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The Secret To Making Life (a lot) Easier

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 22, 2022 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like dating to be easier?

Would you like relationships to be more fulfilling?

Would you like things in life to work out with less heartache or frustration?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, we want you to know that the answer is to increase your confidence.

When you lack self-confidence you…

… question yourself.

… feel like you can’t trust yourself.

… make decisions that aren’t aligned with what you want to create in your life.

One of the most important things you can know in life is that the relationship you have with YOU supercedes all the other relationships in your life.

Why?

Because the relationship you have with you determines how all your other relationships will be!
Real confidence is about creating an intimate relationship with you.

It’s about answering the question: “Who am I and how am I being with ME?

If you find that you:

– Question yourself

– stay in relationships, jobs, friendships, etc knowing that the experience you’re having is not what you want

– consistently fall in love with potential instead of reality

– make excuses for disrespectful or even abusive behavior

– hold onto something that you know is not for you

– don’t honor your values

… then it’s time to look in and reflect on the relationship you have with you!

You want to ask yourself:

What am I seeing?
What experiences do I keep repeating?
What is the pattern?
What am I creating?
What actions did I take to create this?
What did I do that brought this result?
What had me take those actions?
What thoughts are behind the action?

The thoughts behind the actions are where you uncover the limiting beliefs that are creating the patterns that are bringing you the results you don’t want!

Looking for patterns in your thoughts, words, actions and results will give you the biggest insight into what’s not working.

And when you’re open to seeing it, and you then you do, – then you have a shot at breaking through those sabotaging patterns so you can increase your confidence!

This is GOLD!

Life gets good when you have enough confidence to receive the feedback life is giving you (whether through the results you’re having or through what others are telling you) and then take action doing the HeartWork to shift these patterns!

It’s not about being perfect.

If you’re human you’re going to make mistakes (and so is he!)

When you learn to trust yourself and know that you have what it takes to do what you need to do and be who you need to be, life (and dating) get easier.

You know that if you get it wrong (because sometimes you will) it doesn’t have to shake your confidence. You can move forward with grace and take the actions that will make it right for you.

It all comes down to your relationship with you.

Which is why we’re so excited about the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge that begins next Monday!

This challenge is all about falling in love with you.

In this challenge you will:

Remove the mask you hide behind that’s blocking you from the love you want
Find your voice and say what you want and feel without being afraid of pushing him away
Stop pretending or not honoring your boundaries in order to “get” someone to love you
Stop settling for less than you want and deserve in relationships
Stop doubting yourself and your ability to attract the right man or the relationship of your dreams

Join the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge NOW!

These 5 days will change your life because when you create the kind of relationship with yourself that gives you the kind of confidence you want to have – your life will go to a whole new level!

The Do’s (and Don’ts) of Your Online Dating Profile!

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 15, 2022 | Uncategorized

by Gladys Diaz

Are you feeling frustrated about your dating profile?

Do you feel like you’re continually disappointed by the kind (or even lack thereof) of responses online?

Do you ever feel yourself hesitate when going to open up (insert the online profile of your choice) because you’re afraid of what you’ll find?

What if you could have a profile that’s brimming with opportunity that you can’t wait to open to see what you’ll find!

The truth is that the majority of people today are finding their partner online.

So why not create a profile that will make it possible for you too!

The more telling your profile is about the kind of woman you are, the higher chance you have of attracting the relationship and experience of your dreams.

So what should your profile focus on?

You, of course! Specifically, who you are and the relationship you want to have in a relationship.

We’ve put together a “Do’s and Don’ts” list for creating an online dating profile that we know will have you attract the type of experience you’re wanting. These recommendations work across the board for all online dating sites.

When it comes to your online dating profile DO:

Begin with 3 words that describe who you are.

How would your closest friends describe you?
What would they say being in a relationship with you is like?

Example: “I’m a happy, intelligent, fun woman! (At least that’s what I’ve been told by my friends. 😉)”

Create an experience with your profile without trying too hard.

Use emojis and playful language to show your personality.
Be authentic.

Share some specific things you like to do.

If you like to travel, share places you’d like to visit with your future partner.
If you have an adventurous spirit, share some past and future experiences you’ve had and would like to create.
If you like to read, share some books that are your favorite.

Express what you would like to experience in a relationship.

“In my future marriage, I want to create joy, generosity and love every day of our lives.”
If you’re looking for marriage – say it! Be bold and be clear about what you want.

When it comes to your online dating profile DON’T:

Only focus on what you like to do.

This may put off the energy that you don’t know who you are or what you want.

Be sarcastic or condescending about men

This type of language is like a man repeller!

List specific things you want in a man

Example: “I’m looking for a man who’s tall, likes to cook and doesn’t have kids.”

Tell a man what to do

Telling him when you’d like him to text, call or ask you on a date, etc.

Some of these may sound silly, but we promise you, we’ve seen it all! And with all the work we’ve done with women we simply know that the do’s work and the don’ts well, don’t.

Now when it comes to pictures…

Don’t:

Wear Sunglasses
Have other people in the picture (even if they’re mostly cut out)
Include photos from 5 years ago
Show a lot of skin

Do:

Share pictures of who you are NOW

Be courageous and confident and that energy will come pouring through

Have your first picture be one of you facing forward
Smile with teeth showing

Smiling says, “I’m happy with my life and I’m available to date!”

Wear red lipstick or a red blouse (studies have shown that men are extremely attracted to red)
Share pictures of you doing things you enjoy (ex: kayaking, hiking, yoga)
If other things are in the picture (ex: a place that you visited or you and your dog) make sure you’re the focus and what shines through in the photo
Look confident and comfortable.

The most important thing is to date in a way that has the experience be fun and exciting for you. The more you’re connected to who you are and what you want and are living your life accordingly, the more you’ll attract men that align!

Well, there you have it! Everything you need to know to create a rocking online dating profile!
Later this year we’ll be doing our Online Dating Profile Workshop where we go even deeper and give personal feedback on your site and how to update it, but for now…

Now go and take action! Don’t just read this or save it to your computer for later reference… go update your dating profile now!

Be in action creating what you want to have in your life and it will come to you!

Men Aren’t Wasting Your Time, You Are!

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 1, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like to know what the #1 complaint about dating is that we hear from women?

We think we’ve heard just about everything when it comes to the frustrations of dating, but there’s something that we hear more than anything else!

The thing that irks women the most about dating is feeling like it’s a waste of time.

There’s nothing more annoying to a successful woman than a man who’s wasting her time because they don’t know what they want, are trying to scam her or are just plain players.

But here’s something we want you to understand.

There’s nothing on earth that will make less of a difference in your life than blaming someone else for your circumstances.

It’s simply that simple.

The only thing that will create change in your life is being responsible for what you’re creating and getting curious about why and how you can create something different.

So… if you’re tired of feeling like men are wasting your time, look inside!

Ask yourself:
– “What is having me attract this type of man?”
– “Am I holding onto a dead-end relationship?”
– “Am I investing more time than I should with someone?”
– “What could I be doing that’s inviting this type of experience?”

Step back, get curious and see how you can adjust!

Are you not making plans for your weekend because you’re waiting and hoping that a certain someone will ask you out?

Are turning down dates with men who are showing up because you’re hoping something else will happen?

Are you spending time or engaging with someone who you know isn’t the kind of person for you?

Are you choosing to spend time with someone (either physically or emotionally) who’s already shown you he’s not the one?

These are just a couple examples of how you may be choosing to allow someone to waste your time – which is why YOU have the power to shift!

What can you do differently?

– talk to more people

– create more opportunities to meet other men

– get clear on what your limiting beliefs are so they can stop running the show!

– stop thinking dating has to be hard

The point is – it’s unnecessary to keep having the same experience over and over again.

Have you ever heard the saying, “If you make a mistake twice, it’s a decision”?

If you’re having an experience over and over that you don’t like, get curious about why you’re choosing this!

You always get to choose what experiences you want to have!

Dating can be fun, exciting and fulfilling.

Remember this too – if you’re getting to know someone and genuinely interested in seeing where it could go and then after 3 or 4 dates you decide it’s not a match – that’s not a waste of time! That’s called dating! It is a waste of time if you aren’t giving men a chance, deciding it’s over too soon or continuing to spend time with someone that’s clearly not the type of person you’re looking for.

Claim the power you hold over your life and create the type of dating experiences you want to create! Once you do that, you’ll be amazed at how quickly you start to attract exactly what you want.

Marriage Isn’t the Real Goal – Here’s What Is.

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 11, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know what is the biggest mistake women make when it comes to dating?

Do you want to know the answer to why 50% of marriages in the United States fail?

Do you want to have a real conversation about what you can do to make sure you don’t become part of that statistic?

We’ve got you.

The biggest mistake women make while dating is being solely focused on finding the right man and not thinking about the lifetime that will follow.

Shortly after we started our coaching we noticed women getting amazing results – they were attracting really awesome men (which was no surprise to us!)

The problem was that then they would self-sabotage.

They would start doing the same things they did with the wrong men. The old patterns would resurface with the new, great guy, and there’d be a breakdown in the relationship.

That’s why we’re passionate about teaching women how to break through old patterns that are continuing to follow them around!

Because the real goal isn’t marriage.

The REAL goal is creating a life-time love.

Research has found that the most common reasons people give for their marriage ending are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse.

We understand this first hand because Michelle’s 1st marriage ended in divorce and after my first husband passed away and I found Ric, my marriage almost ended also.

When I was first married to Ric things were so incredible!

I would lay in bed at night with tears of gratitude streaming down my face because I was so in awe that I’d found Ric. I was in love again and with an incredibly good man!

It was incredible because there’d been a time when I didn’t think that was possible.

But then, 6 years later, we started to fall apart.

I didn’t have the skills to create a life-long love.

I didn’t have the communication skills that work.

I thought I always had to be right.

I thought I was being honest and encouraging when I would tell him what he should be doing and how good he’d be at it.

I almost lost that beautiful marriage.

But then I became super committed to learning about how to create a lasting relationship.

I learned that being right wasn’t that important.

I learned how to say things in a way that Ric could hear.

I learned how to respect his thoughts, ideas and opinions – even if I didn’t agree with them!

I learned that doing the Heartwork that we now teach along with learning the skills I didn’t have naturally was the key to not only maintaining the beautiful relationship I had found with Ric – but make it stronger and stronger year after year!

And here we are 23 years later and happier than ever.

So how do you break through your love barriers that are having you sabotage your relationships?

Get Curious

What are the patterns you’re seeing?

What isn’t working?

What are the things that keep showing up in your relationships that have them break down?

Dive into where the sabotaging patterns came from.

Why does this pattern exist for you?

What is the fear or belief behind the behavior?

When did you first experience this?

Learn what to do to replace the sabotaging pattern.

This is the part that most people miss! The only way to really break through a barrier in your life is to learn what to replace the old pattern with.

You have the ability to create a strong foundation for your relationship that you can keep growing and growing forever when you break through your love barriers and learn the skills that will have that relationship continue to grow in love, passion and respect for a life-time.

If you’re single and you’d like to attract the right man or if you’re in a relationship that you want to last forever, book a call with one of our coaches so you can have a breakthrough!

Schedule your Love Breakthrough Session

Come to the call knowing the pattern that you’re seeing and what you’re interested in creating so you can have a breakthrough!

You don’t need to be part of the 50% whose marriage will end in divorce. You can attract the right man and create a relationship together that will last a life-time – all you have to do is learn how.

The Secret to Stop Getting “Triggered”!

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 25, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like to be able to feel confident in any situation or conversation you encounter that you’ll be able to handle it with grace and ease?

How would it feel to experience less reactivity or emotional meltdown and experience more happiness and joy?

Imagine what it would mean for your life if you were able to maintain peace inside of you no matter what happens around you?

See if this scenario sounds familiar:

Something happens…

… your boyfriend says something in a “tone”

… a guy you’ve been texting stops responding

… your boss calls you in for an unscheduled meeting

… a co-worker doesn’t do something they promised they’d do

… someone cuts you off on the highway

And all of the sudden you feel disrespected, rejected, worried or angry.

You get “triggered.”

A memory, fear or limiting belief was opened up and like a domino effect sets off a series of other thoughts and associated behaviors.

The switch has been flipped and you have an emotional reaction that has you say or do things you later regret. Your mind and mouth take on a mind of their own and it’s not until after the dust has settled that you regret your behavior and see the line of carnage in your wake.

We’ve all been there.

There was a time when Ric and I couldn’t even talk about some things for longer than 5 minutes because one of us would explode.

Sometimes the fall-out you create from these emotional reactions is short-lived.

But sometimes, the result is a complete loss of a relationship, future relationship, or opportunity.

The result is always a loss of personal peace and confidence and the impact on you and those around you is loss of time, energy, intimacy, connection, happiness and joy.

What if you didn’t have to experience things that way?

What if you could turn off the “trigger” in an instant before it spiraled out of control?

What if you could have mastery over your emotions instead of being a reaction waiting to happen?

That’s what we teach you in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop.

You’ll learn how to:

Identify the emotional triggers that have you react, strike back, or shut down in conversations and relationships.

Break through the automatic and limiting thought patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and relationships, so that you can attract and keep the love your heart desires

Increase your level of self awareness and master managing your emotions , so that you are able to have empowering conversations and build a strong, happy, and loving relationship

The reason why marriages aren’t working right now is because most people don’t have the skills to not have a reaction to what others say and do.

Ric and I almost lost our marriage because of this.

But we didn’t because we up-leveled our emotional intelligence by learning the tools and skills that work in communicating and relationships. Now we can discuss anything for as long as we want to and maintain connection, love and peace in the space.

And that’s what we want for you too.

Click HERE to grab a recording of the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop

Learn how to stop getting emotionally triggered by taking things personally and how to start experiencing more fun and joy in life, dating, and relationships!

Grab your copy now!

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