Is “Unconditional Love” B.S., or is it Real?

Is “Unconditional Love” B.S., or is it Real?

by Gladys Diaz

Let me ask you…

What is the most important thing to you, when it comes to romantic relationships?

If you’re like the majority of the women, you’re answer is probably something like, “I want to be with someone who loves and accepts me exactly the way I am.”

Not too much to ask for, right?

Who doesn’t want to be fully loved and accepted?

The problem is that, while many people say they want to be unconditionally loved, not all of them are BEing unconditionally loving.

Don’t believe me?  Have you ever said something like this about your partner:

“If only he would ______, THEN we could be happy.”

 

Or, what about:

“The only reason we’re not happy is because he ____.”

 

Listen, I know there are things about your partner you may not like.  I’ve been with my husband for 19 years. I love him with all my heart… AND… there are things he does that I don’t like.

 

For years, I tried to convince, encourage, and persuade him to be less angry, more peaceful, less negative, and more positive.

I read him articles and book excerpts, I gave tons of unsolicited advice.  Heck, I even took him with me to course, saying that it was “for us,” and then we weren’t allowed to even sit together for 3 full days!

On the way home, in the middle of an argument about the course, we stopped at a red light.  He turned to me, looked me straight in the eye and said, “When are you going to stop trying to fix and change me?  I haven’t changed. THIS is who you married. THIS is who you promised to love!”

In the moment, I wanted to say, “I’m not trying to fix and change you!”

I wish I could have, but I couldn’t.

He was right.

 

All of the “helpful” suggestions, videos, books, and courses I would share with him were because I wanted him to change so that we could be happy.

What I didn’t realize is that with every suggestion, paragraph, and quote I shared, I was sending the man I promised to love forever the message that I didn’t truly love and accept him.

 

Thanks to that…um… “conversation,” I realized what I was doing and the impact it was having on my marriage.  Shortly after, I began focusing all of my reading, studying, and coursework on learning how I could be more loving and accepting.

 

I took the focus off of him and put it all onto becoming the best version of me.

I began learning how to say what I thought, felt, and wanted in a way that focused on me and my needs, and not on what he wasn’t doing to meet them.

I started really listening to my husband and seeking to understand him and his viewpoints and opinions.

 

And something AMAZING happened!

In a few short months, we were laughing again.

He was being more positive and peaceful.

We were barely arguing.

And the romance and fun was back in our marriage!

 

Who knew that focusing on ME would inspire HIM to change? 

(By the way, those are HIS words, not mine!)

 

I don’t know what you are going through in your marriage, but if you are tired of telling your husband what he needs to do or do differently, how he needs to change, and all of the reasons why he’s responsible for your unhappiness, AND you want to change that dynamic to one where there is really unconditional love and happiness in the relationship, then wouldn’t it make sense to figure out how to do that?

 

Wouldn’t it be worth it to learn how to easily turn arguing and the “me vs. you” dynamic in the relationship into truly connecting and into a “you and me” dynamic?

 

If that’s what you want for yourself and your relationship, then CLICK HERE and share with me what the biggest challenge you are facing in your relationship is. 

I promise to respond to your message and give you some real next steps you can take to start turning your relationship around so that you can finally have the happy, loving, peaceful relationship you really want!

 

You don’t have to go through years of making the same mistakes I made.

Let’s figure out what you can do to make your relationship the kind of happy, unconditionally loving relationship you’ve always wanted!

CLICK HERE! I’m here to help!

It doesn’t have to be hard. I promise!

 

Is Your Past Impacting Your Love Life?

Is Your Past Impacting Your Love Life?

by Gladys Diaz

I had a deep wave of emotion hit me yesterday that I couldn’t explain… until later…

As you know, yesterday was Mother’s Day, and, as I sat there having a delicious Chinese meal with my mom, husband and children, I had a wave of emotion flood over me, and I couldn’t explain why until I thought about it later that night.

See, we weren’t wealthy growing up.  As a matter of fact, there were times when we really struggled, and I remember overhearing arguments about money, how there wasn’t any, and what my parents were going to do to make ends meet, pay the rent and put food on the table.

Fights were not uncommon growing up, and I remember many nights praying in my bed at night, quiet tears streaming out the side of my eyes and onto my pillow, silently begging God to please make things better, to have my parents get along, and to please make the yelling stop.  I just wanted to feel safe!

When things weren’t so bad, we could splurge a little.  That often meant ordering Chinese food for dinner, and it was such a treat!

I remember the smell of the special fried rice filling our dining room, the taste of the salty soy sauce I would always put too much of on my rice, and the feeling that we were going to be okay as we ate and smiled at one another across the dinner table, silently hoping that moment would never end — not just the delicious food, but the peace — the fact that, for this moment, there was no fighting, only joy.

Fast forward 40-something years, and here I was, sitting at a table with my mom, husband, and my two boys. We were laughing and enjoying some tasty special fried rice, and an unexpected  wave of emotion created a ball in my throat and tears in my eyes that caught me by surprise.

Why am I crying?  Everything is okay… more than okay…

It wasn’t until later that night, on the drive home, that it hit me why I felt so emotional.

See, I made a decision 30 years ago that I was going to have a different life than the one I grew up seeing.  I would live a life of love and peace.  If I chose to marry and have children, they would never know what it was like to cry themselves to sleep over problems that weren’t theirs to solve or praying for the fighting to stop. 

Moving forward, the history of of broken homes and hearts would come to an end, and I would write a new story — one where my past and the past of my ancestors would not determine my future or the future of my children and their children.

I did a lot of spiritual and personal development work to heal, transform, and recreate myself over the years.  And, now, as I ate at this table, I was seeing the evidence of that promise I made to myself having been kept. And it was beautiful!

My kids don’t have to cover their ears to not hear yelling.

They don’t have to worry if they are safe and if they’re going to be okay. 

They get to live in a house where love and peace are present every day and their needs — physical and emotional — are abundantly met. 

They know their parents love one another and them.

My kids are safe and they feel safe.

There is no greater gift I could give them or receive for Mother’s Day. This is the life I always dreamed of for myself and them!

 I don’t know if you experienced fighting, violence, addiction or any other kind of traumatic experiences growing up.  I don’t know if you are seeing history being repeated in your home, or if the life you are living is not the one you set out to create for yourself.

What I do know is that one of the BEST gifts we can give ourselves and our families is that of breaking the chains of the past; leaving the past behind, where it belongs; and creating a life worth living! One overflowing with peace, and happiness, and love!

If you are not living the story you want for yourself and your children (whether you have them now or you hope to have them in the future), then I’m inviting you to schedule a Love Breakthrough Session. 

CLICK HERE to schedule your Love Breakthrough Session.

On this call, we will take a look at what your ultimate goals are when it comes to love and relationships, what some of the barriers to having that kind of love are, and I will give you some concrete steps you can begin to follow now so that you can create the loving relationship you want.

You can’t rewrite history, but you CAN create a new future for yourself that is completely free from the past or anything else that may be stopping you from experiencing the love, happiness, and fulfillment you want.

No matter what happened in your past, if you aren’t living in the happy, loving relationship of your dreams, something is in the way!  Let’s find out what it is and remove it so that you can finally have and live in the relationship you have always wanted!

CLICK HERE to schedule your Love Breakthrough Session and rewrite your love story!

Love Hack: How to Get More Time and Attention From Your Man!

Love Hack: How to Get More Time and Attention From Your Man!

by Gladys Diaz

Quick question:

Do you find yourself thinking about how your man isn’t giving you the time and attention you want – whether it’s someone you’re dating, your boyfriend, or your husband?

Even worse… Do you allow those thoughts to pop out of your mouth in the form of statements like:

“We never spend any quality time together?”

“You have time for everyone and everything else, except me!”

“Why don’t you want to spend time with me anymore?”

 

While it may seem as if you are simply “being honest” or “sharing your feelings,” the truth is that there are a few words that describe those kinds of statements: nagging, complaining, and criticizing.

 

Now, before you scroll down to write a comment to tell me off or give me all the reasons why this IS how you feel, hear me out.

I get that you want to spend more time with him. Chances are that, when you see him spending less time with you, it triggers some fears and doubts in you about how he really feels about you.  In fact, you may even have asked him how he feels about you (something I’ll cover in another post!). 

I really do hear you. 

However, consider that those statements, while they may be said with underlying valid feelings and desires, they don’t communicate the real feelings and thoughts underneath the complaints.  Instead, they communicate:

“You’re wrong.”

“I’m needy.”

“It’s your responsibility to make me happy.”

 

So, how can you say what you feel WITHOUT nagging, complaining, or pushing your guy away?

Say some simple and clear messages such as:

“I miss you.”

“I feel lonely.”

“I love spending time with you.”

 

I know… Those are pretty vulnerable statements and it’s scary to be vulnerable, especially if you’re questioning how he feels about you.

However, if you close your eyes, take a deep breath, and breathe deep into your heart for just a minute, you’ll see the truth in them: This is how you really feel.

What’s even better, if you share your feelings with him this way, he’ll actually be able to hear you!

And that’s what you really want, right?

 

See, the truth is that there isn’t a man on this planet who has EVER been inspired by nagging, criticism, or complaining. 

These statements are simply not inspiring or motivating. In fact, you’ve probably noticed that they have the opposite effect, making him pull further away from you, and they don’t really do much to change the situations… Which has you bring it up again, and again, and again, with NO different results.

If this has been your experience, we’d like to invite you to try something different!

The next time you’re feeling as if your guy isn’t spending enough time with you, and you’re tempted to complain about it, I invite you to say something like:

“I miss you.”

“I’d love to spend time together.”

“I can’t wait to have some time alone.” 

These statements are A LOT more inspiring, they let him know how you are feeling, and they will allow him to hear you

Oh! And don’t be surprised if he begins spending more time with you!

 

If you’re feeling like you’re not getting the time and attention you want from your man and you’d like support and guidance on how to turn things around, we’ve opened up some time in our calendars for you to schedule a Love Breakthrough Session with one of us.

On this call, we’ll help you see what is getting in the way of you having the kind of experience you want to have in dating or your relationship, and we’ll create a step-by-step plan for you to follow so that you being to experience the love and happiness your heart desires!

CLICK HERE to schedule your Love Breakthrough Session!

Love, dating, and relationships do NOT have to be hard.  They are easy when you know exactly what to do and say to get the results you want without having to force, nag, or “get him” to do what you want!  Let us help you!

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session and get the love you want!

 

 

Why “We Need to Talk” is Like The Kiss of Death!

Why “We Need to Talk” is Like The Kiss of Death!

by Gladys Diaz

I don’t know if you’re anything like me, but, when I feel there is a problem, I like to do anything I can to resolve it as quickly as possible.

This problem-solving skill serves me well when it comes to helping my clients get through difficult situations in their love lives and relationships.  It’s also served me well as a businesswoman.

It doesn’t, however, always serve me well when it comes to my relationship with my husband.

See, what many women don’t realize is that while women’s brains are wired to almost instantaneously think, feel, and say what we are thinking and feeling, men’s brains are not. In fact, the female brain has 7 areas that connect feelings, emotions and words, while the male brain has 2 areas that are wired in this manner.

Now, that doesn’t mean that woman are any better or smarter than men. Our brains are wired differently for a reason.

Think about it… Men, at their origin, were hunters. If they did not kill the prey, the entire tribe would go hungry and die.  They had to have laser-like focus.  Feelings and emotions could not cloud their judgment. They had to think about one thing and one thing alone: getting food for the tribe.

The reason it’s important to know and understand this is because, if you’re like many women, when there is an issue concerning your relationship, you want to “talk” about it, and you want him to want to talk about them NOW! 

Your man, on the other  hand, may not want or be able to talk about it right at this moment, and, again, if you’re like many women, you may find yourself making this mean something about him and how he feels about the relationship.

 

For example, you may think to yourself:

 

If he really cared about me or us, he’d want to resolve this as soon as possible.

He obviously cares more about his work (or whatever he is doing) than me.

This relationship is clearly not a priority for him.  Otherwise he would drop what he was doing and deal with this NOW.

 

Sound familiar?

I know it does to me!

In the past, when there was a problem in our relationship, I would want to discuss it, right here, right now, and then be shocked when my husband would say, “I don’t want to talk about this right now.”

Then things would go something like this:

Me: (In my head) What? Doesn’t he see how important this is?  Clearly he doesn’t see how important this is!

Me: (Out of my mouth) But we need to discuss this.  It’s important.

Him: I get that it’s important, but I don’t want to talk about it right now.

Me: (In my headI can’t believe he doesn’t care about us!

Then I would proceed to keep emphasizing how important this was and how we needed to talk and how it couldn’t wait, and (you get the picture)… until, finally, he would blow up at me and storm out of the room, and then I’d really feel as if he didn’t care!

And that would lead to hours (and, sometimes, days) of stone-cold silence, anger, and unnecessary pain – for both of us.

The truth is that he did care.  He does care. (And so does your guy!)

What happens, is that men need a little more time to process the information, especially when a slew of emotionally-charged information is being thrown at them. 

What’s happening when your guy is not ready to talk about something is that he is  processing the information he’s been given, or he is focused on something else that is important (not necessarily “more important” than you, which is what you may be making it mean), and he needs some time to process and get his thoughts together so that he can focus on the issue at hand before he can talk about it.

So, what do you do when there is something you want to discuss and your guy isn’t ready to talk right now?

1.  Respect his preference. 

I know it’s hard. This one can still be hard for me.  Even this past weekend, my husband had to repeat to me that he didn’t want to talk about something before I could hear him.  In the past, I would get upset because I felt ignored and uncared for.  Now, I get that when he’s saying he doesn’t want to talk and I keep pressuring him to talk, he’s also feeling ignored and unheard, and this means that any conversation that takes place right then and there is probably not going to lead to a resolution.

 

2. Remind yourself that “not now” does not mean “never.” 

One of the reasons I would panic and keep insisting on getting my husband to talk was because I feared that we would “never” discuss it, and that worried me.  That fear and anxiety triggered my need to try to control the conversation (and him), which just led to him resisting the conversation (and me) even more.  Now I remind myself that “not now” actually means “later,” not never, which helps me to calm down, step back, and allow both of us space to calm down and gather our thoughts so that, when we do talk, it leads to a win-win for us. 

I will also say something like, “I understand that you don’t want to talk right now, and I respect that.  Please know that I’m here when you’re ready to talk.” Sometimes we’ll even set a time to talk (after the kids go to bed, for example) so that we know that the conversation will, indeed happen.

 

3. Focus on something else. 

I’ve found that focusing on something else – like going for a run, reading a book, playing a “mind-numbing” game on my phone, listening to something inspirational, or drawing – help me busy my mind so that I’m not hyper-focused on when the conversation will happen or what it will be like.  By taking care of myself and my needs, I can control the only side of things that is ever mine to control: me. This allows me to relax, feel empowered, and not come from an emotionally-charged place when we finally do have the conversation.

 

4. Talk to someone else.  

Talking to someone else – a girlfriend, sister, or your relationship coach – is also a great way to sort and work through your thoughts and feelings before speaking with your guy. Now, I will add a caveat here.  It’s important that you be very selective when you choose who you are going to talk to about your relationship.  Make sure that it is someone who is standing for your relationship to work, not someone who is going to bash your guy, take your side, or give you relationship or communication advice that is not for your highest good.  If your friend is not in a happy, loving relationship, she may not be the best person to turn to.  You want to share with someone who is going to love and support you and have you show up in your best light.  This is where having a good relationship coach can make all the difference. 

Otherwise, you’ll just be getting “advice,” and advice is usually shared from the other person’s own fears and doubts, as well as her patterns.  Coaching, on the other hand provides you with the exact steps you can take to speak with love, be fully in your power, and seeking a win-win solution.That way, when you finally do have the conversation, you are not just talking about something that happened or needs to be resolved, but you are talking for something (resolution, peace, and the highest good for both of you in the relationship).

I know it’s not always easy to hit the “pause” button and not resolve something that is on your heart and mind.Uncertainty can trigger fear and sometimes fear gets the best of us and begin trying to push to try to get something to happen, rather than stepping back and allowing things to come together peacefully and naturally.

However, I promise you that if you follow these 4 steps, not only will that eventual conversation be a lot more peaceful, but you will also feel so much more empowered and connected to your guy when you know that you are coming together at the right time as partners seeking the best outcome, versus “enemies” seeking to prove their own point or get their own “win.”  Because, by default, when only one person “wins” in a conversation or argument, the other person must “lose.” And, where there is true partnership, a win-win is always the best outcome.

So…

  1. Take a deep breath…
  2. Take a step back…
  3. Follow these steps…
  4. And reach out to me if you have any questions or want some support regarding having more loving, peaceful, and connected communication with your partner.  You can either send me an email or click here to schedule time to talk.
Are You Giving Off “Relationship Kryptonite”?

Are You Giving Off “Relationship Kryptonite”?

by Gladys Diaz

There’s a real problem affecting women – especially smart, successful women like you – and it pushes good men away.

See, there’s something that many powerful women don’t realize that they are doing to self-sabotage their relationships.  And the energy being given off by doing this is like “relationship kryptonite”!

What is it?

It’s leaking masculine energy in the form of control!

Now, before you bounce off the page or get triggered, let me explain, because, if you’re not in a happy, intimate relationship right now, and you knew you could learn what you can stop doing to sabotage your love life and happiness, isn’t that worth just a few minutes of your time?

Here’s the deal. 

More than anything, a good man – the kind of man who is interested in loving, supporting, and spending his life with an amazing woman like you – wants one thing more than anything else.  (And, no, it’s not sex!)

See, one of a good man’s greatest superpowers is his need to make the woman that he cares about happy. Honestly, it’s like a drug he can’t get enough of when he sees that you are smiling and he knows that he had something to do with the smile on your face!

Now, perhaps you don’t believe me, especially if this hasn’t been your experience with men – or the man you’re with.

However, consider that there may be somethings you’re doing to either attract the kind of man who isn’t interested in making you happy, or you may subconsciously and unintentionally saying and doing things that stop him from being able to make you happy.

It’s true. Many of the things you are doing to kill a man’s desire to make you happy are happening subconsciously.

This means you’re not even aware of what you’re doing to self-sabotage your relationships!  

And that’s why, unless you learn exactly what is pushing away a man’s desire to be with and please you, it’s virtually impossible for you to stop doing it so that you can turn things around in your love life and have the kind of relationship you really want!

This is why I am doing a special masterclass called The Secret Formula to Attracting and Keeping a Lifelong Relationship!”

 

In this masterclass, you will learn:

  • The subconscious ways women sabotage their romantic relationships and what to do instead
  • The key steps you can take to remain in your power and still get the love you want 
  • The effortless ways you can draw a man, his attention and affection to you so that you can feel deeply connected to him

As a smart, successful woman, you know that getting what you want means, not only knowing exactly what to do, but how to get it in the easiest, most effective way!  And that’s exactly what I’m going to teach you on this online class, so make sure you grab your spot now!

Click here and get the love you want now!

You can’t change something you can’t see. If you’re not in the happy, loving relationship you truly want, and you want to learn the fastest, most effortless way to have that, make sure you join us for this online class!

Yes! Save my seat!

How to Overcome Sadness and Stress This Holiday Season

How to Overcome Sadness and Stress This Holiday Season

by Gladys Diaz

 

I have to admit that this is my favorite time of year! Although it doesn’t feel like winter at all in Florida, there are signs of the holidays everywhere you look (including lit up snowflakes, which is the closest we’ll get to snow here)!

I feel love and hope and joy in the air, and that fills my heart up so much!

As happy as this season makes me, I know that it can be a bitter-sweet and not-so-happy time for others for a variety of reasons.

Maybe you’re feeling a little more lonely than usual.

Perhaps you’re wondering why this year isn’t very different from this time last year.

Or maybe you’ve had a big life change — whether it’s a change in your career, home, lifestyle, health, or relationship.

Whatever the reason, if you’re feeling less than cheerful this season, here are a few things you can do that can help you shift your heart-and-mindset so that you can welcome a little love and cheer in.

  1. Focus on gratitude. I know it sounds “simple,” or perhaps it feels impossible when you’re not feeling very happy with the way things are. However, gratitude is one of the most powerful tools for shifting your perspective and attitude so that you can shift the way you are feeling. This is because gratitude automatically has you focusing on what you do have, rather than on what you don’t have or what is missing. It puts you in a state of abundance, and, if you allow yourself to truly feel the feelings of gratefulness, you can experience a complete shift in, not only your feelings, but in the solutions and possibilities that are available to you, but impossible to see when you are not focused on all of the people, things, and situations around for which you can feel and express gratitude.

  1. Accept invitations, even if you don’t feel like going out. One of the tricky things about the way our subconscious works is that, if we don’t bring awareness to something, it’s impossible to change it! So, even though you may be feeling lonely during this time, if you don’t bring awareness to the fact that you are not alone, that there are people around you — family, friends, people at work, those in your place of worship, or even in social groups you may or may not belong to — you can actually perpetuate the feeling of being alone by not looking for opportunities to meet and be with other people, declining invitations, and isolating yourself from others. So, make it a point to accept as many invitations as possible so that you can enjoy talking, dancing, and laughing, meeting and getting to know people.

  1. Make a difference in someone else’s life. When we put our attention and energy on what we don’t have, what we wish was different, and what others have that we don’t, it can add to feelings of sadness and loneliness. One of the most effective ways to shift that energy is to turn our attention outside of ourselves and make a difference for others. This time of year can be difficult for those who are sick, homeless, unable to get presents for their family, and people who have far less to be thankful for. Spend some time doing charity work, or choose to be a “Silent Angel” and make an anonymous donation or random act of kindness that benefits someone else. There really can be as much joy in giving as in receiving!

  1. Practice self-care and self-love. You may be running around planning and hosting events, getting presents for others, and attending several social gatherings. While many of these activities can be fun, they can also be exhausting! Make sure you are taking time each day to do something nice for yourself. Whether it’s reading a book; taking a nice, long bath; talking to a girlfriend, getting extra sleep, buying yourself a special gift, or booking a massage, it’s important that you take time to replenish, nurture and restore your mind, body, and spirit. It’s impossible to feel truly happy, peaceful and irresistible when you’re walking around like a depleted ball of nerves, so do yourself a favor and put caring for and loving yourself at the top of your list of priorities.

If you’re in a romantic relationship, there can be additional stressors to add to the ones I mentioned above. Dealing with multiple family obligations, as well as family dynamics; having expectations regarding what should happen, and trying to make everyone happy can take a toll on your relationship. Here are some things you can do to avoid arguments before they start and enjoy the holidays with your love.

  1. Remember that your partner has wants and needs, too. If both you and your partner want to (or are expected to) spend time with your families, determining whose family will be visited, how much time will be spent with each family, and when and where visits will take place can potentially trigger arguments. Keep in mind that there is another person in the relationship with you and that he has his own feelings and desires relating to his family and how he would like to spend the holidays with them. Seek to create a way to honor both of your desires so that neither one of you has to “sacrifice” or “settle for” anything. Instead, the two of you can come together and create a win-win-win situation for your partner, your families, and you.

  1. If a “hot-button” topic comes up, commit to communicating respectfully, no matter what. 99% of all arguments result from miscommunication. This includes both the speaking and listening that takes place during a conversation. To avoid having a conversation turn into an argument, make sure that you are clearly understanding what your partners is saying. You can do this by ensuring that you are actually hearing your partner. For example, if your partners has shared something and you’re unclear about what he meant, you can say, “I hear you saying ______. Am I hearing you correctly?” By saying this, you let your partner know that you heard him (which has him feel heard) and you are clarifying whether that is what he said, which helps ensure that the two of you are having the same conversation and will help you come to a faster resolution.

  1. Make peace a priority. When it comes to holidays, one of the most stressful aspects of it can be dealing with, not only one, but two families. Unfortunately, family gatherings can be a breeding ground for conflict if there are unresolved issues from the past lingering in the space that is supposed to be filled with laughter and love. Unfortunately, these arguments can affect and spill over into your relationship if you’re not careful to avoid that. This is why it’s so important to make peace — with yourself, you partner, and those around you a priority. If people begin to argue or you feel yourself getting upset, remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible. There is no need to make a dramatic exit. Simply and respectfully excuse yourself as a way to create some distance between you and the drama so that you don’t get wrapped up in it. If, after some time it seems as if things aren’t getting any better, it’s probably best to leave, if possible, so that you are not drawn into the arguing, or worse, have an argument with your partner about it. You don’t have to “suffer” through the holidays to prove your love for your partner, his family or your own.

While the holidays cause sadness and stress, implement these simple and practical steps so that you can ensure that you avoid sadness, upset and regret and give yourself the gifts of love, peace, joy, and hope!

Wishing you a holiday season overflowing with all of these gifts and everything your heart desires!

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