weekend! (It’s getting so that it’s hard to keep count!)
It’s so amazing to see her dreams coming true after all the years she questioned and wondered whether that day would ever come for her!
THIS is why Michelle and I do what we do. THIS is why we are so incredibly committed to you moving beyond all of your fears and excuses and just breaking through the BS that has you feeling like you are stuck where you are. Because THIS is what’s possible for YOU when you do!
I want you to get really honest with yourself as you ask yourself these questions:
Is itreallypossible that there are “no good men” out there?
Or is it more likely that you haven’t attracted the good man who is right for youyet?
Is itreally truethat you can’t get over your ex?
Or is it that you are so afraid of having your heart broken again that you’ll just stay stuck on him to avoid having to get out there, meet people, and open your heart to loving someone again?
Is itreallythat you are just so busy with your career or business, your travel schedule, going out with your friends, etc.?
Or is it that you are so terrified of failing at love that you’d rather tell yourself that you’re “okay,” your life is already great, and there’s no need or desire for you to share it with someone else?
Look, my job is not to make you feel badly about where you are in your life, because I do believe that you need to be happy on your own before you can attract someone who will add to that happiness.
But here’s the deal. It’s NOT that there aren’t any good guys, it’s NOT that you can’t get over your ex, and it’s NOT that your life is already so busy and fulfilled that you feel you don’t need a man with whom to share it.
All that stuff is NOT what is keeping you stuck!
What’s keeping you stuck where you are is all the stuff you keep telling yourself so that you don’t have to take the steps you need to take to have the love you really want.
I get it. I’m a successful woman, too, and I don’t like failing any more than you do.
However, I’d much rather take a risk than be a victim of my circumstances and cheat myself out of the possibility of having everything my heart desires.
Because failing sucks, but it doesn’t suck nearlyas much as regret, which is what you feel when you look back and see that the only thing that really stood in the way of having the love and life you wanted was YOU!
So, just in case one of your “reasons” for not having the love you want is that you can’t seem to move on from your past breakup, I wanted to share with you the recording of a radio show we did a few weeks ago with our very good friend, Simone Kelly, of Own Your Power Radio. The show was about “Starting Over When It’s Over,” and you’ll hear some great advice on the things you can do to move on after a breakup, divorce, or losing your partner.
Here’s my invitation:
Answer the questions above (be honest with yourself).
If you’re ready to start over, listen to our discussion and see which step you’re ready to take!
P.S. Michelle only has a few spots left on her calendar this week while I’m vacation!If you haven’t had the chance to be coached by Michelle, this is an opportunity you don’t want to miss!
She’s one of the most powerful coaches I’ve ever worked with and was MY coach when Ric and I were having issues in our marriage! Don’t miss out and sign up to speak with her now!
I’ve been preparing and practicing my presentations for The Irresistible Woman Seminar today and I’ve been thinking of you non-stop! So I decided to cut a quick video for you and then right back to my work!
I can’t help that you keep coming to mind! Every time that I read a really powerful point or one of the heart-shifting exercises we are going to be doing this weekend, it makes me sad to think that may not be there!
I don’t know what has had you not sign up until now, but I do know one thing about you. The fact that you took the time to open the email and even read this far means that you know how committed Michelle and I are to providing you with the information that we know is going to make a difference in your love life and relationships!
How do I know that? Because you wouldn’t be a part of this community if you weren’t!
So, whatever has been stopping you from attending, I just want you to ask yourself if it really is something insurmountable, “unfixable,” or life-threatening.
If it’s not, then I’m going to ask you to do something I consistently invite my clients to do.
I invite you to be UN-reasonable!
That means I’m inviting you to stop letting your “reasons” stand in the way of having what you want!
Here’s the thing, when you really want something – a nice car or outfit, a vacation, or to reach a goal, you figure out a way to make it happen.
Family members might tell you not to do it.
Your friends may tell you you’re crazy to do it.
You may even question your own sanity.
But you do it. Because it matters to you.
If your love life matters to you, if you truly want to be in a relationship where you feel adored, and you know that you know that you are love, then I’m inviting you to put those reasons that are stopping you aside and join us for The Irresistible Woman Seminar.
It’s going to be at least a year until we have this event again.
Do you really want to keep putting your happiness, your dreams, and the love that you want on hold?
I hope not!
So, push past your excuses, be UN-reasonable and join us for a weekend that is going to have you put an end to the loneliness, frustration, and “suffering” you’ve been experiencing in love and relationships.
Time to bust another myth about why successful women can’t succeed in love!
If you read the previous blog post, you know that I touched upon another very common myth about how, in order to have a relationship, a successful woman will have to settle.
There is a pervasive belief that a successful woman will either have to settle for someone who is not as successful, someone she’s not that crazy about, or someone who’s not intimidated by her success.
All of these beliefs come from the fear of not being able to have it all – everything your heart desires. If you believe that what you want is “too much,” “too good to be true,” or “unrealistic,” then you’ll do one of two things: You’ll either try to minimize your desires, or you’ll make your expectations so insurmountable that there’s little chance of sharing your life with someone who is able to meet all of them.
Let me address minimizing your desires first.
One desire that successful women often deny is the desire to be in a loving relationship. They will say that they are perfectly happy alone – that they don’t need a man in their lives.
If they are single, they will put dating at the bottom of their very busy to-do list.
If they are in relationships, they begin to think that it’s better to move on alone than to try to make the relationship work.
First, it is important that you are happy with yourself and your life, whether or not you have a man to share it with. You’re 100% responsible for your own happiness, and a woman who is content with her life is confident and attractive.
However, if you do want to share your life with someone and you’re saying that you don’t because you’re afraid that you won’t find the right guy, it feels safer for you to be alone than to risk opening your heart to someone or to put effort into making the relationship work, then you’re not being real with yourself and that has a profound impact on how you experience life and love.
See, anytime you deny one of your heart’s desires, you are selling out on yourself – you’re denying what’s true for you.
When you do that, even if you have tons of success in other areas of your life, you will feel unfulfilled, because you won’t have what you really want. You are, in essence, being inauthentic with yourself. And, if you’re not being real with yourself, you won’t be able to be real with someone else and you will likely attract to yourself someone who is not authentic with you, either. (Prepare yourself for heartache.)
The second way you could sabotage your love life is by setting unrealistic expectations.
These expectations will either be about what the “perfect man” has to be like, do, or have, or what the “perfect relationship” must be like.
I often say, “Perfectionism is poison.” Expecting a person, situation or relationship to be perfect is setting yourself up to be disappointed.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you settle for just anyone. That would be another way of selling out on yourself and your desires. What it means is that you open yourself up to the possibility that you can have a happy, loving relationship with a man who doesn’t meet every point on your “Quality Assurance List” — a perfectly imperfect man.
Rather than focusing on all of the external characteristics a man must meet – height, weight, salary, car, home, etc. – focus on what you want to experience in the relationship, instead. Put your thoughts and intentions into how you want to feel in the relationship. This way, when you are out with a man, you are focused on you, instead of him. This also allows you to be open to meeting and getting to know more men, so that you increase your chances of meeting the right one.
If you are in a relationship, you can begin to let go of all of the expectations that are having you complain about, criticize, and trying to change your man. Instead, you can shift your focus from feeling disappointed to getting present to and appreciating the man he is and the qualities about him that had you fall in love with him in the first place! It also means learning the feminine skill of saying what would make you happy, rather than pointing out all of the things that don’t!
Many of these skills and practices don’t come easily to an independent woman, because it requires letting go of being in complete control and managing everything on your own. It means being okay with uncertainty and imperfection. It means acknowledging just how much you really do want to share your life with a man who will love and adore you, celebrate and share your success.
But these skills are necessary if you want to create a loving, intimate, passionate relationship where you get to be authentic with yourself and experience the love you truly want!
That’s why Michelle and I created The Irresistible Woman LIVE Event. We are committed to equipping successful women with the skills that will empower you to have the loving relationship you want.
You don’t have to settle for less than you truly want and deserve. You really CAN have it ALL! And we want to show you how!
During this 3-day immersive-learning event, you will discover:
The behaviors and skills that help propel you at work but repel love, connection, and partnership in a relationship
The steps you can take to create shift in yourself so that you can experience success in love
The keys to having the type of relationship you want and deserve
And so much more!
This is our way of saying thank you and honoring you for the commitment you are making to yourself and your love life!
Nothing would make us happier than to see you experiencing the success in love we KNOW you can have, so that we can celebrate it with you!
Join us and let’s start celebrating your success in love!
One of the biggest fears women I speak to have is that they are going to have to “settle” for less than they want or deserve.
The fear of having to settle for something or someone stems from a scarcity mindset that has you believe you can’t really have it all,that you want “too much,” and that “at least something is better than nothing.”
This fear of settling will impact the way you view and listen to people and situations, the way you approach dating and relationships, and the way you go about making your dreams come true.
Think about it.
If you’re feeling stuck in your love life, and there’s an underlying belief that you really can’thave the life, career, and the loving relationship that you want, how committedare you going to be to going after your dreams?
How willing will you be to push and break through the resignation, sadness and frustration that can show up when you’re not seeing the results that you want right away?
How is all of this fear and resignation showing up in your life today?
Are you in the relationship that you want?
If you are in a relationship, is it the happy, loving, and passionate you dreamed it would be?
Do you reallybelieve you can have the kind of relationship your heart desires?
If you’ve been living life inside of the fear that you’ll have to settle because you’re not going to get what you want anyway, it’s time to turn that thinking pattern around and start attracting into your life what youreally want!
What if youdidn’thave to settle? What if you really could haveeverythingyour heart desires?
Well, last week, our friend, Melissa Binkley and I hosted a teleclass where I shared how you can do just that!
If you didn’t join us on the call, I’m going to invite you to listen to the teleclass today and begin to shift that scarcity-based fear into an empowering and abundant-based reality!
And to prove how committed we are to you living from a space of abundance, we shared an incredible (CRAZY) offer with you that is only being made available to the women in our communities!
That’show committed we are to you having the success, health, happiness, and LOVE your heart desires!
So, listen to the teleclass, because the offer is about to expire (you’ll hear why on the call)!
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